May 2015 Moms

Tell me your wedding horror stories!

Weird as it may sound, I think it will soothe me to hear some other people's crazy times. Here are the wedding crises we are currently dealing with:

My fiancé just got the vest he ordered and instead of 2 sizes up, they went 2 sizes down.
Fiancé's "best woman" has chicken pox, and isn't doing well (since it's so dangerous in adults). We are so worried, and obviously she won't be at the wedding.
My bridesmaid and her son have the H3N2(?) mutated flu and can't come.
Fiancé's family is refusing to come to the rehearsal dinner and we don't really know why.

What did YOU (or your friends) encounter in the days leading up to your wedding?

And thanks again for keeping me sane, y'all. :)
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  • @RachiCakes‌ thank you!!! I am trying to remember that the important thing is, we'll be married by Saturday night. :)
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  • It wasn't my wedding, but I was in the bridal party where the MOH got arrested the night before for DUI. She made it to the ceremony and all, but she looked a little on the rough side and everyone was pretty pissed. 
    The alterations on my SIL dress got jacked up. The hem was 2 inches two short and she didn't realize until the day of. Whoops!



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  • I'm so sorry that all this is happening before the big day! I always tell my brides, there's always about to be at least one or two things that go wrong so let's just hope that these are yours and the rest will go off without a hitch :)

    My own wedding was relatively "event" free. A few minor things like us being up until like midnight the night before finishing last min details, they forgot to put out the personalized M&Ms I ordered for our candy bar (there's still millions of them in my freezer because I refuse to throw them away hah), we ran out of helium for these giant balloon things we had. Silly stuff. 

    Now since I'm a wedding photog I've seen some true horror story stuff... probably most recent was all of the bridal party lined up ready to walk down the aisle and the officiant doesn't show..had to post pone the ceremony by 2 hours while we scrambled to find another. It was insane. So call your vendors a few days before and double check with them!! 
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  • I got pregnant and was 12 weeks for the big day. Every day I thought "if my BBs get any bigger, this thing won't zip!" Ended up they looked real nice! Haha

    I also had so many late RSVPs I couldn't even keep track of. Most of those losers ended up not even coming!

    Plus I insisted on having the wedding outside during the day and the weather was warmer than expected. Since they set the tables so early, everyone was nearly burned by the hot silverware.

    Congratulations and I'm sure your day will be great. Just keep in mind that if anything isn't perfect, you're the only one that knows. None of your guests have all the 'behind the scenes knowledge' as you. Have the best day!!
  • RedCherry1109RedCherry1109 member
    edited December 2014
    Mine doesn't come close to yours but my grandmother changed out of her dress into blue jeans and a t-shirt at the reception after she had been told several times that it wasn't allowed. I didn't speak to her for a week because she only did it to list us off.

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  • With my XH we had a destination wedding and the party went overnight.

    1. We lost (or got stolen) our laptops that were packed in the same bag.
    2. His BFF/BM died a couple months before the wedding in a freak accident.
    3. His cousin got wasted and gave a 10 min toast that compared our relationship to a fishing trip. It was soooo boring.
    4. My BFF got wasted and wandered down the street and got in a fight at the bar. Came back with a black eye and bruised face.
    5. I broke a rib at the bachelorette party the weekend before (Vegas Party Bus! Woot!)
    5. His cousins were fighting in the hotel room corridor most of the night, keeping people awake. His cousin (see 3) started escalating it, and I went out to yell at them to STFU and he got pushed into me, and it hurt like a mofo cuz of my broken rib.
    6. I had stomach issues the day of and was barely able to drink anything alcoholic.

    It was still fun, but honestly, my current DH and I had a private wedding where no family would dare come (Burning Man festival). It was sooooo much better.

