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Pregnant after 35
woodberries
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12 years since my last baby--and I"m 43. What's different now?
woodberries
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My 4th child is 12 and I felt strongly the need to have another child and leave it in God's hands. I had the copper IUD removed and went through 2-3 weeks of crazy hormones feeling pregnant without being pregnant (apparently the copper IUD can do that). Then this past month I wanted to use condoms because I managed to schedule tonsil surgery! But alas, I misplaced them at that moment. 2-3 weeks later, I got a positive test. Life has it's own irony.
So far it's been so weird and I keep wondering how most people find their later pregnancies different?
1. What do I need to be more careful about?
1. What do I need to be more careful about?
2. What tends to be worse?
3. What tends to be better?
4. How does seeing the doctor different? How early do I need to go see an OB? Do they see you more? What do they do different now that I'm "aged" ?
4. How does seeing the doctor different? How early do I need to go see an OB? Do they see you more? What do they do different now that I'm "aged" ?
(In the US--I know different countries can be different).
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Re: 12 years since my last baby--and I"m 43. What's different now?
Factor V Leiden Homozygous, Advanced Maternal Age
TTC #1, 5 yrs, PCOS, Femera + Ovidrel.
IUI#3 BFP, DD 5/31/2012
TTC #2, 2 yrs, PCOS, Femera+Ovidrel
IUI#2 BFP!
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My youngest is 16 and I'm 40 and 14 weeks. I did IVF with genetic testing so I didn't do the early genetic testing. I did have a few extra ultrasounds early on due to IVF but otherwise my OB is treating me just like I was treated with my boys 21 and 16 years ago. As far as how I feel this pregnancy is soooo much easier than my boys. I haven't really had any bothersome symptoms, I just go to bed early. I swear if they didn't tell me I was pregnant and I didn't listen to the heartbeat everyday on the Doppler I'd never guess I was pregnant.
Like you I decided to have another baby. I'm age 41, and my youngest is 13 years (big gap)!
I had no problem conceiving, I was so relieved after reading about how difficult it can be at this time.
I'm in the UK, and I have been put in a high risk category because my elderly father had a stroke due to a clot following open heart surgery. Apparently this one incidence of a thrombosis in my family history puts me in high risk regardless of age.
I find it exasperating that the doctors and medical staff are not taking into account, or indeed have even made any enquires to me about my lifestyle or indeed my fathers to make a comparison. My father has lived a sedate life, a heavy smoker and drinker all his life and I am completely the opposite, I run/cycle/dance 5/6 days a week! I really feel I shouldn't be counted as high risk, and should have the freedom of choice all other mothers in the UK have to choose, where to have my baby, which kind of care suits myself and baby best, and to be able to be as active as possible during the labour. I've had three, previous natural labours before and it was never a problem then. But now my Father was ill it has made such a big difference to choices I can make. Like there are none available to me.
Seriously feels like nobody is listening (within the NHS anyhow)
I'll be high risk for several reasons, but family history is just one.
It really depends on what they determined caused your father's clot. My father has Factor V leiden, and after being tested, so do I. I was very active and remain very active and athletic and hadn't had a problem, but the increase in hormones you have during pregnancy can increase your chances of a clot, heart attack, stroke, pulmonary embolism among other things. It's also just one of many clotting disorders that can cause multiple miscarriage. I'd talk to your doctor and ask what kind of condition he had. I know for my sister, they just did a few extra tests and put her on baby asprin. They did a few extra ultrasounds at the end just to make sure blood flow to the baby was good. Is it not worth being a little extra careful if you have a higher risk?
Now for me, I ended up having a clot, and now with the hormones I have to be on an injectable blood thinner through the entire pregnancy, both to prevent miscarriage and to keep me from having a stroke, heart attack, or pulmonary embolism. Basically, to keep me alive and safe.
Factor V Leiden Homozygous, Advanced Maternal Age
TTC #1, 5 yrs, PCOS, Femera + Ovidrel.
IUI#3 BFP, DD 5/31/2012
TTC #2, 2 yrs, PCOS, Femera+Ovidrel
IUI#2 BFP!
I understand your point about being a little more careful, and I am all for that. But with new protocols and policies in place it seems they don't want to be not only a little more careful but to take it to the extreme.
I was dissapointed also. I have to be induced and monitored the entire time, have to be put on pitocin. I was just glad I was able to have a vaginal birth at all. I had to be taken off of blood thinners prior to induction so they could control it, but in my case, the truth of things is that it can kill me, and I'd rather live.
It really will depend on what the MFM doctors tell you. They might just want to do a few extra ultrasounds to make sure baby is progressing, and keep an eye on you. That might be the end of the interventions and you can have a more natural labor that you are looking for. They will be able to tell you more about the risks for your situation.
DD is 2yrs old, and at this point, that few hours I spent at the hospital delivering really don't matter anymore. She's healthy, I survived the experience, I'll take it.
Factor V Leiden Homozygous, Advanced Maternal Age
TTC #1, 5 yrs, PCOS, Femera + Ovidrel.
IUI#3 BFP, DD 5/31/2012
TTC #2, 2 yrs, PCOS, Femera+Ovidrel
IUI#2 BFP!
It definitely sounds like your risk was high, and it is wonderful you were so carefully looked after.
I spoke to my G.P family doctors I today and she said, knowing me and my medical history, she thinks I'll be back off the high risk list after seeing this consultant and he delves into it all in more detail.
So fingers crossed for plain sailing!!