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Cambury108 · December 2014

Mackalien13 said:

I never have a FFFC but I have a FFSC today so here it is.

I have a new friend and I knew she was flirting with me over the last few get togethers but today via Facebook message she drops the bomb that her and her husband are in an open marriage and they both like me and want to know if I am interested in "joining" them.

I was totally shocked and quite a bit flattered.

So my FFSC is I totally thought about it.
ABORT

For clarification do you mean the thoughts of doing it or the friendship?

MrsT0514 · December 2014

Cambury108 said:

MrsT0514 said:

Cambury108 said:
OK I won't lie, I am still thinking about it.
I did this years ago with a couple I was friends with (I was single..they werent married, but had been together for years and had a swingers type dynamic to their relationship). Turns out it was one of the worst lays I had in my life. Talk about disappointment.

Way to ruin what was going on in my head MrsT

But yeah your probably right......But what if your wrong LOL.

LOL sorry to rain on your parade! Just trying to be the voice of reason here!

Cambury108 · December 2014

MrsT0514 no worries, I 99.9% likely would never do it anyway but it was interesting to think about for a moment and like I said very flattering even if in a weird way.

tbmadeamistake · December 2014

Cambury108 said:
MrsT0514 no worries, I 99.9% likely would never do it anyway but it was interesting to think about for a moment and like I said very flattering even if in a weird way.

I was asked to be a fifth once. It was extremely flattering. I said no because I only liked one of the four already involved.

Cambury108 · December 2014

Lilygrace48 said:

MrsT0514 no worries, I 99.9% likely would never do it anyway but it was interesting to think about for a moment and like I said very flattering even if in a weird way.
I was asked to be a fifth once. It was extremely flattering. I said no because I only liked one of the four already involved.

5th so it was like 2 couples that liked you or? I am confused by that LOL.

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

I hate everything today and am being a grump. No good reason besides being a craxy pregly. I'll be 38 weeks tomorrow and baby has dropped nice and low so basically my pelvis feels like it's going to break in half every time I move even slightly and Tums are no longer working for the heartburn.

Wanted to go to Target when DS went down for nap but apparently H decided he'd go shopping with his dad instead so. Ok then.

I should be cleaning the whole house... But I think I'm just going to doze on the couch instead.

Cambury108 · December 2014

I have been given the choice that I could have one or the other of them. She hopes I would choose her but she understands if I wanted him......I got the D at home, so if I am stepping out on my marriage V all the way.

THIS I might not turn down.........Just sayin.

Cambury108 · December 2014

SpaceGirlSpiff said:

I hate everything today and am being a grump. No good reason besides being a craxy pregly. I'll be 38 weeks tomorrow and baby has dropped nice and low so basically my pelvis feels like it's going to break in half every time I move even slightly and Tums are no longer working for the heartburn. Wanted to go to Target when DS went down for nap but apparently H decided he'd go shopping with his dad instead so. Ok then. I should be cleaning the whole house... But I think I'm just going to doze on the couch instead.

Do it! You deserve it.

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

The house is pretty bad tho.

I'll probably regret not doing SOMEthing

tbmadeamistake · December 2014

@Cambury108‌ exactly. Two couples already swinging asked me to join.

Cambury108 · December 2014

pobrecita said:

I am halfway through a bloody mary. I got a cheaper mix, and it's like a salt bomb. Blech.

YUCK! But if it will do the job I say drink it anyway.

stra0111 · December 2014

My day has turned around significantly. DH got home, told me I should go out by myself and get coffees. I finished my Christmas cookies and just finished painting my and DD2'S nails.

Cambury108 · December 2014

@CFox815 I say pop the bottle and have a good time

Cambury108 · December 2014

Mackalien13 Don't worry I politely turned her down on both accounts and said while I was flattered it wasn't an offer I could fulfill right now. She said no problem and she hoped we could still be friends.

MrsT0514 · December 2014

Cambury108 said:
Mackalien13 Don't worry I politely turned her down on both accounts and said while I was flattered it wasn't an offer I could fulfill right now. She said no problem and she hoped we could still be friends.

Does YH know about this offer? Or was he included in it?

Eta...bc being married and all, if the roles were reversed, I'd be pissed if one of MH's friends propositioned him like that unbeknownst to me.

Cambury108 · December 2014

MrsT0514 said:

Mackalien13 Don't worry I politely turned her down on both accounts and said while I was flattered it wasn't an offer I could fulfill right now. She said no problem and she hoped we could still be friends.
Does YH know about this offer?

I told him when I was on break at work a little bit ago. He just laughed and said he got a "vibe" from them but they were good people and fun to hang out with regardless of what they do with their marriage. I don't think he was much worried about me accepting. He knows me to well LOL.

Cambury108 · December 2014

mcbenny said:

Do people really randomly ask other people for pussy? Where do you hang out?

We actually have hung out at each others houses, we met thru our oldest daughters and started hanging out. I didn't know about their sexual preferences when we agreed to do a few couples game nights (dice at the kitchen table) we have hung out quite a bit over the last few weeks.

I don't know how the whole swinger/open thing works but apparently if you want the P you have to ask for it and that is what she did.

