Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Its 5'o clock where I am......DRINK up!
~*~*~You're Such A Pretty Melody, I'm Just Another Tattooed Tragedy~*~*~
I flew down the stairs to the kitchen and the dishwasher door was wide open and it was still running! Thankfully most of the water was staying inside but there was already quite a bit on the floor. If I had not heard it our kitchen would have totally flooded. DH was already in bed (awake) at the other end of the hall and he didn't hear a thing.
Nope. Ghirardelli
I haven't been around all day or most of yesterday.
It's been a roller coaster
Hugs!!!!!!
Nope. Ghirardelli
I will have to look for it and try it.
On another note I keep wondering why I am not losing any weight as I just ate 6 mini corn dogs.....must walk away!
And apparently must say FUCK before that's not allowed anymore.
Question: what if I say F.U.C.K?
Cuz that's just a coincidence, right?
What are you going to school for?
Anxiety sucks.
Take the break, it will be worth it. It will help you for tomorrow.
GL
Everything okay?
I have all the rage at this comment.
I need a don't murder your MIL pill and dont smack your DH in the junk because he defends her constanly one too. Ugh!
Its after 11pm and she just texted with the most outrageous text. I want to say something so snarky to her but I have to bite my tounge or start WW3.
Of course I act like the bigger person and try to vent to DH about it and he just shrugs it off like NBD. Men!!!!!
This is like when the girl at work told me I spent to much money in vet bills on my beagle and I should just take her out back and shoot her......I got wrote up at work that day.
Your uncle is an asshole!
She is his MIL, but still. She is still a person, and if they can find/ fix what is wrong with her, she could still have years.
He doesn't think we should bother with the tests or extra care, cuz 'is it really worth it?'
Hey Matt this is mom (like we dont know who she is) its income tax time and I could really use that money you owe me..........
For the record this money we owed her was settled in a situation about 4 months ago.
The reason this irks my nerves. We dont hear from her....ever unless its to ask for something. Christmas goes by...both of the girls birthdays go by in December my DH's a few days ago....she cant seem to text then but 11pm to ask for money on a Monday night.....sure.
She knows we no longer owe her this money. If she needs something just freaking ask dont play dumb.
Two are just starting to cut, and two are maybe a day or two behind.
FFMC: I like being able to snuggle her in bed with me to calm her when she is in pain like this.
I also like the extra sleep I get.
Im looking forward to granbabies in 12 or so years.
DD also gives a big F you to the teething charts on the Internet. She'll grow her teeth in when she wants to, dammit!