Theme for Gender Reveal Party?

Lisa9080 · December 2014

I know that this is not the most popular thing in these groups but my family is super excited to have a gender reveal party for this little guy or girl! I am starting to plan! I want to order invitations but I am stumped on a theme. I was thinking "bowties or bows " or "princess or superhero." Anyone else have a theme you are doing? Where are you ordering your invitations from?

thay33 · December 2014

I'm not really having a party per say. Instead of just my husband and I finding out what the sex is together, we wanted to have our whole family (moms dads brothers and sisters but no further extent) know at the same time. So we are having the doctor write down in a piece of paper what it is & I am then giving that paper to my sister (she will be the only one who knows before sunday) and then she will be putting blue or pink balloons In a box and we will all know together! No gifts or anything though, I know my sister will make a cake though... But it's just basically a get together to find out the sex as a family

deutschbaby · December 2014

I'm not sure this thread is going to go the way you wanted here... Good luck.

We are not having a sex reveal party, not my thing. So no advice on themes.

I can say I have ordered invitations/announcements for non-baby related events from both Vista Print and Shutterfly in the past and have been very pleased with the quality of both companies. Today is cyber Monday, so both websites have big discounts right now.

JoJo1111 · December 2014

It might be the Monday morning talking but princess or superhero makes me puke in my mouth. I know there are a lot of people who would find that cute so go for it if it is your thing! If we do a sex reveal I want to do the painted hand pictures. Last time we just told people when they asked or when we saw them.

Eta I agree on shutterfly doing super cute invites for a reasonable price.

gaylew5 · December 2014

I agree. princess is female. but superhero? to me, that's team green. and if you say super heroes can only be male then I disagree with that message.

BabyList · December 2014

What about princesses and princes? I feel like that goes better. Or if you want to do the superhero theme, maybe superman or superwoman? Have fun!

JoJo1111 · December 2014

Super man or Wonder Woman sounds like a fantastic theme!

Stormy61 · December 2014

I've seen the ones that are more neutral with "What will it Bee?" And everything is yellow and black "bee" themed. My mom made a really cute diaper cake for one that was shaped like a honeycomb.

soniaren · December 2014

As a huge fan superhero and comic books... I can tell you there are tons of female superheroes and super villains. Prince goes with princess. Batman has Batgirl.

AmeliaBedelia85 · December 2014

I really love the bows or bow ties. My cousins did this for their party and had pink bows and black bow tie stickers for the guest to stick to their shirt for their guess. It was fun.

adorebel · December 2014

Yeah, if you must have a sex reveal party, at least don't pigeonhole your future daughter as a helpless pretty princess and your future son as an active, brave superhero! Your kids will get enough gender conforming messages from the world as it is!

delujm0 · December 2014

I thought the "theme" of these parties was just "is it a boy or a girl."

I guess I'm not on pinterest enough.

Trampslikeus · December 2014

I will leave my opinions on SEX reveal parties out of this and address something more important ... Please, I'm actually begging you, do not trap your child in manufactured stereotypical gender roles before they even have a damn chance to explore who they are. I see a male 4 year old who already thinks he's "weird" and "girly" because he likes to play with Anna and Elsa dolls. And girls who aren't even 5 who think they shouldn't play with trucks, and there's something wrong with them if they don't love princesses and frilly dresses.

This isn't some joke, or some soapbox I'm taking too seriously - this is shit that causes actual psychological problems, low self esteem, and bullying. Pleeeeease, don't fall in to that trap.

littlegrapey · December 2014

I can maybe understand doing something like opening a box of pink or blue balloons for pictures to reveal, but having an actual party? It seems a bit much...

