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Mandmeesh · December 2014

haileyq said:

Mandmeesh said:
@haileyq‌ I agree with you. And would be telling them "hell no" to their dog coming. Nooo way
I know! Where is my backbone? The problem is there's some weird guilt issues between DH and MIL and he always feels like he's acting too good for her, so I'm not going to start things and neither is he. Womp womp. I'll just sit over here stewing like an adult

. Well fx that the dog is on its best behavior

haileyq · December 2014

Mandmeesh said:

haileyq said:

Mandmeesh said:
@haileyq‌ I agree with you. And would be telling them "hell no" to their dog coming. Nooo way
I know! Where is my backbone? The problem is there's some weird guilt issues between DH and MIL and he always feels like he's acting too good for her, so I'm not going to start things and neither is he. Womp womp. I'll just sit over here stewing like an adult
. Well fx that the dog is on its best behavior

And doesn't bring fleas.

Mandmeesh · December 2014

haileyq said:

Mandmeesh said:

haileyq said:

Mandmeesh said:
@haileyq‌ I agree with you. And would be telling them "hell no" to their dog coming. Nooo way
I know! Where is my backbone? The problem is there's some weird guilt issues between DH and MIL and he always feels like he's acting too good for her, so I'm not going to start things and neither is he. Womp womp. I'll just sit over here stewing like an adult
. Well fx that the dog is on its best behavior
And doesn't bring fleas.

Eww. Yeah

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

If not putting my child into a dangerous vehicle which could absolutely result in their death without a proper restraint is uptight and high strung, I'll proudly wear that badge.

It happens to be right next to my badge of 'My child's nickname doesn't equate him to a glorified oversized rat.'

Smallllmin · December 2014

Into+the+Kitty said:

If not putting my child into a dangerous vehicle which could absolutely result in their death without a proper restraint is uptight and high strung, I'll proudly wear that badge.

It happens to be right next to my badge of 'My child's nickname doesn't equate him to a glorified oversized rat.'

<snip>

...c'mon now, this is really rude.

And isn't UO supposed to be a relatively FF confession of sorts?
None of us mamas are perfect and we should be here to support each other.

@farmrsboywife‌ I like your silly nickname. We have a hundred names for our kid.

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

Whoops, sorry, let me be more supportive:

Great job not endangering your child's life! I'm so glad we live in a world where the bad guys always lose, no one ever cries or goes hungry, and children never die because of the stupidity of their parents! Please continue to post about the awesome life decisions you make for yourself and your children!!

TJ1979 · December 2014

Smallllmin said:

And isn't UO supposed to be a relatively FF confession of sorts?

nope.

ComeMai · December 2014

haileyq said:
My UO may actually be unpopular. I don't think I should have to accommodate your dog if you're staying at my house. Is that a thing?

I love dogs. I have two and used to foster with an animal rescue. I've accommodated many guests' dogs in my home. But my in laws are coming for Christmas from 6 hours away and we asked them well in advance to make arrangements for their dog. He is a 130# (at least) weimareiner (sp?) and is completely untrained. Well, he's house broken but that is all, no exaggerating. He's obnoxious and huge and in your face and has fleas half the time.

They agreed, then over Thanksgivig MIL informede that they had no one to watch him. The one person they asked is out of town and they can't afford to board him. So she tells me that we will just put him downstairs and leave the baby gate up and it will be fine. Then DH walks into the room and he tells him "So we decided we will just do this with the dog and that will work". Mind you I haven't said a single word about it yet.

In reality, it will probably be just fine, but I find it so stinking rude. Are you just automatically supposed to accommodate others' pets when you have them as guests??

Well, that turned into more of a rant than a UO, but there you go.

My SIL tried to do this with the same kind of dog! I told her the dog would have to stay outside or confined to the laundry room. We are dog people, too. We have a 10 lb toy poodle, though.
I agree that it's rude to just bring their dog.

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

TJ1979 said:

And isn't UO supposed to be a relatively FF confession of sorts?
nope.

Even FFFC isn't flame free. But UO doesn't even have the illusion of being flame free.

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

Also I took a drink for 'we should be here to support each other.'

scaggsed · December 2014

I totally agree with the pet issue. Before I had a dog I didn't even let them in my house. Not I have a boston terrier, so nothing over 25 pounds visits my house.

I think it's rude not to make accommodations for your pet, especially when asked to. Weimerieners are big and super energetic, too!

