How old was LO when....

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• Emerald27 member

  December 2014 edited December 2014

  For what it's worth, DH and I do have plenty of date nights or lunch dates. We occasionally go to movies or to shows downtown. My BIL and SIL live nearby and are happy to take care of the kids. Just because we don't leave them overnight doesn't mean that we never take a break.
  
  DS1 does great when we go out for dates and things. He loves his aunt and uncle and has an easy time with the separation. He did very well when I was in the hospital after having DS2. He wanted me, but he wasn't scared and didn't cry or anything because we prepared him well in advance, telling him over and over that when mommy had the baby she and baby "would have to spend one night with the doctor to make sure they are healthy and strong."
  
  Again, this is just our preference and it has worked very well for our family. DS is secure but also very independent. I'm sure there are extreme cases where the child is afraid of staying with others, but that could easily be developmental or personality too.

  
  

  
  

  

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• MrsTinMKE member

  December 2014

  Emerald27 said:

  For what it's worth, DH and I do have plenty of date nights or lunch dates. We occasionally go to movies or to shows downtown. My BIL and SIL live nearby and are happy to take care of the kids. Just because we don't leave them overnight doesn't mean that we never take a break. DS1 does great when we go out for dates and things. He loves his aunt and uncle and has an easy time with the separation. He did very well when I was in the hospital after having DS2. He wanted me, but he wasn't scared and didn't cry or anything because we prepared him well in advance, telling him over and over that when mommy had the baby she and baby "would have to spend one night with the doctor to make sure they are healthy and strong." Again, this is just our preference and it has worked very well for our family. DS is secure but also very independent. I'm sure there are extreme cases where the child is afraid of staying with others, but that could easily be developmental or personality too.

  @Emerald27 - I wasn't insinuating that people who don't leave their kids overnight don't take a break, I hope it didn't come off like that.  I want to avoid the extreme cases as I mentioned.  

  

  
  

  
  

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• MrsTinMKE member

  December 2014

  Kaylajade8911 said:

  I don't think it will be problem really. As we leave him with hie Grandad to go places fairly often and he loves him. He doesn't even care we are gone. It's just overnight it something I don't prefer to do until they are old enough to understand we are coming back. DS1 has suffered with what the dr calls night terrors. It really puts me off leaving him.

  Wow, that would make leaving tough, totally understandable there. I wouldn't want to leave LO alone either if that was happening.

  

  
  

  
  

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