NoeliaV · December 2014

1) also thought the theme was "what sex is our baby??" and

2) I find these things so eye-rolly (just to register my opinion formally)

Katerina&Baby · December 2014

A friend of mine did one recently with just some close family members. They had a cake made with blue frosting in the middle and just decorated the room in pastels. There were two signs: Team Boy and Team Girl and you stood beneath what your guess was when they cut the cake. Nothing crazy - no gifts or anything like that. If I wasn't Team Green, I'd consider doing something low key like that as a fun Sunday afternoon get together but I don't think I'd make it into a proper party (with handwritten invites).

deutschbaby · December 2014

Katerina&Baby said:
A friend of mine did one recently with just some close family members. They had a cake made with blue frosting in the middle and just decorated the room in pastels. There were two signs: Team Boy and Team Girl and you stood beneath what your guess was when they cut the cake. Nothing crazy - no gifts or anything like that. If I wasn't Team Green, I'd consider doing something low key like that as a fun Sunday afternoon get together but I don't think I'd make it into a proper party (with handwritten invites).

We are thinking of doing something like this for DS12. Just the 3 of us, no gifts. But I will make a small cake and let DS cut into it to find out. I think I makes it more fun for him, and well, because more cake in my life is never a bad thing!

We might give my parents a gift to tell them the sex, not sure. They have 3 grandsons so far, but no one will be sad if this is another boy!

I'm not sure how to tell the ILs in Germany. We video chat with them a lot, but this is their first grand baby and I'm trying to find fun ways for them to be involved since they are so far away. We are visiting them for Xmas and I got a Doppler so they could hear the HB while we are there. I might try to think of a fun way to reveal the sex of the baby to them when we find out (hopefully in Feb).... Hmmmm.

deutschbaby · December 2014

periwinkledaydreams said:
@maplebaby‌ maybe you could have DS cutting the cake on video and use that to reveal to grandparents, either live on skype or record and send! Actually, I had never heard of having a party to announce the sex, but I have seen really cute videos of the older siblings cutting a cake used to announce to the rest of the family.

This is a great idea! Thanks!

tiffbot1985 · December 2014

emilyzemily said:

I second pp's on the whole point of a theme? I really just thought it was "is it a boy or a girl? penis or vagina? Phoebe or Pheobo?" None of this prince or princess mush (that actually makes me vom a little sorry)

When we find out the sex, it will be just me and my SO there. We will tell close family and that's it, I think if I told my friends we were having a party to announce the sex of our baby they would think i'm an attention whore (which is why I love them so). It's not really a big thing in the UK, I don't think i've ever seen anyone here do it.

In my area, or at least the people I know, here in Sask I don't know anyone who has had a party either. I also don't know a lot of people IRL who find out the sex like I see online though, either.

Therefore, I have no suggestions, just wanted to piggyback off that comment.

kimmarie1105 · December 2014

In one breath:

maplebaby said:
I'm not sure this thread is going to go the way you wanted here... Good luck.

We are not having a sex reveal party, not my thing. So no advice on themes.

I can say I have ordered invitations/announcements for non-baby related events from both Vista Print and Shutterfly in the past and have been very pleased with the quality of both companies. Today is cyber Monday, so both websites have big discounts right now.

(By the way, your first sentence there was quite obnoxious)

And in the next breath:

maplebaby said:

Katerina&Baby said:
A friend of mine did one recently with just some close family members. They had a cake made with blue frosting in the middle and just decorated the room in pastels. There were two signs: Team Boy and Team Girl and you stood beneath what your guess was when they cut the cake. Nothing crazy - no gifts or anything like that. If I wasn't Team Green, I'd consider doing something low key like that as a fun Sunday afternoon get together but I don't think I'd make it into a proper party (with handwritten invites).
We are thinking of doing something like this for DS12. Just the 3 of us, no gifts. But I will make a small cake and let DS cut into it to find out. I think I makes it more fun for him, and well, because more cake in my life is never a bad thing!

We might give my parents a gift to tell them the sex, not sure. They have 3 grandsons so far, but no one will be sad if this is another boy!

I'm not sure how to tell the ILs in Germany. We video chat with them a lot, but this is their first grand baby and I'm trying to find fun ways for them to be involved since they are so far away. We are visiting them for Xmas and I got a Doppler so they could hear the HB while we are there. I might try to think of a fun way to reveal the sex of the baby to them when we find out (hopefully in Feb).... Hmmmm.