Though, I'm allergic to many breeds so I can tell people no without offending them usually... As long as they don't know I'm also allergic to my own cat, who sleeps in my bed.

freezorburn · December 2014

haileyq said:

My UO may actually be unpopular. I don't think I should have to accommodate your dog if you're staying at my house. Is that a thing? I love dogs. I have two and used to foster with an animal rescue. I've accommodated many guests' dogs in my home. But my in laws are coming for Christmas from 6 hours away and we asked them well in advance to make arrangements for their dog. He is a 130# (at least) weimareiner (sp?) and is completely untrained. Well, he's house broken but that is all, no exaggerating. He's obnoxious and huge and in your face and has fleas half the time. They agreed, then over Thanksgivig MIL informede that they had no one to watch him. The one person they asked is out of town and they can't afford to board him. So she tells me that we will just put him downstairs and leave the baby gate up and it will be fine. Then DH walks into the room and he tells him "So we decided we will just do this with the dog and that will work". Mind you I haven't said a single word about it yet. In reality, it will probably be just fine, but I find it so stinking rude. Are you just automatically supposed to accommodate others' pets when you have them as guests?? Well, that turned into more of a rant than a UO, but there you go.

I completely agree with you. It sounds like THIS dog is not ready to be cared for by someone other than your ILs, if it is having some behavioral issues. And, dogs can jump gates. Mine does, when he really wants to. And Weimeraners are tall, yo. I wouldn't be surprised if it could jump a gate, even if it were on the downstairs side of one.

So, the devil's advocate in me says: what's the alternative if your ILs can't find someone to care for the dog? Is there a dog-friendly hotel/motel nearby where they can stay? (This is what we would do if we were visiting people and couldn't board our dog) Or, maybe only one of them comes to visit with grandchildren, and the other stays home with the dog. Or dare I say that maybe they should reschedule their visit to a time when they can make arrangements for the dog. (Maybe after the new year? In my husband's family, it's Christmas until Jan 6)

I'm sorry it sounds like YH has put you in a tough position. Good luck, maybe it won't be so bad.

freezorburn · December 2014

TJ1979 said:

I've known ADULTS who have died falling out of golf carts.

I am actually genuinely curious about this. How does an adult (assuming they are healthy and able) fall out of a golf cart and die? I could imagine one could get badly injured, but to the point of death? Please fill in the circumstances.

Rrrrrachel · December 2014

They hit their head.

Rrrrrachel · December 2014

My husband took my daughter to her six year old cousins birthday party on Wednesday and apparently the six year old was driving her around in his jeep (I guess a power wheel). It was fast enough that she said she was scared. I asked if she should've had a helmet on and he kind of shrugged and said probably. Thanks asshole.

haileyq · December 2014

freezorburn said:

haileyq said:

My UO may actually be unpopular. I don't think I should have to accommodate your dog if you're staying at my house. Is that a thing?

I love dogs. I have two and used to foster with an animal rescue. I've accommodated many guests' dogs in my home. But my in laws are coming for Christmas from 6 hours away and we asked them well in advance to make arrangements for their dog. He is a 130# (at least) weimareiner (sp?) and is completely untrained. Well, he's house broken but that is all, no exaggerating. He's obnoxious and huge and in your face and has fleas half the time.

They agreed, then over Thanksgivig MIL informede that they had no one to watch him. The one person they asked is out of town and they can't afford to board him. So she tells me that we will just put him downstairs and leave the baby gate up and it will be fine. Then DH walks into the room and he tells him "So we decided we will just do this with the dog and that will work". Mind you I haven't said a single word about it yet.

In reality, it will probably be just fine, but I find it so stinking rude. Are you just automatically supposed to accommodate others' pets when you have them as guests??

Well, that turned into more of a rant than a UO, but there you go.

I completely agree with you. It sounds like THIS dog is not ready to be cared for by someone other than your ILs, if it is having some behavioral issues. And, dogs can jump gates. Mine does, when he really wants to. And Weimeraners are tall, yo. I wouldn't be surprised if it could jump a gate, even if it were on the downstairs side of one.

So, the devil's advocate in me says: what's the alternative if your ILs can't find someone to care for the dog? Is there a dog-friendly hotel/motel nearby where they can stay? (This is what we would do if we were visiting people and couldn't board our dog) Or, maybe only one of them comes to visit with grandchildren, and the other stays home with the dog. Or dare I say that maybe they should reschedule their visit to a time when they can make arrangements for the dog. (Maybe after the new year? In my husband's family, it's Christmas until Jan 6)

I'm sorry it sounds like YH has put you in a tough position. Good luck, maybe it won't be so bad.

As always, it's a long story. His family doesn't have the money to stay in a hotel. But they can afford a jeep for fun and a $60k fishing boat? What a can of worms. (Get it, because of fishing?). Then I start thinking about how their irresponsibility with money will ultimately fall on us to care for them in their old age and I get really bitter.

Thanks for listening everyone. I just needed to vent. I'm trying not to turn it into a big huge thing, and just not invite them in the future. Likely the dog will embarrass them anyway and make it easy to say no next time, I think they have no clue how obnoxious he is.

Mandmeesh · December 2014

farmrsboywife said:

Into+the+Kitty said:
Also I took a drink for 'we should be here to support each other.'
You don't have to support me, I'll be ok.

