TTC after 35
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Second Opinion Meltdown
Austrogermokee
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So, I set up a consult with the other fertility clinic in town, because I'm getting so frustrated. I feel like our RE won't level with us about our chances, and won't give us straight answers about our diagnosis. I have a blocked tube, then I don't. I have extensive endometriosis, then it's mild.
I asked DH to go with me, because I get overwhelmed when I need to process a lot of spoken information very quickly (mild learning disability). He started making jokes about how he was no help because he was just going to read a book while he was there anyway. That's when the bawling, mouth open, ugly crying started, I am very, very not up for jokes right now.
Luckily he backpedaled and apologized right away, but I basically had to lay it on the line. I have been through an abusive upbringing, unemployment, an eating disorder, a divorce, you name it. IF is the worst thing I've ever been through, because it just goes on and on. There's no fix and no relief.
So, here's hoping the new RE helps. At the very least, I want somebody to tell us the truth so that if parenthood isn't in our future, we can let go and move on.
Me: 38 DH: 40 TTC#1 (and likely only) since 9/13. Saw RE 5/14, SA good, AMH 2.36, FSH 7.2, estradiol 69.6 indicating good egg reserve. Using OPKs. First Letrozole cycle 6/14, a burst cyst and a BFN. Second Letrozole cycle 7/14, BFN.
Update 11/14 - had laparoscopy 10/28, good news is that my uterus and left tube look good, and they were able to drain the cyst on my left ovary. Bad news is that right tube and ovary have endo and scar tissue, so they're pretty useless.. Best news is that we finally have some answers and a path forward. Taking 7.5 mg letrozole CD 2-6 to put that good left ovary through its paces.
UPDATE 2/2015 - We switched to another fertility clinic, but fortunately we don't have to start all over. We're doing two cycles of Clomid plus IUI, if neither of those take, we'll do IVF in April, potentially with ICSI. (DH's SA has gone downhill, likely due to excessive exercise.) IUI#1 2/25/15....
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Re: Second Opinion Meltdown
I hope you get some strait answers. Maybe tell the doctor right away that you want him to to be honest and upfront about everything. No sugar coating.
Let us know how it goes.
Me:39, DH:40
DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04
TTC#3
NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13
Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks
CP 2/14
All welcome
I hope that you like the new RE. Make sure you let them know you don't want anything sugar coated.
I understand your frustration. More *hugs* just because
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I agree with PPs that letting the Dr. know exactly what you're looking for is a good idea. I hope you're able to get some real answers! Hugs.
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
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I am sorry about your IL's visit, that would be very tense. Can YH talk to them and ask them not to try and "help"?
These holidays really tend to amplify difficult IF feelings. Anybody have a quaalude? Do they still make quaaludes?? GL.
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!
Good luck with the in-law visit. It sounds like a good idea for your DH to get some alone time with them to maybe squelch the topic.
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BFP Nov 2015, PPROM Feb 2016
ER #1 May 2017, 15 retrieved, 10 fertilized, 3 day 5.
ER#2 July 2017, 22 retrieved, 13 fertilized, 6 day 5/6
9 embryos tested for pgs and pgd.
FET #1 9.29.17- 1 embryo-BFN
FET#2 12.19.17- I embryo-BFP 1/1/18! Happy New Year to me! EDD 9/6/18
Baby boy born 9.11.18- the love of my life!
It's hard to be on the outside when you just wish someone you love could be happy and there's nothing you can do really to help make it happen.
I hope your next appt is helpful and productive!