Our son's middle name

PHNJenna · December 2014

I know we are not the names board, I'm prepared to be flamed! But after a big friends/family gathering on Thanksgiving where about 1/2 the people we shared our baby's name with said "Cute, you can call him CJ"- which we hate, we are unsure if we should stick with the James or change to Edward for Connor's MI. Input is appreciated

suzyq0525 · December 2014

I have a relative named Cole Jacob. It was just made clear that he is to be called Cole and not CJ.

sunset30 · December 2014

Definitely go with the name you like. Just because people suggested it, doesn't mean you need to call him by his initials. As others have said, if people call CJ early on then politely correct them.

I am with you - I like Connor James better than Connor Edward.

ngolimento · December 2014

Tell people they're wrong when they call him CJ. Just be open to the possibility that your kid will want to be called that later on.

colleen4019 · December 2014

I think both names are really nice! Don't let crazy nicknames ruin a name you really like. I agree with PP- correct people. They'll stop eventually.

Eta- the people that are unwilling to be corrected will make a nickname out of any name. There's no stopping them.

janda426 · December 2014

When they say "cute we can call him CJ" you say "no, you can call him Connor."

Connor Elliott is our boys name

ST3WD · December 2014

Connor James rolls off my tongue easier if I have to yell it or say it sternly. :P

I agree with PPs. Just correct them when they call him "CJ" by saying something like "His name is Connor." Pele had a good point that he may choose it later on, but it should be his choice once he's older. While in baby phase he's Connor.

jpavenski · December 2014

My sons name is Aiden James & DH thought maybe some day we would call him AJ, but at 3.5 he is not an AJ & has never been called that. If you love the original name go with it!

strawberryanne · December 2014

My brother and SIL named their daughter with a nickname in mind. I'm not a huge fan of the nickname personally so I switch between calling her the nickname they like, the one my husband and I like and her full name. But I tend to have a pattern (e.g., I only use the one my H and I like when I'm talking to him, and the one they like when I'm with them). In the end, it's their choice, not mine as to what to call their daughter and I usually respect that.

ETA: I should note they've never expressed displeasure of the nickname I occasionally use and my brothers and I all have 2-3 nicknames for each other so it's not odd to be called by more than one thing in our family.

mangomimosa · December 2014

Love Connor James. It flows much better, IMO!

I was thinking about this issue, too -- ours could be EJ, but I'm not into that kind of a nickname. EJ is definitely not shorter than Eamon, just as CJ isn't shorter than Connor. Name him what you want & correct those who make up random nicknames. That's what I'll do if anyone calls him EJ.

amario2 · December 2014

You should absolutely name him Connor James! My little brother's name is Matthew, by the time he was three both of us would fuss if anyone called him Matt.

createmagic14 · December 2014

I agree with the pp that have said to stick to your guns and call him what you want to call him, and correct anyone who calls him something else. My name is Kristina, and my parents were adamant that it wasn't Kris, or Krissy, or anything else. And no one calls me by any shortened form of my name!