Sex Check In

TheMoo · November 2014

My DH has become even more attracted to me now that I've been pregnant. I really don't feel like it at all especially in the morning. He badgers me until I realize it's easier just to make him happy and do it. Sometimes I get super resentful for all this pushiness. He insists on it every damn day!!! He seems to become very selfish sometimes when it comes to sex. Am I doing the right thing by letting him have his way all the time???!!

holliberry28 · November 2014

Sex? What is sex? I-)

SabrinaM02 · November 2014

nf0kss said:
So clearly I'm In the minority. My libido is off the chain since we found out and I'm the one always attacking SO. He turns me down. Just my luck I'd be one of those prego ladies. I'd do it everyday if he'd let us.

This is me too!

KarasTwin · November 2014

Ugh, we haven't had sex since the week we conceived. I feel super guilty. I did have a subchorianiac hemorrhage about a week and a half after we found out and then a UTI and yeast infection. Not to mention the MS. I've been on diclegis for about a week now and starting to feel better. I also think DH is a little scared. I've had a couple sexy dreams during naps but at night I'm so tired I don't feel up to it. I'm glad we're not the only ones going through this

blastocarrier30 · November 2014

SabrinaM02 said:

nf0kss said:
So clearly I'm In the minority. My libido is off the chain since we found out and I'm the one always attacking SO. He turns me down. Just my luck I'd be one of those prego ladies. I'd do it everyday if he'd let us.
This is me too!

And me!

Bfairchild618 · November 2014

Sex? What is that?

ALITAYLOR23 · November 2014

Haven't had the desire since the first few weeks but the hubby does and I feel bad repeatedly denying him so lately even if I don't want it really I still do it for him and his needs!

Kathjnr22 · November 2014

ALITAYLOR23 said:
Haven't had the desire since the first few weeks but the hubby does and I feel bad repeatedly denying him so lately even if I don't want it really I still do it for him.

Snap..... I have no desire at all since getting pregnant. Sometimes dh will say "how about a bj if u dont want full sex?" This is the worst thing he could say as the thought of THAT in my MOUTH instantly turns my stomach.... (my toothbrush has the same effect!)

Depending on work schedules id say we are currently doing it one - two times a week - used to be four or five times a week. Dh has been surprisingly good about it but does air his frustration every now and again

Aceybaby · December 2014

No sex here

deutschbaby · December 2014

I'm on a Zofran pump. The upside is that I'm moderately functional and have a few rare moments where sex sounds appealing. The downside is that is sooo not sexy to try to have sex with a pump. Ugh. HG sucks. Ready for this tri to be over. DH doesn't seem bothered. He's too worried about me actually passing out from dehydration to care about home much sex we have.

But we were never one of those couples that did it every day anyway, unless we were in vacation. So it's not that horrible to have a dry spell for us. We like hanging out with each other a lot, and doing nerdy/boring stuff, which we still do. We're lame, I know, but we like it that way ;-) Honestly I'm usually the one with the higher libido in our relationship. Every couple is different I guess.

Synnovus · December 2014

TheMoo said:
My DH has become even more attracted to me now that I've been pregnant. I really don't feel like it at all especially in the morning. He badgers me until I realize it's easier just to make him happy and do it. Sometimes I get super resentful for all this pushiness. He insists on it every damn day!!! He seems to become very selfish sometimes when it comes to sex. Am I doing the right thing by letting him have his way all the time???!!

What??!? Nooo, if you really do not want sex, not enjoy it and it also make you feel annoyed and irritated as well as frustrated over his selfishness don't give in all the time!! Sit down with him and talk about how you feel and that sex is not any fun for you at the moment and that he needs to understand this and ease up on the sex pushiness and be happy with a little less sex for some time. Pushiness when coming to sex is really not very sexy and less likely to get you in the mood anyway...you'll just be irritated and frustrated by it instead...

carolyngrace · December 2014

Synnovus said:

My DH has become even more attracted to me now that I've been pregnant. I really don't feel like it at all especially in the morning. He badgers me until I realize it's easier just to make him happy and do it. Sometimes I get super resentful for all this pushiness. He insists on it every damn day!!! He seems to become very selfish sometimes when it comes to sex. Am I doing the right thing by letting him have his way all the time???!!
What??!? Nooo, if you really do not want sex, not enjoy it and it also make you feel annoyed and irritated as well as frustrated over his selfishness don't give in all the time!! Sit down with him and talk about how you feel and that sex is not any fun for you at the moment and that he needs to understand this and ease up on the sex pushiness and be happy with a little less sex for some time. Pushiness when coming to sex is really not very sexy and less likely to get you in the mood anyway...you'll just be irritated and frustrated by it instead...