But please don't leave your surburban lifestyle and don't ever go to a small family farm to live. Changes your perspectives.

I'm pretty sure that a 9mo on any golf cart, anywhere, is the wrong decision

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

farmrsboywife said:

Also I took a drink for 'we should be here to support each other.'
You don't have to support me, I'll be ok. But please don't leave your surburban lifestyle and don't ever go to a small family farm to live. Changes your perspectives.

LLOL. You have zero clue how or where I live. It's pretty hilarious to assume that all small family farm owners are ok with reckless abandon when it comes to their children's lives, so obviously I must be some yuppie from suburbia.

Smallllmin · December 2014

Smallllmin · December 2014

Oh BTW I thought of another UO.

I hate those amber necklaces.
They totally don't do anything besides pose a major choking risk to babies.

sarenu1 · December 2014

I've driven golf carts. I would not take an infant on one.

stoneycakes · December 2014

I'll just be over in the Book Club thread if anyone needs me. ..

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

Chickypoo2468 said:

Also I took a drink for 'we should be here to support each other.'
You don't have to support me, I'll be ok. But please don't leave your surburban lifestyle and don't ever go to a small family farm to live. Changes your perspectives.
I have a small family farm. And the children are not allowed on moving things. Babies and unsteady toddlers aren't allowed on any equipment whatsoever. They don't even go to the barn unless they are restrained somehow. Bc ew.

Your small family farm must be in suburbia, amiright?

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Mandmeesh · December 2014

And @freezorburn‌ (I think you asked) my great aunt tumbled out of a slow moving golf cart on a tight turn. She didn't die, but could have if she hit her head

sarenu1 · December 2014

sarenu1 said:

I've driven golf carts. I would not take an infant on one.

And for the record, I've had coolers tumble out of golf carts as well (I had to set up 4 sets of coolers at a golf course). It doesn't take a fast turn to do this.

flummadiddle85 · December 2014

theultimatesak said:

Oh BTW I thought of another UO.

I hate those amber necklaces.
They totally don't do anything besides pose a major choking risk to babies.
False.

I don't feel like they are a major choking risk, but I'm still skeptical that it did anything for V when he was wearing it. And I took it off of him when he kept trying to chew it. I kept it around for G in case it does anything for him.

TheUltimateStoneycakes · December 2014

you guys are a bunch of pearl clutchers

i totes let my baby drive the backhoe around our property. he's very responsible and has great head control.

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

farmrsboywife said:

Also I took a drink for 'we should be here to support each other.'
You don't have to support me, I'll be ok. But please don't leave your surburban lifestyle and don't ever go to a small family farm to live. Changes your perspectives.
I have a small family farm. And the children are not allowed on moving things. Babies and unsteady toddlers aren't allowed on any equipment whatsoever. They don't even go to the barn unless they are restrained somehow. Bc ew.
And you do yours and we do ours. I'm not going to tell you how to raise your kids.
Please see my couch/bed comment. It's called common sense.
Please see my water comment- anything can kill you.
I don't get this. In the US it's pretty unlikely anyone is going to die from drinking water. But kids and adults die from accidents every day- some of which are preventable.
Everyone who drinks water dies.

You cannot really be this stupid. Everyone dies, so why bother trying prevent someone from dying 80 years or more before they would naturally die? Yeah, ok.

Rrrrrachel · December 2014

You know it's getting serious when the quote boxes are that deep. On mobile it's a one character wide column.

I don't think Amber necklaces do much but I'm also pretty convinced they're safe/not a choking hazard.

Smallllmin · December 2014

This.

stoneycakes · December 2014

Smallllmin said:

This.

TJ1979 · December 2014

theultimatesak said:

Smallllmin said:
Oh BTW I thought of another UO.

I hate those amber necklaces.
They totally don't do anything besides pose a major choking risk to babies.
False.

#teamsak

stoneycakes · December 2014

stoneycakes said:

Smallllmin said:

This.

For the record, I don't think this board is like that. I would't hang around here if I did.

Kelly11235 · December 2014

deleted comment, cuz i think it went too far.

stoneycakes · December 2014

Just come over to the FFFC @Kelly11235. It's Friday.

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

Smallllmin said:

This.

You're not a very smart person either, are you?

stoneycakes · December 2014

AFwifelife said:

I can't believe there is a WK for a 9 month old on an ATV.

Technically, it was a golf cart.

stoneycakes · December 2014

Chickypoo2468 said:

What's a WK?

White Knight. I googled

Into+the+Kitty · December 2014

Guys I ran ouT of filtered water so I'm just going to drink my dishwashing detergent. Yeah, it may kill me, but everyone who drinks water eventually dies too right? Ipso facto, drinking water is exactly the same risk/reward as drinking chemicals!

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