Other people trying to name your baby?

christieb27 · December 2014

My MIL asked me if we had any names picked out for the baby. We know we want to honor my BIL who passes away last may in some way- not really sure if we want to use his middle name/first name or whatever. We also do not know the gender of the baby yet.

My MIL told me if we have a boy exactly what the name should be then added- if you have another you can name that one. I truly do not care about gender but I am not looking forward to the confrontation if I find out I am having a boy...

christieb27 · December 2014

Wow? Did you ask what name they had in mind

texasmama15 · December 2014

Smilz4782 said:

My IL's have a friend who offered us $25k to name our baby...

WHAT??? That's absurd! Did they tell you the name they wanted?

lupineaura · December 2014

Smilz4782 said:

My IL's have a friend who offered us $25k to name our baby...

If they were serious, that is bizarre. Did they want to name your baby after their company?

That being said, if I didn't hate the name, I might be tempted...ha.

texasmama15 · December 2014

christieb27 said:

My MIL asked me if we had any names picked out for the baby. We know we want to honor my BIL who passes away last may in some way- not really sure if we want to use his middle name/first name or whatever. We also do not know the gender of the baby yet.
My MIL told me if we have a boy exactly what the name should be then added- if you have another you can name that one. I truly do not care about gender but I am not looking forward to the confrontation if I find out I am having a boy...

Just no. No no no no. I hope she was joking or just throwing suggestions out. Why do people think they have the right to name your child?!

texasmama15 · December 2014

Smilz4782 said:

Smilz4782 said:

My IL's have a friend who offered us $25k to name our baby...

WHAT??? That's absurd! Did they tell you the name they wanted?
DH remembers the names (boy and girl since we don't know yet) think like LaFawnduh (from Napoleon Dynamite) I can't remember them exactly. I said I was fine with it We can always legally change it later right?!?!?!

) Haha, WOW! You can totes change it later

momtosam · December 2014

Smilz4782 said:

My IL's have a friend who offered us $25k to name our baby...

^^^ for that I would have named our DS whatever they wanted and kept my mouth shut. Sadly I had a first name force on me for our DS and my opinion did not matter. Yes, it is a very sore topic in my life. We are discussing to legally change it now that my DH does understand and see my point of view. And no my son does no go by his legal name. We call him by his middle.

Because of everything I went through with naming our first, or my lack of involvement in naming our first. Not that we should have ANY issues with naming this one. We are not discussing names with anyone. We will not announce the name until after birth. If someone even begins to offer suggestions, we say we are not interested in hearing them and we will end the conversation there. It should ONLY be a conversation between you and the father of the child. No one else's opinion should matter!

Lalalady54 · December 2014

Smilz4782 said:

texasmama15 said:

Smilz4782 said:

My IL's have a friend who offered us $25k to name our baby...

WHAT??? That's absurd! Did they tell you the name they wanted?

DH remembers the names (boy and girl since we don't know yet) think like LaFawnduh (from Napoleon Dynamite) I can't remember them exactly. I said I was fine with it

We can always legally change it later right?!?!?!

My dad has offered the same deal 25k to any child of his who names a boy after him. Too bad I have 1 DD and this LO is another girl otherwise we would do it in a second (that being said my dads name is a very common classic name)

gsancho · December 2014

A good friend of mine decided her name should be Isabella and keeps calling her that, even though we already decided on Camilla. I mostly ignore it for now b/c I know he's joking...once she's here, I doubt he'll keep it up. Hopefully....

PutMeintheZoo · December 2014

My grandmother's name is Elizabeth and my mom is already pushing for us to name the baby this. She was referring to baby as "Elizabeth" all through Thanksgiving... So irritating!

I think we'll also withhold telling family and friends the name we actually pick out to avoid all the drama...

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Snapdragon750 · December 2014

My MIL throws out suggestions all the time. We only use Hebrew names, and she is terrified that we'll use something strange or hard to pronounce for non-Jews. We won't, but since we never reveal the name until it's on the birth certificate we've been messing with her by telling her we're thinking about Menachem Mendel Tzvi for a boy.

zbornak123 · December 2014

I've had a grandma on each side give us a girl name. My Dad's Mom wants us to name it "Jolene" and DH's grandma wants "Kaitlin". Neither are in the running. I think we are going to keep the name a secret just so we don't have to deal with people judging it. after the baby is born they'll have to just smile and nod.