    Chin up! And Best Wishes!
  • I got pregnant and was 12 weeks for the big day. Every day I thought "if my BBs get any bigger, this thing won't zip!" Ended up they looked real nice! Haha I also had so many late RSVPs I couldn't even keep track of. Most of those losers ended up not even coming! Plus I insisted on having the wedding outside during the day and the weather was warmer than expected. Since they set the tables so early, everyone was nearly burned by the hot silverware. Congratulations and I'm sure your day will be great. Just keep in mind that if anything isn't perfect, you're the only one that knows. None of your guests have all the 'behind the scenes knowledge' as you. Have the best day!!
    Oh, and this reminds me, I found out two weeks before the wedding that I was pregnant with DD! haha almost didn't fit into dress because of bloat 
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  • I have one.
    I got a raging migraine right before our rehearsal and ended up in a dark room with my MOH sobbing because it hurt so bad and I couldn't see. My youngest brother took a wrong turn on the way to us and was lost and unable to be at the rehearsal. So the wedding party was missing the bride, MOH, and one groomsman for the rehearsal.
    Meanwhile, my poor fiance was beside himself that I was feeling so bad and he couldn't do anything to help, that he snapped at everyone, including our officiant, he yelled, kicked sand at him and 'took off'. My older brother, being the helpful little shit that he is, came in to ask if I knew where the groom went, because he 'just took off'. Of course I go into panic mode thinking that he's left me, which doesn't help the migraine, and I melt down. A few minutes later FI comes in to check on me, and calms me down. I manage to stumble through one quick run of the wedding and we head off to the rehearsal dinner at a suuuuuper fancy restaurant, paid for by my ILS. 20 min in, my dumb ass brother shows up, unwashed, in his sweats and with some girl I've never met and was for sure NOT invited to my wedding.
    Anyway, it ended up being a perfect perfect day, and I wouldn't change any of the craziness.

    Good luck to you. I hope you really enjoy your day, and I can't wait to see pictures. :)
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  • lladymacklladymack member
    edited December 2014
    I'm sorry things aren't going great leading up to the day. Hopefully you get all that crap out of the way now and have a perfect day!

    My brother and his friend brought 2 strippers as their dates. They were caught doing coke in the bathroom, making out together in dj both and offering to show and let people touch their new fake boobs.
    I finally kicked them out when one almost spilt red wine all over me.

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  • Hugs to you! Hopefully everything will go smoothly the day of!

    I just have a tiny one--we decided to go with a blue and green plaid cake (we had a fairly traditional Scottish wedding and decided to match the cake to my husband's clan's tartan) and the frosting dyed everyone's mouths blue for the rest of the night.
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  • Prewedding, My MIL went to the reception venue and "rearranged some things" with the seating chart without my knowledge.  Thank goodness the venue called me.  I was livid!
     





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  • a million and one things could possibly happen.  But at the end of the day, as long as you are his wife and he is your husband, that's all that matters :)

    As for me, the worst thing that happened is that my childhood priest called us the wrong names.  During the vows he asked my husband "Do you take Amber to be your wife?"  My husband said " I do.   To Amy."  Another point he called my husband Jason (his name is Justin).  At the end, he said "I present to you, Mr. & Mrs Ginseng" (not our last name.)  He then pointed to my MIL and said that's how she told him to pronounce it. That woman has had this name for 30 years... I'm pretty sure she knows how to pronounce it.  Nice try.  

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  • Oh, and this reminds me, I found out two weeks before the wedding that I was pregnant with DD! haha almost didn't fit into dress because of bloat 

    I was so scared to not fit in my dress. I visited my mom every other day to make sure she could still zip it. The day of the wedding, no one else was allowed in the room with us in case it didn't zip, I didn't want to show how scared I was!

    Ended up helping me out since I was not endowed before. Haha

  • I"m sorry this is happening to you @tinalovescauliflower, like others said just remember at the end of the day it's just about you and DH.  Best wishes!

    My day had a few hiccups. DH got into a car accident the morning of the wedding, in his recently detailed Jeep which was supposed to be our get-away vehicle.  He was fine, so when he called to tell me what happened I tried to stay calm and just told him we would find another way to get to the hotel. We ended up calling a cab, which made for great pictures! 

    One of my bridesmaids got some sort of stomach bug, so she was puking all day and ended up leaving the reception early. 

    A group of friends turned their table into the party table, and somehow their drinking games led to catching their centerpiece on fire.. They were able to quickly put it out, but there was some damage to the linens. X(

    My grandpa decides to go to the store to get something to drink pre-ceremony, and ends up getting lost trying to find his way back. We started our ceremony half an hour late waiting for him because I refused go on without him there. 

