Sex post! Don't be shy...

Snapdragon750 · January 2015

allybells said:

While we're on the subject, am I the only one who always forgets to have DH pull out if having sex a few days/the day before before an OBGYN exam? I have my 20w check-up today. I don't think she'll do a vaginal exam today but even pre-pregnancy I'd always forget and get the inevitable "oh.. I see you've had sex recently" from my OB. X_X

Seriously??? Inappropriate! I have never had this happen, and I've been seen by many doctors, and I'm pretty sure my H and I did it within a few days of every exam I've ever had. And he never pulls out.

SassyPants150 · January 2015

Decreased. But DH thinks it's too weird to do it so I wasn't going to see any action anyway. It's a long time until June/July. @-)

Snapdragon750 · January 2015

SunshyneShay said:

My sex drive is pretty much the same, we do it at least every other day, but sometimes we do it everyday, sometimes even twice a day. It just depends on the day I guess. I feel super not sexy, and get out of breath so easily though that I'm pretty much useless unless we do it from behind, which is great but the only way I get mine is if I am on top.

(Pssst....."outside help" to get yours while he's behind is the way to go!)

(haha can't believe I'm posting this, it's only because I

you)

SeventyThree · January 2015

Decreased, big time. Like some PPs said, I can probably count on one hand the number of times we've DTD since finding out. I've always felt a little insecure about my body, can't say I do any more so in pregnancy than otherwise.

morgansWed105148 · January 2015

I feel really bad! We have had sex maybe 3 times since we found out. First tri I was just to sick. This tri we did it one time! I found out I have a low placentia and now I'm just scared to!

Snapdragon750 · January 2015

SunshyneShay said:

Snapdragon750 said:

SunshyneShay said:

My sex drive is pretty much the same, we do it at least every other day, but sometimes we do it everyday, sometimes even twice a day. It just depends on the day I guess. I feel super not sexy, and get out of breath so easily though that I'm pretty much useless unless we do it from behind, which is great but the only way I get mine is if I am on top.

(Pssst....."outside help" to get yours while he's behind is the way to go!)

(haha can't believe I'm posting this, it's only because I you)

Hahha I know it would totally help but I feel so weird doing it myself and I don't know how to say to DH that I need him to give me some "outside help". This is super weird cause we are SO open about everything except me being able to admit that I need help in this department, idk why I'm so embarrassed! $:\$ ">

EDIT: that is suppose to be a blushing smiley...

It took me years to get comfortable enough to think about doing this with him and then longer to get up the nerve to suggest it, but he was SO HAPPY when I did. Then I felt like an idiot for not suggesting it earlier. So many lost opportunities!

(also a middle ground between doing it yourself and asking him to do it for you is to use a third party...a battery-powered one. lol time for that blushing smiley! $:\$ "> )

ETA: blushing smiley didn't work for me either!

lladymack · January 2015

Haven't since week 6. I was sick and then out on pelvic rest.
Hoping Dr will give the the green light at my appointment next week cause I'm dying to get some!!!

chicagomomab · January 2015

Hardly ever lately but that's because of my 2 year old DD who has decided to be the worst sleeper in the history of mankind. By the time I get her to sleep, I'm exhausted and just want to go to bed and then she wakes up around 2am and sleeps the rest of the night in our bed. Nothing sexy about that.

traceyade11 · January 2015

Since I got to 18weeks I think I been horny almost everyday and am 20 weeks 6days now n I think my sex drive has increased because it's the first time, I am actually enjoying sex since I been pregnant.

serenesky · January 2015

My drive is pretty much the same as always. We are together about once a week but Id like more. BF doesn't live with me as of right now.

We've talked about it though. We'd be a blended family so it will be a challenge at first.

marym94 · January 2015

so so terrible but hardly ever bc I am just.so.tired...... still hardly make it past 9:00 most nights! DH has planned a special night tomorrow so I know it is in the books lol and it makes me tired just thinking about it! I do love it - I just happen to love sleep more these days!!!

MrsF0831 · January 2015

I would like to but honestly im just scared. I wasn't put on pelvic rest and I know sex is allowed during pregnancy but w twins im already scared of going too early so I just refrain . plus im scared to spot, dh understands

missjenniebean · January 2015

Decrease, a ton. My SO is still right up where was. I feel awful though. :[

saralynn91 · January 2015

It's decreased. We maybe do it once week but its because he wants to put the effort in and I'm just 'eh" about it. Plus he always wants it at night and by then I am exhausted and half-asleep.