I'm just confused what the difference is here. You are doing something special to reveal the sex of your child on 3 separate occasions but her having her immediate family over to do something cute with it is not cool?

OP, I never really got the whole concept of this until a friend of mine did it and it was quite heart warming. I agree with others though, you don't need a theme and you certainly don't need invites for your immediate family. Don't make it corny by overdoing it.

Katerina&Baby · December 2014

abeatyrn said:
I agree with the team "keep it low key". It seems a little AW-ish to make a huge to do over the sex of your baby. We are having our results (baby's sex) from my Maternit21 test put in an envelope and opening it on Christmas with immediate family that is coming over anyway. No balloons, no cake, no invitations or expectations, just sharing a milestone.

That is straight up adorable! Love it.

Stormy61 · December 2014

I don't think they a sex reveal party is necessarily for attention and there has never been an expectation of gifts for the ones I've been too. In fact, the expecting parents graciously invited people to their home and provided food and drinks asking nothing in return. In my experience these parties have been 100% just about sharing a big moment with your family and closest friends.

TheAlmostMom · December 2014

my best friend is planning our gender reveal party so I have no idea what the theme will be- pinterest does have a LOT of great ideas! Its just an easier way for us to update everyone at once in a fun setting without a million phone calls/emails/texts. I'm very much in camp "celebrate baby all the ways you can" and so are our families so it would turn in to a big to-do anyway!

as for the people who are saying prince/princess/superhero/ yadda yadda will psychologically traumatize them for life.... I mean... you guys know that baby wont actually be present for this or branded for life with the identity via tiny in-utero branding iron... right? Its fun. Its lighthearted. And at the end of the day we are only a tiny piece of gender influence on our kids anyway. Ease up a bit on the devastation of pink and blue. Let a momma have her themed cake and eat it too.

deutschbaby · December 2014

kimmarie1105 said:

In one breath:
I'm not sure this thread is going to go the way you wanted here... Good luck. We are not having a sex reveal party, not my thing. So no advice on themes. I can say I have ordered invitations/announcements for non-baby related events from both Vista Print and Shutterfly in the past and have been very pleased with the quality of both companies. Today is cyber Monday, so both websites have big discounts right now.
(By the way, your first sentence there was quite obnoxious) And in the next breath:
A friend of mine did one recently with just some close family members. They had a cake made with blue frosting in the middle and just decorated the room in pastels. There were two signs: Team Boy and Team Girl and you stood beneath what your guess was when they cut the cake. Nothing crazy - no gifts or anything like that. If I wasn't Team Green, I'd consider doing something low key like that as a fun Sunday afternoon get together but I don't think I'd make it into a proper party (with handwritten invites).
We are thinking of doing something like this for DS12. Just the 3 of us, no gifts. But I will make a small cake and let DS cut into it to find out. I think I makes it more fun for him, and well, because more cake in my life is never a bad thing! We might give my parents a gift to tell them the sex, not sure. They have 3 grandsons so far, but no one will be sad if this is another boy! I'm not sure how to tell the ILs in Germany. We video chat with them a lot, but this is their first grand baby and I'm trying to find fun ways for them to be involved since they are so far away. We are visiting them for Xmas and I got a Doppler so they could hear the HB while we are there. I might try to think of a fun way to reveal the sex of the baby to them when we find out (hopefully in Feb).... Hmmmm.
I'm just confused what the difference is here. You are doing something special to reveal the sex of your child on 3 separate occasions but her having her immediate family over to do something cute with it is not cool? OP, I never really got the whole concept of this until a friend of mine did it and it was quite heart warming. I agree with others though, you don't need a theme and you certainly don't need invites for your immediate family. Don't make it corny by overdoing it.

I figured she would get some snarky replies and having read her preious posts, she might not take it well. I was right about the replies. Some were snarky, funny, and all were appropriate.

