38weeks 5 days no sign of labor

kaybeeknits · January 2015

texasmama786 said:

texasmama786 said:

There are no signs.. Doesn't matter if you're dilated/effaced or your nasty plug came or you're having BH contractions. Signs simply don't exist with labor. My water broke when I was taking a nap during my first pregnancy, you can go into labor spontaneously. Why is everyone so impatient for labor? Why not enjoy some days of rest and worry about things when it's time.

This is where you lose me. Maybe it is more of a FTM thing, but there is definitely anxiety and excitement when it comes to waiting on labor. I've never been through it before, and honestly I'm more anxious about knowing when it will happen than the actual labor itself. Not to mention, I'm uncomfortable and just want to feel like 'me' again instead of pregnant me. There's nothing wrong with feeling impatient.

Yes the anticipation is fun, but why not spend time preparing for it instead of obsessing on the internet all day over signs. One thing I have learned in life is that when you are really anxious for something it won't happen, and the minute you take your mind off of things and focus on something else it usually does.

I guess my perspective is tied up in the fact that I am now five days over due. I understand your point is more about people who aren't even to their due date yet, but I can definitely understand that it is WAY easier to say "JUST ENJOY IT!!!" and "Take your mind off of it" than done. Again, I'm five days overdue, so I'm probably being over sensitive to this.

texasmama786 · January 2015

kaybeeknits said:

texasmama786 said:

kaybeeknits said:

texasmama786 said:

There are no signs.. Doesn't matter if you're dilated/effaced or your nasty plug came or you're having BH contractions. Signs simply don't exist with labor. My water broke when I was taking a nap during my first pregnancy, you can go into labor spontaneously. Why is everyone so impatient for labor? Why not enjoy some days of rest and worry about things when it's time.

This is where you lose me. Maybe it is more of a FTM thing, but there is definitely anxiety and excitement when it comes to waiting on labor. I've never been through it before, and honestly I'm more anxious about knowing when it will happen than the actual labor itself. Not to mention, I'm uncomfortable and just want to feel like 'me' again instead of pregnant me. There's nothing wrong with feeling impatient.

Yes the anticipation is fun, but why not spend time preparing for it instead of obsessing on the internet all day over signs. One thing I have learned in life is that when you are really anxious for something it won't happen, and the minute you take your mind off of things and focus on something else it usually does.

I guess my perspective is tied up in the fact that I am now five days over due. I understand your point is more about people who aren't even to their due date yet, but I can definitely understand that it is WAY easier to say "JUST ENJOY IT!!!" and "Take your mind off of it" than done. Again, I'm five days overdue, so I'm probably being over sensitive to this.

Whatevs it's your sanity. You can choose to be excited that you're almost done and finalize any last minute preparations or you can groan and pout about the fact that you're overdue.

BookitBoo · January 2015

They always find us. How?

BTW stereotyping one nationality is a pretty vile and uneducated thing to do.

kaybeeknits · January 2015

texasmama786 said:

texasmama786 said:

texasmama786 said:

There are no signs.. Doesn't matter if you're dilated/effaced or your nasty plug came or you're having BH contractions. Signs simply don't exist with labor. My water broke when I was taking a nap during my first pregnancy, you can go into labor spontaneously. Why is everyone so impatient for labor? Why not enjoy some days of rest and worry about things when it's time.

This is where you lose me. Maybe it is more of a FTM thing, but there is definitely anxiety and excitement when it comes to waiting on labor. I've never been through it before, and honestly I'm more anxious about knowing when it will happen than the actual labor itself. Not to mention, I'm uncomfortable and just want to feel like 'me' again instead of pregnant me. There's nothing wrong with feeling impatient.

Yes the anticipation is fun, but why not spend time preparing for it instead of obsessing on the internet all day over signs. One thing I have learned in life is that when you are really anxious for something it won't happen, and the minute you take your mind off of things and focus on something else it usually does.

I guess my perspective is tied up in the fact that I am now five days over due. I understand your point is more about people who aren't even to their due date yet, but I can definitely understand that it is WAY easier to say "JUST ENJOY IT!!!" and "Take your mind off of it" than done. Again, I'm five days overdue, so I'm probably being over sensitive to this.
Whatevs it's your sanity. You can choose to be excited that you're almost done and finalize any last minute preparations or you can groan and pout about the fact that you're overdue.

Really? nice. I was just offering another perspective about why those kind of comments aren't always helpful.

ETA: Listen. I don't WANT to feel like a psycho who is constantly thinking about it. I feel like you're shaming me (or anyone who feels this way) by just kind of shrugging off the legitimacy of my feelings, which is why my initial response here is defensive. Of course I want to be breezy and relaxed, but easier said than done.

kaybeeknits · January 2015

laziestdaisy said:

kaybeeknits said:

texasmama786 said:

texasmama786 said:

There are no signs.. Doesn't matter if you're dilated/effaced or your nasty plug came or you're having BH contractions. Signs simply don't exist with labor. My water broke when I was taking a nap during my first pregnancy, you can go into labor spontaneously. Why is everyone so impatient for labor? Why not enjoy some days of rest and worry about things when it's time.