    But at the end of the day, it was a fun and memorable day. We've been happily married for 6 years. 
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  • I'm sorry to hear about the unexpected issues leading up to your wedding.  Hopefully, these things just make an entertaining wedding story to share one day. 


    I had more issues regarding my wedding in the months leading up to my wedding thanks to a mentally unstable exgirlfriend of one of the groomsmen.  So random.  I did get to know her over the a couple of years but not enough to warrant her pressuring me daily to make her a bridesmaid, pressuring me include different cultural traditions into my wedding (traditions that aren't even something my family ever practiced), inviting herself to my family bridal shower in another state and then being rude to my shower hosts plus parents (which ultimately resulted in my husband and I breaking off the friendship with her and uninviting her to our wedding), then trying to turn our group of friends against us.  Yeah, random exgirlfriend of a groomsmen that refused to leave him alone as well as the group of guys that have been buddies since high school (they are now in their mid-30s).  Did I mention that the break up happened 10 years ago?

    That was the big headache that overshadowed my husband's father refusing to attend his only child's wedding because his new wife wasn't invited (my husband's decision).  My FIL left my MIL a year before for another woman then got remarried as soon as the divorce was finalized.

    Both the crazy exgirlfriend of a groomsman and the new wife gave us an impression that they might crash our wedding (especially the crazy exgirlfriend) so the wedding planner and her staff had photos and descriptions of both people and were ready to escort them out.

    In the end, no one crashed our wedding.  We lost one couple as friends that we realized that we didn't care for anyways, which is probably why we never sought them out to hang out.

    I hope everything goes well with your wedding!  Enjoy the day, I'm sure it will be beautiful.

  • Holy moly! Sorry to hear about all that.
    Mine was small and stupid compared to yours:
    My alcoholic mother forgot my veil, custom made sash, and corset. I flipped out and had a Bridezilla moment 20 min before the ceremony. Other than that, it was a great day.
  • My father died two weeks before my wedding. He was fairly sick so it didn't come as a huge surprise - he wouldn't have been able to come and we were not especially close. 

    I thankfully still fit in my dress but was definitely swollen and bloated from all of the eating out and drinking that happened due to being home for a week for my father.

    The day off all of my flowers (bridesmaids and centerpieces) were the wrong color. My BM's hotel room was cancelled because they overbooked. (It was a mini destination wedding - all of the guests were in from out of town and lived 2-5 hours away). The shuttle we booked and that was taking me to the wedding was 30 min late and smelled so bad of booze - the pictures of me on the way to the wedding show my grumpy stressed face. 

    My brother and I did a dance instead of a father daughter dance and I wore my father's cowboy hat. By my SIL Step mom (really, don't ask) laughed and told the table I must be drunk. Um no. She was also the same woman who took photos of my father's funeral (cause that's respectful and something we need to reminisce over).

    In the end the wedding was perfect and everyone still raves it was one of their favorite weddings. In the end none of the little things mattered because we were married.
  • I wanted everyone to show up at the venue dressed and ready to go. Everyone did, except my MOH. She tried to put on her dress but it was a size too small. She'd returned it many times getting smaller and smaller sizes b/c she was dieting. This time, it just didn't fit. In my bridal room while it was time for me to get dressed, my MOH was on the floor, face down as two men tried to zip her up. It wouldn't go. She burst into tears. The owner of the venue actually SEWED the dress as closed as they could and she wore a shrug to cover the large open spot in the gown.

    Since she was took up so much time and space in the room with all the dress helpers, my other BMs never got a chance to spend girl time alone with me in the bridal suite before the ceremony. I got a few "getting ready" photos but not the ones I'd hoped for. So much for paying for the extra hour of the photographers time.


