Yea they were excited for me happy day!! Now I just hope my dad doesn't tell the whole world lol!! I wanted to wait until it's at least 14 weeks for others to know Bc that's when the pregnancy will be safe god willing!
Don't be sorry. Even the doctors refer to the 14th week as a safe place. Or "safer" than the first trimester. That was a honest and normal idea of waiting that long... Not insensitive at all. You haven't had a later loss and you have every reason to be excited for that milestone mark in your pregnancy!!!! Congrats! XO
This isn't site isn't supposed to be a pitty party for anyone. It's supportive. Had you had your own discussion on a "later loss" and she made that comment in that then I would Agree. She has not had a later loss and probably doesn't know anyone that has. Don't congratulate someone on going through a exciting time in their life then bring them down because you yourself has had a bad experience.. (and maybe I have too) but I would never expect people to be tip towing around conversations on their OWN discussion about their OWN situation because I had a exceptionally bad and RARE experience. Everyone is sorry for your loss, don't get me wrong but your in the wrong discussion if you want to address that. Her situation, opinion, discussion and excitement has nothing to do with yours. No ones two stories will be a like on here and everyone has to respect that.
Are you serious? Do you just go around looking for naive FTMs comments like this and tell them that they are offensive and should apologize?? How is that ok? How is that someone not being educated on your situation give you the right to tell them they are offensive????? Seriously!? That's just so unreasonable and not ok.
I'm looking at the bigger picture here. I get your side but I get hers too. You just can't go commenting on other peoples situations telling them they are being offensive when no one knows you or your situation.
She was naive. You are being insensitive to people that are uneducated. I just would never be on this site with thousands of women in a thousand different situations and expect every single one to know about certain situations they've never heard of or been through. I'm not a malicious person at all. I have had my own losses and I feel for anyone else that had as well I just genuinely felt sorry for her that such a positive post could turn so negative with one comment.
Oh god whatever. "Be sorry" "say sorry" same thing. I'm not trying to get petty over the he said she said of our conversation. My word. When did women these days because so catty and out for blood. Constantly on the defense. I wasn't raised like this. I don't fight. I was merely sticking up for a first time mom in her first joyous moment of telling her parents. I felt like she should have that without feeling bad. My apologies if I offended anyone. God bless!
Omg I go back and read these responses and I wasn't even aware I was in a legit argument with people I didn't know???? Calm down!! Pregnancy hormones talking right now! I am understanding of losses, early, late etc. no one is arguing with that. I just remember what it was like before it happened and I wish I could still feel that freedom of not fearing the worst constantly. I don't wish that knowledge on anyone. Ignorance is bliss when it's completely out if your control. You just gotta let people have some faith sometimes. Just because I lost a lot of mine doesn't mean I want to take it from someone else.
Who said I didn't like it here. My god are you ladies seriously trying to defend having a opinion on someone's post at the same time trying to tell me to leave because I had my opinion!?? I can't even believe how cold you women can be. Woman to woman (as a woman who has suffered her own loss) this is how we treat each other? This is a sad sad world we live in. I've apologized for offending anyone, I've explained my side, I haven't once been nasty to anyone. It's very unfortunate, god forbid my daughter ever speak her mind I shall remind her there is 10 more women waiting to jump on you because this is the cold, defensive, unforgiving world we live in now a days.
Wow you guys!! Ok 1) I'm sorry if I offended anyone in anyway I didn't mean to! 2) maybe it's just a miscommunication ladies! I'm a FTM & just saying what I heard from many, but please don't take anything into offense!!
I was just happy to share the news because I see you ladies as my sisters ! Whether some of us have successful pregnancies or not we support each other!
I saw a few mommies here that unfortunately lost their child & we all supported them & I saw other mommies were at risk & we all still supported them!
So please please don't take anything into offense, this is a support group for good times & bad times!!
We got a long way to go ladies lol let's try to not pull each other's hairs out just yet!! Those times are coming in the near future when our hormones are at their Glory let's save the energy until then!! Lol
Wow you guys!! Ok 1) I'm sorry if I offended anyone in anyway I didn't mean to! 2) maybe it's just a miscommunication ladies! I'm a FTM & just saying what I heard from many, but please don't take anything into offense!!
I was just happy to share the news because I see you ladies as my sisters ! Whether some of us have successful pregnancies or not we support each other!
I saw a few mommies here that unfortunately lost their child & we all supported them & I saw other mommies were at risk & we all still supported them!
So please please don't take anything into offense, this is a support group for good times & bad times!!
We got a long way to go ladies lol
I'm happy for you, and glad you got to share the news with family!
Wow you guys!! Ok 1) I'm sorry if I offended anyone in anyway I didn't mean to! 2) maybe it's just a miscommunication ladies! I'm a FTM & just saying what I heard from many, but please don't take anything into offense!!
I was just happy to share the news because I see you ladies as my sisters ! Whether some of us have successful pregnancies or not we support each other!
I saw a few mommies here that unfortunately lost their child & we all supported them & I saw other mommies were at risk & we all still supported them!
So please please don't take anything into offense, this is a support group for good times & bad times!!
We got a long way to go ladies lol
I'm happy for you, and glad you got to share the news with family!
Thank you so much hope all is going well with you too Hun!
