@knitnut@lawsonellis thanks guys it definitely was awful. I'm not sure I can fully blame it on heartburn now because DS woke up this morning with diarrhea and said he threw up in his mouth while he was going. I really hope we're not getting sick for christmas..fuck!
Ugh, my FIL. No one is allowed to express an emotion other than happy-go-lucky/everything is perfect around him at all. If you do, you get comments about how you/your party/your whatever is wonderful and people love you and everything will be amazing. It is very sweet of him to want to make everything better, but seriously, I am allowed to have an emotion or be frustrated about something. I should also be able to express said emotions (we're talking about in conversation, not getting upset or angry, just saying "oh, this is annoying") without being made to feel bad about having them, which is what happens when he tries to placate me.
This happened during wedding planning. If I said finding a band was hard or that I was concerned that the reception site coordinator wasn't responding to me, he replied with how wonderful the reception would be. What I wanted to say, but didn't, was that "yes, it will be wonderful, because I'm working my ass off to make it wonderful."
DH says this is simply how FIL is and that DH has always felt that he has to keep his real feelings from him. I think it sucks and would like to talk honestly to my family. I can see this ending up as simply wanting to stay away from them because it is HARD to be perky and cheerful ALL THE TIME. Ugh!
Seconded. We've got a similar one in our close family. It is nice to have someone be positive to balance out some of the other family members, but sometimes a little empathy would be nice.
Re: Monday Bitchfest
Agreed- fuck heartburn.