Hey everyone I have a question, My partner is having some health problems and due to those and her age we are leaning towards her having a hysterectomy but she would very much like to have a bio baby so I told her I would be willing to carry so my question is we live in the states and I was wondering for those of you that have done it how much ballpark wise does it cost to retrieve her eggs and then I guess we would have to do invitro for me. I would just like ball park range for one round just to see if its a option because we do have two children right now TIA
Re: Eggs from your partner???
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
Otherwise $20-25k sounds about right if you're OOP. Ours was paid for by insurance, which our clinic billed them $50k!
We are in Canada so it is different but at our clinic it was only an extra $1200 or so over the cost of conventional IVF because there is so little work that goes into the transfer aspect of the partner IVF. (That is, almost all of the cost is for the meds and monitoring and retrieval and fertilization which would all be happening whether it was conventional IVF or parter IVF.)
I know this is not how clinics operate but in my mind the additional cost to do partner IVF over conventional IVF should be equal to or less than the cost of doing a frozen embryo transfer.
Imagine a scenario in which the clinic did an egg retrieval on your partner with the plan of transferring into her and you all decided to freeeze all the embryos rather than do a transfer that month. Then the plan would be to transfer one of them the next month and that would have a set cost for a frozen embryo transfer. Which uterus that embryo is transferred into shouldn't affect the cost unless there were legal issues involved.
So, if in your state you and your partner aren't both considered the legal owners of the embryos created from one of your body's, then the clinic will be able to claim that they have to add on all sorts of extra costs for coordinating a donor.
But if you are both considered legal owners of the embryos (assuming you both sign the consent forms together for IVF), then I think you should push them hard to charge you no more extra cost than what and FET would cost.
Good luck!
We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.
Our IUIs
with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.
Our IVFs:
IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response
IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
1st ultrasound (3/6 6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm.
***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***
FET #1 December 2014
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********Our insurance ended up covering over half. We paid about 12k OOP for everything (sperm, labs, meds, retrieval & Transfer) There was a lot of BS stuff that we had to do because we were tech using a "donor egg" (my wife's) and donor sperm. We had to get legal paper work drawn up by our lawyer stating that we are aware in our state that since I am giving birth it is MY baby, not my DW even though it is her egg. We will proceed with a second parent adoption after birth. Then we had to see a psychologist to make sure we had "realistic expectations re: using a sperm donor.
We do live in Texas, I am sure things are different from state to state.
7/22/15 - It's a boy!