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August 2015 Moms
So I'm curious to know how all the Xmas announcements went...
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Re: So I'm curious to know how all the Xmas announcements went...
Mom: Why do you think you're feeling so sick today?
Me: oh, it's probably all this rich food we've been eating. So many sweets.
Mom: ahhhhhh!!!! You're pregnant!!!! (Happy dance to follow)
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Ours was great! We had told my husband's sister & her husband on Thanksgiving a couple days after finding out since we were able to spend it with them now that we have some family on that side of the country. We told my parents on Skype a few days later and his parents the day after that on Skype. So we had his brother and my brother left. Yesterday at Christmas lunch at my BIL & SIL's house, the husband wore a button-up then took it off when it was time to go through the serving line. Undershirt (from Zazzle.com) said "New Dad Est. 2015." I took a video and we waited for them to notice. I thought it would take longer than it did. Two minutes in, my SIL starts to point at the shirt and says "hey!" with an excited, yet confused tone. She told my BIL to look at the shirt and he stared for a long time, grabbed the shirt to read it better, and finally said - since everyone was so quiet - "is this a big joke on me? What's going on?" I said "I'm pregnant!" Of course they were overjoyed, but definitely confused at first since they were the only ones there who didn't know
Time to tell my brother and SIL today! Not sure how it will work, though! She was due with their first (and first grandbaby on both sides) six days ago & could have him any time. They live a few hours away so we will drive down and hopefully he will be born and we can share the news before we go back to the other side of the country! I just hope it's not between her contractions or pushing
Side notes for others who may be going through the same thing: Announcing it so early is completely foreign to me (8w3d today). We'd always planned on waiting until, idk, the second trimester or so, but we lost our first pregnancy early on this past Spring, so it was a surprise to our immediate families that we were even trying, let alone had been pregnant and had a loss (the only ones we ever told about any of it). So we decided that this time around we would tell more early on. I was hesitant, but agreed with my husband and it has actually turned out to be extremely helpful and more exciting than before. When we kept a secret the first time, it was like we kept forgetting about it haha but now that people know, we can all talk about it together and there's the hype! FB post coming probably Valentine's Day, well after first appointment in mid-January. The most important people already know
P.S.: Don't forget to share your announcement videos on MotherGlow.com. It's a site dedicated to pregnancy announcements and a sister-site to military homecoming videos. There haven't been many posted in a long time and we need to work together to revive these sites. I spent hours watching their videos after discovering the website one day. I don't think you'll be disappointed.
My mother on the other hand didn't seem too thrilled. I think she is getting more excited as the days go by though.
We will not go public for another few months I'd think.
For my husbands side I just snapchatted my niece with a big mouth a picture that said "Guess who's pregnant?!" And then she freaked out and let the whole family know. Which caused all my BIL's to say "Good Job!" Or "Nice work!" to my husband.
That's what I'm thinking! Gotta look up some cute bday announcement ideas
We haven't announced on FB either yet, mainly because we hope to tell my family in person in a few weeks when they come to visit.
TL;DR
First we had to tell SIL b/c I watch her DD for her. She was happy for us but not for herself as he was worried that watching my niece would become too much once I had another baby. She and her DH were already considering other aspects of the arrangement and decided that my schedule/her DH's schedule (which is seasonal dependent) wasn't worth it and her DH to quit his pt job while she is pursuing a promotion and they let me go as childcare provider. I totally understand their reasons but I still felt kinda like I was fired over being pregnant even tho that's not what it was. That was about two weeks ago.
So we started our official announcements on Christmas Eve. DD wore a shirt that day that said "Big Sister August 2015" and some friends and sister and mom and Grammy were all set to come by. One of the friends already knew and the other is dyslexic so the one friend brought it up and read it to the other friend. Then my mom never showed up but my sister and Grammy did. Grammy has cataracts and it took sis a minute to notice the shirt but she caught on, was excited, and told Grammy who was happy but kinda gave me the impression that she wouldn't let on if she had any negative opinions or worries.
