Anyone else not finding out?

MrsCamo · December 2014

I know it's still early, but has anyone else made the decision not to find out what sex you are having? DH and I thought it would be easiest to stick to our decision not to find out from the very beginning. Whether you are or are not finding out, is this your first child? I feel like that seems to effect the decision for some couples. This is our first child and after the road we've been down just to get pregnant, waiting a few extra months for a great surprise seems well worth it! I would also love to hear opinions from the mamas who have been Team Green before. Thanks ladies!!

ShellyR · December 2014

So far, we have agreed to be Team Green.

We'll see how long we can hold out. If I keep spotting, I think I'm going to end up caving.

Catcherryesux · December 2014

For my first pregnancy, I counted down the days until the anatomy scan. In fact, when scheduling the U/S, the tech kept trying to push me to wait until week 20 or 21. I was like, my OB told me I could do it at 19 weeks and that's when I want it! She huffed and grudgingly scheduled me.

I am leaning towards not finding out this time. It'll be my last pregnancy, and I kind of want to wait. I totally reserve the right to change my mind though.

KLB2T · December 2014

Whether you find out at 20 weeks or when the baby is born, its a surprise regardless, IMO. We found out last pregnancy and will again will this one. We have nothing against being Team Green, its just not for us.

Good luck and stay strong Team Greeners! :-bd

nbalkin · December 2014

I will be finding out, but I give a lot of credit to those that have the patience to wait it out. I am not one of those people

MrsCamo · December 2014

KLB2T said:
Whether you find out at 20 weeks or when the baby is born, its a surprise regardless, IMO. We found out last pregnancy and will again will this one. We have nothing against being Team Green, its just not for us.

Good luck and stay strong Team Greeners! :-bd

Yes, I agree it's a surprise either way. Everyone has their reasons and I 100% respect that either way. The other big factor for us is between us and all 3 of our parents, we live in 4 different states. Add in our siblings and we're spread across 6 states and 2 countries. We weren't able to tell them in person that we are expecting. So it will be exciting to tell most of them in person, right there in the hospital, whether it's a boy or a girl rather than calling them after an ultrasound.

prairiedreams · December 2014

Team green or yellow or white!!! I am way type A and still choose to find out at birth last time around. Planning the same thing again.
Last time I got a bunch of stuff in yellow, green and white for newborn as we hoped we would be blessed again and would use the same starting stuff again and here we are!
It allows me to be slightly calmer on the overboard preparations to not know.

WashingtonQueen · December 2014

We found out for our first 2. The next one we want to be team green just to do something different.

CaliforniaDream87 · December 2014

I would love to be team green this go round. However, my poor husband would never be able to do it. We may just do a reveal a couple days after having the US tech write the sex down. We shall see.

direy25 · December 2014

We were Team Green for our first, and did love the excitement of waiting. The problem is I ended up having to be put under General Anesthesia for my c-section (too much scar tissue from back surgery so they couldn't do a spinal) so my H found out before I did. I'll most likely have to have a c-section again and will have to be put under again so we will find out.

MrsCamo · December 2014

prairiedreams said:
Team green or yellow or white!!! I am way type A and still choose to find out at birth last time around. Planning the same thing again.

It allows me to be slightly calmer on the overboard preparations to not know.

I hadn't thought of it this way but I completely agree! I am definitely type A. But I do feel like the nursery, names, everything would be easier on me if I don't obsess about it for 4 months while waiting for baby. Of course, I'll still wonder but I agree that the last few months will be more serene if my mind isn't badgering the fact that it IS a girl or it IS a boy.

MrsCamo · December 2014

direy25 said:
We were Team Green for our first, and did love the excitement of waiting. The problem is I ended up having to be put under General Anesthesia for my c-section (too much scar tissue from back surgery so they couldn't do a spinal) so my H found out before I did. I'll most likely have to have a c-section again and will have to be put under again so we will find out.

