FFFC

ifwisheswerefishes · January 2015

cookiesandwine said:

My FFFC is that I don't think a kid watching TV is even remotely FFFC worthy. We have 7 hours in the car this weekend and we're loading up our kindle with Daniel Tiger and Bubble Guppies episodes. No shame.

THANK YOU. I am perpetually being judged for the fact that DD watches a good amount of television. I'm pretty damn sick of it.

ifwisheswerefishes · January 2015

lavendergrrl said:

ahsile10 said:

lavendergrrl said:

I think this is beyond terrible parenting, and is abuse in multiple ways. And what makes it worse is that many Americans subscribe to her beliefs, so they think this is acceptable behavior. This is not the way to treat ANY animal, and even more disgusting that it's his service animal.

FFFC: I've always hated, despised, loathed (insert countless synonyms here) Sarah Palin. I think giving stupid people like her public platforms to spread ignorance and misinformation is a very serious problem in this country. And it's not just limited to politics, I think the Kardashians (among others) are just as worthless.

What is he supposed to be doing, using the dog for a stool?!

Yes, she praised him for doing this AND posted these pictures to facebook... smh

Oh this just makes me ANGRY! DD sits on Sherlock sometimes and we always tell her to get off the doggie and treat him like she would want to be treated. Dogs are FAMILY! Would you use your sister for a stool? ICK.

thiscoffeechick · January 2015

lavendergrrl said:
I think this is beyond terrible parenting, and is abuse in multiple ways. And what makes it worse is that many Americans subscribe to her beliefs, so they think this is acceptable behavior. This is not the way to treat ANY animal, and even more disgusting that it's his service animal.

FFFC: I've always hated, despised, loathed (insert countless
synonyms here) Sarah Palin. I think giving stupid people like her public
platforms to spread ignorance and misinformation is a very serious
problem in this country. And it's not just limited to politics, I think the Kardashians (among others) are just as worthless.

@lavendergrrl‌ despising Sarah Palin is NOT flame-worthy. She's a fucking idiot... And the greatest thing to ever happen to the Democratic Party ever.

ahsile10 · January 2015

wineandwalter said: lavendergrrl said: ahsile10 said: lavendergrrl said: I think this is beyond terrible parenting, and is abuse in multiple ways. And what makes it worse is that many Americans subscribe to her beliefs, so they think this is acceptable behavior. This is not the way to treat ANY animal, and even more disgusting that it's his service animal.

FFFC: I've always hated, despised, loathed (insert countless synonyms here) Sarah Palin. I think giving stupid people like her public platforms to spread ignorance and misinformation is a very serious problem in this country. And it's not just limited to politics, I think the Kardashians (among others) are just as worthless.
What is he supposed to be doing, using the dog for a stool?! Yes, she praised him for doing this AND posted these pictures to facebook... smh
Oh this just makes me ANGRY! DD sits on Sherlock sometimes and we always tell her to get off the doggie and treat him like she would want to be treated. Dogs are FAMILY! Would you use your sister for a stool? ICK. As a former service dog trainer and the daughter of a service dog user I 100% support service dogs when necessary for children and adults. However, I feel like this is not a necessary "service." The dog can be trained to get a stool or even support kiddo while stepping on the stool but not this. FFFC: the lady that posted an article on yahoo the other day about teaching people to lie about having emotional assistance animals so they can fly free means less to me than cow shit. I hope I never encounter her in real life.

QBF---------------------------------------------------------

Seriously. Buy an effing stool, Sarah Palin! Surely you made enough from your awful reality show to afford a stool for your child, like most normal people.

ChristyM87 · January 2015

officedronette said:
My FFFC is that it disappoints me to hear people saying that if child care is too much that they'll stay home rather than having their whole salary go to childcare. It's on thing if you want to stay home, but if not, or if you're ambivalent, it drives me nuts when people view it like that. So the below does not apply to those who want to have one parent stay home for non-financial reasons.

You're a household, child care is a household expense. If you work, it's also an investment in your careers. For certain jobs, it's impossible to very difficult to re-enter the work force after years away. Not to mention, it leaves you incredibly vulnerable in the event of death or divorce.

