Me (28)- PCOS, no natural cycle since stopping BC pills in 2013
DH (29)- SA= all good
Married since March 2013 (together since 2004) + TTC since April 2013
Provera 12/13, 6/14, 8/14, 10/ 14, 12/14
Clomid 50 mg 12/14- no follicles big enough, stair stepped with Clomid 100 mg (1 follicle 22/25 mm) + Ovidrel trigger shot 1/15- BFN
Clomid 150 mg 1/15- no follicles responding- repeated 150 mg + Ovidrel trigger shot + IUI- BFP
Re: Feeling Lonely (But I'm Not Alone)
This is a really hard aspect about IF that a lot of us deal with. You "shouldn't" be mad about a surprise pregnancy, but you are. You "shouldn't" feel alone because your married to what sounds like a wonder and supportive man who is there for you, but you feel lonely. Sometimes you may even think to yourself that people "should" be there for you in a specific way, but you can't identify what that specific way is because you haven't experienced anything that helps you. This word "should" gets us in a lot of trouble because it puts us in a world of ideals rather than what "is".
You husband may be there for you and it sounds like he is making every possible effort, but he will never be able to REALLY, REALLY understand and feel the devastation you feel because he is not a woman who does not have a baby growing in her. Know this fact that he will never feel what you feel because his biology is different. Know this and appreciate how he is trying to be there for you.
Another thing I really suggest is to get active on this board. Being able to talk to ladies in similar situations has been my SAVING GRACE since I got my diagnosis. People here have been here for me when I'm not doing so well and have cheered me on when I am doing well. Being able to help educate newly diagnosed ladies and say something I hope will bring some comfort really help me get through the day.
Me: 28 MH:35
Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013
June 2014 - Dx w/ significant PCOS and referred to RE.
July/August 2014 - Testing complete: Testosterone & AMH very high, FSH slightly high, Vitamin D low, tubes and lining all lovely. DH SA: A+
Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN
Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN
Cycle 3 (Jan 2015): 5mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN
WTF consult scheduled for 1/29
I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. You are not alone. Brutal honesty? It sounds like you have a very understanding DH like my own and like me are just upset with the situation as a whole. Unfortunately our feelings need somewhere to go and sometimes we jump on what I like to call the IF "crazy train." I actually have a frequent rider pass when it comes to situations like this! Lol It's next to impossible to be happy for somebody else who wasn't trying when we are trying so hard.
Don't forget that he is also his own person and you don't know what he is feeling or thinking. We each handle things in our own way. Not until after I broke down a couple of times in the beginning did I really find out how my DH felt. Yes he was SUPER supportive of me and our situation from day 1, but it took him telling me how jealous he was of our very best friends that are expecting and how he wants that just as bad for me to really grasp how he was feeling. He was keeping it together for ME. Boy did I feel humbled.
I hope you feel better and that his sister is fine with your decision!
Conditions: Acromegly (controlled), colitis (controlled)
2/2014 met with RE and High Risk doc
5/2014 stop BC, TTC naturally
Never got period or ovulated
12/2014 provera (very little shedding), chlomid 50mg -No follicles growing/no ovulation
1/2015 chlomid 100mg -so far no follicles growing
1/20/15- nothing growing-staring Menopur injections for IUI
As PPs have said, you're not alone. I love my niece and nephew to death but being around them usually means other kids or family members I dislike with kids, so that tends to spoil the moment. The same happens with my younger cousins.
I have the added frustration of family nights at church. Sure, people say 'you and DH are a family; you can come' but (no offense to those not of this mindset) in my mind, we are just a couple. Not a family, and certainly not a family in the sense that fits into a church family night. And I'm so tired of people telling me otherwise.
Anyway, we are all in similar situations. So stick around and hopefully you can find solace in our board.
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
Me (28)- PCOS, no natural cycle since stopping BC pills in 2013
DH (29)- SA= all good
Married since March 2013 (together since 2004) + TTC since April 2013
Provera 12/13, 6/14, 8/14, 10/ 14, 12/14
Clomid 50 mg 12/14- no follicles big enough, stair stepped with Clomid 100 mg (1 follicle 22/25 mm) + Ovidrel trigger shot 1/15- BFN
Clomid 150 mg 1/15- no follicles responding- repeated 150 mg + Ovidrel trigger shot + IUI- BFP
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole