March 2015 Moms

Postpartum Hospital Rooms

We went on our hospital tour yesterday, and I was shocked to learn that they have a handful of semi-private postpartum rooms. She said TYPICALLY they don't have to use them, but were full enough last week that a few were used. And of course, if you are given one, DH/SO cannot stay the night with you. 

I am now feeling really unsure about my hospital choice. Any STM had to use one? Advice or thoughts?

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  • I'm nervous about this too, but I haven't taken my hospital tour yet and I'm not sure if they have shared rooms or not. So hopefully it will be a non issue. Im terrible with strangers and I hate sharing space. I get anxious if the movie theater is too full and I have to sit next to a stranger that's over the age of ten. I can't imagine rooming with someone after giving birth, and I'd probably get a little crazy if they made me send DH home.
  • We had a private room I couldn't imagine being in a semi private room...
  • There's another large hospital in town, that I believe my Dr can deliver at as well - so I'm going to ask when I see her next week. If she can, we're going to go take a look at that one and debate it. When we were there, they had 3 private rooms open - and they explained you're put on a list and moved to a private room the next day as soon as someone goes home.

    I'm having the same feelings - I can't imagine bleeding and breastfeeding and trying to rest a little while sharing a room with another mom and baby.

    Thanks for the comments ladies !!
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  • We also live an hr away - so he'll either have to drive 1 hr both ways or get a hotel room :( I'm trying not to get too stressed about it - but I think I'm more upset about this than the thought of birth!
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  • Our hospital has 29 delivery rooms and 60 private postpartum rooms. This seems like a good amount to me but they did just break a personal delivery record of 593 babies in November which seems like a ton to me! I can't imagine sharing a room after delivery, FTM here, but I want that time and privacy.
  • I had a private room with my first and only out of sheer luck did I have a private room the second time (insurance only covered a shared room). I had to stay for a week because the baby had an infection and I can't imagine having to share a room. My husband wasn't allowed to stay with me and it was not fun at all. Plus, we were in Switzerland and I didn't speak Italian so I couldn't even communicate. But, like someone else said, you're so wrapped up with the baby maybe it wouldn't be that bad for a night or two. Can you deliver at another hospital? I'd check into it...
  • I feel like a shared room would have made me really uncomfortable. Others have mentioned the bleeding and breastfeeding aspect but what about naps! How are you supposed to nap when you have your own visitors plus someone else's visitors and all the phone calls each of you are getting, I just can't imagine a quiet moment!

    I don't like it and I would definitely be checking out the other option.
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  • I didnt even realise I might have to share a room, it just hadn't cross my mind. My hospital tour is wednesday, though, so hopefully they have some good news! Sharing a room sounds so unpleasant.
  • Yeah I don't want to sound like a snob either but delivering at a hospital with shared rooms would be a deal breaker for me. With my son I ended up with an emergency c section and had to stay for 6 days. I could barely function so having my husband there was a must. Thankfully my hospital has only private rooms and husbands/SO get a hospital bed for themselves as well.
  • I think my hospital has all private rooms but if there is an extreme overflow there are shared extra rooms. With my son I did have a private room & my DH stayed the first night but the second night I sent him home, they only had these seats that turned into beds that were terrible. But I did have to share a room this past fall when I had my appendix out & it was awful! The woman was so loud & watched the tv loud all night. Even her doctors were loud right as I was about to fall asleep after not sleeping all night!
  • I'm def going to look into another hospital - as well as talking to a few friends who delivered there. All the private rooms have beds for DH so that makes me feel better. I guess I never thought about it even being an option until they mentioned it
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  • Reading all this makes me realize I need to stop lagging and set up a hospital tour. I keep thinking I have all the time in the world. But I can't imagine having to share a room, I'd assume in that case they'd have a zero visitor policy aside from H/SO.

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  • Thankfully, the nurse made it sound like it's RARE and never for the length of your stay - but I'm going to do some more research as well as tour the other hospital.

    @milk2481‌ - yes, they still suggest rooming in which I can't imagine! Just getting your baby to sleep then the other one wakes up - that sounds like no sleep for anyone!
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  • I'm in the same boat and my hospital is the only one my doctor delivers at and I'm stuck due to HMO. Sorta dampened the excitement of the hospital tour (I'm a scheduled c-section) and stressed me out a ton so I completely commiserate and hope you have options!
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  • We have one hospital in a 40 mile radius, so there's no choosing for me. It's semi private rooms. It's going to suck. A close friend of mine is a midwife at the hospital and she said it sucks for the new moms, you get no rest for those days. She said it's best to see if you can leave ASAP.
  • And this hospital rooms-in with the babies. I don't understand this place, it's a beautiful, new hospital but they couldn't think to make private rooms for maternity? Ugh.
  • My hospital only has four private rooms, and they're the size of postage stamps. The rest are rooms set up for FOUR patients. I am in a small town and apparently it's rare that all the private rooms are full, but still nerve wracking to think about. Weirdly, even in the four-bed rooms, there's still a hide-a-bed chair for dads to sleep on. And babies still room in. Talk about a sardine can.

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  • I was in a shared room when DD was born..with a foreign woman who had just delivered twins. She was making the strangest noises I've ever heard someone make, even while in pain. Luckily her babies were not in the room, but mine was and she continued to wake her up. My husband wasn't able to stay. I was so emotional and confused. Here I was with this brand new baby, in pain, next to a stranger, without my husband. It was terrible, especially when my large family came to visit in the morning and there was no room for them. Fortunately, I was moved to a private room the next day, but wow. That was rough. I really, really hope I get a private room this time.
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  • RMama2012RMama2012 member
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    In my area, it is $700 and up a night for a private room.  Insurance does not pay for them.  It was really no big deal.  My neighbor was fine.  I had the first bed and there was a curtain that went all around my bed for anythign private (bfing, pad checks by nurses, etc).  Would I have liked a private room- you bet.  Was it worth $1500 for 2 nights- no way.