I wish people viewed child care expenses the way they viewed student loans. It's an investment in your future and it's short term.

For what it's worth, in my family, we considered this from the other end of what is typical gender-wise when my husband asked if he should just stay home because his take home pay is not that much more than we will pay for daycare. I said absolutely not, because it's not coming from just your salary but our household salary, and over the long term, him staying home would be a massive financial hit relative to the short term day care hit.

I agree 100% I actually have more income potential than husband and so me staying home isn't really smart long term. If we needed someone to stay home for some reason it would be husband but he also has a career that can be done from home

cabinchick · January 2015

Confession: I was having a bad day and didn't feel like being yelled at by my doctor at my last appt...so I wore two winter coats, held my purse, and a full bottle of gatorade on the scale. I seriously try so hard, but with this HG, I physically cannot hold much down. DH yells at me for it daily, and I just couldn't take hearing it from my doc too

he complimented me on gaining a "reasonable" amount...

TeresaWE · January 2015

Errsbear11 said:
Confession: I was having a bad day and didn't feel like being yelled at by my doctor at my last appt...so I wore two winter coats, held my purse, and a full bottle of gatorade on the scale. I seriously try so hard, but with this HG, I physically cannot hold much down. DH yells at me for it daily, and I just couldn't take hearing it from my doc too he complimented me on gaining a "reasonable" amount...

@Errsbear11‌, (hugs). I think I would end up throat punching someone if I was being yelled at daily for things not in your control and your doctor should be more supportive.

c-elizabethf · January 2015

My daughter watches more then 30 mins of TV. She even has a leap pad 2 and watches daniel tiger on it.

ahsile10 · January 2015

sandybananas said:

FFFC: I can't stand when people call their SUV a Truck. I saw it in the randoms thread, but I have friends that do it so its not just from there. Most SUVs are on car chassis and regardless a truck is a truck. You know, with a truck bed.

And Sarah Palin needs to go away. Poor dog.

Haha, I was just thinking the same thing. I also have a friend that calls her SUV a truck, and I think every time I probably look at her like she is nuts.

c-elizabethf · January 2015

My Confession is I wanted to throat punch mil, dh's aunt, and grandmother yesterday. I love all of them very much and we never have problems but different things made them irritating yesterday. To sum it up, it was one of those conversations like you should do this with dd, no don't let her do that etc..like I'm a child.

amc1087 · January 2015

I'm not sure this is a "confession," because I'm still not sure how I feel about it.

Anyway, I started a pretty big fight with my mother this morning. She dealt with weight issues for most of her life, especially post having children, and as such has always been very overbearing with me and my brother about our respective weights. I have always fluctuated between a size 2 and size 6, so even though she gives me grief when I get up to the 6 range of my closet, most of her attention has been turned to my poor brother, who would medically be considered obese. (He is in reality not at a point where it would be considered truly unhealthy - he's seen doctors - but he could definitely lose 40 pounds and be in a much better place.)

HOWEVER, now that I am pregnant, the only thing my mom asks me about is my weight and is sure to remind me ALL THE TIME that 25 lbs is the maximum healthy amount a woman should gain. I usually just brush it off because she is who she is and I've never won these battles before, but my brother had been visiting my mom with his wife and son and I know she had been harassing him all week about his weight and I completely lost it.

I told her how unfair it was to constantly pick on her children and how especially cruel it is for her to constantly ask about my weight when I'm already uncomfortable in my body right now. I eventually just hung up without letting her respond. It actually felt pretty cathartic, but I'm not convinced I did the right thing. Probably just added fuel to the fire... Oh well.

ahsile10 · January 2015

mischiefmama said:

I am sitting here trying to think of reasons for me to go in my conference room (that is rarely used) shut the door and nap. Maybe put a fake conference call on my calendar and then turn the phone on so that people see that there's an active call? Is there a fake conference call number for these purposes?

@mischiefemama

It's not a conference call, but whenever someone comes in that I don't want to talk to, I dial 585-1212 and pretend I am on the phone. It's some long advertisement and the local weather. I used to call Meade County Pulic Library's dial-a-story, but I haven't pulled that one out in a while. They were at least 15 minutes long sometimes.

