WWYD M15?

Whitfry · December 2014

So there's an event coming to a city near my home (about 50 minutes from my town) that I would really, really love to go to. DH would also love to go. The problem is that the event is March first, and my edd is the third.

Would you go ahead and buy tickets, or would you consider that cutting it too close? If I have the baby early, DH could still go. And as a FTM I have no clue if baby J will come early, late, or right smack dab in time.

I'm so tempted to pull the trigger and buy the tickets, but I'm curious what decision other people would make. The event won't require a lot of standing or anything. It will be in a theater/auditorium setting with assigned seating.

Whitfry · December 2014

Tickets are $50 apiece. I'm sure DH could find someone to go with him if I couldn't. It's Alton Brown and we have a few friends who are as foodie as we are.

goofygoff · December 2014

As long as you're okay with taking a potential loss, I say go for it!

peeppeeppeep · December 2014

Love Alton Brown. I'd probably get the tickets, because I just want to try to keep doing everything I would normally do, within reason. 50 minutes away seems reasonable to me, but I'm a FTM, too.

suzyq0525 · December 2014

I would do it. Especially since you have foodie friends that could potentially go as back up.

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MrsLaurenandDan · December 2014

Nope. I wouldn't. And I wouldn't want DH going without me with a newborn. And I probably wouldn't want to have to deal with craigslist at the last minute. If you do, I would ask a friend to be in charge of the craigslist side if you want to go that route.

jnowosielski · December 2014

I'd buy the tickets for sure.

meowkitten · December 2014

We saw his tour when he was in Atlanta earlier this year, it was awesome!

I would buy the tickets...it's not like they are THAT expensive and you could always sell them or send someone else with your DH.

Whitfry · December 2014

It depends on how our winter goes. On the one hand, we have had a mild start. On the other hand, when I got married in May a few years ago I was praying it didn't snow that day.

The only way I would send DH without me would be if the baby came early and I couldn't go anywhere because of that. Otherwise I would go as long as I wasn't in labor. Or so I think. I have no idea how I'll be feeling or what my mood will be like that close to my due date.

gnomemom · December 2014

I wouldn't, but mostly because I wouldn't be willing to take the loss. With my first, he was born on my due date and I was in labor for 32 hours leading up to his birth. I wouldn't want to be that far away from my hospital and in labor.

I wouldn't blame you for getting the tix, though, Alton Brown is awesome.

Whitfry · December 2014

@Chunkymonkeylvr‌

I can see how that would be disappointing. I wouldn't have that expectation, but I'll see if it would impact DH's desire to go.

You guys are all being super helpful. Thanks for all the feedback!

071115 · December 2014

I probably would.
If you have to you can give to a friend or sell them.
Good luck

janda426 · December 2014

MrsLaurenandDan said:
Nope. I wouldn't. And I wouldn't want DH going without me with a newborn. And I probably wouldn't want to have to deal with craigslist at the last minute. If you do, I would ask a friend to be in charge of the craigslist side if you want to go that route.

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DM718 · December 2014

We went to the Alton Brown show last winter (in a crazy snow storm), and loved it. Its a bit of a variety show (assuming its similar) - some cooking, some monolog, and some other cool stuff. I bet you can line someone else up to take the tickets in case you can't go.

mermaid1113 · December 2014

I personally wouldn't do it- if you do happen to deliver on or around the due date, you won't want to deal with trying to sell or hand out those tickets.

Whitfry · December 2014

If we do go ahead with it, we will have a plan in place for the tickets ahead of time, even if that plan is an agreement to just eat the loss. I definitely agree that if I'm in labor event tickets will not be something I'm interested in dealing with.

cafecreme · December 2014

No way. If you're standing or walking for long periods, I wouldn't go. I was so uncomfortable the last few weeks of pregnancy, I couldn't really do anything.

PHNJenna · December 2014

Do it

ST3WD · December 2014

Whitfry said:

Tickets are $50 apiece. I'm sure DH could find someone to go with him if I couldn't. It's Alton Brown and we have a few friends who are as foodie as we are.

Why is this up for debate??

Love him. Do eet. FTM here too, but carpe diem, yo.

Seriously, I was bummed his show sold out here. I didn't look it up soon enough. Heard fantastic things.

Shebamommy · December 2014

A few thoughts:

(1) If you don't care about losing out on $100, then go ahead and buy them and see when baby comes and how you are feeling. As someone else above said, there is no way I'd be jacking around with Craigslist or whatever trying to get rid of tickets while in the hospital or home recovering with a newborn.