Having a party isn't for us. Baking a cake for my DS (which by the way I did today, after reading about cake here LOL) doesn't really constitute "party" in my book. The 3 of us will have cake tonight, but it's not a party :-) We will either call or email both sets of grandparents to tell them. We might just email a video of DS eating said cake. Still, not a party. Sex reveal parties aren't for me.

I did point out however, that I have no problem with the OP having a party. I never said it "wasnt cool" for her to do that. Where in the world are you getting that from. If she wants a party, she should party! To each their own! I didn't have a helpful suggestion on themes, but I tried to provide a helpful suggestion regarding cheap/discounted invitations. I hope it was useful.

It's pretty clear that you don't enjoy my posts on this BMB. That's ok. We'll get to know each other better in time. Or we won't. Either way, what I choose to do in my own life is in no way a reflection on my opinion of the OP's decision to party, or not to party. I hope she has an awesome party, picks a theme she likes, and gets some quality invitations at a good deal.

kimmarie1105 · December 2014

maplebaby said:

kimmarie1105 said:

In one breath:
maplebaby said:
I'm not sure this thread is going to go the way you wanted here... Good luck.

We are not having a sex reveal party, not my thing. So no advice on themes.

I can say I have ordered invitations/announcements for non-baby related events from both Vista Print and Shutterfly in the past and have been very pleased with the quality of both companies. Today is cyber Monday, so both websites have big discounts right now.
(By the way, your first sentence there was quite obnoxious)

And in the next breath:
maplebaby said:

Katerina&Baby said:
A friend of mine did one recently with just some close family members. They had a cake made with blue frosting in the middle and just decorated the room in pastels. There were two signs: Team Boy and Team Girl and you stood beneath what your guess was when they cut the cake. Nothing crazy - no gifts or anything like that. If I wasn't Team Green, I'd consider doing something low key like that as a fun Sunday afternoon get together but I don't think I'd make it into a proper party (with handwritten invites).
We are thinking of doing something like this for DS12. Just the 3 of us, no gifts. But I will make a small cake and let DS cut into it to find out. I think I makes it more fun for him, and well, because more cake in my life is never a bad thing!

We might give my parents a gift to tell them the sex, not sure. They have 3 grandsons so far, but no one will be sad if this is another boy!

I'm not sure how to tell the ILs in Germany. We video chat with them a lot, but this is their first grand baby and I'm trying to find fun ways for them to be involved since they are so far away. We are visiting them for Xmas and I got a Doppler so they could hear the HB while we are there. I might try to think of a fun way to reveal the sex of the baby to them when we find out (hopefully in Feb).... Hmmmm.
I'm just confused what the difference is here. You are doing something special to reveal the sex of your child on 3 separate occasions but her having her immediate family over to do something cute with it is not cool?

OP, I never really got the whole concept of this until a friend of mine did it and it was quite heart warming. I agree with others though, you don't need a theme and you certainly don't need invites for your immediate family. Don't make it corny by overdoing it.

I figured she would get some snarky replies and having read her preious posts, she might not take it well. I was right about the replies. Some were snarky, funny, and all were appropriate.

Having a party isn't for us. Baking a cake for my DS (which by the way I did today, after reading about cake here LOL) doesn't really constitute "party" in my book. The 3 of us will have cake tonight, but it's not a party :-) We will either call or email both sets of grandparents to tell them. We might just email a video of DS eating said cake. Still, not a party. Sex reveal parties aren't for me.

I did point out however, that I have no problem with the OP having a party. I never said it "wasnt cool" for her to do that. Where in the world are you getting that from. If she wants a party, she should party! To each their own! I didn't have a helpful suggestion on themes, but I tried to provide a helpful suggestion regarding cheap/discounted invitations. I hope it was useful.

It's pretty clear that you don't enjoy my posts on this BMB. That's ok. We'll get to know each other better in time. Or we won't. Either way, what I choose to do in my own life is in no way a reflection on my opinion of the OP's decision to party, or not to party. I hope she has an awesome party, picks a theme she likes, and gets some quality invitations at a good deal.

