It's crazy that there are women in here who are so excited to be first time moms, nervous because they have had so many miscarriages, happy to have finally fallen pregnant etc. etc. and here you guys are judging people on what they name their child??? Seems unnecessary.
If jobs are going to throw out your application b.c of a unique spelling. I see so many names ppl are suggesting on this board and even tho they are proper spelling, from a great heritage. They are names that most U.S. employers are not accustomed to. And those same applications can get tossed out. When they had educated parents who chose the name. A hard name is a hard name. If it looks different whether you uniquely spelled it different or is just from another ethnicity is going to be judged by people everywhere. So the righteous do gooders who are judging and being rude to the creative spellers might just find themselves in the same boat with their child.
My name is Concetta. A very popular name in Italy. I am full Italian. I can't tell you how many odd looks and comments I get when being introduced. I've had Doctors tell me that I need to start spelling my name with a "H" b.c it's too hard to pronounce. And almost no one when reading my name says it right.
Concetta seems pretty straight forward to me. I'm not Italian, but even I know how to pronounce certain Italian names. Now, I have a student this year named Makla, pronounced like Michaela. That one is odd and I know she gets real tired of people pronouncing her name like Mac-la because her parents decided to be creative.
Okay, so, because I can't physically have any more babies, and we're adopting the next one, I expect all of you to be okay with the name Jaxophone. For a girl. Or maybe Jaxyphone to make it more feminine.
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Just stumbled onto this board and I heart this thread so much. In the past year or so TWO acquaintances of mine have named their son Jaxon and it's been driving me nuts!! (I think Jackson is a perfectly nice name.) Glad to know there are kindred spirits out there.
I have a friend whose full name is Jacqueline but she goes by Jax. It suits her and I think it's a very cute nickname!
Sorry if this is a dumb question but I'm new around here - does this apply to nicknames also? My name is Jessica but I've always gone by Jessi which is less common than Jessie. People often misspell it as Jessie or Jesse but I've never really cared - my mom just said she always wrote it as Jessi because she though an "e" didn't make sense because my name is not Jessieca. Are there "correct" ways to do nicknames also?
Sorry if this is a dumb question but I'm new around here - does this apply to nicknames also? My name is Jessica but I've always gone by Jessi which is less common than Jessie. People often misspell it as Jessie or Jesse but I've never really cared - my mom just said she always wrote it as Jessi because she though an "e" didn't make sense because my name is not Jessieca. Are there "correct" ways to do nicknames also?
My initial thought is that they're nicknames, not formal names, so spelling has a little more leeway, but I'm not sure.
1) my middle name is Leigh and I've met several other ladies my age with it; I would never tack it onto another name or use that form of Leigh to extend a name but I've always liked it as my middle name just by itself. And to be honest, I would probably never use it as a first name. I think of it like the name Marie, some names are just better as middle names.
2) would you go about spelling it Christina or Kristina?
3) same for Jocelyn and Joscelyn?
I've seen all of these spellings for these names and I'm not completely sure what is right exactly anymore.
I don't necessarily like all odd spellings, but I'm not on board with the theory creative spellings are wrong or uneducated, in my somewhat educated opinion. Formal names of people, businesses, or places do not necessarily have to conform with commonly accepted spellings. Although it's probably easier if they do sometimes.
That being said - It's naming your child and kids can be mean, so think it over well.
I'm an individual with a unique name, according to my countries database I am the only individual with my name. I do like my name, actually I love it. But the improper spelling and pronunciations of it are tiresome. Answering the phone at work and having to repeat my name 3 times for people just sucks, and then they ask how to spell it.
Spelling a name Madelyn vs Madeline vs Madeleine does not make one "wrong" or sound uneducated. Having the shortsightedness to think that there is only one "correct" way to spell a name does.
Spelling a name Madelyn vs Madeline vs Madeleine does not make one "wrong" or sound uneducated. Having the shortsightedness to think that there is only one "correct" way to spell a name does.