In your case, knowing ahead of time that my H would find out first, I think I would find out ahead of time too.

direy25 · December 2014

MrsCamo said:

We were Team Green for our first, and did love the excitement of waiting. The problem is I ended up having to be put under General Anesthesia for my c-section (too much scar tissue from back surgery so they couldn't do a spinal) so my H found out before I did. I'll most likely have to have a c-section again and will have to be put under again so we will find out.
In your case, knowing ahead of time that my H would find out first, I think I would find out ahead of time too.

If we weren't in that situation, we'd definitely be team green again!

Kalidawn523 · December 2014

Team green intrigues me but I think I'm way too much of a planner. We will find out at the A/S. I think I would go crazy waiting until the birth. Props to you ladies for being team green. That's so awesome!

aliska · December 2014

KLB2T said:

Whether you find out at 20 weeks or when the baby is born, its a surprise regardless, IMO. We found out last pregnancy and will again will this one. We have nothing against being Team Green, its just not for us.

Good luck and stay strong Team Greeners! :-bd

Yup, this for us too. Team green isn't for us. I don't have that kind of patience. Good luck team greeners! (Greeners...is that a thing?..that can't be it.)

MrsCamo · December 2014

I'm interested to see who says they will be Team Green now and then who actually sticks it out the whole way through!

SassetteSmurfling · December 2014

I love everything about team green and have been team green for both of my other children. The only reason I'm considering finding out this time is because my children have both already said they want a sister. So if it's a brother I would like to be able to prepare them a little. But I'm 99% sure I'll stick with team green!

MarathonHiker · December 2014

Still deciding, we're mixed. One day we want to find out and the next we do. Good thing we have time to decide.

MrsCamo · December 2014

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MrsCamo · December 2014

quietdownfiish said:
MH just told me he doesn't know if he wants to wait or not!!! ( For financial reasons, he wants to know so he can work out a budget.

What a bubble burster!

I will see if I can work my magic and make him wait

My husband had reservations at first too, mostly because he's impatient. But after explaining my reasons, he is completely on board now. We discussed taking the money that we would budget for clothes and other sex specific items and buying gift cards with it to use after the birth. Something that may help your persuasion

momtoax3 · December 2014

We were team green with our 1st and it was a great experience. It was a long labor with an emergency csection followed by the baby being taken right away to the NICU. The excitement of "It's a BOY" was exactly what we needed to keep our spirits up when everything seemed to be going wrong at that time. With our 2nd DH wanted to find out at the anatomy scan and I wanted to be able to see everyone's reactions. So we found out and had a gender reveal. It was fun. But immediately after we found out we wished we would have waited.

So we will be team green for this one. It is funny how nuts our family and friends went thinking we knew and we really didn't. We have a boy and a girl so no real need to find out until the baby is here.

worldsokayestmom · December 2014

I would like to be team green, but DH is not on board. I wouldn't be able to take it if he knew and I didn't, so we're just going to find out.

millegirl · December 2014

We always said team green while TTC, but now I feel like I want to know. I want to call the baby by his/her name. But I'm keep going back to the surprise element, I also had a doula say for some women the surprise helps the labor.

DH really wants to wait, so we might stay team green, we will see.

cubberss · December 2014

We found out each time previous, so I really want to attempt team green this time. We were going to wait last time, but DD was adamant that she get another brother, so we found out in case it was a girl and she needed to process.

My brother and SIL just had a baby that they were told was a girl after the a/s, and surprise! A boy popped out. I'd rather be team green than have that happen!

cyanope · December 2014

worldsokayestmom said:

I would like to be team green, but DH is not on board. I wouldn't be able to take it if he knew and I didn't, so we're just going to find out.

I'm in this boat too. Darn husbands.

ajetter · December 2014

I think if we had one of each we would have been team green this time, but if it is a boy I'd like to know, because we have a whole lotta girly stuff. Also for the purpose of preparing DD1 for the new baby, I'd like to be able to tell her whether she is going to have a brother or another sister. She has asked me multiple times when she gets a little brother, so I think it will take some time to process if it is a girl.