Wow you guys!! Ok 1) I'm sorry if I offended anyone in anyway I didn't mean to! 2) maybe it's just a miscommunication ladies! I'm a FTM & just saying what I heard from many, but please don't take anything into offense!!
I was just happy to share the news because I see you ladies as my sisters ! Whether some of us have successful pregnancies or not we support each other!
I saw a few mommies here that unfortunately lost their child & we all supported them & I saw other mommies were at risk & we all still supported them!
So please please don't take anything into offense, this is a support group for good times & bad times!!
We got a long way to go ladies lol
Holy exclamation points Batman! First, this is not a support group. Second, it's only been a few weeks... Sisters? Not every statement requires an exclamation point, emoji, or LOL. Maybe dial it back a notch.
Yea and it's not a Bitching group either so I suggest you tone it down!
Sooo this is random. If this isn't a support group, and it isn't a "bitching group", what is it?
Yeah this is not a support group this is a way to make XO company money. Tomorrow you need a random thread, I'll even start it for you, where every.little.thought. you want to post here can go into that thread.
Reading is hard.
I can't ask an honest question without a sarcastic answer? Seriously?
Momma to Dakota (3/21/06), Willow (7/22/09), Scarlett (1/9/11)
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Me - 31yo ~ DH - 35yo ~ Married - 19 March 2005 TTC from 2005 to 2012 - 10 MC. 2013 - Stopped TTC, lost over 140kg & made massive lifestyle changes. Resumed TTC from July 2014.
@sondosa such an exciting step-Congrats! They must be so happy for you. (And themselves! ) First grandchild?
Thank you so much yea they were happy & no not their first grandchild, but I'm the youngest myself so they're kind of excited that "their youngest child will be a parent " kind of thing lol so yea!
Very cute! Excited for you. Plus good you have siblings to ask questions to! I told my parents today but not in an ideal way. Over the phone asking medical questions as I'm stuck on work travel with the flu. Only my brother has a child so I think they are excited to be a little more part of the pregnancy process. Mother to daughter kinda thing.
Re: Telling my parents today
Congrats! XO
Everyone is sorry for your loss, don't get me wrong but your in the wrong discussion if you want to address that. Her situation, opinion, discussion and excitement has nothing to do with yours.
No ones two stories will be a like on here and everyone has to respect that.
How is that ok?
How is that someone not being educated on your situation give you the right to tell them they are offensive????? Seriously!? That's just so unreasonable and not ok.
I just would never be on this site with thousands of women in a thousand different situations and expect every single one to know about certain situations they've never heard of or been through. I'm not a malicious person at all. I have had my own losses and I feel for anyone else that had as well I just genuinely felt sorry for her that such a positive post could turn so negative with one comment.
I felt like she should have that without feeling bad.
My apologies if I offended anyone.
God bless!
Calm down!! Pregnancy hormones talking right now!
I am understanding of losses, early, late etc. no one is arguing with that.
I just remember what it was like before it happened and I wish I could still feel that freedom of not fearing the worst constantly. I don't wish that knowledge on anyone.
Ignorance is bliss when it's completely out if your control. You just gotta let people have some faith sometimes. Just because I lost a lot of mine doesn't mean I want to take it from someone else.
I can't even believe how cold you women can be. Woman to woman (as a woman who has suffered her own loss) this is how we treat each other? This is a sad sad world we live in. I've apologized for offending anyone, I've explained my side, I haven't once been nasty to anyone.
It's very unfortunate, god forbid my daughter ever speak her mind I shall remind her there is 10 more women waiting to jump on you because this is the cold, defensive, unforgiving world we live in now a days.
I was just happy to share the news because I see you ladies as my sisters ! Whether some of us have successful pregnancies or not we support each other!
I saw a few mommies here that unfortunately lost their child & we all supported them & I saw other mommies were at risk & we all still supported them!
So please please don't take anything into offense, this is a support group for good times & bad times!!
We got a long way to go ladies lol
Thank you so much
Holy exclamation points Batman! First, this is not a support group. Second, it's only been a few weeks... Sisters? Not every statement requires an exclamation point, emoji, or LOL. Maybe dial it back a notch.
Yea and it's not a Bitching group either so I suggest you tone it down!
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Thx Hun!! Lol I'm not sure myself really !
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
Thanks for the kind advice.
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Me - 31yo ~ DH - 35yo ~ Married - 19 March 2005
TTC from 2005 to 2012 - 10 MC.
2013 - Stopped TTC, lost over 140kg & made massive lifestyle changes.
Resumed TTC from July 2014.
BFP - 30/12/14 -
Beta hCG - 6/1 = 2360, 8/1 = 3741 (46h dt), 10/1 = 6134 (48h dt)
Charlotte Aurelia - Born 18.8.2015 @ 37 weeks. 2.6kg. 49cm.
BFP 2/11/15 - While taking Noriday (minipill).
Beta hCG - 2/11 = 15, 5/11 = 99 (24.61h dt),
Ultrasound booked - 12/11
First grandchild?
Over the phone asking medical questions as I'm stuck on work travel with the flu. Only my brother has a child so I think they are excited to be a little more part of the pregnancy process. Mother to daughter kinda thing.
(Knocking on all kinds of wood! )