Fair enough. It just seems to me that you go from one extreme to the next. I personally see no difference in announcing in a cute manner to your family and having everyone (immediate family) over to find out as a group. It's still a "reveal" in the sense of the word.

Themeginator · December 2014

Why are people so mean?? Hahaha. With our last, we did football or fairy wings. People dressed up either as a fairy or football player. The male fairies were my personal favorite. ☺️. Have fun with the theme!! It's a GREAT way to find out with loved ones. Definitely a highlight of my last pregnancy.

Themeginator · December 2014

I have a theme in my user name? Huh. I just think if you disagree with her doing it, why would you comment in the first place? She just wanted ideas. So I would assume people who have a theme idea would comment....not all the haters.

blu-eyedwife · December 2014

Just a heads up, my Brother and SIL did this last year for their pregnancy. And pretty much no one showed up. About a quarter of the people they invited. I know my brother was disappointed. Of the family, it was just us and my mom. The rest of the family thought it was weird and tacky.

Of the few friends that were there, I think they really enjoyed it. Afterwards, DH and I spoke about it, and it made us uncomfortable being there. I think because for us finding out the sex was a really private moment (well, between us, the doctors and nurses who were bringing the baby over to the baby warmer and suctioning him). And most people we know found out privately during the 20 week ultrasound, so it was a special moment between them. For us, being part of that special moment between the mom and dad wasn't exciting, it felt intrusive.

Lisa9080 · December 2014

I'm sorry if I offended anyone. We are just so excited to get our family together and celebrate this baby! Gender reveals are the norm in my family (I have 3 cousins who each have 1 or 2 kids) and maybe some people don't like them but I always have been so excited to go to the party and find out! We send invitations just because it is fun and a way to celebrate. Again, I know this isn't for everyone but why not have an excuse to party and celebrate the newest member of our family??

I guess you are right about the superhero or princess. A friend of mine was team green and her FB cover was "will it be a superhero or princess" and she had corresponding outfits. Once the baby was born, she dressed him up in the superhero outfit. It was so cute.

I think I am going to go with this type of invite

https://www.google.com/search?q=gender+reveal+party+invitations&biw=1366&bih=667&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=Nft8VPr5AoT8yQTWsoGQDQ&sqi=2&ved=0CAcQ_AUoAg#tbm=isch&q=gender+reveal+party+invitations+bowties&facrc=_&imgdii=_&imgrc=HlF6nigx4ZusZM%3A;-iAQ1BczkBZs0M;http%3A%2F%2Fmedia-cache-ec0.pinimg.com%2F736x%2F92%2Fad%2Fb2%2F92adb2e53756c912f8f5c41a5d25de49.jpg;http%3A%2F%2Fwww.pinterest.com%2Fpin%2F243335186090085600%2F;570;798

krystleshel · December 2014

We're having one in January! I'm on the "lets get EVERYONE together to celebrate this baby" idea here! We have a lot of support & a lot of family and friends who are beyond excited to celebrate this with us.
Our theme is football-ish (it's the Sat before Super Bowl). The invites are "team boy or team girl" & people wear their "team" colors. We're letting everyone pop black balloons that a friend is putting pink/blue confetti in beforehand.
*we're huge football fans down here in the South, so that fits us!!

darvo · December 2014

I've only been to one and it was really sweet. I didn't realize they had themes either, but the idea of having a sex organ themed party really intrigues me to see the in-law's reaction. I have a lot of great stuff leftover from a bachelorette party!

Trampslikeus · December 2014

darvo said:

I've only been to one and it was really sweet. I didn't realize they had themes either, but the idea of having a sex organ themed party really intrigues me to see the in-law's reaction. I have a lot of great stuff leftover from a bachelorette party!

Its a boy!! Break out the dick straws!! :

krystleshel · December 2014

Trampslikeus said:

darvo said:

I've only been to one and it was really sweet. I didn't realize they had themes either, but the idea of having a sex organ themed party really intrigues me to see the in-law's reaction. I have a lot of great stuff leftover from a bachelorette party!