This is where you lose me. Maybe it is more of a FTM thing, but there is definitely anxiety and excitement when it comes to waiting on labor. I've never been through it before, and honestly I'm more anxious about knowing when it will happen than the actual labor itself. Not to mention, I'm uncomfortable and just want to feel like 'me' again instead of pregnant me. There's nothing wrong with feeling impatient.

Yes the anticipation is fun, but why not spend time preparing for it instead of obsessing on the internet all day over signs. One thing I have learned in life is that when you are really anxious for something it won't happen, and the minute you take your mind off of things and focus on something else it usually does.

I guess my perspective is tied up in the fact that I am now five days over due. I understand your point is more about people who aren't even to their due date yet, but I can definitely understand that it is WAY easier to say "JUST ENJOY IT!!!" and "Take your mind off of it" than done. Again, I'm five days overdue, so I'm probably being over sensitive to this.

@kaybeeknits I think you are right on both counts. I've definitely noticed that this time I'm way less anxious leading up to labor. Time is moving at a normal pace, where last time it seemed to creep by. I went on mat leave at 39 weeks last time, and went just a couple days past 40 and it felt like an etiernity for me. That's part of the reason I chose to work until my due date this time. But being overdue is so hard, esp five days. I hope you are able to do something fun to provide a little distraction.

I would imagine if I were as busy as other moms of more kids, I'd be a lot less impatient! You guys have so much to worry about and deal with. I just have way too much time to think about it

longcat07 · January 2015

well, i learned something from this thread. the only thing i need to do to keep it "clean" is not use the "f-word".

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becks2012 · January 2015

ICarriedAWatermelon said:

BookitBoo said:

They always find us. How?

BTW stereotyping one nationality is a pretty vile and uneducated thing to do.

And I never understood why anyone harbors these feelings towards Americans and yet comes on this AMERICAN website to do so. Why not go hang out on The Bump version from your own country? Oh wait...

It is because everyone knows Canada has a better healthcare system...

marvan5 · January 2015

@ReeReexGold‌ Welcome to Jan '15 Birth Month Club! Sorry to hear things are getting antzy for you, hang in there-- many of us are in the same boat or feel even worse! Do take a moment to stick around, comment on threads and let us get to know you and you know us in return! You will find a silly community that actually is very helpful. Sorry my Greeter's gesture is a tad late, but better than never! :-h

LadyXaverian · January 2015

ICarriedAWatermelon said:

BookitBoo said:

They always find us. How? BTW stereotyping one nationality is a pretty vile and uneducated thing to do.

And I never understood why anyone harbors these feelings towards Americans and yet comes on this AMERICAN website to do so. Why not go hang out on The Bump version from your own country? Oh wait...

There actually are Canadian pregnancy message boards and forums. :P Don't hate on the Canadians, ICAW.

kilayla13 · January 2015

Skylerpete said:

I was to busy to reply & just because I didn't reply back to everyone comments doesn't mean I didn't see them an appreciate them. Some of yall are just bullies an it really not nice
Actually I'm Minnesota Nice. And frankly that means not sugar coating things to your likeness. Baby comes when baby wants to come. If you aren't at your due date yet why are you worried? Baby isn't yet due to be here. Calling people bullies isn't very nice either. I've had a miserable road with preterm labor and my baby being born preemie and then my 3 week old being sick and everyone here has been nothing but supportive.

I am Minnesota Nice too

.....Just wanted to put that out there....

rodiesmum · January 2015

Don't forget abt the Asian moms!!

To OP, just be patient. Your baby will come out in its own time. Everyone is exhausted, some eveb frustrated. Do something relaxing

longcat07 · January 2015

kilayla13 said:

Skylerpete said:

I was to busy to reply & just because I didn't reply back to everyone comments doesn't mean I didn't see them an appreciate them. Some of yall are just bullies an it really not nice
Actually I'm Minnesota Nice. And frankly that means not sugar coating things to your likeness. Baby comes when baby wants to come. If you aren't at your due date yet why are you worried? Baby isn't yet due to be here. Calling people bullies isn't very nice either. I've had a miserable road with preterm labor and my baby being born preemie and then my 3 week old being sick and everyone here has been nothing but supportive.

