After our last discussion right before Thanksgiving, DH agreed that it was time to go ahead and do the official evaluation for autism. He just told me his resistance is totally out of fear and knows that its the right time (DS is 4) DH wanted to see if therapy would *fix* it all but its hard to deny that not everything looks normal two and a half years after starting speech, OT and recently vision therapy. It feels good we are on the same page now and I can tell DH is happier and he even used the "A" word a few times as if its not completely unreasonable to think its what it is. I think its a relief to us both to be close to hearing an official dx. It may make the future a bit easier to plan. Thank you to those that were patient with me in my choice to wait this long. He has been getting all the therapies I listed and also going to preschool twice a week, so we were not denying there was stuff going on. My school district insurance is so good that I don't need a dx or pedi referral to get private therapies (not sure if anyone does). So we have plugging away on those since he was only 2 and had only 5 words.
Anyway, our official intake for parents only is January 27th. The actual observation has no date/time set yet. I have sat and stared at this guy's online profile and his credentials hoping that this is a person that will be able to answer my questions. After talking to the SPED teachers at my school, apparently this is the "it" guy to have dx. My pedi backed up this opinion. We live in a medium sized city so I do not have a ton of local options. My pedi said its not necessary to go all the way to Seattle.
I feel both excitement and a fear DH will panic and refuse to go the day of. I am planning on taking a personal day and maybe having lunch with DH. The appointment is not until 3pm. I feel overwhelmed with how much info I should write down ready to say. These packets I filled out seem pretty vague because they are not really asking all the things I thought they would. One is the BRIEF-preschool version and the other is Child-Behavior Checklist for age 1.5-5years.
They also sent their own paperwork and questions. There is also some pretty heavy questions on that one like--- What concerns you most about your child..... Well let's see, how much time do you have??