Friday Festivities

amandad715 · December 2014

jenndub said:

jenndub said:

Last night Beckett had a holiday performance at his school. His dad promised to be there and then didn't show up. It made me so sad to see Becks scanning the crowd from the stage the whole time, looking for his dad. And every time he'd find me again he would wave, give a thumbs up or blow me a kiss. He's such a good little dude, I hate seeing him get hurt.

I would be so pissed. I get pissed when SD's do it to my kids, if it was their parent... I'm not even sure what I would say/do. Poor Becks. I guess it really doesn't do any good to say someting to your ex?
I have tried so many times to make him understand how much he hurts them when he does this kind of stuff. He doesn't get it. When he's there they are so excited to see him, he can't imagine that he's making them sad when he's not there. Before the show last night, you could order DVDs of the performance and I bought one for my ex just in case he didn't show. I was so glad I did because Becks was crying when I told him his dad didn't come, but he was so happy when I told him they could watch the DVD in a few weeks.

you are too nice to cover for him all the time!!!

hmp1 · December 2014

AKB090609 said:

Thanks ladies, I'm fine in the light of day, and normally DH is not this much of an ass, but he's getting a bunch of stuff dumped on him at work. His best work friend has been a huge jerk about DHs promotion (calling him a traitor, not speaking to him, refusing to help DH with questions) and DH is taking it out on me. Normally I know that and don't take it personally, but when I'm tired and know I won't sleep for another 30min I lose it sometimes.

I'm sure next week will be better!

This was a big issue with us this summer when we were having severe marriage problems. DH was taking all his other stresses out on me and it was not cool. While things haven't improved much at work, he at least acknowledges that he was handling it wrong and we have made big changes on that front. GL! I hope things get better soon.

amandad715 · December 2014

I thought maybe I could play a little on here today with today being the last day before break.....but man, it's been a whirlwind trying to get parent gifts done, an assembly, wrapping up a student council food drive. I needed a rest break before I walked down to heat up my lunch.

I've had a running FFFC list this week too. Dang.

hmp1 · December 2014

MrsKipper said:

Nola had her little Christmas party at preschool today and it never crossed my mind to get her teachers a gift. I know it's not required, but I still feel bad. I'm terrible at gift giving to mug family, so it doesn't surprise me that I didn't think about it. Oh well, hopefully they won't think bad thoughts about me. I did think about gift bags for the kids, but I've barely had to energy to keep my kids dressed and fed this week...much less make a bunch of gift bags. Preschool MOTY!

Not that you have to do anything, but was today the last day she will be there before Christmas? Today is the school Christmas party and I'm sure most parents will be doing gifts today but I am still waiting on a couple things to come in so I'm waiting until next week.

MrsKipper · December 2014

It seriously breaks my heart when adults disappoint their kids like that. I remember being so excited to perform for my parents, so I can only imagine how sad it is to not have one parent there. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that @jenndub‌!

@AKB090609‌ breathe and take it one task at a time. Being overwhelmed is such a tough feeling but you can only do one thing at a time. It's so hard when you're in the thick if it, though. And I feel ya on the lack of sleep...it makes everything so much more difficult. (:|

BeebopandBuddy · December 2014

amandad715 said:

jenndub said:

jenndub said:

Last night Beckett had a holiday performance at his school. His dad promised to be there and then didn't show up. It made me so sad to see Becks scanning the crowd from the stage the whole time, looking for his dad. And every time he'd find me again he would wave, give a thumbs up or blow me a kiss. He's such a good little dude, I hate seeing him get hurt.

I would be so pissed. I get pissed when SD's do it to my kids, if it was their parent... I'm not even sure what I would say/do. Poor Becks. I guess it really doesn't do any good to say someting to your ex?
I have tried so many times to make him understand how much he hurts them when he does this kind of stuff. He doesn't get it. When he's there they are so excited to see him, he can't imagine that he's making them sad when he's not there. Before the show last night, you could order DVDs of the performance and I bought one for my ex just in case he didn't show. I was so glad I did because Becks was crying when I told him his dad didn't come, but he was so happy when I told him they could watch the DVD in a few weeks.

you are too nice to cover for him all the time!!!

I respectfully disagree. I think you're totally doing the right thing @jenndub.

