Who else is having your kids in the room when you give birth??

dnjmommy · January 2015

I am!!! My kids are 4, 5,and 6. How are you prepping them for the big day??

wineandcake · January 2015

Not a chance. My kid is wild and would be into everything. He'll be 2.5yrs and I think he would be best off at grandparents or aunts house.

ClovesA · January 2015

No, I'm not. DS will be 3. He doesn't need to be there. He'll come visit once it's all said and done and LO and I are resting comfortably.

foreverMorgan · January 2015

Can I ask where you are delivering? My hospital would never let kids in for that. (Not judging. Just saying)

My kids (5 & 7) know how babies are born but I can't imagine that, when it came down to it, that they'd actually want to be part of my experience. If I was a home birth person, I would let them be there, though.

muffyvonmuff · January 2015

Mine will not even be 2 yet, no way he's going to be in there. I would never be able to concentrate, not to mention watching videos of women crowning kinda scares me and Ive lived it.

dllnlrn · January 2015

Lol my kids are 1,2.... That would not be happening. Also my epidural never works so yeah that wouldn't work with my kids seeing me having a naked meltdown.

Mamamads · January 2015

My daughter will be about 3 when baby comes so she will be at home with my mom while I'm in the hard labor(I plan on laboring at home as long as possible). I feel like it could be hard on some kids to see their mom in pain especially if they are too young to understand, but to each their own.

law&order · January 2015

Nope.

I need the focus to be on me and the new baby. And I mean that in a safety/health way, not a self-centered way. Things can go bad quickly and I don't need my almost 4 year old getting in the way. With DS there was meconium present so there were 2 nurses for me, my doctor, plus a NICU team in the room, plus DH. I just wouldn't want DS getting in the way, being scared, etc.

DS will be the first one to come visit us once the baby is born and everyone looks good.

jlbaker08 · January 2015

I've thought about it, abd I have no problem telling DD how it happens but I'm not sure I want her to experience it. I'd rather not worry her, she's very likely to be stressed that I'm in pain.

muffyvonmuff · January 2015

3timemom said:

I'm having a RCS so I don't have that option. However, if I was delivering vaginally there is no way in hell my kids would be there watching me pushing a baby out of my vag.

Right?!?

c-elizabethf · January 2015

Uh no my daughter will be two years and two months and I know she will be wondering what the heck is going on and get restless. Plus I need to focus and no extra distractions lol.
She will be watched by someone either Dh's grandparents while I'm in labor and then when it's time she will come up there to meet her little brother or sister.

slweaver0626 · January 2015

I'm on the Nope Bandwagon. DD will be off somewhere else watching cartoons, playing, or sleeping. Anywhere but in the room with me.

RWPhoenix · January 2015

No way! She will be dropped out at the ILs on route to the hospital where hey will be given written instructions to keep her until Mom and baby are cleaned up, rested, and presentable

0ashley · January 2015

Mine will be 3, and I don't want him there during delivery. I'll take him to daycare if during the day or have H drop him off with an aunt or uncle until baby is born. If I went into labor in the middle of the night, I *might* bring him with us for a couple hours if I thought he'd be able to go back to sleep, but then take him to family or daycare as soon as it was a decent hour.

apbogan · January 2015

Even having a 15 year old, I don't think she'll WANT to be in there.

picklesandwich · January 2015

Children really don't need to see/hear all that happens with labor and delivery. That's really no place for a child. I think it could be a very scary experience!'

muffyvonmuff · January 2015

I mean not to be a downer but what if there are complications? Dont you think they would be freaking out?

babycarb · January 2015

No for many reasons.

1. If anything potentially goes wrong, I don't want DD (almost 4) to have any damaging visual memory of that.

2. Labor/birth takes hours and hours and hours. DD would be restless and quite honestly very annoying by the time it's actually "go time".

3. I need DH and myself to focus on the current baby, and not what my DD is or is not currently up to.

4. Seeing mommy in excruciating pain. Not okay with me.

[Deleted User] · January 2015

Not a chance in hell. Besides the great points PP have made, I don’t care how old my kid is. I would not want them to see my in that much pain and God forbid there were complications. No just no.

Beachy730 · January 2015

Well mine will be an operating room so that's not possible.

Even if it was a vaginal delivery there is no way in hell DS would be there. He will just be over 2, and would likely try and drive a truck or train into my vag on display.

lilly1096 · January 2015

Nope. They will be with grandparents during the whole ordeal. They may be in the waiting room, or waiting at home, but no way in hell would I let my kids watch me or their father go through that considering that I'll be in a world of pain and their dad will be a nervous mess. They know that the "Doctor is going to get the baby out of mommy" but HOW that happens, they're totally clueless and they're 6 and 8.

TeresaWE · January 2015

Not going to happen with us. I hardly want DH in the room with me let alone a will be 7 and 3 yo. I screamed the house down in labor with DD and vomited repeatedly. I'd rather they were home with Nana and come visit when we are all rested and cleaned up.

CharlotteVol · January 2015

We haven't talked too much about it. I am concerned of them being there and something going wrong. My girls will be 7 and 9 when this baby comes. My older daughter would likely understand (but still doubt she'd want to see it). I don't think my younger daughter would understand at all though. So they will likely be with family until the baby arrives.

Brummy14 · January 2015

No way. I'm going to be an RCS due to my prior classical c/s, so that eliminates the possibility anyway. My girls will be 2 1/2 -- that's just crazy to even think about -- having them in the room!

