What? I didn't have an internal exam until 36 weeks but had many doctor's visits before than. How on earth have you let yourself get this far along without seeing a doctor?? That's not very responsible.
When did you begin the process of seeking out a doctor? Is it possible they are declining you because you are so far along and don't want that liability? Have you had an ultrasound? Why can't you see the doctor you saw with the 2 appointments? Where is the doctor from your first birth?
There is a lot missing to this story. OP you need to fill in the blanks, internal exams are not typically performed until late in the 3rd tri. So why would you not be seeking prenatal care?
I know that many women have some truly legitimate reasons for avoiding internal exams, and I will assume you are among them. That said, I'm really shocked by your irresponsibility. You are 36 weeks have have barely had any prenatal care. You're in a deep freaking hole; stop digging!
I'm 34 weeks and haven't had a single internal exam yet. And I've had a million docs appointments. Heck I've had 4-5 ultrasounds. How the heck have you only been twice? Get your ass to the doctor ASAP
Please see a doctor. It makes no sense the doctors are refusing you based on something that normally isn't done until later in unless there is a medical reason to do so before hand.
I don't know your reasons for avoiding internal exams, that is not my business, but I do know that you can decline them if you are uncomfortable.
It is horrifyingly irresponsible that you are refusing to get the prenatal care that you need. I find it impossible to believe that no doctor will see you based on not wanting an internal exam - why would that even come up at the time you should have started seeing a doctor? And plenty of women decline those exams without incident. You need to start taking responsibility for yourself and your baby and go see a doctor.
actually that is the whole story. I moved within the last year and never found a primary obgyn yet in that area, because i've never even had a pap smear. So since I would be a new patient with them, they all have said they wanted to do an initial exam, and when I said I was uncomfortable with that along with the internal exams(which i know when they start I've been pregnant before) they have all said they can not help me. I've been searching for a doctor since I was 12 weeks(which is when I found out). The two doctor visits were with two different doctors and with those ones I meet with the nurse in the beginning of the appointment which did an ultrasound so I knew how far along I was and then gender also getting other blood work and stuff done, after these test the doctor came in and I discussed with them that I did not feel comfortable with them wanting to do an exam since I was a new patient let alone internal exams at all, and every single one of them have turned me down. So no I'm not being irresponseable I have been trying I have called at least 15 doctors making sure they understood how i felt some as far as 2 hours away and still no luck. I take vitamins everyday, work out, watch what I eat normally vegetarian, adding in some meats to make sure I get the proper nutrition. I'm a nursing student with a minor in nutrition i know how to take care of myself and what to watch for.
I rather not discuss why I am so uncomfortable with them, I did try to allow them and get through it with my first pregnancy because I wanted to make sure everything was right and healthy. I tried twice and both times caused me to have a huge anxiety attack to the point I almost passed out both times before they even had to chance to do it. And nope I've never had a pap smear.
My first pregnancy went fine I even did the group b strep because that is something they allow you to do yourself if you would like(even though it wasn't necessary because I was having a planned csection. My baby and myself both were extremely healthy through the hole thing with no issues, she was born at a very good weight/size with no issues and we were sent home after being in the hospital for three days which is the normal time for a csection.
Think of the example you are setting for your daughter. I don't mean that to sound cruel, but you need to find the courage to do the right thing for your children. I know all about anxiety and panic attacks. Find a doctor that you can trust ASAP and explain your fears to them.
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Uh ya. Time to see a therapist (actually time was 30 something weeks ago) . Putting your child in potential danger because you don't want an internal exam is redic.
so since its so "redic" considering they do not need to see if my cervix is thinning or anything of that nature, it can cause more harm. for example spreading bacteria/infection, cause your water to break, or even cause your cervix to prematurely stimulate, etc. internal exams and not truly helpful or even extremely safe. Your cervix can be thinning and you may be dialated (which is really all they learn from doing them) but that truly means nothing to when you will actually have your baby. it all depends on your body, the exams don't give you an accurate measurement you could be 1cm and have your child within hour or 7cm and not have her/him for days. They only thing they are helpful for are if you're at risk for a premature labor, but honestly unless there is a true sign or reason to believe something along those lines might happen most healthy pregnancies could go the whole time without them.
but on another note if that was the only reason i didn't want one i would suck it up and get it anyway so i could find a doctor. and please explain how my child is in potential danger? like i said i know what to watch for. I've been keeping tract of my weight, size of my belly, movements, etc. everything they do at appointments. so besides actually talking to a doctor and getting exams what am i missing? the only test I haven't got with this pregnancy so far that i had with the first is the group b one.
I rather not discuss why I am so uncomfortable with them, I did try to allow them and get through it with my first pregnancy because I wanted to make sure everything was right and healthy. I tried twice and both times caused me to have a huge anxiety attack to the point I almost passed out both times before they even had to chance to do it. And nope I've never had a pap smear.
My first pregnancy went fine I even did the group b strep because that is something they allow you to do yourself if you would like(even though it wasn't necessary because I was having a planned csection. My baby and myself both were extremely healthy through the hole thing with no issues, she was born at a very good weight/size with no issues and we were sent home after being in the hospital for three days which is the normal time for a csection.