I felt like this at first too when DH's ex was being a raging bitch and I just wanted DH to tell the kids that it wasn't him, it was her. He taught me a valuable lesson over the last 9 years. He always took the high road. He never told them that it was her fault or the terrible things she did, and he accepted a lot of misplaced blame. However, now that they are older (17 and 20), they are starting to realize things for themselves and it saved them a lot of heartache as kids to just get to enjoy things and not have to endure the finger-pointing and arguments. They are now starting to see and understand how their mother is and what their dad has been enduring. They are doing that on their own as adults, rather than dealing with the emotional turmoil they would have suffered as kids.

The kids will learn to set their expectations as they get older and realize that you were always trying to encourage that relationship to be good for them. If it makes it easier for the kids, even if it cuts the ex a break, that's what you want, IMO.

MrsKipper · December 2014

hmp1 said:

MrsKipper said:

Nola had her little Christmas party at preschool today and it never crossed my mind to get her teachers a gift. I know it's not required, but I still feel bad. I'm terrible at gift giving to mug family, so it doesn't surprise me that I didn't think about it. Oh well, hopefully they won't think bad thoughts about me.

I did think about gift bags for the kids, but I've barely had to energy to keep my kids dressed and fed this week...much less make a bunch of gift bags.

Preschool MOTY!

Not that you have to do anything, but was today the last day she will be there before Christmas? Today is the school Christmas party and I'm sure most parents will be doing gifts today but I am still waiting on a couple things to come in so I'm waiting until next week.

Yea, today was the last day until after New Years. I'll just make a note to get them really good Easter and end of the year gifts!

MRoxy0628 · December 2014

@beebobandbuddy I liked what @amandad715 said, but I agree with you too. I do think @jenndub is "too nice" for doing it (because not everyone does take the high road), but I agree it's the right thing to do, because she's putting her children first. I'm guessing that's what @amandad715 meant too.

kdsmith43 · December 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

So just found out SIL bought 6 towels for MIL. Total was $100. She asked for $33 from us and $33 from other SIL. $33 doesn't even cover the gas one-way for one of the twelve times MIL went up to watch her kids. Her husband is a big dog engineer. I feel sad for MIL that her kids think this is acceptable. I'm bothered equally by the dollar amount and the lack of thought/sentimental value.

Anyway, I'm giving the $33 and also buying her a nice thoughtful gift from W. I mean, the lady drives me nuts but this is just sad.

So as long as you promise to give her the additional $.33 cents to make it an even split.

hmp1 · December 2014

harti09 said:

Today was DH's last day of work before taking leave time. I knew that. I assumed it was normal, holiday type leave...nope.

He showed back up at the house at 9:30am excited because he was off for the next 20 days...20 days. I love him dearly, but he is going to drive me insane during this.

Sounds like you get some time off and he can stay home with the kids! Shopping alone, sitting in bookstore for an hour leisurely flipping through magazines on a Tuesday morning...I'm excited for you!

amandad715 · December 2014

@beebopandbuddy and @mroxy0628

What I meant was that @jenndub had a feeling he wouldn't make it, even though he said he would be there and she bought the video BEFORE the program even started because she had had a feeling. She didn't want to break little Beckett's heart because he was so excited for his dad to be there. I think telling him that he couldn't make it and that they could watch it together later was obviously the bigger thing and we know how much of a classy lady she is

But it was the idea that she went out of her way to buy the video prior to him not showing. That's what I meant by being too nice. I agree that she would (and should) think of Beckett 1st and foremost. @mroxy0628 said what I didn't explain correctly.

kelbel527 · December 2014

hmp1 said:

harti09 said:

Today was DH's last day of work before taking leave time. I knew that. I assumed it was normal, holiday type leave...nope.

He showed back up at the house at 9:30am excited because he was off for the next 20 days...20 days. I love him dearly, but he is going to drive me insane during this.

Sounds like you get some time off and he can stay home with the kids! Shopping alone, sitting in bookstore for an hour leisurely flipping through magazines on a Tuesday morning...I'm excited for you!

This is what I would be doing! Take some time to yourself, you deserve it!!

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

loislayn said:

I've been doing so well with eating better and exercising. But the last couple of days I've wanted to hulk smash the world so today I'm eating all my feels.

