petite girls weight gain Half-way through

jbartsy · January 2015

@pcrunk I loved you before, but now I love you even more.

I had a really severe eating disorder for years and some people just don't fucking get it. I hate it when people (even those who know my history) still take the liberty of making comments about my body all the time - "you're so tiny! I'm totally jealous, you're going to be all belly!" Uh, so if I start gaining a ton of weight and I'm not so "tiny" anymore, you'll think I'm an ugly fat cow and feel sorry for me? How about you just congratulate me on my baby and leave it at that? Also, did it ever occur to you that maybe I DON'T want to be this tiny but that's how I'm naturally built? Assholes.

I'm really happy to say that this year the new years resolutioners and their diets aren't getting to me because right now ALL I can think about is my baby and her health. I don't give a shit if I look like a beached whale when I give birth as long as she and I are happy and healthy.

kyleegail89 · January 2015

elbowpasta said:

kyleegail89 said:

Also @leenziepops‌ now I have baby got back stuck in my head... "34-24-36 only if she's 5'3"

So ya girlfriend rolls a Honda, playin' work out tapes by Fonda.....

But Fonda ain't got a motor in the back of her Honda...

hooper2014 · January 2015

I'm 5'3. I started out at about 101. An I'm at 113

at 18 weeks. I'm fine with it. Google a pregnancy weight tracker, it will actually show you on a scale how your doing weight wise. I gained 8 lbs. in the first 10 weeks. I did the same thing with my son. But then only ended up gaining 26 lbs. the entire pregnancy! My doctor said between 30-40 lbs. is really good!

nicolec3 · January 2015

@mfinlay611 no one is jealous

tiffbot1985 · January 2015

I assure you, I am not jealous of what anyone weighs. I love and and am proud of my pregnant self, my body might feel like it's falling apart but I am quite confident in my body image and love the way I and every pregnant woman looks, thank you very much.

lfaithlove · January 2015

@caseycruz02‌ I think you may have accidentally tagged the wrong mama. Poor @girlymama79‌ got called out for being jealous by @mfinlay611‌

Edited cause my tag didn't work at first.

staciecoffey · January 2015

I think that's what kills me the most about OP's post... We are all beautiful women and I think we are especially beautiful with our pregnant bellies!! I probably sound super cheesy saying that, but everyone is beautiful and unique. That's what makes us so damn awesome!

girlymama79 · January 2015

caseycruz02 said:
@pcrunk I new I loved you and now I love you even more. Your absolutely amazing.

@girlymama79‌ I suggest you go sucked a big tube steak. You seriously shouldn't have gone there.

I'm 5'1" and was a little chubby before this baby. I've lost 10 pounds since .... I'm at 16 weeks. I'm eating a lot more now that I'm not sick so I full expect to gain it back. Plus my hubby likes me as I am.

Did I miss something? I thought we were on the same side here.

leenziepops · January 2015

I'm calling OBC on mfinlay

@pcrunk‌ and @‌jbartsy (( hugs))

kristennflickk · January 2015

Can we start a thread about all the stupid things we've seen around the boards that made us face palm? Or is that already a thing? Search on mobile sucks butt and nothing came up, I'm scared to test my luck after my successful post this morning and go from #winning to #ohshit.

leenziepops · January 2015

kristennflickk said:
Can we start a thread about all the stupid things we've seen around the boards that made us face palm? Or is that already a thing? Search on mobile sucks butt and nothing came up, I'm scared to test my luck after my successful post this morning and go from #winning to #ohshit.

How to tell if you're a snowflake thread is perfect. I'll bump it for you

kelseygaona · January 2015

Here is one for the tall fatties! I am 5'8 I had gained weight before getting pregnant but been a fatty since a teenager... started at 230 lbs and this morning I was 240! But I'm sexy and I know it!!!!!

girlymama79 · January 2015

@caseycruz02‌ ah makes sense easy to do

LadySif · January 2015

*sigh* and another...

ksimo6 · January 2015

Fat Katey here. If Any of you other fatties want to get together and eat cake, call me.

mamayo26 · January 2015

I'm 5'1" on a good day and have gained 12 lb...I am only tracking as I had sever edema with DS1 and I'm seeing if I have a pattern as to if/when it happens again. I gained 50lb with my first half of which was the water weight and sucked...the swelling was uncomfortable, painful and made me feel like crap..so obsessing about weight right now unless you aren't eating or eating 3x you daily calorie intake shouldn't be a worry unless you OB thinks there is an issue. Props to @pcrunk‌ for you openness and calling people on the bullshit.

gilder40 · January 2015

pickles26 said:

CMSullivan326 said:

I'm a tall fatty, so my weight doesn't matter.

I'm a tall fatty too

Me three!!!

gilder40 · January 2015

Not sure what happened to my quote box. Major fail.

Oh, I'm the farthest thing from petite. I'm 5'10" and I LOVE being tall! Except for jean shopping. XL inseams are difficult to come by.

mommacandi · January 2015

I'm 5'3", weighed 128 pre-pregnancy, weigh 139ish now...blah, blah, blah who cares. As long a you're eating enough, drinking enough water, and going to your doc appointments, no need to stress about weight gain. Body shaming is bad enough as it is, but among a community of pregnant ladies?! Really??

mcp6286 · January 2015

jbartsy said:
@pcrunk I loved you before, but now I love you even more.

I had a really severe eating disorder for years and some people just don't fucking get it. I hate it when people (even those who know my history) still take the liberty of making comments about my body all the time - "you're so tiny! I'm totally jealous, you're going to be all belly!" Uh, so if I start gaining a ton of weight and I'm not so "tiny" anymore, you'll think I'm an ugly fat cow and feel sorry for me? How about you just congratulate me on my baby and leave it at that? Also, did it ever occur to you that maybe I DON'T want to be this tiny but that's how I'm naturally built? Assholes.