Its a boy!! Break out the dick straws!! :

HAHAHAHAHA. I just sent this to my lovely party planners for my reveal!!! $10 says someone brings dick straws!

*edit-words are hard

mommacandi · December 2014

Sex reveals aren't my thing either, but I know others who have done them in a small, low key manner and I thought they were fine. To each his own, but I will second using Shutterfly! I've used it for all of DD's bday parties (all two of them) and her announcement and was always pleased.

mlindzz · December 2014

I'm not sure we will have a theme, but I found a few unique ones on Pinterest for fun...

1. toy guns or glitter
2. stash or lashes
3. lures or lace
4. frogs, snails & puppy dog tails or sugar, spice & everything nice

Frogger5 · December 2014

TheAlmostMom said:

my best friend is planning our gender reveal party so I have no idea what the theme will be- pinterest does have a LOT of great ideas! Its just an easier way for us to update everyone at once in a fun setting without a million phone calls/emails/texts. I'm very much in camp "celebrate baby all the ways you can" and so are our families so it would turn in to a big to-do anyway!

as for the people who are saying prince/princess/superhero/ yadda yadda will psychologically traumatize them for life.... I mean... you guys know that baby wont actually be present for this or branded for life with the identity via tiny in-utero branding iron... right? Its fun. Its lighthearted. And at the end of the day we are only a tiny piece of gender influence on our kids anyway. Ease up a bit on the devastation of pink and blue. Let a momma have her themed cake and eat it too.

It's not just about this particular fetus and whether or not it knows what's going on. We all participate in and create our society. Everything makes a difference. I'm certainly not suggesting that we pretend men and women/girls and boys/males and females aren't different from each other, but to actively and knowingly encourage negative stereotypes is unconscionable. It's not all superficial and "lighthearted;" there are very real and devastating consequences that stem from the classic "boys will be boys" attitude.

This may seem a little heavy for a BMB, but I couldn't help it, this post pissed me off.

LuvLoveXo · December 2014

I am Team Green (again). When telling family & friends this many have reacted along these lines "Oh good so you won't be having a stupid party to reveal the sex. I hate those". Nine times out of ten that's what people think but they'll never say it your face. Grandparents may be the exception to this rule.

jfelicio · December 2014

Damn I'm spoiled !! Both sides of the family are so pumped. We will have a get together to announce the sex. I'll be baking an amazing cake and cupcakes our families always bring food over and it's a wonderful get together. But after reading some of these posts and others I'm feeling spoiled. This is my second baby and we are having 2 baby showers (each side of the family wants to do 1) and we will have a gender reveal get together too. Guess I'm lucky to have my family be so supportive

Trampslikeus · December 2014

Right. Because we all know people who have different values, or different ideas of what is, and isn't necessary, appropriate, or classy are not supportive. But congrats on being amazing and all that.

pghctwife · December 2014

blech. So not a fan of these. Our reveal will just be sometime in June "We had the baby! It's a ___!" haha.

Chiming in because Im not sure what @kimmarie1105 is getting all bent out of shape about. @maplebaby said that she isn't into these parties, warned OP she might get flack. And later talked about involving her older son by eating pink or blue cake, and maybe sky ping her in laws. Um. That isn't a party. I mean if the 3 people eating together is a big party with a theme and invites it is just a constant rager here I guess! FOUR ppl! CRAZY!

And finally to the OP, anything that doesn't involve princess, diva, etc please! Not just because of the stereotypes, but UGH. The entitlement image… I've already had comments "maybe you'll get a little princess this time!" No. Im not raising a princess. If I have a daughter she won't be the little spoiled princess. Wont be treated that way or allowed to behave that way.

jfelicio · December 2014

Wish I could escape the princesses ! My daughter is in love with frozen !! However she isn't allowed to act like a spoiled princess , she knows better ! However I can't escape the frozen songs, dolls or pretty much anything frozen. Hence we won't be doing a princess and prince gender reveal party!

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