@HilarityEnsued I am insanely jealous of you! I have always wanted to go to Disney for Christmas!
Anyways, with DD1 I let everything grow but with DD2 I had just shaved the day before I delivered. I felt like it was much easier to keep clean, use Tucks, etc. with everything groomed.
I'm starting to prefer it when MH is out of town. DD acts much better & I run the show. He comes home & she turns into a hot mess with behavior and I run a smoother ship here in general. Ugh.
I get this. It's hard when him being home is the break in the routine, and not the other way around. MH doesn't travel as much as YH, but he's almost never home on weeknights. It's a mess when he is.
I'm sorry, it's always so rough when there is a change on routine. That's why ExH & I do week on/week off. DD had such a hard time transitioning households every 3/4 days. Hopefully it will get better for you when they get older!
Ooo, I thought of another one. DH and I are thinking about trying to get pregnant, but the idea freaks me out a little. I'm not sure I can handle 4 kids. Some days I'm like "sure, I could totally do this", other days I think we're crazy for even considering it.
I just had our 3rd and it's kicking my butt. Does this get easier? Because it's straight crazy in here right now!
Ooo, I thought of another one. DH and I are thinking about trying to get pregnant, but the idea freaks me out a little. I'm not sure I can handle 4 kids. Some days I'm like "sure, I could totally do this", other days I think we're crazy for even considering it.
We had our 4th kid 4 months ago & I still feel like this somedays lol
I'm starting to prefer it when MH is out of town. DD acts much better & I run the show. He comes home & she turns into a hot mess with behavior and I run a smoother ship here in general. Ugh.
I know what you mean. Mine isn't out of town, but works long hours and it's much easier to do things without him sometimes.
My FFFC is that I'm having a harder time with ExH & his wife having a baby than I thought I would. The whole pregnancy it didn't bother me, now that the baby is here, there's part of me that has an indescribable sadness (??). It's not that I want to be with ExH (not at all) & I'm happy he's happy & seemingly doing good...I can't exactly put my finger on why it's bothering me. Of course I haven't let on at all to DD. Above all we've made sure to have a good relationship for her sake.
Could be you grieving the loss of a vision of a family you once had in your mind? Either way, nothing wrong with feeling something IMO.
Exactly this. I think when you marry someone you have the vision of what your life will be like. Even if you don't want to be with that person, it's hard to watch them move on and have a different life.
I think this is likely some of it. We both come from families/friends where really no one is divorced, so this is completely new to navigate. Plus, she's the only kid in her preschool class that has divorced parents, and now ExH has a "normal" household. I think maybe I'm feeling insecure in my decisions at the moment because of judgement about "broken home" etc.
Fuck anyone who judges you. Theres not shit broken about your home. Life happens & sometimes things don't work out like we think they will. You are doing a fine job & I think your feelings are totally valid & normal. My parents divorced when I was 4 & while I have almost no memory of them together, the memories my (older) sister & brother have of them fighting, my dad being caught cheating with multiple women, mom being left with nothing but 3 kids & forced to file bankruptcy & losing her business & having to start all over again....those aren't memories I want to have. You did what was right for you & your child & one day they will understand & have so much respect for the strength & courage it took for you to do it. Hugs to you & everyone else dealing with this. Your home is not broken.
I am going to try to sell my engagment ring today (I work near the diamond district) and I am having mixed feeling about it.
I can for sure use the extra cash, but several people told me to hang on to the ring and give it to DD when she gets older. I am not sure why she would want it though?
Only on page 2.
I have my mom's wedding ring from when she was married to my dad. I like to keep it to think of the happy times we had as a family. But then again, I was way older than your DD when my parents divorced.
I was way more concerned with my toes being freshly groomed then my ladies parts. But in the end all 4 of my kids said fuck due dates & all came late, the last 3 induced, & I was able to properly groom for all deliveries. FFC
Ooo, I thought of another one. DH and I are thinking about trying to get pregnant, but the idea freaks me out a little. I'm not sure I can handle 4 kids. Some days I'm like "sure, I could totally do this", other days I think we're crazy for even considering it.