    Seriously, your room is never private because you have nurses and guests (in my case) inand out the whole time.  I can't imagine choosing a lesser quality hospital for a private room. I didn't mind that DH left. I was sleeping anyway and as soon as he woke he drove over to the hospital on both days.

    I understand the desire for a private room and I know this may sound harsh but I kind of feel like this is a "put on your big girl panties" situation. 

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    nomnommama just curious where you're delivering....I am going to Mt Sinai again. 

    jennypm that's why I said 'in my case.'  I actually liked the guests but I know that many people limit them.

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  • RMama2012 said:

    nomnommama just curious where you're delivering....I am going to Mt sinai again. 

    @RMama2012‌ Mt. Sinai too! I was at St. Luke's Roosevelt last time. Boo hiss.
    I felt much better about Sinai when I did my tour. What's your due date? Maybe we'll be delivering down the hall from each other ;)

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  • nomnommama just curious where you're delivering....I am going to Mt sinai again. 
    @RMama2012‌ Mt. Sinai too! I was at St. Luke's Roosevelt last time. Boo hiss. I felt much better about Sinai when I did my tour. What's your due date? Maybe we'll be delivering down the hall from each other ;)
    I am due March 11th.  I was happy with it overall even though I was on the "overflow (unrenovated)" floor in a semi private room :::gasp:::
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  • This whole subject has me so nervous!! I didn't even know they would put 2 beds in 1 room. My last 2 pregnancies, I delivered at the same hospital and I'm pretty sure there wasn't an option besides a private room. I will be delivering in a different hospital this time though and our tour isn't for another week. I actually feel pretty stupid for not even thinking about this :((
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    RMama2012 said:

    nomnommama just curious where you're delivering....I am going to Mt sinai again. 

    @RMama2012‌ Mt. Sinai too! I was at St. Luke's Roosevelt last time. Boo hiss.
    I felt much better about Sinai when I did my tour. What's your due date? Maybe we'll be delivering down the hall from each other ;)


    I am due March 11th.  I was happy with it overall even though I was on the "overflow (unrenovated)" floor in a semi private room :::gasp:::


    I'm the 8th but will most likely go late again. Somehow we will survive the stranger danger. ;)
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  • My hospital just re-did their maternity ward, with 100% private rooms. No sharing, and DH has his own cot. One of the reasons why I switched. 

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  • rebmit32 said:

    It's so gross to think about bleeding all over and sharing a bathroom. Not to mention trying to bond with your baby and having another mom and baby in the room. Sadly, though, I don't have an option about what hospital I deliver at, so I'm just gonna cross my finger's I get one of the private rooms. 


    Things could be worse though, I guess. In the 1960s the women were put in a room with like 10 other women. And the babies weren't allowed to room in. 
    gross? I don't have an option for a private room. I hope I'm not gross.

    Actually semi private is better than some of the other hospitals in Switzerland...theres a maternity ward at the major hospital in Geneva. 8 women in one room.
  • I honestly didn't even realize semi-private maternity rooms were a thing. Every hospital within 75 miles of me has private rooms standard. Even the small community hospital I'll be delivering at. This sucks if you have to be shoved into a room with another woman and her newborn without your H to help. I can't even imagine.
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  • All of the hospitals where I live have private rooms. I didn't even know there was such a thing as sharing a room with another woman until I read another post about it.
  • I've only ever seen private rooms.  At my hospital there is only one delivery/PP room so if two moms are in labor at the same time the second just goes into a general care room, which has two beds, but is still kept private so the dad can sleep in.  I would be very uncomfortable with the thought of doing that first night (or two or three or four) alone with a newborn.  I had a really easy L&D in the grand scheme of things and still found it difficult to get out of bed, pick up DS, and bring him back to bed for night nursing the first night.  Having DH there to do that was great.

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  • I had read online in one of their brochures that they had a few semi private rooms and tried not to think anything of it, but when the nurse told me they had to use a handful of them LAST WEEK, it made it a bit more real. I would be SO SAD and a bit nervous to not have DH with me on the very first night with baby - and totally agree with @EmpireRecords24 about disturbing someone else or feeling guilty for going to the bathroom or talking with baby. I suppose if it happens - I'd have to manage :)
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  • My hospital only has private birthing suites. You labor and deliver in the same room you stay in for the duration of your stay. There is a couch with a pull out bed for DH/SO, a huge jet tub, awesome shower, etc. I couldn't imagine sharing a room. Not because I'm a speshul snowflake, but those first few days with baby seem so special, intimate, and private. I wouldn't want a stranger there. 
  • Ya i have to say that i feel extremely lucky. Or hospital is brand new and have only private rooms which are delivery/post partum so you don't even have to move anywhere after giving birth unless they happen to get slammed and then your moved into a smaller private over flow room. I would prob consider delivering somewhere else if i didn't have a private room. Although that would require me to go 45 minutes away out of state. But some good news is that i asked when we took our tour about birth rates this time of year and my hospital said that jan-mar is the slowest time but i live in a smaller rural area. My hospital has 24 rooms and like 7 over flow rooms and they generally are never filled.
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  • Count me as one of those who didn't know that shared rooms were still a thing.  My hospital only has private rooms, thankfully.  Babies room in, there are no visiting hours or limits (within reason), and a daybed for partners to sleep in.  I could not imagine having to send my husband home at night.  WTF

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