Snapdragon750 · January 2015

SunshyneShay said:
@snapdragon750 @kendra1992

Thank you ladies for the tips! I'm going to try tonight, wish me luck

Good luck! Normally I'd say something like "T&P, keep us posted!" but that seems sort of inappropriate/creepy in this case.

HeatherC21 · January 2015

We have only DTD once since BFP. I was super sick 1st trimester and when I started feeling better and we tried it felt way weird, much too sensitive to enjoy it. DH picked up on this and said it sucked for him too. I wanted to try again to see if it would feel different but now that I'm bigger it freaks DH out. He thinks I'm beautiful and tells me so but just doesn't find me sexually attractive right now.

lysser1218 · January 2015

Mine has definitely decreased and I feel horrible about it. I usually try to do it 2 or 3 times a week, but since I had my Pilonidal Cyst out I feel even worse about.

I don't really feel sexy or very pretty with all this extra in front.

I do it to make him happy but by the end I enjoyed it and feel better lol. Got to get that release lol!

McBaby19 · January 2015

Decreased! We were crazy intimate before I got the BFP and since then it's been a handful of times. Too sick in 1st tri and now I just don't really have a drive. Feel bad for boyfriend, he's always up for it and I'm just like meh. He's been understanding though. My body's changed so much already I don't feel very hot either, despite his flattery :-S

BeccaE27 · January 2015

Decreased mostly because it's uncomfortable. I really want it but when we do, no matter how wet I am it feels like I'm dry inside. Then if I wait to long I do become dry. It's so weird!

Lauracox3 · January 2015

You ladies should feel lucky. Pelvic rest is unbelievably awful. It's like a death sentence for sexual intimacy. I can't wait til May. Because then...,It is ON LIKE DONKEY KONG :P

cosmicav · January 2015

Mine was dead in the first trimester, but is aaalmost back to normal now in the second, still kind of low. However, I can tell DH is definitely wanting more, and all the articles that talk about the increased sex drive during pregnancy are not helping me feel better about it. At least this isn't forever! (that's what I'm telling myself anyway lol)

blaberge · January 2015

Pre pregnancy we were like teenagers, anytime (almost) any place. First trimester was brutal, I was sick, tired or just didn't want to really "work." It's increased to 4-5 times a week now... But he's got to work for it. And I have a new pregnancy rule, he's not to ask me to be on top. I don't like feeling all "National Geographic" in the bedroom these days.

abstractualized · January 2015

The biggest decrease. We went from almost every day to almost never. My sex drive went up but the lesbian in me wants nothing to do with guys, BF included. He gets all sweaty and grunty and it grosses pregnant me out. So most orgasms are self induced with thoughts of pretty unsweaty ladies :-\"

bethypoo83 · January 2015

Decreased here too but not dramatically. I'd say we're about once a week these days although I was super sick with a cold for two weeks and then DH got bronchitis. Bit of a dry spell right now but once he's feeling better we'll be good to go again.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

It's decreased, mainly because of the pain (which is now decreasing) so hopefully we can get back to our nightly love fest

amylee545 · January 2015

I'd say we're pretty close to normal on the sex-drive thing. We usually have sex 1-2x per week. I'll go through spurts where I'm super horny for like a week, and we'll have sex like 4-5x that week and then I'll be good for another week and we'll go back to our normal 1-2x per week.

It's getting pretty hard to find comfortable positions that will get me going. I'm too lazy for me-on-top all the time, but the spooning position doesn't always cut it for me.

rels09 · January 2015

Now that we are out of the exhaustion of first tri, we are back to our non-pregnancy normal, which is 1-2 times a week. Most often, this means once with intercourse and once with..ahem...other activities. As we get closer to when my water broke last time, I will probably get too nervous for intercourse and will start going for other activities instead, since microinfections can cause a rupture.

ladyteach0505 · January 2015

Pintobean39 said:

IFinTN said:
Sex? What's this sex you speak of? I have not had sex since before IVF (August..early Sept. maybe?) I don't think we'll be doing it until after baby gets here again. I've been too sick, crampy and scared shitless. And the thought of sex sounds very much NOT enjoyable...so we cuddle and do other things to stay close instead.