ETA

Looks like they are still around. I used to call this thing DAILY when I was like 5-10 and stayed with my grandma. I also used to dial it every few months at work just to look busy when I started working here.

https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=10151575330849932&id=23425434931&fref=nf

TeresaWE · January 2015

My FFFC: my step kids are 17 &16, spending the week with us and for the most part have slept or played video games all day/night. I want to knock their heads together. What's worse, I feel guilty my step daughter tidied up the bathroom yesterday.
Also, my kids watch movies throughout the day interspersed with meals and interaction, going out and hanging with their cousins.

abcdefghijk12345678 · January 2015

amc1087 said:
I'm not sure this is a "confession," because I'm still not sure how I feel about it.

Anyway, I started a pretty big fight with my mother this morning. She dealt with weight issues for most of her life, especially post having children, and as such has always been very overbearing with me and my brother about our respective weights. I have always fluctuated between a size 2 and size 6, so even though she gives me grief when I get up to the 6 range of my closet, most of her attention has been turned to my poor brother, who would medically be considered obese. (He is in reality not at a point where it would be considered truly unhealthy - he's seen doctors - but he could definitely lose 40 pounds and be in a much better place.)

HOWEVER, now that I am pregnant, the only thing my mom asks me about is my weight and is sure to remind me ALL THE TIME that 25 lbs is the maximum healthy amount a woman should gain. I usually just brush it off because she is who she is and I've never won these battles before, but my brother had been visiting my mom with his wife and son and I know she had been harassing him all week about his weight and I completely lost it.

I told her how unfair it was to constantly pick on her children and how especially cruel it is for her to constantly ask about my weight when I'm already uncomfortable in my body right now. I eventually just hung up without letting her respond. It actually felt pretty cathartic, but I'm not convinced I did the right thing. Probably just added fuel to the fire... Oh well.

@amc1087‌ Good for you for standing up to her! I can't stand people who constantly pick on others because of their weight.

RWPhoenix · January 2015

I always get guilt from my mom about letting DD watch too much TV that's why I feel guilty and confess here.

This is a more personal FFFC but I think people who let their young children watch violent/horror movies or play violent video games need some parenting lessons. It's fine to let your kid play kid games but no 8 year old should be playing Call of duty or Grand Theft, and then raging/swearing/name calling to the other players if playing multiplayer

charliepepper · January 2015

A pregnant Facebook friend just posted a rant abt how she got a speeding ticket and how unfair it was to ticket a pregnant lady. Um, she is a kindergarten teacher and it was a neighborhood--I think she should be extra-ticketed. Why does pregnancy make it ok to drive 40 mph where little kids could be playing? All these ppl posted sympathetic comments.

I unfriended her.

amc1087 · January 2015

Thanks, @amc2511! I do feel like I need to stand up to her - and I'm glad I did - but I also just hate starting fights in general and I also know my brother won't want me necessarily arguing with her partially on his behalf. It's just a big CF, is what I'm saying.

c-elizabethf · January 2015

babymamabeth said:
FFFC: I do a huge eye-roll when I see someone who previously went on a "you ignorant ass bitches!" tirade continue to post and be part of the (general bump) conversation all nice as pie. honey, you've been sticky noted.

Yes all of this.

kate5all · January 2015

amc1087 said:

I told her how unfair it was to constantly pick on her children and how especially cruel it is for her to constantly ask about my weight when I'm already uncomfortable in my body right now. I eventually just hung up without letting her respond. It actually felt pretty cathartic, but I'm not convinced I did the right thing. Probably just added fuel to the fire... Oh well.

It's probably good that someone pushed back on her! If your tirade was unpleasant for her, maybe it will make her think twice about nagging you and your brother in the future!

My coworker keeps making side comments about how she "never slowed down" on exercising throughout all of her pregnancies. She also keeps pointedly looking at my blump when talking to me and I feel like she's judging the hell out of me (I haven't gained much weight, but I've lost a ton of muscle and look REALLY doughy). Even though I know that it all has to do with her own weight issues, it makes me feel so self-conscious every time I see her. :-S

caymarks · January 2015

I have DH fill up his huge 64 oz polar pop jug with ice water so that in between sippy cup refills I can let my boys take drinks out of it. That saves on me having to get up.

valigrl21 · January 2015

charliepepper said:

A pregnant Facebook friend just posted a rant abt how she got a speeding ticket and how unfair it was to ticket a pregnant lady. Um, she is a kindergarten teacher and it was a neighborhood--I think she should be extra-ticketed. Why does pregnancy make it ok to drive 40 mph where little kids could be playing? All these ppl posted sympathetic comments. I unfriended her.