We had our 4th kid 4 months ago & I still feel like this somedays lol
Lol, glad I'm not alone, haha.
Part of me wants to get pregnant and do the newborn thing because I've never experienced that before (we've always been in the kids' lives but our munchkins came to us when the girls were about 9 months old), but at the same time, there's so much to consider. I mean we'd need a bigger car, a bigger house, etc. It just all seems so overwhelming!
Edited because I can't type today...
I still look at people wrangling 3 or more kids in a store & think God bless that brave person lol
FFFC: who knew I had so many feels about the term broken home
Me too! I never thought it would bug me so much, till now. Even my well intentioned coworker (who I adore, and we're really good friends) she said something about "broken home" in regards to one of our clients the other day, and it really bothered me
only read page one so far.
have never been waxed there. My confession is I have a super sweet amazing neighbor who has offered to tint my lashes and brows for my party. I want my lashes done but do not want her to do my brows ( I hate the way I look with eyebrows, feel like groucho marx) but even though I kindly said so I am pretty sure she will still try to do it and I feel bad saying no to her face. Might end up with brows
This is from the bathroom at the MFM office. Where they'll wield a dildo cam like nobody's business but apparently can't bring themselves to type out "sanitary napkin" or "Feminine products". @-)
This is from the bathroom at the MFM office. Where they'll wield a dildo cam like nobody's business but apparently can't bring themselves to type out "sanitary napkin" or "Feminine products". @-)
Also, I"m laughing at myself that as I was peeing, I saw the sign and immediately thought "Where's my phone? My bitches on Parenting need to see this shit!"
Oh an actual confession. I may have potentially found out the baby's sex today but I'm probably not going to tell DH.
Does he not want to know?
He does, but it might hurt his feelings that I found out without him. Plus it's still early so could be totally wrong. We go for the A/S next month so I'll let him find out then.
I need help with girl names. DH and I can't agree on anything because he doesn't appreciate my excellent taste. I have proposed Evelyn, Silvia, Marjorie (don't laugh, I love it) and he shot them all down. I can't really think of anything else I LOVE, and his only contribution has been Mae for a middle name which I don't really like, but I would be willing to compromise if he would just give me the first name. Anyway, suggestions?
I need help with girl names. DH and I can't agree on anything because he doesn't appreciate my excellent taste. I have proposed Evelyn, Silvia, Marjorie (don't laugh, I love it) and he shot them all down. I can't really think of anything else I LOVE, and his only contribution has been Mae for a middle name which I don't really like, but I would be willing to compromise if he would just give me the first name. Anyway, suggestions?
LOVE Silvia!
Can I suggest Gloria, Vivian, Lydia, Bianca and Fiona?
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
I need help with girl names. DH and I can't agree on anything because he doesn't appreciate my excellent taste. I have proposed Evelyn, Silvia, Marjorie (don't laugh, I love it) and he shot them all down. I can't really think of anything else I LOVE, and his only contribution has been Mae for a middle name which I don't really like, but I would be willing to compromise if he would just give me the first name. Anyway, suggestions?
what are the first initials of everyone else in the fam? Are you trying to be matchy? or avoiding it?
We are G, C, M, and E. Don't care about matching (obvi). Last name rhymes with yule.
@tlex I love older names too! Juliette is pretty. Katherine is E's middle name.
@helenahhandbasket Silvia is my grandmother's name. H vetoed it because it's also the name of an aunt he doesn't care for. My mom is Bianca. I like Vivian, I hadn't thought of that one!
I am having a really REALLY hard time biting my tongue when my boss starts bragging about how she is spending $10,000 on Christmas, and how last year the presents in her living room stacked up over 6ft tall. I think it's in really bad taste to shove this down the throats of two of your workers who may no be able to buy their family gifts this year. ( She talks about it every. single. day. People who don't even work with us have heard about it from her.)
I have alllll the mommy guilt this season over not being able to buy the baby presents for his first Christmas, but we are still not back on our feet from H losing his job a couple months ago. Going to work lately has only made my mommy guilt worse when I have to sit and listen to her go on and on about how she has 18-20 gifts for each of her grandkids under the tree right now, and has more packages showing up every day.