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  • We went to Vegas and got married. It wasn't planned so we rented our wedding attire. I looked like a house in the dress and I  was the skinniest of my life. My husband was wearing a wool suit in Las Vegas in July. There were some digital pictures but they were horrible so I tell everyone there was no pictures. We drove home shortly after the wedding 4 hour drive and I made him stop like 2 times because I was car sick. When we got home we did our laundry and went on about our normal lives. three days later we found out I was pregnant with DS2. I think it was about a week before I told my family and he waited till almost November to tell his family. They all swear it was a shotgun wedding but it wasn't. 
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  • We were heading to our venue an hour away the day before our wedding, and we stopped to get the tuxes first. The place we rented them from doesn't get them shipped in until a day or two before, but they promised they'd be there when we went to pick them up...they weren't. It was UPS' fault, their truck was delayed and no one could tell us why or what could be done about it. We had to head out to make it to our rehearsal dinner, so we arranged for my MIL to pick them up that night or the morning of the wedding before she came up.

    The owner was really apologetic and was in constant contact updating me, but it really kind of sucked getting a million phone calls during our rehearsal dinner, too.

    My guys got their tuxes on the wedding day (along with 282829 other sizes, 'just in case' , though the button on MH's pants was missing...) and we got something like $100 off for all the trouble.

    So that sucked, and was super stressful, but honestly @tinalovescauliflower, its the LAST thing I think of when I remember my wedding day! It didn't even cross my mind until I saw another tux mishap on this thread lol.

    Sorry for all the sickness and drama going on, I hope your day is wonderful regardless!!!
  • JamesyJamesy member
    edited December 2014
    OH!! I have two good ones. 

    1) The best man had to leave at 8pm because his date drank all the champagne on the table and passed out in the grass on my wedding coordinator's lap. They said he needed to take her home or they'd call an ambulance.

    2) Good thing they had that ambulance on call because my husbands hussy of a 60 year old aunt (who wore a leapord print dress up to her coochie) tried to leave with a 26 year old friend (I mean, good for her and everything but...) and when she jumped on his back for a piggyback ride she missed... and hit the pavement. With her face. Then she tried to sue our venue for medical costs and pain & suffering. 

    Also my MIL wore a long white dress and didn't so much as bother to give us a card. 
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  • I have learned that wedding never, ever go as planned.  Not a single one I have been to.  Some turn out better than even imagined though, Ive never seen one go down in flames and really suck.

    So for my wedding my best friend, and MOH (even though I didn't really want to pick a MOH as I was completely torn between three people Ive known my entire life and are equally close to) was beyond late to my wedding.  It wasn't even really her fault, I totally screwed up, and then she did too....  One of my other bridesmaids was also late for the same reason and she just straight up pissed me off.

    There is an even in Nashville called the Iroquois Steeplechase, it's a huge horse race like the KY Derby only not as big or well known...  MOH's family were the ones who actually formed and started Steeplechase, and I booked my wedding date unknowingly on the same day!!  She was required to be there until at least 12, by her family as she had already promised to be at some ceremony where they honored her grandfather who had just passed away recently... so it was important, I understood.  Well wedding day comes at 12:30......1.....2..... still no word from her.....  Finally she shows up a little after 2, looking slightly disheveled and crazy... but good to go.   She had slipped in a pile of mud, messed up her hair in the process, and had to go completely home and fix herself and then rush over.  She left her speech and had to wing it...

    Then I actually got a little over served near the end of my wedding, we all got into a taxi to go to a local bar for an after after party and I lost my shoes!  When I got to the bar some chick I didn't know gave me sandals from her car lol!  I still have them!

    Also at some point my garter fell off and I lost it!  But my venue found it the next day..

    All in all my wedding was awesome, but it goes by SOOOO quick, and it feels like a whirlwind, trying to say hi to everyone and cut the cake and do the first dance....  Don't overplan yourself at the reception.  Give yourself a little time to relax and visit and sit down for ten minutes!  After the wedding is the worst, you don't know what the hell to do with yourself after planning so long!
  • before the wedding MIL said they'd pay for 1/2 the wedding. SIL got engaged so MIL decided they'd pay just the traditional things the grooms parents would pay for. Ok fine.

    We get closer and it's just our rehearsal dinner and our tickets for a cruise for our honeymoon (see also they wanted someone to go on vacation with them but whatever VACATION!) up to $1,000 for both items.

