Please explain further just so that we can all understand because that is a pretty loaded confession.
First time quoting, so let's see how I fuck this up.
There is no one I can tell this to in real life. The holidays send me on a spiral of thinking if my dad wasn't gay then my parents would never have gotten divorced.
Dad's new boyfriend plays into this too. He is young.
My quasi confession is nothing new...but whatever. As immature and ridiculous as my MIL acts, the one who's really driving me nuts lately is my mother (yep y'all are probably sick of hearing me bitch about the same.ol shit. Sorreh)
Her hypochondria when it comes to my kid is fucking ridiculous (he has mild low muscle tone that hes in pt for but our doctors arent concerned...but she's constantly googling shit and ask I me if he was tested for this, that and the other thing) and her unsolicited opinions on my parenting lately are driving me up a fucking wall. I may have told her yesterday that she needs to back off bc she doesn't call the shots (which felt good) but I just dont think she sees her fault in this...bc she doesnt stop. It makes me sad bc we've always been incredibly close..but since DS1 was born, our relationship has changed a lot.
I'm hesitant to have a full conversation with her to truly confront her and go all out with it, considering her and my step dad are helping us out a shit ton lately. Not that I think they'd use that as leverage over our heads or anything, but I dont want to come off as ungrateful for their help either.
Tl; dr - overbearing parents/grandparents are a PITA to deal with.
My kid's daycare wants $100 from each family for a present for the teachers.
I was just going to get them $10 gift card per teacher and a nice note. Is that like a shit gift or something? $100 is a lot of money from each family.
The fuck???? Clearly they meant to say $10 per family. What are they trying to do buy them all cars?
@HilarityEnsued I'm 29. My parents have been divorced for almost 11 years. This is not new information. It's just an incredibly selfish feeling of wanting my nuclear family back and not wanting to deal with the current very complex family dynamics.
Sorry for messing up quotes/replies. I am learning how to mobile bump while holding a napping baby.
our daycare does that too @holls2011. They collect money from all the families and divvy it up to the teachers.
So not only do I have to pay full tuition for December even thought they are out for more than half of it, and I have to contribute $200 for a sink project for the school, they want me to pay the teacher's holiday bonus as well?
I would love it if I could actually afford $100 to spend on the teachers because I think they are amazing, but shit man. O's presents were less than $100 for Christmas.
A $10 gift card per teacher is not nice?
What kind of daycare is this. I would hope if you are paying for building maintenance you are part or a coop and part owners or something? The $100 is crazy but paying for a sink (I am assuming this means like actual sink)?
@TyrannosaurusLex I think that's mostly it. I am so happy that my dad finally gets to be his true self. I just wish his true self could have been the person still married to my mom. Does that make sense? I know these are very selfish feelings. They have been weighing on me lately though.
This thread just reminded me that I have to get gifts for daycare and I have no idea how many to buy. He just transitioned to a new room so I feel like I should still get the teachers in the baby room gifts but there are 2-4 of them and another 2 in the room he is in now plus the lady in charge of it. That is like 7 gifts?!?!
I struggle with this every year. When DD was in the baby room there were 4 main teachers. Then DS had 3 teachers that year plus I always give a gift to the owner and her second in command who is like a grandmother to all the kids. It gets overwhelming. Then sometimes there are others that cover in the afternoons and I don't know if I should be getting them gifts too.
DS is in 1st grade now and the room mom's asked for $3 to $5 for a group gift. I'm all for it.
We gift an extra week's pay to DD's DCP. It's an in home and she goes 3 full days a week - it costs us 180.00, so we give an extra 180.00. Form talking to the other parents, it seems that this it pretty typical?
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
I think it's selfish because he probably spent years waiting to be his self. It sounds like he waited until you were an adult in order to look out for you and make things the least complicated they could be for you. I am sorry he has to worry about other people's feelings when he probably struggled to come to terms with his own sexuality. I would suggest counseling as well.
The thing is, you are 100% correct in all of this. And that's why it's so fucked up that I feel like this. I never really thought that I felt this way until recently and I know I have some things I need to work out. Especially since I would never say any of this to anyone IRL. I would be so pissed and hurt if I found out anyone thought this way about him or my family, yet here I am. It's so fucked up.
What kind of daycare is this. I would hope if you are paying for building maintenance you are part or a coop and part owners or something? The $100 is crazy but paying for a sink (I am assuming this means like actual sink)?
It is a daycare in a church. We pay about a $1,000 per month in tuition, which is an AMAZING priced for such a great daycare in our location. I think the daycare across the street is about $1,800 per month.
Its better that you are getting a deal at least. Asking $100 for gifts though is still a lot. Our daycare just put on new siding and a roof and didn't ask for any extra money, but they do charge comparable to other daycares in the area.
Invading with a random question, get over it. My work friend recently gave me a pair of flats and a pair of nice boots that don't fit her post-pregnancy. Plus some free leftover pregnancy tests. How much should I give her on a gift card in thanks? $20? More?
DS is 1DAF
"I realize I say the word fuck a lot, and I'd like to apologize but I don't give a shit." -Lewis Black
I don't know whether to put DS in day care FT or PT in the summer while I'm in school. MH pretty much is leaving the decision up to me since I'll be the one in school.
FT! My days off are filled with with a lot binge watching shows.
I don't know whether to put DS in day care FT or PT in the summer while I'm in school. MH pretty much is leaving the decision up to me since I'll be the one in school.
FT! My days off are filled with with a lot binge watching shows.
Yeah, I'm leaning towards FT so that I have more time to study. Plus, routine and all that.
Re: Confessions?
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
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There is no one I can tell this to in real life. The holidays send me on a spiral of thinking if my dad wasn't gay then my parents would never have gotten divorced.
Dad's new boyfriend plays into this too. He is young.
10-11 years
There was also some stuff about her on one of the Disney forums.
Her hypochondria when it comes to my kid is fucking ridiculous (he has mild low muscle tone that hes in pt for but our doctors arent concerned...but she's constantly googling shit and ask I me if he was tested for this, that and the other thing) and her unsolicited opinions on my parenting lately are driving me up a fucking wall. I may have told her yesterday that she needs to back off bc she doesn't call the shots (which felt good) but I just dont think she sees her fault in this...bc she doesnt stop. It makes me sad bc we've always been incredibly close..but since DS1 was born, our relationship has changed a lot.
I'm hesitant to have a full conversation with her to truly confront her and go all out with it, considering her and my step dad are helping us out a shit ton lately. Not that I think they'd use that as leverage over our heads or anything, but I dont want to come off as ungrateful for their help either.
Tl; dr - overbearing parents/grandparents are a PITA to deal with.
Sorry for messing up quotes/replies. I am learning how to mobile bump while holding a napping baby.
What kind of daycare is this. I would hope if you are paying for building maintenance you are part or a coop and part owners or something? The $100 is crazy but paying for a sink (I am assuming this means like actual sink)?
DS is in 1st grade now and the room mom's asked for $3 to $5 for a group gift. I'm all for it.
We gift an extra week's pay to DD's DCP. It's an in home and she goes 3 full days a week - it costs us 180.00, so we give an extra 180.00. Form talking to the other parents, it seems that this it pretty typical?
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12