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Gender disappointment ??

greeneyedgirl23greeneyedgirl23 member
in March 2015 Moms
me and my husband are having our fourth and last child, I have three boys so far. I had a feeling that this was gonna be my babygirl!! The night before my us I had a dream that the ultrasound tech said I was having a boy. But I was like na not again... Low and behold that's what happened that day , she told us it was a boy. As a woman I think most women dream of having that babygirl that they can dress up and do girly things with so needless to say I was very upset. I wanted to cry right then and there when she said boy , but my reason for wanting to cry is because I was so upset that I was disappointed that the baby was a boy. It made me feel like a horrible mother and person. Has anyone else felt like this?
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  • BostonchelleBostonchelle member
    You didn't mention that the rest of the ultrasound went well and that in March you will be bringing home a healthy baby boy- or did I miss that?
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  • janda426janda426 member
    edited December 2014
    I understand mourning never having a daughter. For a little bit. How long ago was this ultrasound? I'd like to believe the fact that this little boy is healthy (at least I'm assuming so considering the worst news you got was he has a penis) would get you over being upset quickly.
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  • greeneyedgirl23greeneyedgirl23 member
    Yes now I am happy that it's a boy , and my ultrasound did go well. As far as they can tell he is perfectly healthy WHICH IF COURSE IS THe MOST IMPORTANT THING. I wasn't complaining about the fact that my child is a boy it was about the disappointment you feel in that moment. And it made me feel like crap to be upset about it( which I wrote) bostonchelle that was my point in writing this post. I know I'm not the only person to have ever felt like this. If this bothered you so much why would u even post on this discussion?
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  • WhitfryWhitfry member
    I'm probably one and done. And we were both hoping for a boy, and we're having a boy. Still, I sometimes find myself feeling a little wistful or sad about all the girl stuff I'll probably miss out on.

    As PP's have said, I think a little sadness is normal and okay. Don't beat yourself up over that. But don't let it consume you. Give yourself a minute to feel what you're going to feel, and then focus on the sweet, healthy little life you're bringing into the world.
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  • greeneyedgirl23greeneyedgirl23 member
    I haven't let it consume me , I was a little upset for about a week because I had a strong feeling it hope I guess that they baby was a girl . But now that I know it's a baby boy I can't even imagine why I was so upset to begin with.this baby is a blessing I know that. As long as the baby is healthy that's all that really matters anyway.
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  • Amy and JayAmy and Jay member
    I think it's normal and I don't think you should feel bad about that initial reaction. Obviously the most important thing is that the baby is healthy and it's obnoxious when others point that out like that isn't your first thought.

    I'm having our third (and last) daughter this time and while I'm excited and very happy, I did have a moment of disappointment b/c I would have liked to experience having a son. Now I can't imagine her not being a girl :-)
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  • amy060715amy060715 member
    I am having my third girl and this is probably it for me and my husband. Am I sad I won't have a son? Yes. But I think about having another healthy baby and it makes me happy. You should be happy you are having another healthy baby. Maybe your grand kids will be girls.
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  • Joon+Joon+ member
    If it helps, the happiest, proudest mom I know has four boys and no girls. They are all grown now and revere their mom. I thought I wanted just girls until I met her family and then I was jealous of the chivalry she was surrounded with!

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    Also, would you have disappointed if you had a girl who didn't like to dress up and do "girly" things?  That was pretty much me as a kid- softball, never brushed my hair, went to the bathroom in the woods, and ripped my dresses as soon as they were put on.  My first was a girl and happens to be girly.  I actually have a hard time relating to her, but I've learned to love and embrace princesses, baby dolls, and dress up.  Just accept it and let it go.  Also- everything you are saying is normal and you may have a son who chooses female as his gender when he starts exploring gender identity.
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