I am Minnesota Nice too .....Just wanted to put that out there....

i'll have to learn about this "minnesota nice"...i live in MN but i'm still "new jersey nice" (totally not a real term), which is usually just blunt and sarcastic. i guess you can take the girl out of jersey but you can't jersey out of the girl.

britb618 · January 2015

right there with you @longcat07, the jersey remains strong in the girl

SaraBilly10315 · January 2015

I know I came late to this post however it was great read! I am just as far along as you and wish this was the case. I however have to be induced tomorrow do to some complications. I wish I was having a calm pregnancy. Defaintly know that you are lucky and that it sucks to wait but I wish I could wait!

readyforround2 · January 2015

Why do all the crazy threads have to happen when I'm at work! >:P

NicoleMarie0914 said:

@ReeReexGold People did give you good advice here and on the post about name spelling ( I was one of them ) that got no response from you except a nasty one about knowing you werent full term. As a ftm myself, I lurked for months on the site and board READING LOTS AND LOTS OF POSTS and occasionally commenting. I learned a lot from these ladies and saw them answer the same questions over and over again, sometimes the same topic and question asked on the same page multiple times. I also watched MANY people come on here and start a bunch of threads just to never return or acknowledge any of their answers.... quite frankly, it can be a little annoying. My personal suggestion, take the time to read through a few pages of the threads and maybe contribute to a few of them. A simple congratulations on a birth story is an easy icebreaker or posting a belly pic to HDBD will always get you some love, because even "assholes" love babies inside or outside. Sorry this turned into a novel but I for one am sick of watching these women get bashed because they arent coddling random people who dont want to invest the time or energy into even trying to get to know them or contribute.

I know I'm coming in late but I had to quote this. @nicolemarie0914, I love you! I was thinking this exact thing when I was reading through the comments. I lurked for a long time on this site before I started posting and I had a few tiffs with some of the ladies. Ms. stargirlb being 1 (she's no longer here) but for the ones that remember her I have to admit that I feel cheated because I know she'd have a field day with some of the newer posters.

I know the concept of building a bond with internet strangers is hard for some of you new posters to understand but it is there and it is strong. These ladies (and some gentlemen, this is not just a site for women) helped me after the scare of a loss, and even though I have never met them and may live thousands of miles from them, I am forever grateful for their kind words and help to rebuild my confidence. I love coming here and I love being a part of everything J15 has to offer, snark included.

@reereexgold I know you're frustrated and right now it seems like your baby will never come out, but I assure you they will. Once your LO makes their appearance and is in your arms, every ache and pain from the last 9 months will be a distant memory. At least that's what I've been told. I'm also a FTM.

To the rest of you that think we all suck and/or to the lurkers too afraid to post. Yes, we may snip and snark, but we are all VERY pregnant and VERY over every new person thinking that their problems are the only ones needing love and support. My advice to you is to either keep lurking or put some actual effort into getting to know some of us because once you do this site will be more valuable then you know. Once a J15 emu, always a J15 emu!

NicoleMarie0914 · January 2015

@kmf218

readyforround2 · January 2015

@nicolemarie0914

bigbobdole · January 2015

kmf218 said:
@nicolemarie0914

Get a room, you two!

readyforround2 · January 2015

megan81112 said:

@nicolemarie0914

Get a room, you two!

Jealous! lol You can join too

bigbobdole · January 2015

kmf218 said:

megan81112 said:

kmf218 said:
@nicolemarie0914

Get a room, you two!

Jealous! lol You can join too

Now you're talkin!

misslizzy82 · January 2015

@totuwase - is that your phone number? i think you might want to delete that and PM the OP...

cmaceachern · January 2015

Wow, what a rollercoster of a thread! But very entertaining at 4am when you can't sleep

Not that I'm a super active poster, I thought I'd make a comment on all this fun stuff.

1) We were all new to this board at one point. I mainly come to read and see if others have had or are having the same issues as I am. Being a mom (first time or not) is hard and scary. I think we (myself included) need to remember that.

2) Posters/Members who jump the gun and call the people who respond to their post arseholes have to remember that this is a public board. We all have opinions and lord knows they are not always the same as yours. If you post, you have to expect that people are not always going to give you the answer you want. Such is life I'm afraid.

3) Most of us at this point in the game are super pregnant. We are in January...our birth month. Hormones are running pretty high.

I had a good laugh over the statement that for some reason people were rude on this board because it's mainly American. I'm on a Canadian board as well and it's pretty much the same. A public forum is a public forum.

Anyway, thanks for the comical responses ladies. As stated it was an entertaining read :P

LaBellaVida · January 2015

toluwase said:
Hey honey , relax ur mind. We are in the same shoes here. It's my first as well..the baby will definitely come at the right time , it's not compulsory to start feeling any sign of labour for days or weeks ...some feels d signs within an hour and give birth within d hour. So , it all depend on individual Differences, dear. For sharing of ideas and experience of motherhood , kindly contact me via +2348029399596.. nothing as sweet as motherhood. Lol

who does this! ?
:-?

This is so bizarre! Didn't you post your number the other day, too?

bigbobdole · January 2015

LaBellaVida said:

toluwase said:
Hey honey , relax ur mind. We are in the same shoes here. It's my first as well..the baby will definitely come at the right time , it's not compulsory to start feeling any sign of labour for days or weeks ...some feels d signs within an hour and give birth within d hour. So , it all depend on individual Differences, dear. For sharing of ideas and experience of motherhood , kindly contact me via +2348029399596.. nothing as sweet as motherhood. Lol
who does this! ?
:-?

This is so bizarre! Didn't you post your number the other day, too?

I still gotta call this lady. Lolz

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