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TTC After a Loss
Ltlbandito
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Intro *full-term loss*
Ltlbandito
member
Trying to do this before I chicken out...
I have been lurking for a couple weeks, and I love how supportive you all are. I don't know if this needs a warning or not, but I had a full-term loss with my labor being a big part of my story.
A little background: DH and I got married in 2009 and didn't want kids right away, especially with him being in the Navy. When we finally started TTC, because of his boat schedule and having to take a break to have my wisdom teeth removed, it took us a little over a year to get our BFP, which we got last March with an EDD of November 21.
Fast forward to November: My mom (who is also a nurse) was staying with me and was going to be with me when I went into labor because DH's boat had gone out to sea a couple months prior. Everything had been going great in my pregnancy until the last few weeks when I started throwing up occasionally, sleeping a lot more, not being able to eat a whole lot, and drinking WAY more than I had been. (Turns out all were symptoms of what I was later diagnosed with.) At my 40 week appointment on November 21st, our daughter Annabeth still had a heartbeat. The next day I went into labor, and after arriving at the hospital, the nurses called the OB on call because they were having trouble finding her heartbeat (though it was later that I found out that that was he arrived when he did) and they couldn't find out how far I was dilated because of bulging waters. The doctor wanted to try internal monitoring, which meant that he had to break my water. My mom kept talking to me very calmly about what he was doing and why and that kept me from freaking out. Once he did, he found that I was already dilated to 10 cm and was able to put the electrode into her scalp. A heartbeat was detected, and they told me that I could push on the next contraction. Because the amniotic fluid had been stained with meconium, my mom had explained that they would have to take her away pretty quick so they could suction out her nose and mouth. My mom was a great coach. After a few more contractions, I pushed her out, and they took her over to work on her. Things get a little hazy here and I'm not sure exactly in what order things happened but it all happened pretty fast. The doctor continued to work on me since I had torn during delivery, and I began to get worried about how long things were taking without hearing her cry. So even though my mom had been kind of walking back and forth between us and hadn't been worried I asked her if Annabeth was okay. At that point, she went over and asked them why they had quit working on her. I'm not sure what transpired between my mom and the nurses but the next words out of her mouth were "Oh God! Oh God!" and I knew my little girl was gone. The doctor even went to check on Annabeth and came back to explain how they knew she had been dead for a while. If there is one thing I wish I could forget it's how more than once I got to hear how they knew she'd been dead awhile because of how her skin was sloughing off. I wanted to cover my ears so I couldn't hear that. My mom had to contact the boat's OMBUDSMAN to get the number to the Red Cross so they could send a message to DH on his boat and arrangements could start being made to send him home.
Medically, a lot of things happened with me that night and into the next day. I don't have a lot of memories from Sunday through Tuesday and even parts of Wednesday aren't very clear, but my mom told me on Wednesday that I had been diagnosed with Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy (AFLP), a condition that only occurs in the third trimester. My liver had started shutting down and is most likely what killed Annabeth and nearly took my life as well. It's because of the excess liver enzymes that were in my system that I can't really remember much. My kidneys had also started shutting down. My DH finally arrived back here the Friday after Thanksgiving, and I was discharged the following Monday. It took a few more weeks before my liver finally was able to normalize and my enzyme levels were back in the normal range. I had my postpartum appointment yesterday with the OB who was there when Annabeth was born. I transferred to his care afterwards because I couldn't stand the thought of going back to the office where I had been pregnant. He sent me to have blood drawn for genetic testing because sometimes AFLP has a genetic component. I won't find those results out for a few weeks at least. Regardless of those results, AFLP may or may not recur in future pregnancies, and if I get pregnant again, I will have to be monitored a lot more closely because I never had high blood pressure, which is why none of my other symptoms triggered any red flags. As far as TTC again, the doctor told me that waiting a year would be ideal but that after six months it would be fine to try again. So we'll see how my cycles even out and possibly try again in May. So that's my story.
Me: 30 DH: 28
Married: April 7, 2009
BFP March 14, 2014 EDD November 21, 2014
Annabeth Eilidh born sleeping November 22, 2014
@ 3:39pm 6lbs 13oz 20.5in long
TTA until May '15
Our fur-babies are Jack (cat), Pixie (cat), and Tiberius (Great Dane)
--ALL AL WELCOME--
“And we wept that one so lovely should have a life so brief.” -William Cullen Bryant
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Re: Intro *full-term loss*
TTC #3 since June 2013
BFP #1 7/21/2013--EDD 3/30/14--D&C 9/24/13
BFP #2 1/28/14--MC 2/7/14
IUI #1 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
~TTC #1 Since 3/2014
~BFP #1 6/2014 EDD 2/11/15
~MMC 7/31/14 @12weeks ~D&C /2/2014
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498
08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN ,
10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
9/20/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d
10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
Me: 31 DH: 36
Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks
My Chart
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
Animals Interacting with Snow
Married: 9/25/10
TTC # 1 since 5/2013
BFP # 1: 2/7/14, mmc 3/12/14, D&C 3/19/14
Boy, Trisomy 13, Karyotyping and Genetic Testing all normal
Hysteroscopy and D&C 6/2/14, retained tissue
Off the bench 7/14
BFP # 2: 10/3/14, Blighted ovum, D&C 11/12/14
Girl, no chromosomal abnormalities detected
RPL Testing: Pre-diabetic, ANA+
"I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart) I am never without it." - e.e. cummings
My Ovulation Chart
Me-27 DH-29
TTC#1 January 2013
BFP February 27th 2014, MMC ended in D&C
Working on our rainbow!
Curious about my ute?
Married: August 2010
TTC #1 since December 2013 with 1 early loss (October 2014 at 5 weeks)
My FF Chart
My Ovulation Chart
Proudly on the dark side
Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
My chart here All ALers welcome!
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!