Grad Check-In 11/27

SND1231 · November 2014

Hey Ladies,
Happy Thanksgiving to all that are in the U.S.
I am going to be taking over the check-ins for awhile.

How have you been feeling? How far along are you? Any news?

QOTW What is your opinion on baby showers? Do you want one or not? The ladies on TTTC have been discussing their opinions of whether they wanted one or not. What is your input?

MrsS728 · November 2014

Happy Thanksgiving everyone. I'm thinking of all of you and lurk from time to time to see how things are going.

I'm officially 17 weeks today! We had a check-up yesterday. Baby was kicking up a storm while the DR used the Doppler. I've started to feel flutters here and there, but nothing substantial. I'm also just getting over a terrible cold/cough, so that's been taking a toll on me. We find out in 3 weeks if we are having a boy or girl and we are waiting until Christmas Day to tell our families, since they will all be at our house together.

QOTW: My mom, MIL, and step-mother are going this weekend to check out places for my baby shower. While I don't like to be the center of attention, but I feel like it's just as much about me as it is about my parents (first time grandparents), so I'm excited, but I don't want to have anything to do with planning or making decisions.

I hope you all have a happy and healthy Holiday season. My fingers are crossed for every single one of you. Love and Hugs!!

Autumray · November 2014

Thanks for taking over

Its def appreciated

Hey ladies! Been lurking and thinking about all of you! Been hard to leave you guys. I am a little over 6 weeks. Had our first US on tues. LO measuring 4.27mm and 118 heart rate. I cried when I heard the HR. Def made things so real for me. I have been feeling pretty good luckily morning sickness not around yet (really) sometimes I wake up feeling hung over and am exhausted a lot of nap taking. Other then that not to much except my boobs kill.

QOTW: Yes I am really hoping for a shower. I have a lot of fun doing parties. However I wont be doing reveal party. I dont want one of those

southernyankeegirl · November 2014

Hi all! Big hugs to those who are having a rough day. I know the holidays are tough.

I actually woke up crying this morning thinking about what I was grateful for this year - Thanksgiving last year was the beginning of the hardest few months of my life, and I am overwhelmed by how grateful and lucky I feel to be where I am.

Holiday depression during infertility is real, and if any of you are having a hard time, please be sure to ask for help. Therapy was essential for me, and I also want all my 3T girls to know I am happy to be a supportive shoulder if you need it.

All is well here! At 33w2d, just starting to get uncomfortable, but oh so excited! Nursery is all set, hospital bags are mostly packed - tomorrow we are going to install the car seat. Finishing the wall decorations and then we are all set! We did maternity/family photos this past weekend, so excited to get those in.

QOTW: I did three baby showers. One with each family (DH's and my families live 6 hours apart, so a joint one wasn't practical) and one local one with friends (we are a 2.5 hour flight from either of our families).

I think sometimes it's easy to start putting restrictions during infertility on how you'd act when pregnant based on what hurts you while you're struggling. And while a hefty dose of sensitivity and compassion is always good, I have found that my "rules" that I set before ended up making me feel like I somehow didn't deserve to celebrate my pregnancy.

I originally said no posts on Facebook, I didn't want showers, I didn't want to talk about pregnancy with anyone, I never wanted to complain about anything, I didn't want to touch my belly in public.

Truth is as I hit second trimester, I started to feel like I was somehow ashamed of my pregnancy. So I announced on Facebook (with sensitivity), though I still have been very careful not to post bump-focused pictures or AW posts on Facebook. And I let people throw us showers. It felt so awkward at first, but the showers allowed me to see how excited our families and friends were (which helped me celebrate my pregnancy) and it also helped us with soooo much stuff - we haven't spent much at all to prepare.

All that to say - try not to put too many "rules" on yourself now. When you are pregnant, see what feels right and what you need at that point. There's a LOT of guilt and mixed emotions of being PAIF and allowing yourself to celebrate and enjoy the pregnancy is important.

And when I touch my belly in public, it's usually because something hurts ;-)

gsancho · November 2014

Hello! I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving and is recovering from food comas. I agree with @southernyankeegirl that the holidays are always rough when dealing with IF. I got a little emotional when my friend, who always comes over for the holiday, pointed out how we've been praying for a baby the last 3 Thanksgivings, and this is the first year it seems to be coming true. Thinking of you all!

Things have been quiet for me. Symptoms have gotten better, and I'm starting to feel some movements, although she's still too little to feel it consistently. Our anatomy scan in Tuesday, and I can't wait. Even with the good genetic screening, IF brain still has me paranoid about everything looking good.

QOTW: I was hoping for a shower, and I will have one with close family and friends. IF brain often robs us of a lot of the usual celebrating that "normal" pregnant ladies enjoy - I felt weird telling people I was pregnant, I had a mini anxiety attack before posting anything on Facebook, I still cry before all RE/OB appointments...I can't let IF brain keep me from enjoying everything. Having a nice shower to celebrate is something I'm looking forward to. I do worry about how emotional I'll be during it, but most people there understand what we've been through, so they'll deal with it.

ttuprincess · November 2014

Sorry I am late to the party. Just wanted to let you ladies know that Madison Ella arrived on Thanksgiving Day at 10:28 pm. She is 7lbs6oz and 20 inches long and we are absolutely in love with her. We came home from the hospital this morning and are adjusting to being home. I am doing okay. Really sore but that is okay. We had a small scare during labor when her heart rate kept dropping after pushes so the OB used the vacuum to help pull her out on the next push. Once she was out her heart rate stabilized and she is simply perfect. I am so amazingly grateful for this little miracle and am always appreciate for all the support I received from the ladies on this board. Love to all.

CandaceC1020 · November 2014

@AlaskaDee23 - I know, right? I still sometimes shock myself when I say how far along I am!

I'm officially 38w1d. When I logged into the bump this morning it says I have 13 days left until my due date. Baby girl is head down and has been since week 32. I've always referred to her as my little bean, but now she's my little mexican jumping bean. I guess since she's getting bigger, I can feel almost every movement. I love it and I'm trying to savor the moments because I know that I'll miss it.

I feel fantastic overall. I find that I have a hard time saying that I'm uncomfortable because I'm so grateful and thankful that we are where we are. I find myself getting teary eyed quite often because my life is about to change for the better. I'm nervous, anxious, excited and scared. I can't wait.

QOTW - We had a baby shower and I loved every moment of it. We were pretty open with our friends and family about our struggles. Everyone was genuinely excited to celebrate the impending arrival of Baby A. It was nice to be able to celebrate and hubby even came and stayed the whole shower. We were so blessed to have a wonderful celebration. Our little one is so spoiled and she's not even here yet.

RunCC37 · November 2014

Hi girls

Thanks for the page AlaskaDee!

We're just about one week out from our BFP. Today is 4w5d and I'm feeling crampy, super emotional, and sudden waves of total exhaustion. I am so happy and keep asking someone to pinch me (or jab me with another needle) to make sure I'm not dreaming! I have Beta #4 tomorrow and am really looking forward to our first u/s (scheduled 12/8). I suspect there are two Ninjas in there and would like to see it for myself already! But for the most part, I'm in no rush. This is seriously the most amazing feeling, 100% worth every painful step, and every second of the agonizing wait.

QOTW: I really want to do something low-key. The most important thing is that people come and celebrate! Eat, drink, and be merry

I think I'd like a BBQ and fun outdoor games (not baby related).

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IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
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Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motilityIUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFNIVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

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Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!