     So that would of been tight but more than ok. Except they pick out our room for the cruise and want it to be closer to theirs so it makes boarding and leaving easier, and that room is $500/person. DH told them that with travel costs and then spending money and whatever else we just could not afford that with everything else we were paying for so thank you anyway but we can't go. So they finally say ok they will pay for the whole room. They left out the fact that they didn't pay the mandatory gratuities though until we were on the ship and it had been billed to us. We didn't plan for that and almost didn't have enough money then to get home. :)

    As we got closer I kept asking about rehearsal dinner options. I kept getting told that it was whatever and up to us where we wanted to go. Ok fine I start calling places and getting information. I finally sat down with MIL to pick a place. She wanted to have a BBQ at our place because for SIL everywhere was already booked for her date. SIL got married in May so wedding season. We got married off season. But I had to point out too that we lived in an upstairs apartment and didn't have the room or anywhere to do a BBQ. She finally agreed to pay for a place to have the dinner.

    Did I mention that while all this was going on they paid over 10 grand for SIL's wedding? SIL got engaged after us and married after us too so kind of a slap in the face they'd do so much for one kid but not the other. DH says he wasn't as mad because he was just used to it with his sister.

    At the actual rehearsal dinner my mom gave me crap because a brides maid bought me a mixed drink for dinner. She was mad because I was drinking when her brother (who lives in another state and I've never met) was in the hospital from his alcoholism and his liver was failing.

    Wedding day very little went wrong. Just DH and the grooms men brought in the food I made in crockpots and never plugged them. I had no clue but my mom and grandma ran around heating things up for me. Then we told the guests to go eat and because DH and I weren't first in line and had no plan to be they both YELLED at all of our guests that they were rude. Mom and grandma couldn't grasp that they just made us look horrible and were the actually the rude ones.

    long story short: People get bsc when the word wedding is used. And not many people have weddings that go off with out a hitch.


  • SarahbmcdSarahbmcd member
    edited December 2014
    My wedding was at 630. My friend who is a baker made my wedding cake as a gift.

    She had previously showed me where she was going to put the columns for the tiers, at that time I told her they needed to be further spread out to support the cake. ..but what do I know?!?

    She delivered the cake at the hall at 11 ish bc she was also a bridesmaid. After she left my parents were there to drop something off. While there my cake fell!!! That was my most stressful phone call. I started bawling. Fortunately the hall had an inhouse baker who completely fixed my cake for me.


    Now the photographer.....
    She was a friend of my father in law. It was his gift to us. We had first look pics taken and we recieved none of them. After bugging her she finally said "they didnt turn out" she blamed the sun but she didn't bring the right lenses. She wasn't prepared. That pissed me off so much. I told FIL not to give her all her pay but if course he did and for mad at me for being mad.

    Eta: one of the groomsmen had sex with my 20 yr old cousin who was a bridesmaid in the only bathroom that i could fit in with my dress. It was a single bathroom. Her dad, who would have literally killed the guy was sitting right outside of bathroom and no idea what was going on. We had to make a plan to get them out and distract the dad. ..


    Also 3 wks before wedding i kicked my moh out of my wedding. She was saying how horrible i was and my family was for wanting to drink on party bus for Bachelorette party......more drama to it too...but it's not worth the time.

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  • ^^^ you and OP need to check out the website cakewrecks.com ! It's hilarious and has some of the worst wedding cake fails you've ever seen
  • With all that happened. I had THE most fun ever at my wedding. Enjoyed every moment and would do it all again.

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  • I have a good one to share!! The week before our wedding I started having stomach pains but I just wrote it off as nerves and not eating regularly. To shorten this up a lot - I ended up in the hospital Thursday with a scan showing something on my small intestine. Friday afternoon at 4 I headed in for laparoscopic surgery to find out what exactly was going on. The surgeon told DH that if they found anything that we wouldn't be getting married the next day. Well thankfully it was just an infection and I was discharged at 9 pm the night before my wedding with some heavy duty antibiotics. Made for a stressful couple days though and nothing like what I thought I'd be doing a couple days before our big day. My MOH and best friend did my mani in the hospital.  My wedding planner had a seamstress on standby incase I couldn't fit into my dress (from the swelling). The hospital staff were all great and the doc had a sense of humour.  On the pain meds he prescribed he wrote a note that no big decisions should be made while taking them. lol….We had a great day despite all the drama! 
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  • I'm sorry that you've had so many problems pop up. When is your wedding? Is there time to get a different vest for your fiancé?