Mom eventually showed up after DD went to bed, fell asleep on my floor while watching my sis and I set up presents (DH was on the couch in an Advil coma after twisting his ankle earlier that day-he never takes anything ever so the Advil hit him pretty hard- he's much better now). When mom woke up she asked if she could come back tomorrow when I'd already made other plans and reminded her that she had been expected earlier in the day when DD was awake. She stamped her foot and stormed out growling "Merry Christmas" through her tears. I'm sure my sister told her on the way home or the next day (they live together). I still haven't talked to my mom but obviously we had some communication issues this holiday and DH and I plan to invite her over soon and hash it out before next week is out.
Well, Christmas Day we were set to go over to SIL's after DD's nap. We told her that at the weekend after thanksgiving that we'd need to come over after the nap and the earliest would be around 2pm. Sometime after noon yesterday she texted asking when we'd be over. DH told her "looks like 3:30" she texted back "well, (niece) needs to nap at 4:30 or 5" which is weird bc if our niece skips her midday nap they just put her to bed early. Why would they nap her at 5pm just so she can get up at 7 or 8 pm and go to bed hours later? Anyway, we get there closer to 4pm and everyone is angry at us or "being late". MIL and FIL and aunt in law all have varying optometric ability and didn't bother to look closely at what DD's shirt said so we pointed it out to MIL right before she left.
She said "you're kidding? Well, good luck with that." DH and SIL are exactly the age spacing that DD and this new LO are expected to be.
FIL was very confused but seemed happy and I suspect it is still sinking in.
Aunt in law was very excited and happy so that was nice.
I called my gramps today and my step-gran said that my sister told them last night so I have to call my brother (who had to cancel our Christmas plans on the 23rd) before my sis tells him too. My gramps just made a joke about how we need more money. I told him we were doing alright thankyouverymuch.
I'll let sis take care of anyone else as I've already told my besties.
We felt really bad that things didn't turn out so great but maybe DH's parents need it broken gently instead of "surprise" announced next time. Last time we just told them and they were all "oh that's great!!" So we weren't expecting this. And my mom is another story. Last time she screamed at us that our lives were over so I wasn't expecting her to be thrilled but she knew we wanted more so I think she would have said "congratulations" if she hadn't fallen asleep and then stormed out. My gramps is OBSESSED with money and cynical about everyone's ability to handle life (he's forever telling every one of us what to do and how it is) so his reaction was nice enough.
I'm glad some people are genuinely happy for us. It helps to talk about it that some family members are not that excited about LO #2 for us. I really would have been okay with "oh that's nice. Congratulations" rather than the jokes about money and the sarcastic "good luck" but nothing will ever be as bad as my mom's reaction over DD so I'm grateful that we didn't have a repeat of that and that everyone knows and it's out there and over with.
DH and I are hella EXCITED and that's the important part anyway!
We learned our lesson and she won't be told anything until after the point we are ready to share.
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We told my MIL (also widowed) on Christmas eve the same way. She didnt get it either. Once we explained she exclaimed "I am going to have a grandson!". In my DH family there are all boy cousins and they all had boys too so everyone assumes it's a boy.
It was a little sad because my mom and FIL would have been so excited but hopefully they are both guardian angels to keep this little bean safe and healthy. (It's our first)
It was the complete opposite with my in laws. I printed the pictures out for them and put them in cards. Everyone started screaming and they were all ecstatic. My mother in law almost cried. It was nice to see someone give a damn.
I made hubby this:
which he got to open when he came home from lunch on Christmas Eve...it was amazing! I told him I had one last gift for him and I hoped he liked it because it was non-returnable. He opened it and first thought, "Oh just another cute arts and crafts project of hers" but then when he flipped it over and saw it.. he said.. "Seriously?!" and was ecstatic!
Christmas Day we went and told his parents and gave them this..
and they were immediately in tears. Best christmas ever, I have to say! (that is until our sweet baby gets here next year!!)
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Sister: Through streaming tears... "REALLY?! Oh my GOD I'm so excited!"
Mom: Through streaming tears... "Whew! I'm having a hot flash. Really? Really? REALLY? Another baby to love!"
Dad: Again?
Brother: Wow. Um. Congrats! Really?
Some other gems have included, "Don't you know how babies are made at this point?" and "How MANY kids are you guys going to have?!"
I guess having 4 kids closer together is pretty difficult for people to understand. We are over the moon!