The only time I have ever gotten a ticket, was during my last pregnancy. I was 36 weeks or so, obviously pregnant. As soon as MH found out about the ticket he said "what?? the officer gave you a ticket? But your pregnant. Did you tell him? Couldn't you have said you were in labor or something to get out of it?" I just laughed and said "I am pregnant. I am pretty sure he noticed. But I was still speeding so I still got a ticket." I don't get why I or any pregnant woman should get out of a ticket because we are growing a baby (unless legitimately in labor or rushing home to pee or throw up).

valigrl21 · January 2015

caymarks said:

We have an outside only cat because DS1 is allergic to all animals. If an animal is in the house he starts wheezing and his eyes swell. He goes outside and plays with the cat and then comes straight in to wash hands and change clothes. He loves that cat but it can't be inside. He does sit on a swing in front of our picture window and the boys laugh and play through the window. The cat paws and plays back.

Our cat is outside most of the time. He occasionally goes into the garage, especially if it's cold at night, and even more rarely goes into our house. Honestly, he's happiest outside, unless it's really cold or really rainy. But in our house, he gets chased by an infant and our toddler wants him to stay away from her, even though he just wants to curl up and sleep in her bed. So he's much happier outside chasing the squirrels and birds.

emiwalk · January 2015

I told my husband last night that I wasn't going to make him any supper unless he asked me to.

He didn't ask.

Dcwtada · January 2015

kristhegirl said:
@ifwisheswerefishes‌ around here it's almost all chihuahuas and pits, and the pits are chained to the dog house No heat lamps, no fan in the summer, just a dog house. It infuriates me. The chihuahuas at least get to run around, but they are still outside dogs, period.

We see this with pits all of the time. My mom runs a pit rescue and every winter as a side projects volunteers take straw and those igloo doghouses and go around to provide a warm shelter to these outdoor dogs - usually once a week to replenish/replace the straw that keeps them dry and warm. The most heartbreaking thing is none of these owners will sell or give up these poor dogs, some have even stopped allowing the volunteers to help out. Its just a heartbreaking situation and animal control is pretty much powerless in these cases.

My fffc: The only way to get my 6 month old down to sleep is giving her a bottle while she falls asleep in her crib. I know this is not ideal and she has started teething, no teeth yet, but I do not know how I am going to break her of this when she gets a tooth. Right now I am just relishing every night she goes to sleep without a single peep.

jlbaker08 · January 2015

My fffc: I don't feel like this is real yet and I don't feel attached to this baby yet.

ahsile10 · January 2015

sassycassieb said:

SIL unfriended me over the summer when we couldn't make her second baby shower because our car broke down. She just requested me. I'm totally going to "forget" to add her for a good amount of time just to rub it in .

Oh my gawd! How old is she? 12?

RWPhoenix · January 2015

I'm anti getting a dog and leaving it outside all the time. Our neighbors have a beagle that is outside all the time and barks at every little thing. The dog also lunges at people/cars when they go by (he is on a chain). DHkeeps threatening to call animal control because the dog is nasty and never shuts up. If you wanted a dog people, why leave him outside all the time? Grrr drives me nuts.

traceyos · January 2015

ahsile10 said:

sandybananas said:

FFFC: I can't stand when people call their SUV a Truck. I saw it in the randoms thread, but I have friends that do it so its not just from there. Most SUVs are on car chassis and regardless a truck is a truck. You know, with a truck bed.

And Sarah Palin needs to go away. Poor dog.

Haha, I was just thinking the same thing. I also have a friend that calls her SUV a truck, and I think every time I probably look at her like she is nuts.

Yes! This drives me nuts. This morning I saw someone posted in a FB group I'm in to ask whether Used Car Lots sell Used SUVs or just cars.... WTF I am so confused. In my world, an SUV is a kind of Car. To me thats like asking if Used Car places sell hatchbacks or if you have to go to a special used hatchback store.