You know the song that goes, "all she wants to do is dance, dance"

I just caught myself looking in the fridge singing my version in my head. "All she wants to do is eat, eat."

I am ravenous.

melody921 · December 2014

hmp1 said:

MrsKipper said:

Nola had her little Christmas party at preschool today and it never crossed my mind to get her teachers a gift. I know it's not required, but I still feel bad. I'm terrible at gift giving to mug family, so it doesn't surprise me that I didn't think about it. Oh well, hopefully they won't think bad thoughts about me. I did think about gift bags for the kids, but I've barely had to energy to keep my kids dressed and fed this week...much less make a bunch of gift bags. Preschool MOTY!

Not that you have to do anything, but was today the last day she will be there before Christmas? Today is the school Christmas party and I'm sure most parents will be doing gifts today but I am still waiting on a couple things to come in so I'm waiting until next week.

Same here. I didn't get my act together to have gifts ready to go for today. So they're getting them Monday.

melody921 · December 2014

MrsKipper said:

MrsKipper said:

Nola had her little Christmas party at preschool today and it never crossed my mind to get her teachers a gift. I know it's not required, but I still feel bad. I'm terrible at gift giving to mug family, so it doesn't surprise me that I didn't think about it. Oh well, hopefully they won't think bad thoughts about me. I did think about gift bags for the kids, but I've barely had to energy to keep my kids dressed and fed this week...much less make a bunch of gift bags. Preschool MOTY!

Not that you have to do anything, but was today the last day she will be there before Christmas? Today is the school Christmas party and I'm sure most parents will be doing gifts today but I am still waiting on a couple things to come in so I'm waiting until next week.
Yea, today was the last day until after New Years. I'll just make a note to get them really good Easter and end of the year gifts!

Or a Happy New Year gift!

melody921 · December 2014

hmp1 said:

harti09 said:

Today was DH's last day of work before taking leave time. I knew that. I assumed it was normal, holiday type leave...nope.

He showed back up at the house at 9:30am excited because he was off for the next 20 days...20 days. I love him dearly, but he is going to drive me insane during this.

Sounds like you get some time off and he can stay home with the kids! Shopping alone, sitting in bookstore for an hour leisurely flipping through magazines on a Tuesday morning...I'm excited for you!

Exactly! @harti09, you need and deserve this break. Use it well!

melody921 · December 2014

IndigoVader said:

Guys, Indy busted me in Santa's cookies. "Why are you stealing Santa's cookies!?What is wrong with you!?"
I told him I was testing them to make sure they weren't expired.

Hijole I am in so much trouble.

Wait, you have Santa's cookies all ready to go? Geez Louise, this is going to be a 12/23-24 project in our house!

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

Dh won a decent amt of money from a fantasy football league, LOL. Guess all the football paid off.

DH works tomorrow and I'm thinking about buying some playdoh for W to play with tomorrow. I don't really know how I'm going to take care of her if I still feel like this.

melody921 · December 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Dh won a decent amt of money from a fantasy football league, LOL. Guess all the football paid off.

DH works tomorrow and I'm thinking about buying some playdoh for W to play with tomorrow. I don't really know how I'm going to take care of her if I still feel like this.

I'm not usually one to advocate turning on the TV, but this sounds like a perfect Disney movie watching opportunity.

hmp1 · December 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Dh won a decent amt of money from a fantasy football league, LOL. Guess all the football paid off.

DH works tomorrow and I'm thinking about buying some playdoh for W to play with tomorrow. I don't really know how I'm going to take care of her if I still feel like this.

After traveling for 3 weeks straight (home on the weekends), DH is gone all this weekend. I dread weekends alone. I declined a birthday party scheduled for 2:30 tomorrow because the boys will both be asleep at that time. Normally we would just do an hour car nap and go to the party but being alone, I'm soaking all the 2+ hours of nap time at home.

melody921 · December 2014

Why is this afternoon dragging soooooooooooo much? I have now officially finished all work I can do today without getting feedback from other people, so I think I should just go home :-p

jenndub · December 2014

amandad715 said:
@beebopandbuddy and @mroxy0628

What I meant was that @jenndub had a feeling he wouldn't make it, even though he said he would be there and she bought the video BEFORE the program even started because she had had a feeling. She didn't want to break little Beckett's heart because he was so excited for his dad to be there. I think telling him that he couldn't make it and that they could watch it together later was obviously the bigger thing and we know how much of a classy lady she is But it was the idea that she went out of her way to buy the video prior to him not showing. That's what I meant by being too nice. I agree that she would (and should) think of Beckett 1st and foremost. @mroxy0628 said what I didn't explain correctly.