Thank you. For years, all I've heard is comments like those due to a chronic digestive disorder that I've had since childhood. It makes me just want to stand up and scream "This is NOT by choice! I am SICK! Every single day, I take a medication that could kill me so I can keep food down and stay alive. I've been in the hospital like 12 times in the past 4 years. It's been years since I've eaten anything that tastes good. I would GLADLY put on 20lbs to be able to go have pizza and beer with my friends when I want to. I NEVER can stop thinking about what I last ate and when I last ate and where I'm going to eat next or I will be in the hospital before you know it. My entire life is dictated by my digestive tract. Trust me,you do not want my life. Being skinny is not worth any of this!" It is so incredibly sad that so many women focus on weight so much. It is one of the things I love about TB - women of all builds can connect over things that actually matter without physical characteristics playing into it. Who cares what any of you ladies look like? You are smart and witty and empathetic, and that's what matters!

sgarmand · January 2015

mfinlay611 said:

@girlymama79‌ no need to be jealous of us and hate on our weight

Get the fuck out of here with this bullshit.

I'm SO FUCKING OVER people coming on here and stating their OBVIOUSLY FUCKING HEALTHY weight and asking if it's an issue. I won't even ask if you would walk up to a random group of women and say "Hi, I'm <120 pounds, do you think that's okay?" because you're probably the type of person that definitely would. Go get your validation from someone who gives a fuck. You have no clue how many women here struggle with their weight, both under and over, and no one needs your bullshit.

VintageVixenMommy · January 2015

God help OP's child in a few years. Sounds like an eating disorder waiting to happen.

I didn't realize that pregnancy was a contest.

housewifebecomesher · January 2015

Some of you are grossly overestimating (underestimating? I'm trying to say you all sound at normal weights) what counts as a short fatty, IMO. I'm not even gonna go there with my weight.

I fully admit that I use my pregnancy as an excuse to indulge in some foods I normally wouldn't. And I haven't regretted it once! Not even that time on TB when an internet stranger told me not to be jealous of them because they are petite.

ETA: clarity, parenthesis

darvo · January 2015

Sorry to interrupt our normally scheduled broadcasting, but where's @sensitivesally? Her post from earlier is gone and I can't look at her page. FREAKING OUT.

thelittlestbee · January 2015

Guise... I just need to add that even though OP's initial post was kind of ridiculous, she's not the one who thinks everyone is jealous of her because she's ZOMG so skinny and awesome. That was @mfinlay611. OP is @cf514. Just wanted to clarify...

edited because missing letters

leenziepops · January 2015

poohbearlove123 said:

darvo said:

Sorry to interrupt our normally scheduled broadcasting, but where's @sensitivesally? Her post from earlier is gone and I can't look at her page. FREAKING OUT.

WTF?! Did she have herself deleted? And my account is still here? What in the hell is happening?

Confirming she's okay. She requested HQ to delete her posts which they did. It was NOT a ban hammer.

kpgrala · January 2015

I love you ladies. You guys make me feel so beautiful with my new prego body.

betsyplunkett12 · January 2015

I'm 5'1 and started at 103. Gained four pounds so far. 18.5 weeks!

girlymama79 · January 2015

This again?

girlymama79 · January 2015

ombradellarosa · January 2015

leenziepops said:

poohbearlove123 said:

darvo said:

Sorry to interrupt our normally scheduled broadcasting, but where's @sensitivesally? Her post from earlier is gone and I can't look at her page. FREAKING OUT.

WTF?! Did she have herself deleted? And my account is still here? What in the hell is happening?

Confirming she's okay. She requested HQ to delete her posts which they did. It was NOT a ban hammer.

I wish that she didn't have all her posts deleted, if I'm correctly understanding what happened. I understand not wanting to be here but she said some great stuff that could benefit posters to come.

andreap525 · January 2015

ksimo6 said:

Fat Katey here. If Any of you other fatties want to get together and eat cake, call me.

Do uh... do we each get our own? Cuz... um... Imma need my own...

andreap525 · January 2015

@jbartsy @pcrunk @mcp6286 @Laurenlou83 and any others that I may have missed:

I'm sorry for your struggles, and for years of me foolishly thinking that 'skinny girls just have it easy.' In the past few years I've become enlightened to find that is not always the case - not even usually the case. I want to just put out a huge universal APB apology to all the ladies who've struggled to gain weight or with an ED that I'm so sorry I ever thought you 'had it easy'.

Thank you for sharing your stories, which I'm sure is never ever an easy thing to do. Whether it's psychological or physiological, it's all a struggle. I struggle with the opposite - to eat better and lose weight and keep it off, so I know how hard it is to deal with everyday life and people making comments or soliciting advice when it isn't asked for. Putting it into my head that no one is perfectly happy with themselves (except @mfinlay611, of course) has helped me to be more sensitive about each woman's weight and to just NOT make weight comments unless they've been asked for (and even then, yeah, no.)

DeVorebaby · January 2015

I am almost 18 weeks and I haven't gained any weight I lost over 10 pounds and haven't put one pound on sense so I thanks it's pretty normal.

maddibayer · January 2015

I am not too short but I went from 210 last year to 157!! Then gained about 15 pounds before pregnancy. I am now 185 and you know what!! I don't care!! My baby is healthy and so am I! I have no need to be jealous of anyone!! My husband thinks I am beautiful even when I don't! That pisses me off for someone to say we are jealous of them! I may not be skinny but I feel perfectly fine with my round and growing body!