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74dragonfly
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"Me" time.... Anyone get any?
74dragonfly
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I am going crazy. I work full time and have two kids, age six and one. I feel like I have zero time to myself. My "me time" last week was going to grocery store alone. I work 7:30 to 5. I have to pick up kids, DH does drop off. I then make dinner, feed kids, kids in bed. At eight pm when six year old is in bed I feel like crashing. Weekends are crazy.
Are any of you ladies able to get"me" time? If so how? I feel like I am losing my mind. I love spending time as a family but I want some me time, to be crazy and do things like read a grown up book or watch downton Abby.
Are any of you ladies able to get"me" time? If so how? I feel like I am losing my mind. I love spending time as a family but I want some me time, to be crazy and do things like read a grown up book or watch downton Abby.
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Re: "Me" time.... Anyone get any?
DH and I had a sit down a few months back because I felt like he was using every Sunday as a day to hang out with his friends and I was getting burnt out. We now split our Sundays so we each get a break.
Typically the last Sunday if the month is spent as a family day and then family dinner at my IL house. We each get one Sunday and the "extra" Sunday is a family day. Each month we sit down together and plan it out so we agree on days.
This is what had worked the best for us, and we both know it's subject to change if something more important comes up.
Every Sunday DH takes DS to swimming class and is gone from 11 to about 1, so that's when I get to sit back, drink some coffee and actually read the paper. DH is also incredibly supportive and always encourages me to go hang out with my friends more, but I like hanging out with him and DS more so I go out without them maybe once or twice a month.
Honestly though, DH and I take turns making sure the each other gets alone time. Parenting is a partnership.
I get me time every night at 7 when DS goes to bed. Of course it's easier said than done because I only have the one kid.
To free up some of your time, could you possibly make a crock pot meal on Sunday? Even if you prepped several meals on Sundays for throughout the week, it would free up some evenings where you can relax a little instead of cooking dinner.
Also, is it possible for your H to put the kids to bed? That gives you time to clean up dinner dishes and then start a little "me time".
I get some time by:
- Daycare at the gym. After working out sit in the sauna or in the lobby and read/surf the Internet.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
- Schedule a vacation day and take the kids to daycare.
- Take a long lunch every once in a while and get your nails or hair done during lunch.
This is something I definitely hire out. I don't view sitters as much as a date night necessity as I do an occasional evening necessity.
DH travels for work, so I was having a hard time getting any time away from home (I WFH and have three kids). I started booking a sitter 1x/week (unless my schedule is too crazy) for fun - our neighborhood women's club is doing a paint party next week, for example. I might grab dinner with a friend. I also sometimes book a sitter to help me cover my commitments/kid activities then parlay that into an extra 30 minutes -for example, last week after the board meeting I ran to the store. If I get a sitter so I can take the oldest to a late practice (the two younger go to bed at 7) I get an hour while the oldest is at practice and do something alone or pop in to see a friend.
The key for me was just scheduling it. Twice DH's travel schedule changed and I didn't want to jerk the sitter around. Once he worked late and the other time he went to Starbucks - so we both got a break.