Sarahbmcd · December 2014

My MIL has. Luckily I got used to standing my ground when we were planning the wedding.

zbornak123 · December 2014

@putmeinthezoo that would be so annoying!

zbornak123 · December 2014

gsancho thats so pretty! I love Camila!

christieb27 · December 2014

Hormones are always a factor But to directly quote her she said in a text message to me, "if it is a boy name it Andrew Cyrus, then if you have another baby you can name that one whatever you want"

This is also my step MIL, my actual MIL is amazing and only cares about getting to meet this baby

mp03jp · December 2014

My mom always gives me name "suggestions" and they are awful. Right now she is set on the name of the street her father lived on. And it's horrible! but like with DD we didn't tell anyone the name until she was born. I really thought she was going to be a Lola but then when I saw I her I knew that was never going to be her name and it wouldn't fit her. So I'm waiting myself to see this baby until I finally decide.

kj808 · December 2014

Luckily the only people I have trying to name my baby are my kids

Boredboardlurker · December 2014

kj808 said:
Luckily the only people I have trying to name my baby are my kids

Me too!

MAdams728 · December 2014

DH comes from a very patriarchal family where first generation boys are very special. Since we know it is a boy, they are very pushy about using the grandfather's names. I'm not doing it. My dad also wants us to use his middle name because it goes back so far, but it's pretty terrible, so that isn't happening, either.

We named our DD after our grandmothers, and her name is beautiful. If they had not been such perfect names, we would not have done it. Unfortunately, it set a precedent.

tinyjoys · December 2014

GFJ48 said:

We've decided on Henry Paul for a boy name but some family members are trying to convince us to name it Henry Danger so that he can say Danger is his middle name. No. Just no.
My cousin tried to get me to use Danger as well

I have a friend that after distancing themselves from her husband's family changed their last name to Danger.

MrsPDX · December 2014

My dad insists that our boy will be named Otto, I kind of like it and even tried to come to terms with naming our boy that but then realized why am I allowing someone else name my child??? My SIL also tried to sway us and my MIL and my mom...

Put your foot down for sure!

jbj 7497 · December 2014

The ladies at work keep telling my husband that they have the perfect name! I have hated every one, and my mom keeps making suggestions on really weird names. I told them they should get a new pet and use these brilliant name ideas. I can't imagine offering name suggestions for someone else's baby.

smontz · December 2014

Luckily I only have my Kindergarteners trying to name the baby...and their suggestions always crack me up. Right now the most hilarious ones from them are Sparkles, Moon Dance, and Jose Jalapeño. :-)

krissycole510 · December 2014

We know we are having a boy, and have already told both families not to ask about the name. That will be the only surpirse since we already know he's a boy. So once he's born, everyone will find out. This way, we don't have to hear what everyone thinks of our names. Don't get me wrong, people are still giving suggestions!! My family now calls him Amadeaus bc they know we would never go with that name, so it's funny. Baby Amadeaus! I scared my mom and told her we were actually starting to like it!!
On a side note, I'm a teacher and the kids all want me to name him Justin Beaver (yeah, not Beiber... Beaver!!

Jamesy · December 2014

I haven't been quiet about the fact that the baby has a name but we are NOT telling (in real life, I mean, I have no problem telling the internet!). Anyone who wants to kick up a fuss gets themselves moved further and further down the list of hospital phone calls when she's here

Snapdragon750 · December 2014

I want to add in here a suggestion for folks whose family is really set on having you name after someone with a name you don't like: Try looking up what other names carry the same meaning of the original name. Don't tell your relatives your plan ahead of time because they'll try to argue it, but when you reveal the name after the birth when it's too late for anyone to do anything, and then you explain the name's meaning and how you named them in honor of so-and-so, it'll go a long way to appease them. This is if you're not set on a name already, that is. Henry, for example, means ruler, and when I ran a search for boy names that mean "ruler," I got 146 results. Bonus points if you use the suggested name as a middle name.

(We did this with DD1. Worked like a charm, MIL is happy, and we have a name we love!!!)

OnceInLoveWithAmy · December 2014

My brother keeps suggesting Dairmaid. Combined with our last name it sounds like a character from the Hunger Games.