My parents will be bringing them shortly after delivery, however -- we're going to hire a photographer to photograph the delivery (if possible -- one will even let DH take the camera into the OR if she's not allowed in, too!), and will have the grandparents and twins arrive shortly thereafter to visit with the new baby and be included in the photos -- and that'll be it! Then we'll send those crazies home.

ELauren88 · January 2015

DD will be 23 months. No. She would never be able to understand why mommy was in pain, and there will be blood and tears and masks, and beeping, and medical instruments, and possible screaming. How freaking traumatizing!
I'm all about being open about body parts and their proper use, but at her age, that is really taking it too far.

valigrl21 · January 2015

No, my kids are too young (they will be 4 and 1 at time of delivery). I may have them in the waiting room, depending on how labor goes because I do tend to labor pretty quickly. But I am not sure yet, I haven't thought it all the way through yet.

dnjmommy · January 2015

I'm laboring at home as long as possible and then going to a birthing center. I had my last child there, and its a very comfortable, home-like setting. My kids will be very comfortable there. Of course if there are any complications the kids will be taken out of the room by my mom or sister. But we are a very open family and I plan on telling them how the baby comes out and also explaining the process of labor to them. I want them to be a part of the experience and I will have a ton of help, from my family and DH family.

melanie1422 · January 2015

No way in hell. This is my first but I can't imagine having my kid or kids there during delivery.

JennyJensing · January 2015

Knottie25121326 · January 2015

I was 10 when my sister was born and I was in the room but I was standing my my moms side closer to her and the same when I brother was born not long after but I think that it kinda gave me an idea and while my friends and a few cousins were pregnant in high school I didn't want to be anywhere near that I feel like I learned a lesson and now I'm a lot older and married and I think it was good for me to be there but I was 10 not a toddler and I was really mature for my age. But if I had any other children I probably wouldn't want them around if I didn't think they were ready especially not if they're toddlers bc who would be watching them??

Dcwtada · January 2015

Nope. My 7 year old SS just came to the hospital the day we were getting discharged. The 4 hours it took he was soo restless and ready to get out of there, and he had a tv and awesome nurses that got him snacks and gloves he could blow up to make balloons. I cant imagine dealing with that stress when trying to give birth, and thats assuming he wouldn't be freaked out or traumatized by the whole delivery process.

And I labored for 14 hours before going in for a c section. DH was a mess by the time it was over, I can't imagine a child.

vanessaw78 · January 2015

No here too. I love the thought of them being there to see their new sibling for the first time as DH and I, but in all reality the labor process is 99% of being there and I wouldn't want my kiddos (5, 4 and 2.5) having to witness that and having to be there for however long that takes.
And knowing that they will be SO excited to come and meet him/her when I'm through the rough part and resting makes me super excited and will give me something more to look forward to.
I pat you on the back for your choice and wish you all the luck!!

thiscoffeechick · January 2015

I think giving birth is an amazing and spiritual experience... But children don't understand this and I think it would be scary for them.

firsttimemommy0715 · January 2015

I'm obviously a FTM but I agree with PP there is no way I would let or want my young child(ren) in the room. That being said I was 15 when my little brother was born and I was in the room and found it to be a crazy but great experience. I stayed by my mothers shoulders and just took a few pictures and honestly am glad I got to experience that with her and my step-dad but I'm sure some 15yo would want nothing to do with it. Any younger than that and I would go with no.

mrspark812 · January 2015

With my DD it was my DH and my mom in the delivery room. This time around my parents will be on grandbaby duty. Depending on what time the whole show is going down I might have them bring my DD to the hospital to see mommy and to get her excited about meeting her new brother or sister. But there is no way she will be there the whole time especially during pushing. That will just be me and my DH this time around.

SoonToBeGenao · January 2015

We are having a homebirth and my then two year old will be with us for the whole process. If labor happens while he is sleeping we will let him wake naturally. But if he's awake he will be with us. I picture him wanting to get in the tub with me too haha

ashiscute · January 2015

Mine will be 4 and 2 so no way. It's very scary seeing your mom in pain. I was glad when I really started feeling contractions with DS that DD was already in bed.

I think if my child was 12 or older I'd consider it.

ChristyM87 · January 2015

ashiscute said:
Mine will be 4 and 2 so no way. It's very scary seeing your mom in pain. I was glad when I really started feeling contractions with DS that DD was already in bed.

I think if my child was 12 or older I'd consider it.

I actually read that for those who already have a child, going into labor after they are in bed is quite common. The theory I heard is that it is easier for your body to turn off mommy brain and quit worrying about the kids. Don't know if it is true or not but I found it interesting

MisSmartyPants · January 2015

I don't have kids, so no. If I had kids, it would still be a now, unless it was a teenage girl. My friend was in the delivery room when his mom delivered. He was 16 at a time. It is his favorite story to tell.

imavera · January 2015

I'm having another home birth, and my boys will be there (5 and 3). My oldest was 2.5 when he saw his brother being born, and it's one of his favorite memories. I love that I heard "that's my baby brother!" when I pushed my second out.

We have my mom there to watch the boys, and we talked about it a lot beforehand. My son was prepared that I would probably be uncomfortable, and he wasn't scared at all. He's so excited to see another birth!

ohkay · January 2015

Kudos to y'all! My kiddos would just stress me out. They definitely will not be in the room.

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