OK I will ask for advice.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

I hesitated because this isn't a place where I'm popular. BUT....I can get proper criticism as well. Like, if I'm being a dumb ass....someone is gonna tell it. With no remorse. And I admire that.

So I met a boy. I think it must have been three mos ago that I was really just having a total effing meltdown over the ex and his new chick. Whom I'm pretty sure there was an affair with.....since I was getting the CC bills showing purchases out at bars I know he wasn't with me at......at times he was supposedly at "physical therapy". Who knows, maybe it wasn't even her. In any case, yeah, it was a mess. But now it's been eight months since he moved out. I'm over him. Regardless of her or anything else, it wasn't gonna work! I started seriously thinking about dating after The Meltdown subsided. I've had several dates, mostly bad really. Actually, one was great but the sex was AWFUL. I've learned a few things.

I actually met this guy when I was newly single. Online. And in no shape to be dating, really. But he deleted his profile. I was bummed out. Then mos later he gets back on and messages me and we've been talking like three mos now (five if you count before he deleted, I guess). At first, we mutually agreed we were just going to have fun together. And we have been. But now.....I really think I like him. A lot. I think he likes me too because he texts me every night and is constantly sweet to me, telling me all these amazing things he likes about me. He's tried, a couple of times, to get me to admit what I want out of this but I've yet to admit anything. Mainly because the D is not final. And this is all happening kinda fast! I don't know enough about him!

What I do know: OMG, he's hot. Like underwear model hot. I wouldn't think this guy would look at me twice. I want to take naked photos of him and show SOMEONE how hot he is. Anyone, I don't care. He's amazing in bed. And he's kinda got his shit together. Out of the AF, finishing college, etc. He knows about my daughter and her autism. It hasn't put him off yet (although he hasn't met her either). The other catch.....

He's younger. Eight years younger. 24. Anyone have any experience with this? I have no idea what to expect at all. As far as obstacles this could create. For the record, this guy is likable enough I'm open to more children if it became long term. I wasn't before. Not saying I would just to have the relationship....but I think I was closing that off before because my marriage wasn't good. I have so much fun with him, he is so sweet, and so awesome that I think I'd have a family with him if it went that far.

Thoughts, advice, etc appreciated. I'm so freaked out. I don't wanna make bad choices or get hurt.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

NO!

Tell it. Seriously.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Nicely, if possible.

But if it's "you don't like him, your'e just getting over ex....".......no. Really, it is over and we are civil if disagreeing on certain things.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Okay, but you have to say why.

And if it's time....then honestly, I'm done with thinking this site is really for honest advice.. Because I was told I should be happy about an extra person to love IB three months after my ex moved out and had a relationship with a person he intro'd to her six weeks after he moved out. So if someone says "Oh, it's too soon....." whatevs. it's been eight months. I don't feel wrong about how I feel.....just not prepared.

If it's because I made mean comments about her.....whatever...get back to me when it happens to you. She has hair exactly like Justin Bieber. I was mad. It is what it is.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Okay keep being passive aggressive cuz it's cool and everyone else will get it. You are so cool on Tb.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Oh okay you're being aggressive... I'm sorry isn't your kid, like, not breathing or something? lol

#dramaticinternetmomwhoismaybejustdrunkandtheirkidisfine

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

I'm not really. I think you just never liked me and are a super bitter unhappy person. I mean, most of your posts are about how your life sucks or your kid sick or your husband sucks in some way or something isn't going your way, right? It's on paper, people can look.

Go to bed so you can wake up with your terribly ill child, lol.

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

Wtf.

I mean....Wtaf

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

lol

Okay nevermind.

I shoulda come back and said "it was way wrong when i said ex's gf looked like poss lesbian.....and I really should a returned that cart....plus, yay Iraqi freedoms!!!!"

Seriously, if your kid's respiratory rate just went below 30 get the fuck off the internet you goddamn idiot. Or I dunno, maybe you're just a liar? Because I know that no ER would be all cool with that. Or any doc. How old is your kid again?

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

Dude.

