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Your baby in social situations

newmomdeenewmomdee member
in March 2014 Moms
Do any of you go to those mommy and me classes. How does your child behave with other kids or teacher? My baby girl is terrified and clings to me like white on rice. She gets scared of the teacher and with other kids she smiles from a far but doesn't like go and play with them. Is she still too little for that sort of engagement? Towards the end of class she is smiling giddy and happy and clapping. In terms of adults she smiles and waves at some and then screams bloody murder at others. Someone told my mom something might be wrong with her but I think she is just shy and may have stranger anxiety to some people. My husband and I aren't the most outgoing people when you first meet us. It takes us a while to warm up to people. I was super shy as a child and I guess sometimes still am. I'm just wondering how your kids interact in social settings.
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  • BTBergstromBTBergstrom member
    My lo is a social butterfly and is into everything and everyone! She does daycare though and I have had her in a class once a week since about 4 months. I think all kids have different personalities though.
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    My LO is not very fond of men for some reason. The only men she will tolerate holding her are MH and her babysitter's husband. She gets really uncomfortable and sometimes cries when her grandfathers, uncles, and our male friends hold her. She will let women pass her around like she is a doll though, and is super excited when she sees other little kids, but she doesn't like men. For perspective, my stepdaughter screamed bloody murder every time she was within 10 feet of my brother-in-law when she was a baby/small toddler (for absolutely no reason!), and now that she is 7 they have a perfectly normal relationship. I'm sure it's just a phase, and certain people just make some babies more comfortable than others.
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  • WisconsinCheese12WisconsinCheese12 member
    There's a baby bounce thing on Monday I want to take her for the first time but I'm worried about her being a clinger and all the other perfect moms with babies who have no stranger danger judging me
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  • angelsnightangelsnight member
    My lo is happy and outgoing with family and friends we see often, but out in public she is quiet and just observes. When a stranger tries talking to her she typically just stares at them. With other kids, it's like she is trying to figure them out, like why they are smaller like her...she doesn't see other kids as often as adults. She likes to grab their faces and hair, I don't mind with older kids since they can just move out of the way, but I am kind of nervous about the mommy and me next month since it could be kids as young as six months, I don't want to be THAT mom and kid that slaps the other babies.

    Your LO sounds fine to me, I think kids go through lots of different stages. My cousin was very outgoing until about age 3 and then became very shy. Other kids start out shy and stay that way while others are always outgoing. Contrary to what others think, I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with being shy. Granted I do hope my LO isn't quite as shy and anxious about new social settings as I was, but if everyone was loud and outgoing, no one would get a word in.
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  • BTBergstromBTBergstrom member
    You should go to the class and just follow lo que if she want to be held the whole time do that and maybe next time she will warm up. I would say don't force her.
    I went to a class once and this mom kept forcing her son to do all the things and he was a hot mess crying etc. it wasn't an enjoyable experience for anyone and I felt bad for the baby who clearly just wanted to be cuddled.
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  • myfriendscallmemegmyfriendscallmemeg member
    I've got a social butterfly. She loves staring at strangers and making faces and friends with them. She will get shy if I try to hand her off to other people, but adjusts quickly and is fine after that.
    The interactions she has with other kids her size are usually with kids a little bit older than she is. She likes to follow them around. Example, her cousin 5 months older than her crawled up the stairs while they were playing at Grandma's. She decided she was going to crawl up the stairs too, and she did.
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  • wildhoney4508wildhoney4508 member
    SmittyPants said:



    @WisconcinCheese12


    When DD was a baby, she would happily go to anyone and everyone. I'd take her to classes like this and she'd be off in a shot, exploring everything, going to everyone, and not even bothering to check in with me. 

    There was another mom there and her baby was much like yours, and it made me wonder what was wrong with my baby, why baby didn't seem to want to be with mommy or care that I was there. I wondered what I did wrong, why my baby wasn't content to just sit and be with me, if she had attachment issues, maybe I didn't hold her enough, maybe my baby doesn't love me like she should, etc. etc. etc. 

    We're all stuck in our own heads and what you may find judgement worthy, another mom may find envious. 

    Go to the class, have fun, if you meet another mom and strike up a friendship, great! And if you do find that they're all judging you- fuck 'em. They're bitches. And you don't need to concern yourself with what the bitches of the world think. 


    @SmittyPants‌ well done! We could all use a reminder like this! ;) Also, I, too, was/thought the same exact thing with my DD1 when she was a baby as you did with your DD. We all all too often in our own heads!
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  • newmomdeenewmomdee member
    Thanks everyone for your input
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