PP Sex Thread Part 2: Seriously, When and Where?

lizgrace03 · January 2015

after LO sleeps? during naps? how does this work??

crizz13 · January 2015

We've done it once and it was during her only predictable sleep time (8am-10am)

ETA for clarity- there is no way it took that long, that's just her morning nap time.

oklahomamom09 · January 2015

I hate sex in the morning lol so when we actually do decide to its probably going to be after SD and LO are down for the night for good.

MissN06 · January 2015

When LOs sleeping. Seriously it had been so long that it didn't take much time at all.

mommymeg143 · January 2015

crizz13 said:
We've done it once and it was during her only predictable sleep time (8am-10am)

ETA for clarity- there is no way it took that long, that's just her morning nap time.

I was going to say...you must be catholic!!

mommymeg143 · January 2015

Anytime she is sleeping!! My sex drive is back in full force so any and all the places work!

Jatpa003 · January 2015

crizz13 said:
We've done it once and it was during her only predictable sleep time (8am-10am)

ETA for clarity- there is no way it took that long, that's just her morning nap time.

Damn! Haha you really should have just left it unedited...

Seriously though she was right there in bed with us awake, they cannot form memories yet...
In the kitchen while LO is in the bouncer or swing.
Right now is easy and can be a little more spontaneous, I think when they start forming memories and walking this could get more interesting.

Carebella · January 2015

My 6 week PP got postponed due to weather so we still haven't DTD (yay!). But I can't imagine DTD unless LO is asleep. Even when he is asleep my attention tends to be focused on him. I'm having a really tough time with not feeling like me and my body are 100% dedicated to LO for the foreseeable future. And with LO sleeping best at night but DTD having the lovely bonus of making me wide awake... I'm in no rush. Sorry, not sorry. Back to the OP though, LO will definitely need to be asleep, not on me, and preferably before 9pm.

MuchlyGen · January 2015

At 5wks PP my fella decided to surprise me by having a "midnight snack" while LO was sleeping. Ahem. It worked out because I was close enough to pat her back if she stirred. After I'd gotten mine, we DTD incredibly fast as LO began to grow suspicious, even in her sleep, that we may be touching each other... Which, naturally, it is her life's mission to prevent. All the same, good night.

buuuut... Nothing since. She's gotten wise to us now. Will only sleep in my arms, making sure these things don't happen again.

CarrieAnne09 · January 2015

mommymeg143 said:
Anytime she is sleeping!! My sex drive is back in full force so any and all the places work!

Thank god I'm not the only one. After reading the randoms thread yesterday I was wondering if I'm the only one with a crazy sex drive again. I haven't had my 6 week checkup yet and I'm not interested in getting pregnant so we've just been fooling around. I cannot wait for sex again.

KMW08 · January 2015

Mines been pretty minimal -- nothing too unusual. I really dislike morning sex, so we've had success in the afternoon after LO is down for a nap.

The only crappy part is using condoms. It's just not the same. I can't wait for AF to show so I can start my bcp. It's my choice on waiting for af before starting bcp -- I wanna make sure my body cleans itself before introducing hormones.

Snuffy007 · January 2015

CarrieAnne09 said:

mommymeg143 said:
Anytime she is sleeping!! My sex drive is back in full force so any and all the places work!
Thank god I'm not the only one. After reading the randoms thread yesterday I was wondering if I'm the only one with a crazy sex drive again. I haven't had my 6 week checkup yet and I'm not interested in getting pregnant so we've just been fooling around. I cannot wait for sex again.

Damn, ladies! My hat off to you

I have no drive whatsoever, but I think it's mostly due to feeling self conscious of my current body (all the wobbly bits, as Bridget Jones would say!). And sleep deprivation. But we've DTD once. Not NEARLY as scary or painful as I thought it would be! It was at night, after LO was asleep. I could hear him stirring a bit which was weird, but it's manageable.

runningmama14 · January 2015

I had crazy sex drive from about 2 weeks pp until about 5 weeks, then it went away. We've dtd twice now, both times in bed at night with LO sleeping in his swing right next to the bed.

lizzielu82 · January 2015

I've been a hot mess lately - from healing "too tightly" as my OB put it, to late onset of PPD, to overall exhaustion, I've been too tired and too scared to try it (I'm also still benched per my OB until next week which will be 9 weeks pp).

I did feel bad for DH (I think maybe the last time we had sex was september) and went old school and gave him a handjob last week.

