Eggs from your partner???

Belovedvirgo0209

Hey everyone I have a question, My partner is having some health problems and due to those and her age we are leaning towards her having a hysterectomy but she would very much like to have a bio baby so I told her I would be willing to carry so my question is we live in the states and I was wondering for those of you that have done it how much ballpark wise does it cost to retrieve her eggs and then I guess we would have to do invitro for me. I would just like ball park range for one round just to see if its a option because we do have two children right now TIA

2MamazInSeattle

Shed effectively be your egg donor without the donor fee. At my clinic it would be $20-25K. You pay for ger meds and retrieval, egg fertilization, then your meds, monitoring and transfer.

Belovedvirgo0209

Oh wow thanks .

Karlamo

Does your insurance (her insurance) cover infertility? She might qualify if she has a medical condition where she couldn't carry.
Otherwise $20-25k sounds about right if you're OOP. Ours was paid for by insurance, which our clinic billed them $50k!

healz413

I'm sorry to hear about your partner's health problems.
We are in Canada so it is different but at our clinic it was only an extra $1200 or so over the cost of conventional IVF because there is so little work that goes into the transfer aspect of the partner IVF. (That is, almost all of the cost is for the meds and monitoring and retrieval and fertilization which would all be happening whether it was conventional IVF or parter IVF.)

I know this is not how clinics operate but in my mind the additional cost to do partner IVF over conventional IVF should be equal to or less than the cost of doing a frozen embryo transfer.
Imagine a scenario in which the clinic did an egg retrieval on your partner with the plan of transferring into her and you all decided to freeeze all the embryos rather than do a transfer that month. Then the plan would be to transfer one of them the next month and that would have a set cost for a frozen embryo transfer. Which uterus that embryo is transferred into shouldn't affect the cost unless there were legal issues involved.
So, if in your state you and your partner aren't both considered the legal owners of the embryos created from one of your body's, then the clinic will be able to claim that they have to add on all sorts of extra costs for coordinating a donor.
But if you are both considered legal owners of the embryos (assuming you both sign the consent forms together for IVF), then I think you should push them hard to charge you no more extra cost than what and FET would cost.
Good luck!

KH826

So we didn't do partner IVF, but my IVF cycle was about $12k including the cost of sperm and meds. My insurance didn't cover anything, so our fertility clinic worked with us on a "deal." It might have helped that we had already spent close to 8k at the same clinic on failed IUIs. I think a lot depends on your state/area as well as possible insurance coverage. It's kind of like buying a car... Prices can range wildly. Good luck and keep us posted!

holdingThumbs

I am in NY, so I can only speak to our experience in one state, but I recommend getting in for a consult at a RE office (not a traditional OB/GYN office) early in the process. We started with the plan that my partner would carry (her eggs, her body), and then switched planning partner IVF (her eggs, my body) midstream, and it has been quite the learning experience!! (Which is a nice way of saying shitshow). Since partner IVF is considered tissue donation, all tests, even routine ones like Pap smears, need to be done in an FDA lab. For us, this meant most of her preliminary tests needed to be repeated, which our insurance company wouldn't pay for. We were also required to have an attorney (again, this may be State specific) and a psychologist assessment. The estimated costs of about 25k doesn't include these other expenses. Our clinic has a specialization in oncology. One of the most disheartening things we learned is that women with cancer wishing to have eggs preserved are still subject to regulations regarding tissue donation. So, if a woman had her eggs retrieved and frozen, with the hopes of later carrying a child, but found herself unable to do so, she wouldn't be able to donate them. Seems so unfair!!

FSBC

Our insurance ended up covering over half. We paid about 12k OOP for everything (sperm, labs, meds, retrieval & Transfer) There was a lot of BS stuff that we had to do because we were tech using a "donor egg" (my wife's) and donor sperm. We had to get legal paper work drawn up by our lawyer stating that we are aware in our state that since I am giving birth it is MY baby, not my DW even though it is her egg. We will proceed with a second parent adoption after birth. Then we had to see a psychologist to make sure we had "realistic expectations re: using a sperm donor. 

 We do live in Texas, I am sure things are different from state to state.