Who else was your SOs DD last night?

Bbvbgurl · January 2015

My New Year's Eve started out nice with a dinner with another friend couple. Then we met a group of friends (husbands coworkers) at a busy bar. I had prepared myself so I was having a decent time and dancing to the music. My husband doesn't normally drink a lot so when I saw him take 4 shots within an hour along with his 3 or 4 rum and cokes, I knew the night was going downhill. At midnight he was barely conscious so I didn't get a New Years kiss. Friends helped me get him to the car and he threw up several times along the way (guess he was jealous of all my morning sickness). I drove him 35 minutes home while he reeked of vomit. I ended up sleeping in the guest bedroom since he collapsed in our bed with his clothes on. I'm feeling really disappointed and sad this morning. He was a jerk when he got really drunk and I feel like there's going to be tension between us now. This was probably the worst New Years of my life and I thought it would be the most exciting due to our little one on the way. Did anyone else have a less than par New Years Eve?

Jessica16393 · January 2015

Yes. I was preparing for a night out when my daughter hit a fever so I'm home all day. My SO isn't home yet (his truck broke down so he is using mine) and as soon as I called to see where he was he was still at his friends house even though he is there every day. He gets home and instantly gets on the phone with a friend and starts making plans that will have me stranded at home all day with him in my truck..I slept on the couch..I see him sleeping and just wondering what excuse he will have when he wakes up to go out and leave me again. Sry for the AW post lol

Bbvbgurl · January 2015

So sorry Jessica! That's awful!

housewifebecomesher · January 2015

I'm not excusing what he did because I would be pissed! But my husband had a couple of these nights when I was pregnant with my daughter and he has been nothing short of amazing since she was born. I just wonder if they sometimes need a last hurrah. Again, not excusing it, but I wouldn't let it taint your view of what he will be like when your baby is born!

That being said I would have an honest talk with him today about your concerns. Make sure to do it while he still feels like crap.

CMSullivan326 · January 2015

I'm sorry, that doesn't sound fun at all. I hope things aren't awkward & you guys can peacefully move past this.

kimmarie1105 · January 2015

Meh, shit happens. He's a grown man and he got drunk, puked and passed out. I've had my fair share of those moments. You said yourself that he doesn't normally drink so I don't think you should be as mad as you are.

mishmardhiono · January 2015

I agree with the above, it was a special occasion how awesome that he could have a good night and let loose. I'm not sure how going out to bars whilst your pregnant with everyone drinking except you made you think you were going to have the best nye ever. Drunk people suck at the best of times. Drunk people congratulating and wanting to touch my belly all night whilst I was sober suckkkkkedddddddd.. Was nice not having to wait for a taxi though

babynails · January 2015

Ok your bad night tops mine! My husband did get really drunk though and it was super annoying. Because my husband is drinking less lately, I think the booze just got to him and he didn't know his limit. Still inexcusable though. It made me wonder if I am going to have to put up with this stupid behavior post baby too. Like me, u were likely being a little hypersensitive considering you were sober but I still don't think it excuses his actions. I say it's fine to feel sad, and let him feel like crap this morning. Maybe go for a morning walk by yourself to cheer up? That's what I plan on doing. Good luck!

Bbvbgurl · January 2015

Haha wow. First of all, I never said I was mad. I said I was disappointed and sad. I had a great time with friends and it's not his drinking that upset me. It's how he treated me when he was drunk. I had the impression this was a support group not a group to pass negative judgement on someone they don't know. Happy new year ladies. I will gladly keep my mouth shut on here from now on.

MrsFriede · January 2015

I am so glad you posted this, I just really need to vent. My DH's family is staying with us (his Oma, aunt, and parents) over the holidays, it's been 2 weeks already and last night they hit my last nerve. His brother and SIL came over to celebrate the New Year with everyone and we like to play games. I love games but we've played CATAN about 40 times in the last two weeks and I wanted to play something else so I suggested we play pass the ace (it's a game I play with my family whenever we get together, which isn't often because everyone lives too far away). It's simple, easy to learn and play and lots of fun. Well these people agree to play but also want to eat at the same time, no big deal, but when a round goes from taking 30 seconds to literally taking 10 minutes I get frustrated. So I suggest finishing the game after they eat and the whole lot of them start making fun of me and calling me impatient, wait for it, because I'm pregnant. I'm seriously the butt of all jokes these days and I just couldn't take it last night so I asked them all to stop saying that stuff but apparently I was too nice, I kept getting "oh is the pregnant lady getting sad" and other such remarks, so I stood up told them (more like yelled) that I had finally had enough, and went to bed. Now DH is pissed at me too, I thought he might stand up for me. I miss my family and my friends and can't wait until these people get the hell out of my house next week. There, rant over, I feel a little better. Happy New Year ladies!

mishmardhiono · January 2015

Bbvbgurl said:
Haha wow. First of all, I never said I was mad. I said I was disappointed and sad. I had a great time with friends and it's not his drinking that upset me. It's how he treated me when he was drunk. I had the impression this was a support group not a group to pass negative judgement on someone they don't know. Happy new year ladies. I will gladly keep my mouth shut on here from now on.