    At my wedding: The best man was maybe an hour late and missed taking group photos, he also came without his suit jacket. One of the groomsman had a black eye. I remember there being some problem with the cupcakes not fitting well into the cupcake stand, but I don't really remember.

    Honestly all of the day of mishaps were easy to get over because I was focused on getting married, and in that moment nothing else mattered.
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  • I know I had some.  I was freaking out the week before my wedding.  Something last minute to do with the brochures and table numbers, I think?

    It was only 4 years ago, and I don't remember anything but the wedding and how amazing it was (even though plenty went not-according-to-plan at the wedding itself). :) YOU WILL HAVE THE BEST DAY EVER NO MATTER WHAT!!!
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  • Hubby had influenza 3 weeks before our wedding. He was seriously drained for most of the festivities, but put on a good face. 

    MIL and her close family didn't show up to afternoon pictures after ceremony because she decided to GO HOME, SHOWER, HAVE HER HAIR AND MAKEUP REDONE AND CHANGE. She almost didn't make it to the reception on time. She made us take awkward photos during our reception and we missed about an hour of dancing/drinking... Still sore at that one... 

    Ordered cake, gave picture of fabulous cake. They agreed to reproduce for our wedding. Walk in to reception to a completely different cake. Boy... did they hear from me after the fact... 

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  • Congratulations on your wedding hun! Just like everyone had said the wedding is all about you two and three important thing to remember is that you guys are getting married. I'm I'm sorry your going through so much drama but it will all be in the wind soon. The only major drama I had was my BIL got arrested a few days before and we had to to find a new grooms man which we did very quickly. We still make fun of him for for it almost 5 years later. The female photographer write a short skirt instead of pants so all the guys had a nice show :-\. Our dj was useless but that's just to much to write on my phone. Just as everyone said all the stupid drama will be worth it in the end. Just try and breath and have fun.
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  • My MIL didn't wear a bra. In her formal dress that she picked out because she wanted to be comfortable.

    It's super obvious in all the pictures. And she's not small chested.
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  • @JenAri2013 that's one way of getting your "something blue" for the wedding. 

    No kidding! Dramatic much?!
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  • I posted my story in a rush but just wanted to add that despite the obvious drama and pre-wedding plans that were missed it was still the best day. We adjusted and changed things as we went and really enjoyed ourselves! That's not to say I wouldn't have enjoyed myself a little bit more if I could have enjoyed a glass or two of champagne but hey, you can't have it all! :)

    I hope you have the best day on Saturday despite all the disappointments leading up to it! @tinalovescauliflower‌
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  • Yikes, @tinalovescauliflower!  That's a lot of stuff to deal with....but it's just stuff.  Relax, and at the end of the day you'll be married.  Breathe and enjoy!

    So, my wedding was kind of a comedy of errors.  H got sick a few days beforehand and then it got way worse in the days leading up to the wedding.  We thought it was swine flu but it was a really bad upper respiratory infection that then led to dehydration. So this all meant.....

    - H missed the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner entirely because we had just gotten back from urgent care and he was under orders to rest up for the big day the next day.  A lot of his family and friends were there whom I'd never met before, kinda awkward.  And his dad had to stand in at the rehearsal, haha.

    - H showed up to the wedding venue on the day of with a protective face mask on, and I took one look at him and started bawling just after my makeup had been done, so I had to have the whole thing redone.

    - Since I had to rush to get ready for the rehearsal after taking H to urgent care, I packed in a hurry and ended up with two different shoes, which I discovered as I was getting ready to go to take pictures.  I sent my dad back to my house to pick up my shoes' partners and he ended up setting off the alarm since our cat sitter had already been over there, unbeknownst to us.  So I had no shoes, the alarm company was blowing up my phone, and then my dad got drenched in an unexpected and brief downpour on the way back to the venue.

    - We didn't get to do a first dance because H was too weak, so we just sort of stood and swayed and watched our slideshow with everyone else....which was actually fine with us, since we're not big dancers.

