My insurance company has decided to drop the hospital I'd like to deliver at and its the only hospital my Dr is privileged at :-(. Now I get to find a new hospital and OB at 28 weeks. Fuck insurance BS.
My inlaws bought our stroller off of our babies r us registry. I was with them and the cashier scanned the registry however it did not process on the registry. I wouldn't be so ticked but when you buy stuff off the registry you get money back with babies r us. Just annoying and have to jump through hoops to get it.
I work at a university, and today was the first day of classes which is always rough with the students who wait to do everything last minute. Throw in a student who I misadvised, and her graduation will get thrown off because a faculty member can't bend the pre-requisites EVER...and I feel like a loser.
I just feel like most of this pregnancy I've either been too nauseated or pregnancy-brained to do my job as good as I'm used to. Then I'll be a full-time working mom, and I just may never get back to the awesomeness I once was.
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My inlaws bought our stroller off of our babies r us registry. I was with them and the cashier scanned the registry however it did not process on the registry. I wouldn't be so ticked but when you buy stuff off the registry you get money back with babies r us. Just annoying and have to jump through hoops to get it.
I'd be mad too! A $300 travel system gets you like $14 back!
BFP 8/9/2014 Baby Boy wolowizard due 4/14/2015 Greyson Robert
I was booted out of my classroom today because the building that the early childhood grades are in lost heat. So we had four grades of middle school kids in the auditorium. Needless to say nothing got done and it was a day of babysitting. We got nothing done Friday either, so now I am super behind. Sigh.
Okay I'm getting anxious about registering and really getting that whole show on the road. I want to go this weekend so I tell my husband my plans. He randomly informs me that my brother in law wants us to go bowling that day. Then when I get upset he proceeds to tell me he doesn't want to go shopping. I am of course upset because I don't feel like it's shopping, it's doing something for our son. I even offered to go to his favorite restaurant after and go see American Sniper at the movies which I know he has been wanting to see so it's not like I made one sided plans. He works second shift so I am texting him my feelings about this at the moment and crying like an idiot. Am I crazy? Are your husbands going with you to register? Or do I have a completely stupid idea of what registering is all about?
Okay I'm getting anxious about registering and really getting that whole show on the road. I want to go this weekend so I tell my husband my plans. He randomly informs me that my brother in law wants us to go bowling that day. Then when I get upset he proceeds to tell me he doesn't want to go shopping. I am of course upset because I don't feel like it's shopping, it's doing something for our son. I even offered to go to his favorite restaurant after and go see American Sniper at the movies which I know he has been wanting to see so it's not like I made one sided plans. He works second shift so I am texting him my feelings about this at the moment and crying like an idiot. Am I crazy? Are your husbands going with you to register? Or do I have a completely stupid idea of what registering is all about?
My husband went with me to register for our wedding but he has had minimal involvement in the baby registry. I've done most it it online because the selections are better. While I can see why you'd be bummed, your reaction seems a bit strong. Sit down and tell him it would mean a lot to you. If he still says no, ask your mom or BFF. No need to dwell on something if it can't be changed.
I do suggest at least doing some of the registry online due to the increase in options.
@specialsn0wflake I have done some online but was looking forward to doing the rest in store. I'm sure my reaction is kind of ridiculous but I just wanted him to be involved I guess. I probably shouldn't get my hopes up. I did my wedding registry alone but I just wanted him to I guess "bond" with the baby and pick stuff out for him.
@specialsn0wflake I have done some online but was looking forward to doing the rest in store. I'm sure my reaction is kind of ridiculous but I just wanted him to be involved I guess. I probably shouldn't get my hopes up. I did my wedding registry alone but I just wanted him to I guess "bond" with the baby and pick stuff out for him.
For a lot of guys they can't bond until the baby is physically here where as women are connected immediately. Being upset is normal, I was referring to crying about it as being a bit strong. He's being insensitive to your feelings. I suggest talking to him about it again.
