To find out or not find out the gender of the baby

ladypanther85 · December 2014

Hello all I am having a problem. I always said I didn't want to find out the sex of the baby. But my husband wants to know. Anyone else going through this? I'm 15 weeks today and this is our first child.

Poppy715 · December 2014

This isn't really a problem we can help you with. You and your H need to agree on finding out the sex of your baby. Something tells me he isn't going to care if we all agree with you.

FreddyisReady · December 2014

This was us in the beginning. I presented my husband (emailed him at work) with a list of reasons why I wanted to wait. He said "ok honey, whatever you want to do."

Problem solved.

kaynix21 · December 2014

Yes! We are going through this too. I absolutely don't want to know - H is dying to know.

We have an ultrasound today and we still can't agree. (17w3d) So we may or may not know today.

People suggested to me also to let H know and I just wouldn't know. But there is no way we could function like that. He'd either slip or drive me crazy about it for the next six months so it's all or nothing for us.

It's a tough choice. H and I had agreed to not find out after I explained in detail all of my reasons while we were on a long drive.

Then we went to Disneyland and everything was pink or blue, so now he wants to know again.

GL hope you guys can agree on a suitable decision together.

jenanns · December 2014

Yep we have this problem.

I have also had the suggestion to have him find out and keep the secret from me but that man was blabbing to everyone as soon as we found out I was pregnant even though I wanted to keep it quiet, he cannot keep a secret and I honestly don't think I can stand to have him know and me not know.

I think explaining your reasoning is important and maybe he will change his mind....in my case this didn't work so I have told him that if baby doesn't cooperate at the anatomy scan then that is that and if baby does cooperate then we are finding out. I guess in the end I feel this is a less important battle than some others and I would rather not make a huge thing of it. Baby is what it is regardless of if we find out or not...

lgsdesigner · December 2014

Yes. I want to be team green, DH wants to know. But...whether you find out at 20 weeks or 40 weeks, it's equally exciting.

smashbaby111 · December 2014

I am in the same boat, we are pretty much doing what @jenanns‌ is doing... If its obvious at the scan, we will see it and find out, if baby is not cooperative, we will not go back for another scan to learn the sex ahead of time.

We are both pretty passive about it so its not a big deal to us- we are much more concerned about the actual anatomy scan stuff in terms seeing if there are any medical concerns or defects we need to research than we are about our baby's genitals.

I would just talk it out and share your reasons for wanting to know and not wanting to know, relationships are about compromise...

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