NBR: WWYD - Job Question

Re: NBR: WWYD - Job Question

• ruemorgan member

  January 2015

  If they did offer you the job and it would take a few months start to finish like you say, then assuming the face to face interview is before 37 weeks (ofcourse thats personal preference) I would go with out mentioning the pregnancy. I would feel this late in the game that its important to show your pregnancy won't stop you from reaching your career goals.

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• rowboat4 member

  January 2015

  I guess the big question for me would be if they were expecting you to do any work before they relocated you, because that might be hard with a newborn. That being said, I agree with @ruemorgan‌

  
  
  

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• massiejs09 member

  January 2015

  @mrssanders2013 - no, due to the nature of the job there would be nothing I could do until I was physically there and at the work location. Starting the actual work involves transferring my security clearances and getting read on to the new program (in Texas). Those things usually take time because the government moves at the speed of ... well ... government.

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• massiejs09 member

  January 2015

  @ruemorgan - that's sort of how my H is leaning too. The worst that can happen is I go down there and they see I'm obviously pregnant. We have the interview and then I never hear from them again. I still have my job here and haven't lost anything by going. 

  
  

  I would have to address it though at that point. But maybe being this late in the pregnancy would work to my advantage because I wouldn't need to take time off on their dime. I just don't know what the proper etiquette is.

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• CoozieInMyPurse member

  January 2015

  @massiejs09‌ My immediate concern would be flying at this point. You are 33 weeks? Isn't the cutoff for flying usually 34 weeks? The timing question could be a good way to introduce pregnancy into the conversation.
  
  If they want you, they will be willing to work with you. Also, it is illegal for them to not hire you BECAUSE of pregnancy.
  
  I'm in a similar situation, but haven't progressed to interviews yet. A friend is recommending me for a position. We started talking about it before I was even pregnant, but the job just became approved and actually open. I've submitted my resume and obviously my friend knows I'm pregnant. But it will be interesting to see how the timing works out.
  
  

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• rm2013 member

  January 2015

  I would not disclose prior to the interview. To do so IMO is to basically acknowledge that you feel you were being deceitful before by not disclosing. You are under a legally protected status that you are not required to disclose, family status is no different than race or sexual orientation. I don't think anyone would feel they need to say, "hey just so you know I'm gay", or "hey I have 5 children" before an interview - just like your pregnancy that has no bearing on your ability to perform the job. Sure it is outwardly apparent once you get there but it should not be a factor in your qualifications.
  
  I would go, and when the topic obviously is broached you can explain that you plan on taking x weeks after delivery before you'd start a new position (if chosen). And given the timelines for getting ramped up it seems like everything would line up perfectly. Then it's just up to them if they want you. Sure if they don't hire you you'll never know if it was because you're pregnant, but nothing ventured nothing gained.

  

  

  
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• massiejs09 member

  January 2015

  luckystarz said:

  DFW rocks, I'd move.

  Does it? I have never spent any time there. My dad used to live in San Antonio which might have been the hottest place on Earth, and my brother lived in Kingwood, outside of Houston, before moving to Northern California. I know it's affordable, especially compared to DC.

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• jnowosielski member

  January 2015

  How long do you plan on taking mat leave? If it's going to take a few months anyway you would be back to work I assume. So it wouldn't matter as much to them that you are pregnant. Does that make sense?

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• massiejs09 member

  January 2015

  @jnowosielski - yes, that makes sense. Its so close to the end that given the logical timeline, me being pregnant might become a moot point in the grand scheme.
  
  @coozieinmypurse - I was going to talk to my OB about what the situation would be for flying. Obviously I don't want to do anything that would endanger me or my child. Good luck with your job prospect!!
  

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• Mic512 member

  January 2015

  I would check TX laws, a friend who lived in TX explained that many common non-federally mandated protections for women do not exist n TX. That being said, I would think about your interactions with the hiring managers before disclosing your pregnancy. I would make it clear that you do not expect the personal changes in your life to effect your effectiveness of doing the job.

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• ngolimento member

  January 2015

  You are going to have to travel no matter when you tell them. If you tell them before you go, by law, they can't say "oh, well don't bother prego, we won't hire you". So honestly you have no way of knowing if being pregnant will impact thier decision or not, because they would be the dumbest kind of moron to tell you they are discriminating because of your family status.
  
  I'd personally not tell them anything, because you said the timing doesn't impact anything. So honestly it has no impact on your job ability, and it would be no more thier business than a surgery to remove bunions that doesn't conflict with the hiring.

  

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• Skrittens member

  January 2015

  rm2013 said:

  I would not disclose prior to the interview. To do so IMO is to basically acknowledge that you feel you were being deceitful before by not disclosing. You are under a legally protected status that you are not required to disclose, family status is no different than race or sexual orientation. I don't think anyone would feel they need to say, "hey just so you know I'm gay", or "hey I have 5 children" before an interview - just like your pregnancy that has no bearing on your ability to perform the job. Sure it is outwardly apparent once you get there but it should not be a factor in your qualifications.
  
  I would go, and when the topic obviously is broached you can explain that you plan on taking x weeks after delivery before you'd start a new position (if chosen). And given the timelines for getting ramped up it seems like everything would line up perfectly. Then it's just up to them if they want you. Sure if they don't hire you you'll never know if it was because you're pregnant, but nothing ventured nothing gained.

  Exactly this!!!!

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• massiejs09 member

  January 2015

  @rm2013 @skrittens - true!
  
  @peledreamsofrain - that's true too. I didn't really think about that. They couldn't rescind the offer to come down based on the fact that I told them I was pregnant.
  

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• rowboat4 member

  January 2015

  If you wouldn't be required to do work until the transplant you, then I say don't tell them until your interview. Like pp said, you are not legally required to tell them anything about your family status, but when you show up obviously pregnant, they'll figure it out. And it sounds like the timing of when they would be able to move you would be right around or after your maternity leave anyway, so the timing shouldn't be an issue at all.

  
  
  

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