I got what you meant. And thanks for calling me classy, I think it's the first time ever I've been described that way. $:\$ ">

jenndub · December 2014

I wanted my emoji to be a blushing smile face. What the balls.

melody921 · December 2014

I have wrapped not a single Christmas gift. I'm going to have my work cut out for me this weekend. I'll just add that to the baking I haven't done yet either.

jenndub · December 2014

I wrapped a ton of presents last night. I got Emma One Direction wrapping paper. Liam is so hot now, he is my new favorite. Sorry Zayn.

kelbel527 · December 2014

Everyone is more prepared than I am. We haven't made any cookies yet, that will be a project over the weekend. Teacher gifts are going next week. ETA: I haven't wrapped anything either.

Also, FFFC, the kids are going to daycare on Mon/Tues while DH and I are off. I'm looking forward to the time together and the fact that I won't be running around crazy the day before all the festivities. We may even go see a movie. Which never happens anymore.

and @tinyhumantoe - When Mom isn't feeling well, you bring out all the stuff you wouldn't normally do. Movie/TV/Play-doh. Whatever it takes. Hope you're feeling better soon!

Pokedot · December 2014

I've worked directly with the public my whole working life and I understand that everyone has a bad day. Dealing with the public on a daily basis can wear a person down but it doesn't give you the right to be a total ass hat to your customers consecutively. I'm looking at you Post Office guy. Dude it's the holidays. No one wants to be at the Post Office but if you're a jerk to every person that comes your way your going to get jerk responses. Rise above, smile, say "Have a great day" instead of looking like you just swallowed a half empty glass of f* off.

Pokedot · December 2014

melody921 said:

I have wrapped not a single Christmas gift. I'm going to have my work cut out for me this weekend. I'll just add that to the baking I haven't done yet either.

Me either. DH got DS's train table together yesterday but I have every other gift of his to wrap. I have a date with wrapping paper and the DVR for the next 3 nights. Bonus that DH is on mids!

melody921 · December 2014

Pokedot said:

melody921 said:

I have wrapped not a single Christmas gift. I'm going to have my work cut out for me this weekend. I'll just add that to the baking I haven't done yet either.
Me either. DH got DS's train table together yesterday but I have every other gift of his to wrap. I have a date with wrapping paper and the DVR for the next 3 nights. Bonus that DH is on mids!

I'm going to have to lock myself in my bedroom with the wrapping supplies bc DS is notorious for strolling downstairs well past bedtime. That's all I need is for him to come across anything for him.

Stasi · December 2014

I'm trapped in a little quote box and can't get out!!
We did Christmas early this year (last weekend) and now I'm all sad hering everyone getting ready for Christmas next week. The upside? I'll be in Key Largo for 12 days starting tomorrow!!
@kelbel527 - I've also struggled to figure out how to use mint.com. It doesn't seem as organized or capture all my purchases properly...I just don't get it at all...any tips or tricks? I'm really bad with money and short of just journaling all my spending there is nothing that helps me budget.

Stasi · December 2014

Confession - I should not have come back from maternity leave between Dec. 1 and today. I should have just stayed out through my FL vacation because I'm a big bag of worthless and I'm doing nothing productive around here....

tyrannasaurusjess · December 2014

jenndub said:

@kelbel527 Thank you. I really want to cry over the whole thing. I sometimes feel like I can't ever do enough to make up for him being so shitty. But thank you for saying I'm a good mom, I needed that today.

Only to here, but I have to say I am willing to bet you do more than enough to make up for their Dad being a buttface. My dad was the same way-- I was older when my parents split, so I don't think it affected me as much because I was old enough to realize that my dad was a lying liar who lies, but my little brother (10 years younger) was constantly let down. He's 18 now, and always talks about how lucky he is that my Mom was always there (and, later, my step dad), and how grateful he is to have such a supportive mom. Maybe Beckett doesn't totally get it yet, but I promise you, he gets it more than you know, and will always remember who was there, smiling in the front row, at every one of his events!!!