Fuck the fuck off.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Yes I know, RR. Which normal is 12-24. But during flu season? I'd be a little concerned.

Keep up your woeful tales, dipshit.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Again, how old is your kid? I'm pretty sure it's different during flu season. And if that is the normal rate, why call a doc?

K martyr mama, as always. Everything is so hard and depressing for you right?

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Well, I'm glad you sobered up. Again, if you wanna elaborate on why you have a problem with what I actually posted, go ahead. If not, stfu. Because you're always bitter, annoying, and sour. Maybe you need a divorce?

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

I meant above, lol. Regardless, wtf? If my kid had respiratory troubles that warranted a nurse call, I wouldn't be like "Let's update the Bump about this!!!!"

but way to go.

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

Yeah. Seems like you're back on the stable train and doing great Brandi...........

Clearly....

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

3peat said:

*has no idea how this fight broke out* To OPs question, no he is too young, and you are rebounding, so enjoy the sex while it lasts and stop overthinking it.

Well, def not first guy I slept with....isn't that a rebound? That was a few mos back.

[Deleted User] · December 2014

I'm 100% sure that the whole purpose of this thread was to start some kind of drama.

PrimRoseMama · December 2014

Dude @HookBringsYouBack‌ -- WTAF? People don't give you exactly what you want, immediately, & you flip out? Leave kids out of it, JFC.

If you really want a stranger's two cents: hold off on a serious relationship until you get through this meltdown. From your freak out in this post it's clear you are still angry, unstable & not at all in a good place to be in a relationship.

I don't even know you & I can see you need to take a deep breath. Focus on getting some personal counseling to work through your emotions. An internet message board cannot give you what you need right now..

Which is a big, frosty glass of Simmer The Fuck Down.

PrimRoseMama · December 2014

@pobrecita‌ : I hope your LO feels better ASAP. I'm sorry he is having breathing troubles. It sounds frightening.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

pobrecita said:

No1curr?

"I'm Pobrecita.....my name means I may or may not be a sour bitch. but I don't know why people react to my monotonous boring replies to everything. My life sucks and I'll never admit that."

Anyone who was happy wouldn't complain every single time their kid has a sniffle and it impedes their drinking. Talk to someone about Zoloft if you haven't already tried that one.

PrimRoseMama · December 2014

Can I get links on this [acting like a] hot mess? Something tells me the BSC runs deep here & the history is hilarious.

And GDI I like Blues Traveller. Don't ruin it for me! X_X

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

HookBringsYouBack said:

pobrecita said:

No1curr?

"I'm Pobrecita.....my name means I may or may not be a sour bitch. but I don't know why people react to my monotonous boring replies to everything. My life sucks and I'll never admit that."

Anyone who was happy wouldn't complain every single time their kid has a sniffle and it impedes their drinking. Talk to someone about Zoloft if you haven't already tried that one.

QFP ...You are acting like a miserable bitch. Please stop. Please go seek help. You are not OK.

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

Her kid is fucking fine. She's a dumb ass who is probably drunk as usual.

In any case, I'd like someone to point out specifically how I'm incoherent. Seriously? lol Whatever. I was told when I was here it was normal and "yay!" that ex met someone new and I should love her as a second mama. This was four mos after he moved out. And FTR, my kid has been pissing all over our apartment and acting out since he moved into his new place and her pedi is pretty concerned.

But TB is right. And it's I'm the unstable one....the one who has been casually dating the past five mos and only seriously the past few.....it's all me!

Guess I shouldn't have insulted those military wives dude.....

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

I sure hope so.

2 reports so far in this thread...and counting.