(2) No way would I send DH by himself (or with a friend) in the days or even couple of weeks after baby's arrival. You will want him home helping you, trust me.

(3) Sounds like it will in involve a roughly 2 hour round-trip car ride that evening. That will totally suck just days away from yoru due date, yet I suppose doable if you are a hard-core fan.

(4) This is purely anecdotal and specific to me, but I delivered a few days before my due date with both baby #1 and #2, and won't plan on being anywhere I don't have to be (like work or doctors appointments or easy errands super close to my house/hospital) for the week leading up to my due date since I assume I'll have the baby anytime.

JennyP0222 · December 2014

All I will say is, I was a miserable witch of a woman in the couple of days leading up to and then PAST my due date. Sitting in a car for any length of time plus sitting in an uncomfortable auditorium chair that far along, to me, sounds like hell.

kmvisioli · December 2014

I would do it, especially for something awesome like that! Have a plan in place (maybe friends willing to buy them from you), but honestly I wouldn't be too upset to eat the loss if you're in labor (baby is a good distraction from $100)

Also be sure you're okay with the drive just in case you need to get to the hospital from there.

ruemorgan · December 2014

If its an event I had really been looking forward to, I would. The only thing im concerned about is a snow storm near my due date, otherwise I plan to continue on with general life.

cafecreme · December 2014

Oh shoot, Alton Brown?? I was thinking like a concert. A food convention with Alton Brown, yea, go. I'd waddle my pregnant ass all through there to see him and eat all.the.food.

Whitfry · December 2014

I'm almost thinking we should get the tickets and then wait and see how I'm feeling the closer we get to my due date. It is something I would dearly love to go to, and these events hit my area very rarely.

If we line up a backup plan in advance we could sell the tickets if I was in rough shape. It's so hard to make a decision, since this is my first pregnancy I have no clue how I will feel or how things will happen. I don't even have prior experience to fall back on.

All the advice and opinions are really helpful, though, and you're all giving me a lot of good things to think about!

Whitfry · December 2014

@TikTak‌
The seats were comfy when I saw Book of Mormon there at 13 weeks, lol. No idea if they'll still be comfy at 39 weeks!

JCWhitey · December 2014

Get them!!

Yes, you may be uncomfortable in the last few days, or you may not. I was still walking around and relatively comfortable the day before I went into labor with DS. And if you are uncomfortable just sell your ticket.

Yes, you may have to miss it because your baby is here. But... so what? You have a NB! I doubt you'll miss the event that much and, like you said, someone else can go in your place.

50 minutes is not that far away, IMO. I was 75 miles from my hospital the day before I went into labor and the only reason I was any closer than that was because I decided to go to work one more week which put me 20ish miles away. Otherwise I would have been at my parent's house where the nearest L&D is 75 miles away and every pregnant woman makes that drive. Heck, I may have to make that drive and I'm an additional 50 miles away! Plus if you go into labor and don't feel you can get home there's probably a hospital nearby you can go to. But FTMs rarely have labors that fast and you'd have time to get home to your hospital.

Plus it sounds like fun! I'm not familiar with this person but from reading this comments I want to go!

So as long as you are OK possibly eating $50, go ahead and get the tickets. Whether you go or don't go, you'll probably be happy with the outcome!

sdion27 · December 2014

No way! Even if baby is two weeks early you won't be ready for a night out or want DH going out without you. Pass!

ST3WD · December 2014

Whitfry said:

@TikTak‌ The seats were comfy when I saw Book of Mormon there at 13 weeks, lol. No idea if they'll still be comfy at 39 weeks!

I hear nothing is comfy at that point, except a massage maybe. :P

LilLambkins · December 2014

My Dr did not even want me a half hour away from the hospital. Myabe check in with Dr.

FrecklesInside · December 2014

I was SO uncomfortable the last couple weeks of pregnancy. No way would I want to bother with a venue and shit even with seating. I was dragging my aching pelvis through each day's necessities in those last weeks.

Also, my husband never would have left me with a newborn a few days old and I never would have been ok with it even if he did want to. Everyone reacts differently, but as a FTM last time, we were both overwhelmed, emotional, and still all bonding as a family. Also, I had complications that made it so I couldn't be alone physically with baby in the first few days. Just saying you might feel way differently than you're assuming you will and that you cannot predict circumstances of pre-labor, labor or birth.