Also my DH uses the word VEHICLE to describe all cars which drives me CRAZY. Its not a vehicle, its a car. ugh.

ahsile10 · January 2015

babymamabeth said: @babymamabeth we have a heeler too, it broke my heart to read you may have to rehome yours (even if just to sil). They are such a wonderful breed and personally I would never consider another dog that wasn't a heeler. I'm sure you thought of it before, but no chance of training school to teach him the difference? The problem is he's actually very well trained in most regards... He heels when he walk and knows plenty of commands and is kennel trained like a boss. The toy obsession is hard to explain, it's almost a temperament thing I guess? We're definitely going to give it a try, and have also decided to reintroduce toys to him in hopes he'll chill out by baby. It's funny cause he's sort of a lazy old man in most regards, but with toys he loses his damn mind! We'll see. But agreed, heelers are wonderful dogs

QBF-------------------------------------
My JRT was VERY territorial with toys and things (even random stuff that she found that was not hers), and we often wondered how she would do when DD came and had her own toys. We were pleasantly surprised though.

My dog is obsessed with squeaky toys, and when DD wound up with a few, she wouldn't touch them. She still never messes with any of DD's stuffed animals or anything. We did get a basket to put all the dog's toys in though before DD was born, and we keep them all there. I just thought that might help the dog distinguish what is hers. I have no idea if it actually helped, but like I said, we were thrilled by how our dog did compared to what we expected.

Maybe there is some hope for yours too!

traceyos · January 2015

ahsile10 said:

sassycassieb said:

SIL unfriended me over the summer when we couldn't make her second baby shower because our car broke down. She just requested me. I'm totally going to "forget" to add her for a good amount of time just to rub it in .

Oh my gawd! How old is she? 12?

I'm so sorry you didn't make it to her SECOND baby shower. Yikes.

ahsile10 · January 2015

I totally understand @babymamabeth.

It's seriously like the dog smells that DD has touched them and wants nothing to do with them. Kind of the opposite of what we expected.

One time, I held DD's Sophie the Giraffe squeaky teether up to the dog and squeaked it, and she totally side eyed the thing and turned her head. It was like she was saying, "get that thing away from me!"

Maybe just rub all the baby's toys on the baby first. LOL.

wineandcake · January 2015

I've heard that orgasms are good for headaches. Well, I've had an awful headache due to a cold the past two days. DH is at work and DS was napping, so obviously I had to give it a shot and see if it works

so far haven't noticed it getting better or worse.

intensivepurposes · January 2015

I think people who bring babies to the movies are horrible. Particularly if it's a movie inappropriate for a child, but also in general. Babies' ears should not be exposed to that level of volume, and it's rude to other patrons.

JuneBug0611 · January 2015

amc1087 said:
I'm not sure this is a "confession," because I'm still not sure how I feel about it.

Anyway, I started a pretty big fight with my mother this morning. She dealt with weight issues for most of her life, especially post having children, and as such has always been very overbearing with me and my brother about our respective weights. I have always fluctuated between a size 2 and size 6, so even though she gives me grief when I get up to the 6 range of my closet, most of her attention has been turned to my poor brother, who would medically be considered obese. (He is in reality not at a point where it would be considered truly unhealthy - he's seen doctors - but he could definitely lose 40 pounds and be in a much better place.)

HOWEVER, now that I am pregnant, the only thing my mom asks me about is my weight and is sure to remind me ALL THE TIME that 25 lbs is the maximum healthy amount a woman should gain. I usually just brush it off because she is who she is and I've never won these battles before, but my brother had been visiting my mom with his wife and son and I know she had been harassing him all week about his weight and I completely lost it.

I told her how unfair it was to constantly pick on her children and how especially cruel it is for her to constantly ask about my weight when I'm already uncomfortable in my body right now. I eventually just hung up without letting her respond. It actually felt pretty cathartic, but I'm not convinced I did the right thing. Probably just added fuel to the fire... Oh well.

I'm glad you stood up for yourself and your brother and hope she takes it to heart.