I said no. And that he was fired from offering anymore suggestions.

gypsyheart85 · December 2014

My MIL is THE. WORST.
Text after text of names she has come up with. She's currently obsessed with Reagan for a girl. We are decided on a girl name IF it's a girl and it isn't Raegen. Not that don't like the name, it's a beautiful name but just not for us.

annerz22 · December 2014

DHs 95 year old grandma told us we should name DS2 David or Chaim and was offended that we already have a name picked out. She also was offended when SIL didn't use one of the 12 names she gave her to use for my nephew. We laugh about it because she is 95 and what can we say or do?

My grandma however has a very thick Italian accent and can't say DS1s name, Levi. She calls him Leon and tells everyone it's Leon and tells me she likes that better than Levi because she can pronounce it. When he was first born it was Leroy or Levon. So she kind of has named our child since it's now a running joke in my family to refer to Levi as Leon.

SchoolPsychSteph · December 2014

@smontz‌ Jose Jalapeño for sure!

SchoolPsychSteph · December 2014

Yes, all these things you all say. My dad and stepmom are the worst. I've gotten Janette and a few others that aren't terrible, but weren't our style. I'm so glad we have a name now and it's not up for alternatives! Oh, it's Taylor Elise.

sbride68 · December 2014

DH wants to name the baby after him if it is a boy. Keep I. Mind his name is James a common name and his father grandfather great and great great grandfathers are/were all James. He has a cousin James that goes by initials and an uncle Jim. I also have a cousin James and an uncle Jim. I call his dad Jim and his grandpa goes by Fred since their middle name is Fredrick. DH is jimmy to me. Our son would be James Fredrick the fourth. I just can't do it! I know my FIL is gunning for it as well and I won't do it. That is just way way way too many and things have to change at some point in time. I had to laugh though because when we told his grandparents we were expecting the first thing his grandpa said was if you have a boy please please if you have a boy whatever you do please don't name him James. Score one on my side! Haha I got a good chuckle out of that.

squeezebean · December 2014

I love the comeback suggestions: have one of your own, or get a pet and name it! Seriously.

I don't even want to start the name conversation with DH's family, and I'm dreading the day they bring it up. For now it's just my students, and they all have the same two suggestions: Spider and Charlotte. Guess my last name!

rivers714 · December 2014

Sometimes I get overly cocky about things... I may have bet naming rights over who'll get MVP on my rugby teams banquet, or rather against my friends favorite for the award.....so hopefully Saturday I'll win

suszbaker · December 2014

Thankfully we didn't get any pressure to name our son when we adopted him. As soon as we found out he was a boy, we quickly agreed on the names ourselves. BD's father passed away in July this year so I have thought of a girl's name to honor him that I love. I'm not 100% sold on the father's name for a boy. Now I'm worried about being pressured. Good luck!

Leslie2003 · December 2014

Upon hearing we are having a girl, my MIL created a list of 12 girl names and handed it to me.

They weren't awful, but not my cup of tea. She was just trying to be helpful but it was super annoying to me - I just found out we are having a girl - can you give me some time to process this!

smontz · December 2014

ajzmommy said:

Luckily I only have my Kindergarteners trying to name the baby...and their suggestions always crack me up. Right now the most hilarious ones from them are Sparkles, Moon Dance, and Jose Jalapeño. :-)

@smontz‌ Jose Jalapeño for sure!
Jose Jalapeño FTW!!

That's what my mom has taken up calling my LO...and it's kind of starting to have a ring to it! ;-)

staccajaye · December 2014

Beeorange said:
We already have names picked out but aren't sharing with family because I don't want their opinions. So we just told them we haven't decided yet (or they would hound me until I told them) which of course brought on suggestions for four days. My mom has similar taste to me, so I liked most of the names but I just smiled and nodded.

This is exactly us too. We have picked out boy and girl names and told people we just don't know yet.
I don't want anyone else's opinion on the names we chose, especially family or that friend who doesn't like the name because she had a bitchy neighbor with that name or something, ha please.

kandybarandco · December 2014

OnceInLoveWithAmy said:

My brother keeps suggesting Dairmaid. Combined with our last name it sounds like a character from the Hunger Games. I said no. And that he was fired from offering anymore suggestions.

Diarmaid's actually on our list (not that spelling, though, omg--no one would be able to figure out how to pronounce it!). It's a nice traditional Scottish name and the spelling/pronunciation of it isn't as bad as a lot of the other ones.

I'm half-tempted to just not tell anyone when we find out the sex. With DS no one started on the names until after they knew the sex, so maybe if I just keep that information to myself everyone will leave me alone on the subject.

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