I am having a really REALLY hard time biting my tongue when my boss starts bragging about how she is spending $10,000 on Christmas, and how last year the presents in her living room stacked up over 6ft tall. I think it's in really bad taste to shove this down the throats of two of your workers who may no be able to buy their family gifts this year. ( She talks about it every. single. day. People who don't even work with us have heard about it from her.)
I have alllll the mommy guilt this season over not being able to buy the baby presents for his first Christmas, but we are still not back on our feet from H losing his job a couple months ago. Going to work lately has only made my mommy guilt worse when I have to sit and listen to her go on and on about how she has 18-20 gifts for each of her grandkids under the tree right now, and has more packages showing up every day.
Ew-- that's disgusting.
FFFC-- I didn't buy DD presents for her first or second Christmas. She got a bunch of stuff from my parents/ relatives/ friends and she was none the wiser.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
I'm pissed at my husband's work. He's a contractor, and thus is paid hourly. They told him he was approved for overtime a few weeks ago. There was a big deployment this week, so he worked until midnight on Wednesday. After he worked, they told him the overtime request wasn't actually approved and they would only pay him for 40 hours this week. They need him to work a full day today because there is still work to be done, so he will work at least 10 hours for no pay this week.
If he was salaried with benefits and PTO, I wouldn't care. I routinely worked 50-60 hours a week when I was working, but this sucks.
ISN'T THAT ILLEGAL? I mean, you don't want to have to shit on your job, but if I were him, I would find a new gig immediately.
Pretty sure that's illegal. I have both salaried and non-exempt employees working for me. My non-exempt employees do need approval to work overtime, but if they do work OT without approval I still have to pay them for their time. I could just write them up or give them a warning afterwards for not following procedures. But if they're required to be at work, they have to be paid for their time.
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Re: Confessions?
Anyways, with DD1 I let everything grow but with DD2 I had just shaved the day before I delivered. I felt like it was much easier to keep clean, use Tucks, etc. with everything groomed.
Edited to fix words
I'm sorry, it's always so rough when there is a change on routine. That's why ExH & I do week on/week off. DD had such a hard time transitioning households every 3/4 days. Hopefully it will get better for you when they get older!
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
Formerly Twilightmv
I just had our 3rd and it's kicking my butt. Does this get easier? Because it's straight crazy in here right now!
Breakfast of champions!!!!!!!
Fuck anyone who judges you. Theres not shit broken about your home. Life happens & sometimes things don't work out like we think they will. You are doing a fine job & I think your feelings are totally valid & normal. My parents divorced when I was 4 & while I have almost no memory of them together, the memories my (older) sister & brother have of them fighting, my dad being caught cheating with multiple women, mom being left with nothing but 3 kids & forced to file bankruptcy & losing her business & having to start all over again....those aren't memories I want to have. You did what was right for you & your child & one day they will understand & have so much respect for the strength & courage it took for you to do it. Hugs to you & everyone else dealing with this. Your home is not broken.
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
Formerly Twilightmv
Part of me wants to get pregnant and do the newborn thing because I've never experienced that before (we've always been in the kids' lives but our munchkins came to us when the girls were about 9 months old), but at the same time, there's so much to consider. I mean we'd need a bigger car, a bigger house, etc. It just all seems so overwhelming!
Edited because I can't type today...
I still look at people wrangling 3 or more kids in a store & think God bless that brave person lol
have never been waxed there. My confession is I have a super sweet amazing neighbor who has offered to tint my lashes and brows for my party. I want my lashes done but do not want her to do my brows ( I hate the way I look with eyebrows, feel like groucho marx) but even though I kindly said so I am pretty sure she will still try to do it and I feel bad saying no to her face. Might end up with brows
Still amazing.
LOVE Silvia!
Can I suggest Gloria, Vivian, Lydia, Bianca and Fiona?
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
Ew-- that's disgusting.
FFFC-- I didn't buy DD presents for her first or second Christmas. She got a bunch of stuff from my parents/ relatives/ friends and she was none the wiser.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
Formerly Twilightmv