FWIW, she's wrong about weight gain too. For my height/weight, my OB says to aim for 25-30 pounds. My sister is smaller than me (shorter and lighter) and gained 60-70 pounds with each pregnancy and lost all of it after each child. You will be fine. ((Hugs))

cschissell · January 2015

I've peed myself a little from throwing up today. I'm not changing till the plumbers leave because my last pair of comfy pants that are clean are pink with happy Santas all over them.

Brummy14 · January 2015

JuneBug0611 said:

I'm not sure this is a "confession," because I'm still not sure how I feel about it.

Anyway, I started a pretty big fight with my mother this morning. She dealt with weight issues for most of her life, especially post having children, and as such has always been very overbearing with me and my brother about our respective weights. I have always fluctuated between a size 2 and size 6, so even though she gives me grief when I get up to the 6 range of my closet, most of her attention has been turned to my poor brother, who would medically be considered obese. (He is in reality not at a point where it would be considered truly unhealthy - he's seen doctors - but he could definitely lose 40 pounds and be in a much better place.)

HOWEVER, now that I am pregnant, the only thing my mom asks me about is my weight and is sure to remind me ALL THE TIME that 25 lbs is the maximum healthy amount a woman should gain. I usually just brush it off because she is who she is and I've never won these battles before, but my brother had been visiting my mom with his wife and son and I know she had been harassing him all week about his weight and I completely lost it.

I told her how unfair it was to constantly pick on her children and how especially cruel it is for her to constantly ask about my weight when I'm already uncomfortable in my body right now. I eventually just hung up without letting her respond. It actually felt pretty cathartic, but I'm not convinced I did the right thing. Probably just added fuel to the fire... Oh well.
I'm glad you stood up for yourself and your brother and hope she takes it to heart. FWIW, she's wrong about weight gain too. For my height/weight, my OB says to aim for 25-30 pounds. My sister is smaller than me (shorter and lighter) and gained 60-70 pounds with each pregnancy and lost all of it after each child. You will be fine. ((Hugs))

^^ exactly this. If you're in the size 2-6 range, you'll likely be looking at 25-40lbs of weight gain. I'm around a size 4/6, and that's what I've been told this pregnancy. I put on ~30lbs before the girls were born -- I lost all of that and then some courtesy of BFing -- it took a year to drop it all, but it all came off!

valigrl21 · January 2015

intensivepurposes said:

I think people who bring babies to the movies are horrible. Particularly if it's a movie inappropriate for a child, but also in general. Babies' ears should not be exposed to that level of volume, and it's rude to other patrons.

People who do that are horrible? I hope you were exaggerating. There are a lot worse parenting moves that I would classify as horrible than bringing a baby to a movie.

Bringing a newborn who is most likely going to sleep to a not crowded movie is NBD. If baby starts crying, you can (and should) just walk out of the movie. If baby sleeps, its a cheap and easy date or a chance for a mom to get out of the house and do something for herself.

amc1087 · January 2015

@junebug0611 - I know, but it's not even worth telling her that her medical advice is wrong, since, why the hell is she giving medical advice in the first place?!?!?

EmMilAlly · January 2015

I am acting like a 13 year old and giving the silent treatment to one of my coworkers. We are friends, but she goes to extremes to be the "relaxed pregnant person" (due this spring) and I can't take it anymore. She was asking about my pregnancy (she knows about my prior loss and ivf) and I said I was great, just antsy about my NT scan and verifi results on Wednesday. She replied that I should stop worrying because it's SOOO bad for the baby. Okay, so hoping my baby is healthy is bad for it? The way she said it was so smug I wanted to scream. She is constantly telling everyone how she never worries about anything and implying that worrying causes infertility and miscarriages. I'm ignoring her in person and over messenger.

Regarding car/truck/suv - my MIL calls our suv a van and it makes dh completely lose it every time!

EmMilAlly · January 2015

@ashtog and @amc1087 - moms can be terrible with weight issues. Good for both of you for stating how you feel! My mom is very slim and every year gives me clothes for Christmas in her size (2 or 4) and then asks me to try them on in front of everyone. When I come out looking like a stuffed sausage with everything unbuttoned she says, well I tried it on and it fit me perfectly! Grrrrrr.

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