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Does anyone want a "Step-Parent Check In"?

LindseyM2012LindseyM2012 member
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Just a little I noticed that there are a good amount of step-parents on this board. Being one myself, I know that having a step-child while going through IF adds a little something extra (call it a "sting", call it "emotions", call it whatever...) to this whole process. At least it does for me and sometimes I like to be able to share that. I did so in this last 3T Weekly Check-In with the appropriate warning on my post and have done so in previous Check-In posts.

For those of you who aren't step-parents, is that ok to do? Does it bother anyone if I do that from time to time?

For those of you who are step-parents, would it be a good idea to have a weekly (or bi-weekly) Step-Parent Check-In where we can discuss some of this stuff? Are there enough of us to make a check-in worth while?

Just an idea. Let me know what you think? I'd be happy to post it if people would like.

Me: 28  MH:35

Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013

June 2014 - Dx w/ significant PCOS and referred to RE.

July/August 2014 - Testing complete: Testosterone & AMH very high, FSH slightly high, Vitamin D low, tubes and lining all lovely. DH SA: A+

Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN

Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

Cycle 3 (Jan 2015): 5mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

WTF consult scheduled for 1/29

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    AnnaClaire256AnnaClaire256 member
    Yes! Love it. I've thought about this so many times! I think a check in (maybe bi-weekly) is an awesome idea.

    I think there is definitely an extra element added to IF when you're currently parenting someone else's child/children and I, for one, would LOVE to be able to discuss it with other women who get it!

    Me (29) DH (37)

    Married 7/11

    Actively TTC 3/12

    DX: PCOS

    Current treatment: Break from IUIs until after the holidays

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    SND1231SND1231 member
    I agree with rainbow. I am not a step parent but I could definitely see how it could cause some emotions during all this IF. I personally am fine with the check-in.
    Married: 12/15/2012    TTC: 08/2014
    Husband: 26 SA: normal
    Me: 23 Low AMH and damaged ovaries due to chemotherapy.
    No AF or O in 3 years. HSG showed a slight T shaped uterus.

    High Risk OB 9/29- got the ok to get pregnant.
    RE Appt:  10/28/ U/S showed follicles, but also small damaged ovaries.
    B/W results CD0: all normal except low AMH at 1.3
    Cycle 1-November (TI)- Femera 2.5mg, 2mg Estradoil, and Trigger=BFN
    Cycle 2-December (TI)- Femera 2.5 mg ,4mg Estradoil, and Trigger= No O
    Cycle 3-January (TI)- Femera 5 mg, 2mg Estra    doil, and Trigger=


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    tumbleweed123tumbleweed123 member
    I'm a step-parent and would LOVE a check-in.
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    redandblueredandblue member
    I think it's a great idea! I'm not sure how others feel, but DH is a step parent, so I know it adds a different dynamic to IF. If it was felt okay, I would be interested in being a part of this check-in (of course being sensitive and only if felt my contribution would be helpful or supportive) . Great idea!

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    Me 37 - DH 37 unexplained infertility
    DS born 09/99
    TTC since 2010
    12/11 BFP - ectopic, received methotrexate, benched 4 months 
    08/14 - exploring fertility options

    Tubes clear, SA for DH all clear
    10/14- #1 IUI (femera/ovadril/progesterone), 2 follicles 22/17, post wash count 94 million BFN

    10/14 - #2 IUI (Femera/ovidrel/progesterone ), 2 follies 19/20, post wash 111 million, BFN Dec 2014 Femera BFFN Taking a break to explore foster to adopt!

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    theholmanherdtheholmanherd member
    Neither DH not myself are SPs, but I think this is a great idea. I love that this board is so all-inclusive. It's nice that we don't have to be on multiple boards to get the support we want. It makes us all that much closer, I think.
    Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012
    PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
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    TTCBabyJTTCBabyJ member
    I definitely think it's a great idea. I'm a step parent and it definitely add a special zest to IF. Sometimes I wonder if it comes down to it and I am forced to be childless if I will be able to still be a step parent.
    Me: +35 DH: +35
    TTC: Since January 2013 
    DX: PCOS. Severe Endometriosis, Unicornuate Uterus w/only left tube and left ovary, Pedunculated fibroid (on the outside of uterus) and Anovulation. All conditions diagnosed 8/13
    TX: Metformin
    DH DX: MFI - low morphology, low motility
    Ultrasound shows both kidneys in spite of UU. 
    HSG showed clear tube on the left side. 
    Lap Surgery performed 1/9/14 to remove fibroid and endo (Stage 3)
    • IUI# 1 June 2014 started 100 mg of Clomid - 7dpiui Progesterone: 13: BFN
    • IUI#2  July 2014 started 100 mg of Clomid - 7dpiui Progesterone: 5.75: BFN
    • Natural Cycle - so shocked to be in 2WW - 7dpo Progesterone: 15.5: BFN
    • Working with new RE starting injectables in late August.
    • IUI #3 August 2014  w/ Menopur: BFN
    • Finally ovulating on my own!!
    Waiting to start IVF hopefully
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    tumbleweed123tumbleweed123 member
    TTCBabyJ I'm right there with you. !!!
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    LindseyM2012LindseyM2012 member
    Thanks for the responses, ladies! I was thinking of possibly doing this on a Friday because I know a lot of step child visits happen on the weekends and can trigger the need for support (I am operating under the assumption that the majority of birth moms are the custodial parents, but there are always exceptions). Does that work?

    Me: 28  MH:35

    Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013

    June 2014 - Dx w/ significant PCOS and referred to RE.

    July/August 2014 - Testing complete: Testosterone & AMH very high, FSH slightly high, Vitamin D low, tubes and lining all lovely. DH SA: A+

    Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN

    Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

    Cycle 3 (Jan 2015): 5mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN

    WTF consult scheduled for 1/29

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    AnnaClaire256AnnaClaire256 member
    Fridays make sense to me. DH has primary custody of the boys, but I think you're right and he's probably the exception.

    Me (29) DH (37)

    Married 7/11

    Actively TTC 3/12

    DX: PCOS

    Current treatment: Break from IUIs until after the holidays

    -----All Welcome----

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    ~~~January 3T Siggy Challenge: New Year's Resolutions~~~

    (I don't do resolutions...so I stole T-Rex's)

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    tumbleweed123tumbleweed123 member
    Any day works for me.  We have custody part of the weekend and part of the work week - but I can always use support with this topic pretty much any day of the week. :) 
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    MommyMonroe05MommyMonroe05 member
    Love the idea!



    Me(28) & DH(43)
    Married: July 26, 2014
    TTC Since: July 2013
    Diagnosis: PCOS(Me) & Morphology(DH)
    Treatments: Oct. 2014 - Metformin ER 2000mg/Day + Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel + TI = BFN
    Nov. 2014 - Metformin ER 2000mg/Day + Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel + TI = BFN
    Dec. 2014 - Metformin ER 2000mg/Day + Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel +TI = BFN
    Jan. 2015 - Metformin ER 2000mg/Day + Clomind 100mg + Ovidrel + IUI #1 = ???

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