My DD is really upset...

eburgmama · December 2014

she said she didn't care what sex the baby was but has been sad ever since we found out it was another boy. She was crying yesterday because she wants a girl elf on the shelf but no everything in her life is just "boy boy boy"! Tonight she was crying and asked why God was sending us another boy and making her be the only girl. She wanted a baby so badly and it kills me that she is so upset about it. And it kind of pisses me off a little because (even though she doesn't know this) I've lost 2 pregnancies and this baby is a blessing no matter the sex!

eburgmama · December 2014

Btw she is in first grade and very dramatic lol!

Katerina&Baby · December 2014

I vividly remember my sister and I being PISSED that we were getting a baby brother instead of a sister. We constantly tried to dress him up like a girl and put makeup on him too (God only knows why he put up with it). Let her pout it out - she'll get over it.

Edit: Note that at some point (if it's getting ridiculous), you may want to let her know that it isn't very nice of her to complain that she is getting a baby brother as opposed to a baby sister. Your can also ask why she wanted him to be a girl so badly (let her try to verbalize it) and then gently challenge her reasons to teach her that she can still play with her brother even though he's a boy.

KJKNAJ · December 2014

If she's anything like my DD the same age, this time next week she won't even remember she was disappointed. In the meantime, let her cry and just keep reassuring her that she will love the new baby as much as she loves the brother she already has. She'll come around!

Katerina&Baby · December 2014

KJKNAJ said:
If she's anything like my DD the same age, this time next week she won't even remember she was disappointed. In the meantime, let her cry and just keep reassuring her that she will love the new baby as much as she loves the brother she already has. She'll come around!

Total reading fail - didn't realize DD already HAD a brother. Completely agree with PP.

tiffanyclark87 · December 2014

I myself went through the exact same thing when I was her age. My mom had a boy after me. My brothers are a little less than 2 year apart. I prayed that God would send another baby in mommy's tummy. When she told me it was a boy, I was really upset. I said "if I would've known it was going to be a boy, I never would've prayed for it." Then mom reminded me that since I was the only girl, we could have girls only dates going shopping, etc and leave the boys at home with daddy. My spirits lifted then. She also reminded me that I wouldn't have to share my dolls/toys with a little brother or my room. When the time came, they let me help pick out the names they had chosen. It made me feel special. Now 21 years later, we are so close and we are so much alike personality wise.

She will come around! Just remind her of those special things that the two of you will get to do!

ohiodoxiemama08 · December 2014

Maybe try mentioning that this makes your relationship with her special--because you two will be the only ones who get to do "mommy/daughter" time. She gets to be the Queen B and set an example for her little brothers. I'm sure when the baby comes she'll be over the moon though. I bet it's hard to watch her be upset though. Hang in there mama.

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Ana0927 · December 2014

I know its upsetting to see her react that way. My 6 year old was the same. When we were pregnant with #2 she really wanted it to be a boy. When we told her it was a girl she cried hysterically for 45 minutes. Now they are inseparable.

We just told her last week about #3 and she was pissed. Cried and was asking us why we have to have another baby and it better not be a girl We haven't told her its a girl yet we are giving her some time to take it all in. We also don't talk to her about it unless she brings it up. She is really upset and we don't want to make a big deal about it.

I know once the baby is here she will feel differntly and will love her baby sister.

finchfeeder80 · December 2014

OP, I think you can get girl Elf on the Shelves now. And I have NO idea how to properly pluralize that object, even with my English degree! LOL! I'm pretty sure I saw Target advertising them. Don't know if that would help her with the transition at all, but since she specifically mentioned it....

Jtdd · December 2014

Last year when I was pregnant with ds2 my son told me he wouldn't love the baby if it was a girl. He was going through this I hate girls thing, like if a girl said hi to him he would run away screaming. Well he got lucky and got his baby brother. But fast forward to this year ( hes 6) and he has his first "girlfriend" all of a sudden girls aren't so bad after all. My son is also very dramatic and everything is the most horrible thing ever when it happens, we just ignore him and he gets over it

BabyHarris15 · December 2014

I have a 9 yr old niece who has been begging her mom(my big sister) to have a boy. So last year when my sister found out she was pregnant, my niece was excited.....until they found out it was a girl. Flash forward to now, she is the BEST big sister in the world! She loves her baby sister with all her heart and she couldn't be happier.

parsaamin · December 2014

I was six when my brother was born and I totally hated him lol. I wanted a sister to play with, instead I got a crying attention seeker.

paintdadanta · December 2014

Sometimes kids gets overwhelmed by being outnumbered by brothers or sisters. My father (only boy in his family) use to always tell us about when his fourth sister was born and he ran away from home, well at least until the local cops picked him up. My grandfather was so mad that he told the officers to keep him overnight to teach him a lesson. He must have been 11 or 12, but as frustrating as it was for them then, it makes a great story that everyone laughs about now. Give it a little while, I'm sure she'll be happy with time.

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