I agree. It's great that you want to make your man happy. And it's a good thing to try and have sex a little more than you naturally want to, if your sex drives are not matched equally. HOWEVER, when you don't feel good you area allowed to say no! Especially when going through something as extreme as pregnancy (both physically and emotionally). I would include how DH can get his needs met in the meantime (are you open to him masturbating by himself, or in your presence, instead?). Maybe some nights he can do something else, and others he needs to go without.

parsaamin · December 2014

my libido has been crazy since I got preggers. definitely daily, sometimes 4-5 times daily ! I'm blessed with no nausea... my only symptom is sleepiness and fatigue!

littlegrapey · December 2014

Last night was the first time since out BFP. =/

Katerina&Baby · December 2014

I work a million hours a day in the winter since that's the busy season in my practice area (usually from 9:30AM-11:30PM) so we are weekend warriors. Usually 2-3 times per weekend and nothing during the week because I can't force myself to wake up any earlier than I already do and he's asleep by the time I come to bed. My libido is a little higher than that though so sometimes I have a private session in the shower after DH has gone to work (shhh!)

joyfuljenny · December 2014

nf0kss said:
So clearly I'm In the minority. My libido is off the chain since we found out and I'm the one always attacking SO. He turns me down. Just my luck I'd be one of those prego ladies. I'd do it everyday if he'd let us.

Adding another "me too" to this one! Some combination of surging hormones, decreased nausea, and several weeks of pelvic rest due to IVF and progesterone suppositories... around week 10 my libido went crazy.

ombradellarosa · December 2014

I am starting to feel that second-trimester surge in libido! I have been very uninterested in sex since the BFP, mainly because of MS, and feeling so guilty for depriving DH. But I have always been the one with the higher drive. He said it's been so long it's weird now to think of having sex, and it's a little awkward because of the baby. I have reassured him the baby doesn't know what's going on but it's going to take some time for him to adjust, I think. I hope he gets adjusted soon though,

littlechemist · December 2014

Bumping this thread for @Deebaz720 - see that you aren't alone!

ombradellarosa · December 2014

Well we did it for the first time since the BFP last night! Worth the wait!

They are not kidding about that extra sensitivity!

MamiHobbs · December 2014

I just lay there... I want him to get his even though i dont want sex at all...it doesnt feel good until the very end ( and it seems like it last 20 mins too long). And he is too rough and when i tell him he is hurting me he just stops and gets so down and upset. And everything about sex annoys me right now. I just want to be left alone and not ridiculed for not wanting to have sex. I love him and all but i wish sex wasn't the only way he felt appreciated.

youstolemysoul · December 2014

nchauhan said:
We were having sex about once a week. And now DH is getting excited that I'm starting to want it on a more daily or every other day basis. But weirdly, I haven't been able to get off the last few times. Has this happend to anyone else?? It's frustrating both of us and we've tried all the usual tricks (and some new ones) to make it happen.

This is our issue. He finishes faster caused it's only like once a week now and I seem to need extra time and effort. I didn't finish the first few times, but now we just realized that I need a little (ie a lot) of extra play to start.

Katerina&Baby · December 2014

Still 2-3 times a week but we're both a bit extra into it these days (me because the extra sensitivity is awesome plus the crazy sex dreams and him because I think the fact that he got me pregnant turns him on and he's also feeding off of my own enthusiasm) This may be TMI but we normally vary our positioning a lot but I've been very keen on missionary/legs on shoulders since I got pregnant for the simple fact that I knew at some point it wouldn't be comfortable anymore - I think this morning will be the last time we do that position until post-baby (it was finally just too uncomfortable).

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