Okay I'm getting anxious about registering and really getting that whole show on the road. I want to go this weekend so I tell my husband my plans. He randomly informs me that my brother in law wants us to go bowling that day. Then when I get upset he proceeds to tell me he doesn't want to go shopping. I am of course upset because I don't feel like it's shopping, it's doing something for our son. I even offered to go to his favorite restaurant after and go see American Sniper at the movies which I know he has been wanting to see so it's not like I made one sided plans. He works second shift so I am texting him my feelings about this at the moment and crying like an idiot. Am I crazy? Are your husbands going with you to register? Or do I have a completely stupid idea of what registering is all about?
I understand why you would be upset. However, I registered at BRU with my DH and Target today without him. Target was far easier. My DH is very involved in my pregnancy, but he has not been living and breathing all things baby like me. I'd researched everything, made a mock registry on Amazon, etc. He had done nothing of the sort. So, when we got there, he was all disoriented and wanted to use that time to do his research, while I knew exactly what I wanted. I am not kidding when I say I was thoroughly stressed in the first aisle, and I am a very low-maintenance person.
Fast forward to Target today: I got a half-caf latte, took my sweet time down the aisles, and am more confident in my choices on the registry.
I'm just online at Walmart.com and it's extremely annoying and slow but I'm just selecting "store availability" and it's showing what would be in the store closest to me. Maybe if I give him some time, he will decide to tackle Target with me.
@galba08 I didn't even bother mentioning anything baby shopping or registry related to my guy because, I honestly loath shopping as much as he does. His involvement in baby items has been research; carseat & mattress. Guys seem todo better with the research than shopping, I'd suggest giving him 1-3 things to "research" for your registry. This way he is also involved & doesn't have to step foot into a store.
My insurance company has decided to drop the hospital I'd like to deliver at and its the only hospital my Dr is privileged at :-(. Now I get to find a new hospital and OB at 28 weeks. Fuck insurance BS.
I feel your pain! My family doc discontinued her prenatal care and delivery of babies right before Christmas. I ended up switching to the midwives at the same clinic, so it all turned out OK. I hope you find someone you mesh with and who delivers at a hospital you like. Good luck!
@galba08 I feel your pain! I was overly disappointed at DH's complete lack of interest in baby gear and registering. I made it some personal insult and an example of how he didn't care about the baby (ummm not true. I blame hormones!) Anyways, I've definitely come around and had way more fun with my mom than I would of with him. I made him stop at BRU the other day to have him push the stroller I like around and to fiddle with the car seat- he was completely shocked at how expensive everything is and was a total downer. The moral is, go with a girlfriend or your mom who WANTS to go and discuss the minute pros and cons of different bottles and nipples and don't make DH who would likely end up complaining anyways! I registered for our wedding alone too- we went to one store together and it was so awful that we decided I would do the rest without him.
@qwanda2013@lexyraejay getting a new OB doesn't bother me, being forced into a hospital that has a 57% cs rate & isn't drug free friendly is really bugging me. I'm a great advocate for myself but, being on a clock the second I walk in to a hospital is a bit stressful.
Thanks for all the feedback girls. You're right, I would probably have more fun registering with my mom anyways.
Yup! Hubby has gone to Babies R Us with me a couple of times, and I think it just totally overwhelms him. I'm sure the fact that I could look at stuff for hours doesn't help. If it's not his thing, then that's okay. Doesn't mean he loves your child any less!
This will probably sound very ungrateful, but pretty much everything else is sorted/ not urgent on my end.
I was asking my SIL about car seats because she has used a few different brands and she piped up 'oh me and your brother will buy your car seat', which i do appreciate a lot but i always feel bad when other people buy expensive things.
That was a few months ago now and i hadn't heard anything about it despite talking to them a lot and last time mum spoke to my brother she asked and he said "We don't have the money now, she doesn't need the car seat until after it's born anyway" i think he forgets i DO need it just in case i go into labor early. They live quite far away so it's not like they could get it down to me in a rush. So now i'm worrying about it when i could have purchased one in the sales a few weeks ago. If they don't have the money i completely understand but i just need to know what the plan is so if they wont be able to afford it i can buy one.
This will probably sound very ungrateful, but pretty much everything else is sorted/ not urgent on my end.
I was asking my SIL about car seats because she has used a few different brands and she piped up 'oh me and your brother will buy your car seat', which i do appreciate a lot but i always feel bad when other people buy expensive things. I did say that i would rather buy my own, also to save her the hassle and $$ but she insisted.