MrsAdventure · January 2015

We've fooled around plenty since a couple weeks after I got home from the hospital, but have only DTD twice. Both times were at night, Pips was passed out in her bobby lounger on the bed. Like @jatpa003 said, they won't remember.

Unfortunately, we have been sleeping in the living room for the past 3 weeks because my grandmother (whom we live with to care for because she has alztimers) keeps thinking someone (she hears voices) wants her to walk her dog at around 3 or 4 am every morning. It's a really circus over here, but not conducive to bouncy naked yum yum night. At my 7 week PP appointment, my doc asked what I had planned for BC, I just laughed and told her not worry.

MissN06 · January 2015

I feel the need to add my muscles in that region aren't where they used to be so I need some time in between events to not be sore again. My pelvic muscles seem really confused by all this "new" activity and after it feels like I just did one hell of a work out and need a few days in between before it's comfortable again.

mander82 · January 2015

No sex yet for us. I still have some sutures left and even though the doc gave me the green light.....something about a Frankenstein vagina doesn't exactly make me feel sexy.

When it does happen it will most likely be at night when he is sleeping in his room.

MmmPopcorn · January 2015

mander82 said:

No sex yet for us. I still have some sutures left and even though the doc gave me the green light.....something about a Frankenstein vagina doesn't exactly make me feel sexy. When it does happen it will most likely be at night when he is sleeping in his room.

Ugh, I'm in the same boat. At my 6wk appt. last week, the doctor confirmed that I was taking a long time to heal. I've been sore for nearly a week simply from the exam. My sex drive is back in full force, but I'm afraid to tempt fate. I might wait another week or two.

missnacholover · January 2015

I am in no mood for sex. No idea why. I hope my sex drive comes back soon.

That being said, we've done it a few times, while LO is sleeping. In the afternoon or at night. I like morning sex but I also like sleep so it hasn't worked out since LO arrived.

NunyaBennis · January 2015

I've tried to initiate several times to no avail. I won't wake him up, or if he's awake can't pry his eyes away from the TV/phone/tablet long enough for anything. We can't even have a conversation anymore. I'm invisible.

smboswell1 · January 2015

Still haven't tried:( almost 9 weeks PP. The last time we had sex was July!

kstirton · January 2015

Ugh not looking forward to this

pp apt thurs. Need to work on my mindset. I'm sure when we do, it will be at night, while lo is napping in her swing and we will be in the bedroom ... I don't even like thinking of her next to the bed!

missymaye · January 2015

We try and get either my mom or dad to take him for a little while so we don't have to worry about him whatsoever. Unfortunately, I still have some scar tissue from an internal tear and, even though we have tried 4 times now, it is still too painful to DTD. Each time has been a bit better though, so I am hoping we will be successful soon! DH is getting super frustrated, although he is trying not to show it. Still, it's not helping my self-esteem at all.

missnacholover · January 2015

NunyaBennis said:

I've tried to initiate several times to no avail. I won't wake him up, or if he's awake can't pry his eyes away from the TV/phone/tablet long enough for anything. We can't even have a conversation anymore. I'm invisible.

This makes me sad. Anything you want to talk about?

Ineedmorecoffee · January 2015

We have had sex a handful of times and with two kids it's hard!!! It's always late at night after they're both asleep, so I'm always tired and we have to hurry which kind of sucks. Twice we have had to stop because the baby cried. Kids are the best cockblocks.

NunyaBennis · January 2015

missnacholover said:

NunyaBennis said:

I've tried to initiate several times to no avail. I won't wake him up, or if he's awake can't pry his eyes away from the TV/phone/tablet long enough for anything. We can't even have a conversation anymore. I'm invisible.

This makes me sad. Anything you want to talk about?

It makes me sad, too

. I may PM you later, thank you.

Carebella · January 2015

NunyaBennis said:

missnacholover said:

NunyaBennis said:

I've tried to initiate several times to no avail. I won't wake him up, or if he's awake can't pry his eyes away from the TV/phone/tablet long enough for anything. We can't even have a conversation anymore. I'm invisible.

This makes me sad. Anything you want to talk about?

It makes me sad, too

. I may PM you later, thank you.

And this is why N14 is the best. Also, hugs @NunyaBennis‌

SweetMelissa5 · January 2015

Waiting until the kids are in bed is definitely one option. Currently, though, the baby sleeps on one of us until we go to bed, and then she sleeps with us, so instead we wait until everyone seems relatively settled/happy, put on a show for the older kids, put the baby in her swing or on her play mat, and then lock our bedroom door. We do have to deal with interruptions, though, so sometimes we have to just accept that it's not going to happen. We've probably been able to finish about four times in that past few weeks.

staugustinewedding · January 2015

lizzielu82 said:
I've been a hot mess lately - from healing "too tightly" as my OB put it, to late onset of PPD, to overall exhaustion, I've been too tired and too scared to try it (I'm also still benched per my OB until next week which will be 9 weeks pp).