Then you all will hate my sons name Eyezayiah. And i love the way its spelt and its not a bad thing to spell a name different you guys are just mad because your name is plain
Is this just an Australian thing? All Jacksons/jaxons get called Jacko.. Literally every one I know and never jack
Also I understand the importance of spelling names the right way but to an extent, if it's the same name pronounced the same but someone just changes one letter then it's up to them. When they start creating names and it's just insane eg: (le-a ... Pronounced 'ledasha') then that's when things become unnecessary and confusing
Is this just an Australian thing? All Jacksons/jaxons get called Jacko.. Literally every one I know and never jack
Also I understand the importance of spelling names the right way but to an extent, if it's the same name pronounced the same but someone just changes one letter then it's up to them. When they start creating names and it's just insane eg: (le-a ... Pronounced 'ledasha') then that's when things become unnecessary and confusing
Please stop. Le-a, La-a and L-a are all an urban legend that started from a racist email chain.
Then you all will hate my sons name Eyezayiah. And i love the way its spelt and its not a bad thing to spell a name different you guys are just mad because your name is plain
@AdeleDazeem Respect education all you want but don't belittle other people by telling them they're wrong just because it's not how you want it. Get over yourself
My parents spelled my name wrong. According to my dad, having to spell your name every time you meet someone builds character. According to my mother, if they had spelled it the common way, they would have pronounced it the French way.
I will never misspell my kids' names. At least, not intentionally.
Hmmm... I am surprised at how strongly people feel about this topic. I have to say I never felt more judged about the spelling of my own name.. I wasn't teased or made fun of growing up. I liked that my name was spelled differently... I don't think one letter makes a name "made up"...
Hmmm... I am surprised at how strongly people feel about this topic. I have to say I never felt more judged about the spelling of my own name.. I wasn't teased or made fun of growing up. I liked that my name was spelled differently... I don't think one letter makes a name "made up"...
@AdeleDazeem Respect education all you want but don't belittle other people by telling them they're wrong just because it's not how you want it. Get over yourself
I will absolutely tell an adult that they are wrong when something is wrong.
Hmmm... I am surprised at how strongly people feel about this topic. I have to say I never felt more judged about the spelling of my own name.. I wasn't teased or made fun of growing up. I liked that my name was spelled differently... I don't think one letter makes a name "made up"...
So, if I spell it ahpple, then it's a-okay?
C'mon. COMMON SENSE!!!
Where has it goooooooooooooooooone?
You are rude. Hope you don't pass your piss poor attitude onto your children. It's an opinion. Get over yourself.
My name's Lucy. There are thousands of women in the world called Lucy, but very few of them are Dutch. People are always either mispronouncing it (because the 'u' is pronounced in the 'Dutch' way) or misspelling it (usually Lucie, but I've also had Luci). My last name is German and has an umlaut in it (ä), which changes the way the 'a' is pronounced from 'ah' to 'ay'. People who know how to spell my name don't know how to say it and the other way around.
This has always only been slightly annoying to me, because although my name is unusual around here, it's by no means ridiculous or made up. Plus, I was named after my grandmother, who was a really nice lady, so I quite like that.
I completely agree that changing the spelling of an existing name 'just because' is unnecessary and will probably be unpleasant for the kid. There's natural, historical variation (there are more 'Lucie's in the Netherlands than there are 'Lucy's, because Lucie is the more usual spelling over here) and that's fine.
My problem is that my fiancé is so worried that our future kid will be traumatised by people mispronouncing their name that he immediately vetos any nice English names I come up with if the spelling doesn't match how Dutch people would pronounce it. He's got a point, to a certain degree - I was an English teacher for a while and during role call, a girl named Phoebe was almost shocked that I pronounced her name correctly in one go instead of calling her 'Poo-buh' like all the other Dutch adults who obviously never watched Friends. BUT this is coming from the man who will be voluntarily taking on my last name, umlaut and all, in a week and a half. *grump*
What a lot of Dutch people are doing these days is just taking a random noun and turning it into a first name. I've heard of kids called Vlieger (kite), Spijker (nail, the iron kind), Basilicum (basil - and I know Basil is a name in English, but Basilicum is really just a herb) and - wait for it - Quinoa (why no just Vegan or Gluten-Free?). Ugh.
This is not an intellectual argument, just a smug one. Concept names are just as "real" as proper names. Create a first name, change your last name...spell it backwards...shout it from the rooftops...
While I 100% agree with the original message on this post, that is, blatantly misspelled names DO look uneducated, after lurking through pages and pages of this forum, I am SHOCKED to see the lack of etymology education on the "regular" posters of this forum.