That was a few months ago now and i hadn't heard anything about it despite talking to them a lot and last time mum spoke to my brother she asked and he said "We don't have the money now, she doesn't need the car seat until after it's born anyway" i think he forgets i DO need it just in case i go into labor early. They live quite far away so it's not like they could get it down to me in a rush. So now i'm worrying about it when i could have purchased one in the sales a few weeks ago. If they don't have the money i completely understand but i just need to know what the plan is and it's beginning to annoy me.
If you do go into labor early the baby would likely have to stay in the NICU for an extended amount of time, so you would have plenty of time to get a car seat in that case.
After the holidays is typically the time a lot of people struggle catch up after spending a lot more than most any other time of year. You still have plenty of time whether it feels like it or not, so give them a chance. Or buy it yourself, either way, don't be so hard on them, its only January.
Seriously. My husband is a good, caring man in general. But I am growing a human in here... Everytime he complains about being tired I want to punch him... Anger literally boils inside me.
I just want to be pampered and I want someone to ask me and care about how I am feeling... If there is ever a time in my life to feel whiney and doted on it should be now. It's like, go get me some nachos, or ask me what I'm craving.
And, can a biotch get a back rub around here!?!
Thanks for listening, ladies. You get it, they just never will...
I mentioned on another thread today that my cousin was going to throw my shower, but I hadn't heard anything besides the original "I'm throwing you a shower". My best friend called today, wanting to know if she could throw me a shower, I wasn't sure what was going on with my cousin so I asked BFF if I could figure that end out and call her back. I called my cousin and she told me she was going to throw me a shower, but couldn't find a place to host it, and decided not to throw me one. Which is fine. However, why not let me know before this point? She also said the timing interfered with her DD's first birthday and that is her priority, not my shower. Again, fine but don't say you're going to do something and then don't do it. It ended up working out because now my BFF is throwing one and the shower won't revolve around said cousin and how well she puts things together.
I'm sorry if this makes me sound bratty.
I agree with you. I have a friend that said early on that she want to throw a shower for me but I haven't heard anything since then. I also have two of my other friends who said they would host a shower for me together (1 just had a baby and I co-hosted her shower). She asked me yesterday about it and said could you give me till the end of the month to figure out if my one friend was wanting to host. I was more just going to see if the 3 of them wanted to host it together which she thought was a great idea. I did tell my friend I would like to do a his and hers shower since DH and I have guy friends that are single that we would like to invite/we know would really want to come. I think why I'm most annoyed is because I hate when people procrastinate especially on showers/events (mainly because I had an AWFUL maid of honor when I got married).
Puke fest tonight when I got out of the bath. I think it was the greasy food I ate. Hoping I won't still be quesy when I drink my drink tomorrow for the gd test. Now I'm up because I'm too nauseous and I'm rewashing my crib bedding that bleed togerher. I'm very tempted to return it if it doesn't look better by this next wash. Crossing my fingers. Its teeally cute and I would hate to have wasted the money on it when it looks like shit from color bleeding.
@mrsjack53 and @kamomo1 I know what you mean on doing what you say you are going to do. I have throw my bff 2 showers and if I didnt have someone cohosting with her I would have been finding out this week that she is going out of town with her boyfriend and now can't make the shower she was supposed to be planning.
Seriously. My husband is a good, caring man in general. But I am growing a human in here... Everytime he complains about being tired I want to punch him... Anger literally boils inside me.
I just want to be pampered and I want someone to ask me and care about how I am feeling... If there is ever a time in my life to feel whiney and doted on it should be now. It's like, go get me some nachos, or ask me what I'm craving.
And, can a biotch get a back rub around here!?!
Thanks for listening, ladies. You get it, they just never will...
This bitch annoyed me. You're pregnant. Not facing death from a terminal disease. While I get wanting a bit of extra pampering right now you sound like a big bag of 'woe is me ' whiny pants. You're husband may not be pregnant but he's allowed to be tired too! After taking care of you I think I'd be exhausted as well!
You just started my day with a smile. I realize you meant "This bitch (thing)" but when I first read it, I read it as "This BITCH (person)". Cracked me up! Good morning
Seriously. My husband is a good, caring man in general. But I am growing a human in here... Everytime he complains about being tired I want to punch him... Anger literally boils inside me.