Altima80 · December 2014

We were Team Green with the first. While I'm a huge type A and planner type of person, I didn't find it hard at all. I just got all gender neutral stuff, which I'm glad I did because we'll be Team Green again with this one. While the first was a boy, if this one is a girl, she'd be able to use all the stuff we used with the first one. Except for a lot of the clothes. Don't get me wrong...once we got home, I started little boy cloth shopping. :-)

I love the excitement. :-)

danaalex · December 2014

I do not have the strength to be Team Green

I'm way too controlling. I must know!

KillaKermie · December 2014

It's me and my partners first baby and were totally excited but we want to wait and see

so exciting tho! I just hope i can hold on and have the perfect suprise! My friend had. Suprise for her first one and she said it makes you push that little bit more so fingers crossed that works for me!!!

raffsen · December 2014

Team green last time, and wouldn't do it any other way!! We also had 2 boy names and 2 girl names and waited to meet the lo to make the final pick <:-P

Nurse312@aol.com · December 2014

My husband and I have decided not to know right now. Not sure if we will change our minds... Hoping we don't but we will see.

JennyLynn6785 · December 2014

My husband wants to be Team Green, but I fully intend to find out. I'm too controlling not to know.

doveshoes · December 2014

We will wait to find out because neither of us care if it's a boy or girl and it will add to the excitement on the day. Plus it will drive our families crazy...an added bonus

hopefulreturn · December 2014

Right now we're planning to be on team green. We'll see how things progress, but I'd like to wait for the surprise and plan a neutral nursery.

Ampaints · December 2014

Team green all the way. We'll have a few options for names for either way and decide what fits our little one when we meet them.

sweetsyrup · December 2014

We were team green for #1, and I'm fairly certain we'll be team green for this little one too! It was awesome to have him and then find out it was a big boy!!

joyfultrex · December 2014

We were team green last time and will be again this time. My husband missed the birth with DS and my mom texted him 5 minutes before he got to the hospital saying it was a boy, ruining the 9 months of waiting. Hopefully we will both find out at the same time with this baby.

I feel that it is easier to plan while on team green, especially if you want more kids because then you have everything you need already.

panaricana · December 2014

BrassyClarinet said:

It's intriguing to not know, and the surprise would be exciting. However, I don't think the planner in me would let it happen!

Ditto. For us, there's something special about having the name and details ready.

panaricana · December 2014

Aiming4Telos said:

We're thinking about Team Green for this one. It will be our third, and we still have all of the gender-specific stuff (to the extent that it's necessary) from DS and DD. I'm thinking, to hell with a nursery this time around. Both DS and DD slept in our room for the first six months, and we're still debating room configurations (do we keep the "guest bedroom" and two kids share or give it to the new kid?) Maybe we'll hang on to the guest room for as long as we can. Minimal plans necessary here.
There's a certain appeal - a continuity with generations past - with waiting until birth to find out the sex. On the other hand, maybe finding out would help prepare DS/DD for the transition?

This also sums us up.

andbabymakessix · December 2014

We are waiting. This is our 4th. Team green for our first, found out our second ahead of time, and team green for our third. The only reason we found out with our second was because my husband was certain it was a girl and was so nervous about having a girl (our first was a boy). And turns out, she was indeed a girl

And now my husband is quite possibly the best girl dad evah...no idea what he was worried about

Nothing quite like the feeling of DH telling me "We have a ____!" through tears. Best. Feeling. Ever.

fowlerpfs · December 2014

I am torn about this. We found out with our boys at the anatomy scan, so I think this being our last would be fun to wait. However, both of our boys are determined that they are getting a baby sister, so it might be an easier transition if its a boy if we know ahead of time. My oldest DS literally has been praying for a baby sister for 3 years!

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