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February 2013 Moms
Ohhhh, I've got another one! Mandatory Sterilization! Let's do this thing!
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Re: Ohhhh, I've got another one! Mandatory Sterilization! Let's do this thing!
That might be extreme but there are other options. One of the babies we had was #4 and one was #5. Neither mom had care of any of the other children. If you add in the mom I saw the other day and her 4, that is 13 kids from 3 women. Based on existing data, their futures don't look bright.
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.
I love my babies with all of my heart and I try to do the right thing by "my kids" but statistics will show you that going through foster care just does not set kids up for success. A LOT of the time you end up with families in a cycle. Kids on their 3rd or 4th trip through the system or several generations in the system and it sucks. Of my 3 sets of kids I've had, all 3 were the second generation in foster care. I don't know how to help people / families break the cycle but it is heartbreaking.
That said, I can not try to pretend that I am a foster parent to serve the government in some way. I am a foster parent because it kills me that there are children in this world who have no one to love them. I am a foster parent because I love helping the kids AND the parents work to get back together. I do believe in providing help and support for the parents and have spent many hours teaching / working with them on how to interact with and take care of their children. Some parents really WANT to do the right thing and THOSE are the ones that resources can help...others..... I just hope the kids go up for adoption before too much damage is done. I hate to even say "damage" because these kids are just kids....they are not all damaged, or broken, or "foster kids". They are kids just like every other child you have met. They are smart and challenging, and rebellious and obedient and big and small and athletic and every other characteristic that you would give to any child. I can guarantee you there and many of them out there that have experienced in their very short lives things that no one should.
And, without at doubt, our system and those who made them fail them. It all makes me sad, so I'm going to do the thing that I can do and go play with my kids. Teach them that they are worth being loved. That no matter what happens in their lives someone loves them because I always will.
That is what I can do. The system is what it is and there are always going to be crappy people and crappy parents but all that I personally can accomplish is to spend day in and day out with my kids treating them like they are mine and taking care of them until they find their permanent solution in life.
Off of my tangetn....is just wish some people did not suck.
Also, didn't Nazi Germany force sterilization on people? Wouldn't this just end up being another method of genocide? I do agree that there should be something, but this isn't the option.