    - About 2/3 through the reception I was taking H upstairs and he kinda collapsed and his eyes rolled back so we ended up calling the paramedics, who came to our hotel room to rehydrate him.  He was fine but it was all super dramatic and scary!

    - Unrelated, but I completely revamped my wedding vows the day before the wedding but then when I went to print them out the day of the wedding I printed out an older, much crappier version, which I only noticed in the middle of the ceremony as I was frantically looking for the newer, better vows.  Oops.

    All in all, we're married, and thankfully we're able to laugh at a lot of this now - 5.5 years later!  I think our friends and family had a great time at our wedding without us!  But it still makes me sad how much thought and planning went into everything and we hardly got to enjoy any of it.

    BFP: 8/26/2014
    EDD: 5/4/2015

    It's a girl!

    My little ladies - Lola (RIP), Cecilia, and Peggy Sue
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  • Good luck planning and congrats!

    I think that as most here have said, it will be a magical day. And all the bad stuff will be outweighed by the happy memories. :)

    My horrors:

    1) We live in a small NYC apartment, and my MIL, FIL, SIL, and GIL (Grandma in Law?) all stayed with us for the entire 2 weeks prior to the wedding (seriously, on air mattresses and a couch.) They didn't want to help with the wedding stuff we actually needed to get done, and were pissed that the stuff they wanted to do (i.e. gift bags and favors) has already been completed prior to their arrival. So we basically spent the 2 weeks prior to my wedding taking them sightseeing. Then, 2 nights before the wedding, they invited about 20 extended family members to our apartment for dinner. Everyone was complaining about the cost of NYC, so my DH and I ordered a bunch of pizzas (never mind that we paid for the majority of the wedding ourselves too). Another family member needed to be picked up from the airport, which of course no one wanted to do, so my DH and I left all those people in our apartment to do it. THEN when we got back, we found our dog wandering around the building, because someone let her out without realizing.

    2) We danced to the wrong first song! It was totally our fault, we wrote down the wrong title. But as we started dancing we were muttering to each other about how it wasn't the song we wanted. Now we always say we have 2 wedding songs. :)
    ***First-time Mom in New York City | Married 8.16.13 | Expected Due Date 5.29.15***


  • 3-weeks before my wedding, DH's boss, boss' gf and us went out for dinner.  DH's boss and DH are really close, so we were drinking multiple bottles of wine at his favorite restaurant.  DH's boss got drunk and accidentally punched me in the nose, and we all heard a crack.  I wanted to kill him!  My nose was throbbing the next day but luckily everything was fine after a few days.  

    On the day of the wedding, MIL's best friends ticket got cancelled for some random reason and she couldn't come to the rehearsal or wedding.  Also, DH's idiot friend from college that I never met and never wanted to invite texts us the night of the rehearsal that he won't be able to make it and it's probably best if he doesn't come because we wouldn't miss him presence anyway.  DH spent $1g on going to this moron's wedding, and this guy has the nerve to cancel less than 24 hours before the big day?? Um..... WHAT?!?!?!  And he sent NO gift. Right off the bat, there were 2 last minute cancellations that we had to pay for.  

    I find out 2 days before the wedding that my hair stylist went on vacation out of the country and won't be back.  Also, my mom helped me book this place and turns out they weren't going to come to the bridal suite to do our makeup; we had to go to the salon which is not necessarily close.  Luckily I did a better trial with a better stylist last minute but having to drive there threw off my entire schedule.

    I let the the photographers leave before I did my bouquet toss.  I have no photos of that.

    MIL got drunk and huffy when a friend said a prayer before our wedding meal.  My other guests that didn't know her all heard her obnoxious comments.  Embarassing!!  She thought it was her day.

    All-in-all, everything came together.  I'm really happy it happened, but I'm so happy it's over.  I don't think I would go through that all over again.  I'd much rather have a small intimate ceremony.  It was so stressful!
  • I was watching sex in the city and it was charlottes second wedding and everything went wrong ... One of the girls said

    Your first wedding was perfect but the marriage wasn't, maybe the crappy wedding will make a perfect marriage


    It's stressful now but imagine the stories you'll tell your kids!!!
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