I'm not sure anybody judged you but I think the original post and this kind of points out to you being a little sensitive. Hope you find happiness and let it go.

MrsCaliRN · January 2015

I totally read this post as "Who else was your Significant Other's Dear Daughter last night?" That was extremely confusing for a full minute for me.

Anyways, after reading these posts I just want to say that I'm so sorry for those shitty nights some of you have experienced. You definitely have WAY more patience than I could ever muster up and you certainly don't deserve to be talked to/about or treated that way.

lfaithlove · January 2015

MrsCaliRN said:
I totally read this post as "Who else was your Significant Other's Dear Daughter last night?" That was extremely confusing for a full minute for me.

I WAS JUST TYPING THIS OUT! Haha I finally figured it out. But yeah I was super confused.

megtyrrell · January 2015

On our way to a New Years Eve party, we had a tire blow out on the highway. That was terrifying. AAA came and changed the tire out for the spare. After the party I had to drive us home on back roads while my fiancé vomited out the window. I was so angry at him because I kindly asked him before the party not to drink too much and he just didn't respect that. He's been trying to make up for it all morning. I'm not even that mad anymore.

housewifebecomesher · January 2015

Bbvbgurl said:
Haha wow. First of all, I never said I was mad. I said I was disappointed and sad. I had a great time with friends and it's not his drinking that upset me. It's how he treated me when he was drunk. I had the impression this was a support group not a group to pass negative judgement on someone they don't know. Happy new year ladies. I will gladly keep my mouth shut on here from now on.

I'm so confused! No one was judging you. Trying to commiserate and provide suggestions on what they would do in your shoes...that's what support looks like around here.

kimmarie1105 · January 2015

Bbvbgurl said:
Haha wow. First of all, I never said I was mad. I said I was disappointed and sad. I had a great time with friends and it's not his drinking that upset me. It's how he treated me when he was drunk. I had the impression this was a support group not a group to pass negative judgement on someone they don't know. Happy new year ladies. I will gladly keep my mouth shut on here from now on.

I will absolutely hold you to this last sentence.
And just for shits and giggles I want to add that my gut tells me that as soon as you saw him take those shots your attitude and demeanor completely changed. Not saying that gives him a right to act like a jerk but you really cannot expect a good outcome when someone is drinking and you are aggravating them. Give the guy a break and take full advantage of all your tolerance when you shoot that baby out. Just saying.

carolyngrace · January 2015

housewifebecomesher said:

Haha wow. First of all, I never said I was mad. I said I was disappointed and sad. I had a great time with friends and it's not his drinking that upset me. It's how he treated me when he was drunk. I had the impression this was a support group not a group to pass negative judgement on someone they don't know. Happy new year ladies. I will gladly keep my mouth shut on here from now on.
I'm so confused! No one was judging you. Trying to commiserate and provide suggestions on what they would do in your shoes...that's what support looks like around here.

I agree... you got many supportive and commiserating responses, and ONE person disagreed with you (kind of) and you freak out about it. Not a good sign. I was all ready to share my story, too, but this thread got all dramatic too quick.

aagenthner · January 2015

Did you expect any less from someone when then typically don't drink often and then start throwing back shots and mixed drinks?!? New Years Eve...pretty sure half of America was bombed at midnight. If you wanted some romantic ring in the new year and cheers to bringing a baby into the world this year..you should have stayed home with DH. Also, you failed to really mention how you were treated other than that he was a
Jerk...your OP just complained about his apparent state of drunkenness. I wouldn't complain about getting opinions when you really didn't elaborate on the true reason you are upset.
Needless to say im sure you'll work it out when his hangover wears off..
My hubs is still in bed after vomitting as well but the way I look at it...it's just one night, he deserves to cut loose!

AlyLynn07 · January 2015

I would be annoyed too, mostly because I feel like we are way past the "drinking into oblivion" stage at this point in our lives. BUT, with that being said, I would not anticipate a fun night out while pregnant at a bar on NYE. Which is why we're were in bed by 9... Lame, I know, but totally fine with it.

mathistm · January 2015

My hubby has had a couple of these nights since finding out we are pregnant (which happened much sooner than we thought it would). I try to chalk it up to a couple of last hurrahs before being responsible adults with a child. I got really frustrated at first, particularly because the first time it happened he acted like a complete jackass. After a long conversation and setting some limits, things have been fine. It's important that you share your concerns about it and hold boundaries with it. DH knows if he ever speaks to me again like he did the first time, things would not be pretty so he still goes out and drinks but knows shit will hit the fan if he acts like a douche. Also, I know I am at least a little jealous that I feel like shit on the regular and he is out drinking and having fun. As women actually carrying the child we get it a little sooner I think with the whole responsibility bit. I imagine it is either harder for our guys to feel the responsibility or, for mine at least, it's a bit overwhelming.

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