For health reasons you should be having regular Pap smears. You are sexually active, and would need to stay on top of your cervical health.
Therapy & some anxiety management (Xanax? Benedryl?) . You need the Pap smears & at least one or two internals during active labor.
You really do owe it to yourself, your cervical health & your kids to do right by your health. At this point you are acting irresponsible. I don't mean to minimize your anxiety-- but this is not about you anymore. You owe it to your kids to take care of yourself.
Well it seems you erased your original post but I read it last night. As a survivor of sexual abuse I can understand your not wanting a pap smear. I personally did not have one until I was 30 years old (when sexually active) and I had one early in my pregnancy. They are not as bad as you think and if you feel uncomfortable with the doctor you are always allowed to bring a third party in with you for support. I've also had extensive therapy and developed coping skills to deal with issues like this. I also tell who ever examines me that I have a history and they are very gentle and talk you through it. Even as a survivor of sexual abuse I cannot for the life of me understand why you are putting your baby at risk. As others have said you could very well have child protective services involved for not getting proper care. Also any risks of an internal exam are far outweighed by any risks of doing an internal exam. I honestly suggest therapy whether or not you have been sexually abused or not because cognitively something is wrong for you to think it is acceptable to refuse care to your unborn child over getting an internal exam.
I rather not discuss why I am so uncomfortable with them, I did try to allow them and get through it with my first pregnancy because I wanted to make sure everything was right and healthy. I tried twice and both times caused me to have a huge anxiety attack to the point I almost passed out both times before they even had to chance to do it. And nope I've never had a pap smear.
My first pregnancy went fine I even did the group b strep because that is something they allow you to do yourself if you would like(even though it wasn't necessary because I was having a planned csection. My baby and myself both were extremely healthy through the hole thing with no issues, she was born at a very good weight/size with no issues and we were sent home after being in the hospital for three days which is the normal time for a csection.
So why the c-section?
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I understand you don't or can't do a pap smear but it is for the health and safety of yourself and children.
As for the prenatal care, I understand you plan on having a c section but that really needs to be discussed with your care provider because if you walk into a hospital in labor they may not be willing to do an emergency c section or you may be to far along to be able to have the c section. Also, I had a perfectly healthy first pregnancy and a crap second pregnancy. It started out great and the last week(week 35) i started feeling slightly ill, I went in for a growth scan and i walked out no longer pregnant. I suffered from severe and sudden pre eclampsia, my baby suffered from in uterine growth restriction and her cord was wrapped around her neck twice. Everything was great - I measured great, blood pressure was fine and everything and then bam out of nowhere...crap. my symptoms didn't seem that bad either. I had normal swelling throughout my pregnancy and only on the day of the growth scan did I have a minor headache with some blurred vision (which I have astigmatism so that's the usual issue).
Please find a way to get yourself checked. Work with your doctor, tell them your anxieties and just attempt the pap smear!
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I don't know your reasons for avoiding internal exams, that is not my business, but I do know that you can decline them if you are uncomfortable.
You really do owe it to yourself, your cervical health & your kids to do right by your health. At this point you are acting irresponsible. I don't mean to minimize your anxiety-- but this is not about you anymore. You owe it to your kids to take care of yourself.
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Well it seems you erased your original post but I read it last night. As a survivor of sexual abuse I can understand your not wanting a pap smear. I personally did not have one until I was 30 years old (when sexually active) and I had one early in my pregnancy. They are not as bad as you think and if you feel uncomfortable with the doctor you are always allowed to bring a third party in with you for support. I've also had extensive therapy and developed coping skills to deal with issues like this. I also tell who ever examines me that I have a history and they are very gentle and talk you through it. Even as a survivor of sexual abuse I cannot for the life of me understand why you are putting your baby at risk. As others have said you could very well have child protective services involved for not getting proper care. Also any risks of an internal exam are far outweighed by any risks of doing an internal exam. I honestly suggest therapy whether or not you have been sexually abused or not because cognitively something is wrong for you to think it is acceptable to refuse care to your unborn child over getting an internal exam.
As for the prenatal care, I understand you plan on having a c section but that really needs to be discussed with your care provider because if you walk into a hospital in labor they may not be willing to do an emergency c section or you may be to far along to be able to have the c section. Also, I had a perfectly healthy first pregnancy and a crap second pregnancy. It started out great and the last week(week 35) i started feeling slightly ill, I went in for a growth scan and i walked out no longer pregnant. I suffered from severe and sudden pre eclampsia, my baby suffered from in uterine growth restriction and her cord was wrapped around her neck twice. Everything was great - I measured great, blood pressure was fine and everything and then bam out of nowhere...crap. my symptoms didn't seem that bad either. I had normal swelling throughout my pregnancy and only on the day of the growth scan did I have a minor headache with some blurred vision (which I have astigmatism so that's the usual issue).
Please find a way to get yourself checked. Work with your doctor, tell them your anxieties and just attempt the pap smear!