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3rd miscarriage..... feeling hopeless

K1978K1978 member
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Had my 3rd miscarriage over the weekend at 10 weeks 4 days. My husband and i are devastated. We want a family so badly, but I'm so worried that it will never happen for us. (we are 35 and 36 so I feel like our time is running out...)  On top of that I can't imagine going through this again and if i do get pregnant i will be so anxious and scared that it will happen again. I am just so sad and lost right now. :(
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Re: 3rd miscarriage..... feeling hopeless

  • IslandDreaminIslandDreamin member
    My heart aches for you! I'm so sorry for your loss. When you're 35 or older and you have been trying for 6 months or more than you should be able to see an RE (reproductive endocrinologist). They are much more knowledgeable than OBGYNs at helping you get and stay pregnant. I know how you feel about being anxious and scared that something will go wrong again. I just suffered my first ectopic recently and I learned that once you have one you're more likely to have another one. I'm trying to stay positive, but the thought is terrifying. I hear from the lovely ladies on here that it does get easier and relating to each other on the boards definitely helps.
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  • K1978K1978 member
    Thank you, and sorry for your loss as well. I have so many appointments scheduled in the next week, I'm determined to get to the bottom of this. I'm even getting acupuncture, which I never would have considered because I hate needles.... but at this point I am willing to do anything.
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  • ashleyann62215ashleyann62215 member
    Oh honey I'm so sorry. I can't imagine. One loss is so hard that I can't imagine going through 3. My heart hurts for you. I don't have the right words but you're in my thoughts and prayers. Give yourself as much time to grieve as you need. Hugs.**
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  • Nikolie93Nikolie93 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. I just had my 3rd MC so I can understand. Are any of your appointments with an RE? I was told by my OB that they don't typically refer you to a specialist until after 3 losses so right when this one happened I made an appointment. My first one isn't until Dec 17th so I have no advice on what they will be doing. I also want to get to the bottom of it to see what's going on. 

    I also know how you feel when you think time is running out but women are having babies a bit older now so try not to dwell too much on that. (and yes, I hate when people say that to me but it's true :)  ) 

    Good luck to you and know you aren't alone in this *hug* 
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



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  • bumpuser10605721bumpuser10605721 member
    Im very sorry for your losses, big hugs to you and welcome to the board.
    Me: 29 DH: 30
    DS born 12/29/12 @ 41+1 
    TTC#2 07/2014
    BFP 10/14/14 MC 11/14/14 D&C for RT 11/18/2014 
    Given all clear 12/15/2014 - back to TTC



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  • EmrenEmren member
    I am so so sorry for your loss! I know what you meaning about dreading to start all over or to start trying again when you so badly want the baby that you lost. I am so sorry! I know its probably to soon but my friend told me about a book after my loss titled Silent Grief by Clara Hinton. I thought I would recommend it for whenever you are ready, I know we all grieve differently. I hope it helps! Also I would encourage you to speak with a close friend or keep sharing with an online community about that you are feeling and going through. Its so important to be around a supportive network. 

    ((Hugs and Love))
    Emren0316 


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