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Woes of being the only ones with kids...

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We have a close group of 4 couples that get together on a semi-regular basis, but we're the only couple with a kid. As we start to plan NYE (which we always spend together), it's becoming more and more apparent how difficult/frustrating it can be to be the only ones in the group with a kid! We also had a birthday party a few weeks ago and I basically had to chase her around the entire time because their house wasn't childproof and she wanted ALL THE THINGS! So I had zero fun whilst everyone else was playing an insanely hilarious and inappropriate game of Cards Against Humanity.

I lerve my friends, but someone else needs to pop a baby out, STAT! :-)

Who else shares in my woes??
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  • mancila60mancila60 member
    We have this problem too. Only 1 friend of ours has kids and they live in Wyoming. H's cousin who we are close with is having a baby in May so it will get much easier for us to hang out. Mostly our problem is we don't have friends or at least not mutual friends. We have no couples to hang out with that live close by. We have a few but all are out of town.
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    There was also a 5th couple who had a baby a few years ago but they stopped hanging out with us soon after the baby was born. I never understood why, but I COMPLETELY understand now. We're really on different planets. Having kids changes everything. I'm doing my best to just deal with it though, I love my friends and don't want to let go of our friendships! It's just difficult right now being in a totally different place.


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  • Fruitcove7Fruitcove7 member
    This is the perfect time for you to post this! I am just in the middle of a group text with some of my girlfriends who are having a girls weekend, full of booze and whatever else.

    After I politely decline I am continuously asked why. It is frustrating. Yes, I have a husband who is capable of watching the kid. No, he doesn't want to be left alone all the time for me to party with you.

    The thing is, I don't even care to go anymore. I am realizing more and more that I don't have much in common with them anymore. It gets awkward when the only thing I have to contribute is about my child.

    Luckily, we do have a couple of friends who have children, but, like us, they are busy a lot or just too damned tired!
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  • finnybooboofinnybooboo member
    @crunchmama11 - I do! I actually have a group of another 4 couples with babies all within 2 months of A. We're not that close though, but it's so nice getting together to bond over parenthood. They get us right now. After we had a dinner a few weeks ago is when I really started thinking that it's so much easier to be around other people with children! I'll be happy when my best friends jump on the parent wagon so I can have that bond with them too!
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  • carawasacarawasa member
    we are in a similar situation with one of our couple friends...like they just don't get it. I'm kind of over it at this point. We hang when we can
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  • acethebaseacethebase member
    I hear you completely! Basically none of our friends have kids which has kind of caused us all to drift away. I get really irratated when DH's friends try to plan something last minute and we need a sitter. They're always like "Well can't you just get a babysitter?" Um noooo and I'd rather prefer to try to include my children in the things we are doing. I don't know they get me so irratated....So really we don't try to make plans anymore, we're just sort of drifting apart because people without kids just don't "get it."
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    acethebase said:

    I hear you completely! Basically none of our friends have kids which has kind of caused us all to drift away. I get really irratated when DH's friends try to plan something last minute and we need a sitter. They're always like "Well can't you just get a babysitter?" Um noooo and I'd rather prefer to try to include my children in the things we are doing. I don't know they get me so irratated....So really we don't try to make plans anymore, we're just sort of drifting apart because people without kids just don't "get it."

    I hear you on including your children. DH brought up possibly getting a babysitter on NYE but no way, I feel like we ring in the new year together! If it comes down to it, we're just going to have to break tradition or start a new one that's family friendly.
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  • Lesley0228Lesley0228 member
    All of my friends have kids and I'm not sure it's any better. Everyone is always too busy to do anything. We had a lot of play dates when they were little, but everyone's oldest (including mine) is school age now and they are so busy with activities. I wish I had a childless friend who had the time and energy to go out with me with sometimes. Trying to get a mom's night out is like pulling teeth.
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