AKB090609 · December 2014

Fun Friday Facts:

I just ran errands (post office, target) in my slippers, I did not notice until I went to sit on the couch and take off my shoes and put said slippers on.

My local post office only has ONE person working the counter, secret sock pal know that I like you enough to wait in that line.

I just openend a 3 page christmas letter, guys it's 10 pt font single spaced and printed on both sides, but they sent a wallet size picture of the 5 kids so it's okay.

watercolor5 · December 2014

I was so excited to have the weekend to only do Christmasy stuff and just relax, but then DH invited his buddy and his two kids over for dinner. I cancelled on them last time, so I really need to try to make it work this time.

I still want to make ornaments and sugar cookies with Sophia this weekend. She's so much fun to do that stuff with, but I just can't do that and watch Julia at the same time, so I really need DH around. I spent an absurd amount of money at Michael's today on ornament supplies haha.

I feel like I have a handle on finances during the year with the help of an excel spreadsheet and tracking literally everything I buy, but Christmas always causes me financial stress. Next year we're definitely setting up a savings account, used only for yearly gifting- birthdays, christmas, and holiday travel. I'm so excited I may not have to be stressed next year!

watercolor5 · December 2014

@harti09 I can't believe he didn't tell you he'd be off for 20 days! Definitely schedule some personal days for you in there- he has enough time to spare!

tinyhumantoe · December 2014

My teeth are aching. I'm thinking that would be a sinus infection. Good thing they gave me an antibiotic.

Every time UPS comes and it's not for me, I am disappointed. I don't have anything on the way haha.

Pokedot · December 2014

Pretty sure I'm now getting pink eye. Awesome! I kind of feel like when it rains it pours the last few days.

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tinyhumantoe · December 2014

Damn @pokedot, that is the WORST

redneckmomma25 · December 2014

So Lots of randoms.

1.I'm in the same rushed boat as everyone else. I hate feeling this way at Christmas because it's not what it's about. The stuff doesn't matter. Family, love, gathering, Grace. That's what matters. It's hard when I set my expectations high and fall short. I cut out christmas cards because I just could not spend another hour trying to find one but now I feel guilty as the cards roll in.

2. @jenndub My sister is a single mom to 3 kids. Their father lives in Florida. I feel terrible for the kids. They are older now and kind of understand but it's so unfair to them. Especially when there is no reason for him to not be a part of their lives. He doesn't call, not a birthday car, nothing. It breaks my heart. But they have a wonderful momma as do your kids. And your kids have a great step father. My nieces and nephews don't have that at all.

3. We have Christmas at the farm tomorrow with the IL's and MIL keeps hinting at me to not bring baked goods because my SIL is. She knows how much I enjoy baking and I'm getting a little pissed. Why do I have to be the one to not bring stuff? It's my gift. It's what I am good at and enjoy? Freeze the cookies if you don't want to eat them all now or throw them out. I don't care. But let me feel as if I'm giving something since we don't give gifts. I know this is kinda crazy but I'm taking it personally like she's choosing SIL's cookies over mine. SIL goes a little crazy. I do a few good cookies. Blah. I'm bringing them and she can't stop me!!!!!

4. I have had no time with DH this week. He's on second shift and I've been out of the house every morning. I miss him. But he's being laid off for a week or so. Hopefully we get some quality time and I can grocery shop for Christmas without Grace and he can help me clean!

5. I didn't get to read yesterday's thread because I was so busy!

6. My boot's sole fell off so now I don't have heelless boots and I need a pair. I tried using gorilla glue and now they look terrible haha. My only Christmasy shirt has a rip in it.

7. I'm feeling hiccups! 24 weeks yesterday so it was my v-day!

8. That's all. I think there were others I wanted to respond too.

9. 1 more. I need veggies for Christmas that are made in the crock pot or stove top but not oven. Green beans sauteed in garlic are always a hit. Any other quick yummy non plain veggie ideas?

willy_gert · December 2014

cream corn is a favorite at our gatherings @redneckmomma.

I am pretty over everything right now. There is one worker in this office that is driving me up the fucking wall. She is so ungrateful and thinks she is better than everyone else. I am about to lose my ever loving mind.

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