We are almost 5 years into our marriage and we were on a once a week or so schedule before this IVF crap anyway...so not a huge drive for either of us anyway.

ETA: I don't feel bad for DH at all. I'm missing out on sex too. He's fine.
There is my no sex partner, right there with ya!

No sex since beforE IVF.

Infertility pretty much screwed me up.

Ndracer · January 2015

After IVF we were scared. Finally gave it a go at 14 1/2 weeks only to bleed very heavily a few days later. After that Doctor put me on pelvic rest until 34 weeks. 34 weeks? I'm pregnant with twins. I'll be as big as a whale and don't see how I'll feel up to it then! Lol

Edited as post only showed half my comment.

Lezzie82 · January 2015

My drive to have sex sex has definitely decreased. Mainly due to my never ending nausea. I feel uncomfortable having sex on an empty stomach too.... Feels weird. Don't like it. So that sex has decreased a lot.

However, outergasms have been AAAAAHHHMAZING this pregnancy. I can do it when I'm nauseous and it helps decrease my sickness and prevents me from throwing up sometimes! As weird as that may sound. It just kind of takes me away from my body. In a good way. I either use my Hitachi magic wand "back massager" (lol yeah right) or DH goes down on me. I usually return the favor, sometimes not lol. He has been very giving in that dept honestly, I plan to return it waaaaay more when this baby is out.

APs make blowjobs pretty hard to do. I can do them but I get kind worn out unless I do this whole pillow set up. Sometimes DH and I work out a deal where I get a back rub before, after, or at the same time.

In fact I have been shamelessly known to use sexual favors with MH for many things lol (all in good, joking nature of course). In fact that is how my water broke last time! I told DH I'd give him a beej if he went to my favorite bagel place and got me a lox sandwich and then gave me a back rub....middle of the back rub my water broke!!!

Ballet80 · January 2015

Decreased, we have not had sex since I got pregnant. My husband seems okay, we tried at like 5 weeks, but I had a little bleeding, so that stopped everything. We are half way through and mine as well just keep going. I feel huge and ugly. Maybe this summer we will have sex after the baby comes.

TeacherMom2015 · January 2015

We do it a few times a week. My sex drive comes and goes. I have yet to experience this "mind blowing" second trimester pregnancy sex I've heard about.

Snapdragon750 · January 2015

Gotta say this to all the ladies who can't get in the mood because they don't feel hot or sexy lately...if I only did it when I felt hot and sexy I would have been celibate for the past 5 years! As long as your SO is still into it, just get in there! Turn out the lights if you have to!

SassFrass · January 2015

I hate sex right now.
Dh bitches all the time but I am jus soooooo not in the mood at all, like ever!

Sunshine4020 · January 2015

Overall decreased, but not nearly as bad now as it was 1st trimester. However, last weekend we were out of town staying in a hotel and one morning he spontaneously bent me over the bathroom sink. HELLO! =D>

Alliinwonderland · January 2015

Decreased, I started out with insecurity issues and pregnancy has only multiplied it x1000

xxstephh · January 2015

I'm 21 weeks tomorrow & we haven't had sex since 4 weeks when we found out ! We want too, but way too afraid ! After 4 losses & my doctor not necessarily giving me the okay to have sex yet, we won't chance it. At least not until 30 weeks. He's fine with it & tells me all the time our daughters worth the no sex.

13odesiama · January 2015

Increased, probably having sex 5-6 times a week. I feel like a total pervert right now but don't think DH minds

And I am really not feeling my pregnant body so I just keep the room dark.

pauladuran763 · March 2015

I'm about the same which was always high. We'd be good for at least 3 times a week. I'm still good to go but he seems uninterested. It makes me feel like I'm repulsive although he says it's not that at all. Maybe he's freaked out about it. Anyone else have a partner admit to being creeped out by it? He says he's tired and doesn't want to hurt me or the babies (we have twins) but I can't help but feel it's how I look or he's grossed out.

kristeenbutler · March 2015

So my drive is way up but my SO is scares to hurt his son.... so we are at like once a week when I want it 3 times a day lol.

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