PrimRoseMama · December 2014

@pobrecita‌ : seems as though you have really tussled someone's jimmies... ;;)

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

no. lol

I think being a bitch in replies for no reason is a good reason to react, sorry. I didn't say anything to make anyone think I'm just some desperate loser or whatever. All I'm getting is it's okay for ex to get his sloppy seconds but if I come here EIGHT MONTHS LATER and talk about a guy who has been amazing to me, I'm a psycho.

and if you don't wanna admit it's because of my hx here, whatevs. But I'm not gonna pretend like pobrecita isn't an unstable mess, as usual. WTF is wrong with a person who is claiming respiratory distress in their kid but is on TB? Get the fuck off of here, turn on your shower, and continue sobering up dumb ass.

lifesaverz · December 2014

Wow. Just wow. I do remember your history but this is worse than I've ever seen from you...you are acting like a total asshat, OP. Who the hell says that about someone's kid. I'm sorry Pobrecita. OP I had no problem with your original question, it was the way you completely jumped down people's throats in your responses.

[Deleted User] · December 2014

@pobrecita‌ is a great mom. Brandi has already proven that she's way off the rails. I think that she would have attacked reg who responded simply because she wanted to start shit. The whole point of her OP was to get eyes rolling and start something with whoever told her what she didn't want to hear...like all of her posts.

LightBright515 · December 2014

Because a baby with breathing issues is so hilarious?

HookBringsYouBack · December 2014

SweetTurnip said:

Umm your dating life =/= why you are bsc and unstable. But keep bringing up your ex's new gf. It really helps show us how you are over him and moving on.

I don't even know if he's with her for sure anymore! lol

I was just making a point. A person he met six weeks after he moved out was "a new person to love my daughter"......

Just shows the mentality of this board.

I'll leave with this: Pobrecita, get some fucking help. Anyone who is online claiming they sobered up while their kid was sick is a fucking loser. Get drunk all you want, maybe just wait til your kid's alright. Which, btw, TB is not the place to be concerned with if you REALLY think his resp status is in distress. honestly. And get some goddamn therapy you fucking Daria. You're a depressing individual who was still upset about BFing years later. Get it together woman. You have bigger issues.

Nite!

PrimRoseMama · December 2014

@HookBringsYouBack‌ : if my kid was pissing in my house or having emotional adjustment issues after my family went to hell, I sure as shit would not be asking for internet strangers' opinions on my dating issues. Dating & getting laid wouldn't even be on my radar-- that's the truth of it.

FFS-- spazz out & insult internet strangers less & worry about the real shit plaguing your life more.

You're so obsessed with making sure you get pobrecita or something that you are failing to see how off your hinges you sound. Holy shit.

Dating is the least of your worries, mate.

LightBright515 · December 2014

I've never seen somebody so invested in a single bumpies history..

PrimRoseMama · December 2014

HookBringsYouBack said:
no. lol

I think being a bitch in replies for no reason is a good reason to react, sorry. I didn't say anything to make anyone think I'm just some desperate loser or whatever. All I'm getting is it's okay for ex to get his sloppy seconds but if I come here EIGHT MONTHS LATER and talk about a guy who has been amazing to me, I'm a psycho.

and if you don't wanna admit it's because of my hx here, whatevs. But I'm not gonna pretend like pobrecita isn't an unstable mess, as usual. WTF is wrong with a person who is claiming respiratory distress in their kid but is on TB? Get the fuck off of here, turn on your shower, and continue sobering up dumb ass.

Dude-- you're acting like a psycho for taking cheap shots about the health of another poster's child. All because she didn't light up & squee that you are boning an underwear model. For real? For real?!

I have no clue who the fuck you are, @HookBringsYouBack‌ , truly. I don't know you from Adam. If your ex cheated on you then that is messed up & shitty. No doubt. However, if your plan is to make me believe that you flipping shit over nothing & then demonizing him isn't a regular occurrence? I'm not buying what you are selling.

I don't know what beef you have with pobrecita-- but you aren't winning anyone over acting like this.

LightBright515 · December 2014

All hail @mischiefmanaged611‌ for that awesome QFP.

acesup · December 2014

This is what happens when I go to sleep?! Jaysus

BYE FELICIA!

@pobrecita‌ ((hugs)) hope DS is feeling better!

LadyXaverian · December 2014

I haven't posted as much here lately, but this is some BS. I'm glad BB was banned, and I'm sorry you had to read those BS insults @pobrecita. I hope your LO is feeling better today.