Its not mine or my DH's place to judge them. If that works for their marriage then good for them. I don't think that makes them bad people.

Cambury108 · December 2014

In my experience on Facebook, I think she did it that way because of the rejection factor. Hey she has balls I gatta give her that.

Cambury108 · December 2014

HilarityEnsued said:

Its not mine or my DH's place to judge them. If that works for their marriage then good for them. I don't think that makes them bad people.
I mean... This is not the weird part.

The whole thing was weird for me and came out of now where at least to me, I was talking to her on Facebook about 1 thing then she just kind of slid into the convo oh btw. I guess maybe I shouldn't have shared with the class. I was just taken a back when it happened and then I was kind of confused by my own thought process to it was all. That is why I said it was a FFSC.

SpaceGirlSpiff · December 2014

My in laws are going to take the kid to dinner and give us a break. Kind of (ok a lot so) crossing my fingers that he begs them to spend the night and they give in.

bumpuser260585 · December 2014

mamalacy21 said:

SpitsNGiggles said:
Re the Starbucks mug, dh got an AMC theater gc from his boss for Christmas. The closest AMC is 60 miles from here.
One of my students did this. I assumed it was regifted and it probably will be again.

Dh's came from the kiosk at the grocery store.

Cambury108 · December 2014

SpaceGirlSpiff said:

My in laws are going to take the kid to dinner and give us a break. Kind of (ok a lot so) crossing my fingers that he begs them to spend the night and they give in.

Fingers crossed for you!

Whenigrowup · December 2014

Cambury108 said:

I have been given the choice that I could have one or the other of them. She hopes I would choose her but she understands if I wanted him......I got the D at home, so if I am stepping out on my marriage V all the way.

THIS I might not turn down.........Just sayin.

Box. So, you would or wouldn't turn it down? I can't follow where you are on this. It doesn't particularly matter to me, but you seem to be waffling.

Whenigrowup · December 2014

No box, apparently.

Cambury108 · December 2014

Whenigrowup said:

Cambury108 said:

I have been given the choice that I could have one or the other of them. She hopes I would choose her but she understands if I wanted him......I got the D at home, so if I am stepping out on my marriage V all the way.

THIS I might not turn down.........Just sayin.

Box. So, you would or wouldn't turn it down? I can't follow where you are on this. It doesn't particularly matter to me, but you seem to be waffling.

I was saying IF I was going to do anything outside of my marriage it would be with another woman not a man, I have a man at home. I politely declined her invitation to "join" them and also to pick one or the other. I was only waffling a tiny bit on the girl on girl situation.

Whenigrowup · December 2014

HilarityEnsued said:

No box, apparently.
Yes, this was the ultimate conclusion.

Nothing else needs to happen here. The end. Thread closed.

Cambury108 · December 2014

I am sorry if I came across that way. I own everything I said. I admitted that I thought about the one option. It wasnt for very long and then I delined. I guess it could be read as flippant but I dont feel that I was that way. I by no means meant to cause any drama with what I posted. Next time before I post something I will wait for my own inital shock to wear off. I was posting as I was going thru the situation in real life. My mistake. Thats the last I am going to talk about the situation and to anyone I made uncomfortable or side eye me Im sorry.

Whenigrowup · December 2014

Box. So, you would or wouldn't turn it down? I can't follow where you are on this. It doesn't particularly matter to me, but you seem to be waffling.

I was saying IF I was going to do anything outside of my marriage it would be with another woman not a man, I have a man at home. I politely declined her invitation to "join" them and also to pick one or the other. I was only waffling a tiny bit on the girl on girl situation.

No this was not how you came across and I suspect you are back pedaling. You were actually pretty flippant about entertaining the idea.
I agree, but I was distracted by HE's perfect response.

Cambury108 · December 2014

@Whenigrowup‌ I already said an aplogy. I dont come across well in text and knowing that about myself I never should have posted any of what I did about that situation tonight. My mistake.

Whenigrowup · December 2014

Ok. You don't owe me an apology. I was just pointing out that you seemed to be wavering. The only thing I side-eye here is the flippant comment about "stepping out" on your marriage. Other than that, to each his/her own.

MrsT0514 · December 2014

Yeah, I agree that you dont owe anyone here an apology per se @Cambury108‌. Everyone is just offering different observances, perspectives, opinions, and whatnot. Nbd.

Its hard to gauge one's tone through text. I'm not side eyeing you at all...but like @Whenigrowup‌ said, the only thing that struck me as odd was the whole "stepping out on your marriage" comment. But like I said, its impossible to interpret tone thru text..kwim? Either way...I dont think anyone was expecting an apology or anything.

Cambury108 · December 2014

@rvasc if you knew me in real life you would know I have an issue with the same thing. It has a clinical name but I forget it. I went to counsling for it actually. Like internally I want to apologize for apologizing to much. Its a struggle.

Cambury108 · December 2014

unheardof said:
Meh I took all of your posts as more kidding around about it than actually considering it. I don't think you need to apologize.

I don't really take anyone seriously on here though. I think that's why I'm able to get along here so well.

I guess that's the best way to describe it yes. I would never in my life have the balls to do what they wanted.

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