Most name websites and forums include regular members with informed, educated opinions about names. This one, it seems, is littered with people claiming to be name enthusiasts who assume a name is misspelled or made-up, when they are not. If you have never heard a name before, god forbid you look it up or ask the OP about it's origin. It makes you look very silly when the same people continuously make this mistake! Outside of a select group of people, the majority of the population genuinely doesn't care about these things. If you insist on being a part of the population who does, you should take the time to make sure the statements you are making are correct before putting your opinions out there.
While I 100% agree with the original message on this post, that is, blatantly misspelled names DO look uneducated, after lurking through pages and pages of this forum, I am SHOCKED to see the lack of etymology education on the "regular" posters of this forum.
Most name websites and forums include regular members with informed, educated opinions about names. This one, it seems, is littered with people claiming to be name enthusiasts who assume a name is misspelled or made-up, when they are not. If you have never heard a name before, god forbid you look it up or ask the OP about it's origin. It makes you look very silly when the same people continuously make this mistake! Outside of a select group of people, the majority of the population genuinely doesn't care about these things. If you insist on being a part of the population who does, you should take the time to make sure the statements you are making are correct before putting your opinions out there.
Wow. You're really letting your butthurt flag fly.
I think that it is no one else's business what or how another person chooses to name their child. - From CHARLEE and MYLES. =3
Then just don't get mad when your child's teacher has problems pronouncing it and make sure your child does not get mad either. That is my big pet peeve, I have a unique name and I do not get angry when it is mispronounced but I have met to many people who get angry over it...
I definitely agree that throwing together random sounds and calling it a name is pretty crazy at the least, but I think that unique spelling it really cool! My name is spelled differently, and when my husband (who also has a uniquely spelled name) and I have our daughter in July, we're going to give her name a unique spelling as well.
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My name is Concetta. A very popular name in Italy. I am full Italian. I can't tell you how many odd looks and comments I get when being introduced. I've had Doctors tell me that I need to start spelling my name with a "H" b.c it's too hard to pronounce. And almost no one when reading my name says it right.
Precious baby boy "HC" born May 2013.
I have a friend whose full name is Jacqueline but she goes by Jax. It suits her and I think it's a very cute nickname!
My girls are Madeline and Victoria.
1) my middle name is Leigh and I've met several other ladies my age with it; I would never tack it onto another name or use that form of Leigh to extend a name but I've always liked it as my middle name just by itself. And to be honest, I would probably never use it as a first name. I think of it like the name Marie, some names are just better as middle names.
2) would you go about spelling it Christina or Kristina?
3) same for Jocelyn and Joscelyn?
I've seen all of these spellings for these names and I'm not completely sure what is right exactly anymore.
That being said - It's naming your child and kids can be mean, so think it over well.
I'm an individual with a unique name, according to my countries database I am the only individual with my name. I do like my name, actually I love it. But the improper spelling and pronunciations of it are tiresome. Answering the phone at work and having to repeat my name 3 times for people just sucks, and then they ask how to spell it.
I prefer common spellings for sure.
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Also I understand the importance of spelling names the right way but to an extent, if it's the same name pronounced the same but someone just changes one letter then it's up to them. When they start creating names and it's just insane eg:
(le-a ... Pronounced 'ledasha') then that's when things become unnecessary and confusing
Please stop. Le-a, La-a and L-a are all an urban legend that started from a racist email chain.
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I dunno. One of those seems better.
I will never misspell my kids' names. At least, not intentionally.
C'mon. COMMON SENSE!!!
Where has it goooooooooooooooooone?
No qualms.
What a lot of Dutch people are doing these days is just taking a random noun and turning it into a first name. I've heard of kids called Vlieger (kite), Spijker (nail, the iron kind), Basilicum (basil - and I know Basil is a name in English, but Basilicum is really just a herb) and - wait for it - Quinoa (why no just Vegan or Gluten-Free?). Ugh.
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Most name websites and forums include regular members with informed, educated opinions about names. This one, it seems, is littered with people claiming to be name enthusiasts who assume a name is misspelled or made-up, when they are not. If you have never heard a name before, god forbid you look it up or ask the OP about it's origin. It makes you look very silly when the same people continuously make this mistake! Outside of a select group of people, the majority of the population genuinely doesn't care about these things. If you insist on being a part of the population who does, you should take the time to make sure the statements you are making are correct before putting your opinions out there.
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