I did feel bad for DH (I think maybe the last time we had sex was september) and went old school and gave him a handjob last week.

Healing too tightly?! This is real?? I feel the same and I just thought everyone healed this way. We DTD the other night and woah...he could barely get in there! Did your OB mention when it gets better?

staugustinewedding · January 2015

missymaye said:
We try and get either my mom or dad to take him for a little while so we don't have to worry about him whatsoever. Unfortunately, I still have some scar tissue from an internal tear and, even though we have tried 4 times now, it is still too painful to DTD. Each time has been a bit better though, so I am hoping we will be successful soon! DH is getting super frustrated, although he is trying not to show it. Still, it's not helping my self-esteem at all.

I have scar tissue too. It sucks.

staugustinewedding · January 2015

NunyaBennis said:
I've tried to initiate several times to no avail. I won't wake him up, or if he's awake can't pry his eyes away from the TV/phone/tablet long enough for anything. We can't even have a conversation anymore. I'm invisible.

(((Hugs)))

lizzielu82 · January 2015

staugustinewedding said:

lizzielu82 said:
I've been a hot mess lately - from healing "too tightly" as my OB put it, to late onset of PPD, to overall exhaustion, I've been too tired and too scared to try it (I'm also still benched per my OB until next week which will be 9 weeks pp).

I did feel bad for DH (I think maybe the last time we had sex was september) and went old school and gave him a handjob last week.
Healing too tightly?! This is real?? I feel the same and I just thought everyone healed this way. We DTD the other night and woah...he could barely get in there! Did your OB mention when it gets better?

She tried to stretch things out and pull open certain parts. I couldn't see what she was doing but it hurt so bad that she had to renew my pain meds and it hurt to walk for a week

Curlyfries851 · January 2015

Ugh...nearly 8 weeks pp and still not completely healed from third degree tears...I'm totes jelly of all y'all who are getting it on already lol

staugustinewedding · January 2015

lizzielu82 said:

staugustinewedding said:

lizzielu82 said:
I've been a hot mess lately - from healing "too tightly" as my OB put it, to late onset of PPD, to overall exhaustion, I've been too tired and too scared to try it (I'm also still benched per my OB until next week which will be 9 weeks pp).

I did feel bad for DH (I think maybe the last time we had sex was september) and went old school and gave him a handjob last week.
Healing too tightly?! This is real?? I feel the same and I just thought everyone healed this way. We DTD the other night and woah...he could barely get in there! Did your OB mention when it gets better?
She tried to stretch things out and pull open certain parts. I couldn't see what she was doing but it hurt so bad that she had to renew my pain meds and it hurt to walk for a week

Omg that sounds awful!! I'm so sorry that must have been unbearably painful.

staugustinewedding · January 2015

I got some lube and we are going to try again tonight.

mamaluzi · January 2015

Not interested. Got the ok from OB yesterday and hubby was sooooo excited (is it bad that I told him we weren't allowed to do ANYTHING before my 6 week green light? I'm horrible) but I'm just so preoccupied with baby that I feel like I'd just be distracted the whole time and it wouldn't be enjoyable for either of us :-/ my sex drive hadn't been too high since I was in college either lol so now it's at an all time low. I'm also nervous because I tore a lot and had a ton of stitches and (sorry for tmi) hubby and I have had trouble with him fitting even before I had all this scar tissue because I've always been kind of small...you'd think pushing an 8-pounder out of there would help but then scars make up the difference lol!

staugustinewedding · January 2015

DTD last night for the second time and it was amazing. Thank you Lord! Of course LO woke up towards the end but it was worth it!

missymaye · January 2015

@staugustinewedding‌ I am so happy for you!

TC0514 · January 2015

@NunyaBennis‌ "hugs"

staugustinewedding · January 2015

@missymaye‌ thanks! I will say I would not recommend a condom the first few minutes. After having one on for the first few minutes and it still hurting, we opted to take it off for a min and that helped a lot! Good luck to all the ladies still waiting to heal!

missymaye · January 2015

@staugustinewedding‌ I think we are going to try again tonight so we will try without one first! I am on bc but am terrified of getting pregnant again lol

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