I just want to be pampered and I want someone to ask me and care about how I am feeling... If there is ever a time in my life to feel whiney and doted on it should be now. It's like, go get me some nachos, or ask me what I'm craving.
And, can a biotch get a back rub around here!?!
Thanks for listening, ladies. You get it, they just never will...
This bitch annoyed me. You're pregnant. Not facing death from a terminal disease. While I get wanting a bit of extra pampering right now you sound like a big bag of 'woe is me ' whiny pants. You're husband may not be pregnant but he's allowed to be tired too! After taking care of you I think I'd be exhausted as well!
I get this is silly and whiney and unfair. That's why I posted it in 'Monday Bitchfest' and didn't say anything to him.... Sorry to annoy, just needed a minute of woe is me. Doesn't everyone every now and then? This seemed like an appropriate outlet.
@aikendrum it was SO awkward. The most eloquent way I could put it was, "I know you mentioned wanting to do a shower. Were you still planning on doing one? If not, that is fine, best friend offered, but I just need to know so she can plan if need be."
I have to do this soon. I couldn't think of a really good way to bring it back up. My friend has mentioned it twice so far. I'm going to ask on Monday when she promised to come help paint the nursery. Hopefully it's not super awkward. It was so easy with my MIL, I just flat out asked and even was able to tell her the date I would prefer. I think that's the shower I'll get more functional things at and my friends shower will be the cutesy things so I don't mind that coming later. But I'm still not looking forward to bringing it up.
BFP 8/9/2014 Baby Boy wolowizard due 4/14/2015 Greyson Robert
I know I'm a day late but wanted to bitch that I just found out that my health insurance will only cover a manual breast pump, until after I have met my out of pocket max. Is that reasonable or does it sound crappy to anyone else? Cover an electric or don't.
I know I'm a day late but wanted to bitch that I just found out that my health insurance will only cover a manual breast pump, until after I have met my out of pocket max. Is that reasonable or does it sound crappy to anyone else? Cover an electric or don't.
Apparently mine only covers a rental. I'd rather have a manual than a used one. You could add it to your registry then buy it yourself with the completion discount. It wont be free but you'll have what you want that way. That's what I'll be doing.
I know I'm a day late but wanted to bitch that I just found out that my health insurance will only cover a manual breast pump, until after I have met my out of pocket max. Is that reasonable or does it sound crappy to anyone else? Cover an electric or don't.
Most of the places where you buy the pump through your insurance (medical equipment stores) will let you upgrade and just pay the difference between the manual and the one you'd prefer.
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I was asking my SIL about car seats because she has used a few different brands and she piped up 'oh me and your brother will buy your car seat', which i do appreciate a lot but i always feel bad when other people buy expensive things.
That was a few months ago now and i hadn't heard anything about it despite talking to them a lot and last time mum spoke to my brother she asked and he said "We don't have the money now, she doesn't need the car seat until after it's born anyway" i think he forgets i DO need it just in case i go into labor early. They live quite far away so it's not like they could get it down to me in a rush.
So now i'm worrying about it when i could have purchased one in the sales a few weeks ago. If they don't have the money i completely understand but i just need to know what the plan is so if they wont be able to afford it i can buy one.
I just want to be pampered and I want someone to ask me and care about how I am feeling... If there is ever a time in my life to feel whiney and doted on it should be now. It's like, go get me some nachos, or ask me what I'm craving.
And, can a biotch get a back rub around here!?!
Thanks for listening, ladies. You get it, they just never will...
I get this is silly and whiney and unfair. That's why I posted it in 'Monday Bitchfest' and didn't say anything to him.... Sorry to annoy, just needed a minute of woe is me. Doesn't everyone every now and then? This seemed like an appropriate outlet.
I have to do this soon. I couldn't think of a really good way to bring it back up. My friend has mentioned it twice so far. I'm going to ask on Monday when she promised to come help paint the nursery. Hopefully it's not super awkward. It was so easy with my MIL, I just flat out asked and even was able to tell her the date I would prefer. I think that's the shower I'll get more functional things at and my friends shower will be the cutesy things so I don't mind that coming later. But I'm still not looking forward to bringing it up.
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