This is my third pregnancy, my other 2 will be 11 and 7 when #3 arrives, and I already have been offered a shower. I'm on the fence of whether or not to have one. On one hand my two are older and I don't have anything for baby anymore, but on the other hand this is #3. What's everybody's thoughts?
Re: baby shower, yes or no?
Personally, since your older children are way past baby stage and you could probably use new things to help with your newest, why not?
People who want to be there will be there, and those who don't, won't. I don't think it would hurt anything.
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Who should be throwing the shower? I'm genuinely curious aa where I'm from it is always the future grandma(s) who throw the shower and anything else is considered tacky.
I never pass up the opportunity to celebrate a friend or loved one so I am all for sprinkles or second showers. I agree with PP that all babies should be celebrated
Where I'm from it is almost always the grandmothrr that throws the shower.
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My MIL offered to do something scaled back for us and I'm ok with that. I guess it really depends on what these little people are. If it's girls we won't need much. If they are boys or one is we'll need some blue! I won't go crazy but for myself and anyone interested I would register.
I say go for it. With that large of a gap you may have a completley different circle of people than with prior children.
Also, to repeat an oft said BSB adage, you (proverbial you, not necessarily you, OP)needing stuff does not mean other people should provide it. It always squicks me a little when one of the reasons is 'we don't have any of our baby stuff anymore.' Regardless of how it's meant to sound, that reasoning just comes off a bit gift-grabby.
I think a Meet the Baby or 'Sip 'n See' is perfectly fine for any baby. It's not a gift giving event like a shower, but if people want to bring something they can. I think the one exception to the shower for multiple children thing, for me, is if it's the first child for one side of the couple, then that side's people throw a shower.
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I think a shower is fine, especially since there is such an age gap between!
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If someone wants to celebrate this exciting new addition, especially the first for you and YH, then let them! The pearl clutchers can stay home if they are grumpy. So many families are blended and/or nontraditional these days. They'll get over it.
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One of my DF close friend had a gender reveal party (gifts included), a baby shower (bring diapers and wipes too please), ANDDDD a shower for him (also asking for gifts).... I was livid when I saw the invite for my fiance in the mail for a man shower. I mean who SERIOUSLY HAS THREE SHOWERS FOR ONE CHILD (the parties were ALL done to the nines too, nothing low key) Not to mention she invited as many people as possible to the baby shower, some of the people were just Facebook friends with her/she hasn't seen in years. I didn't go because I see the woman seriously once a year (if that) because she never comes to any of the gatherings and doesn't talk to any of the wives of our husband's group (none of the wives went either). It just felt like she was being extremely greedy which is why I didn't go, I believe you only invite people who you are close too.
^^^THISSS is gift grabby and extremely tacky!
I don't think you doing a shower when your kids are way out of the baby stage is tacky or rude. But I also wouldn't do it as if it was your first shower either.