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so this was weird...
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I had a knock on my door while I was making dinner tonight, and it was one of my son's "friends" from preschool and his mom. This child is in first grade now, so we haven't seen them in about a year and a half, and weren't really friends to begin with (I don't know the mom's first name or anything). Anyway, she asks how I am, how DS1 is doing, and oohs and awws over my new baby. I asked if they wanted to stay for dinner, and she said that she couldn't, but could her son stay? She would be back in an hour. She was going to do some shopping. He played really well with my kids, ate most of his dinner, and she was back in about 1.5 hours. I am not really complaining. It's just weird.
Also, there isn't really anywhere to shop around here after 5pm on a Sunday night, so I have no idea where she really went or why she chose me to babysit her child.
Also, there isn't really anywhere to shop around here after 5pm on a Sunday night, so I have no idea where she really went or why she chose me to babysit her child.
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Re: so this was weird...
God Bless You my Little One
Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
What a weird thing to happen!
Yeah. This may be it. She was at our house for a birthday party about a year and a half ago. So that's how she knows where I live.
She texted about midnight last night and said that her son had a good time visiting with his friend, and he had been wanting to play with him for a while.
Maybe she really didn't know how to get ahold of me, so she just came over. And once she was there, it felt awkward, so she made up the excuse about shopping and left her son for a playdate? I don't know. It still seems like there is something else going on.
I told her that they were both welcome anytime. I hope everything is going okay with them. He is a super-cute kid.
No. I didn't really think about it until she was out the door. It was sort of in the back of my mind the entire time he was there that his mom might not be coming back.
It was very strange.
I am also starting to think (judging by her texts) that she has a bit of a learning disability and wasn't able to problem solve the situation very well.
But it's not really like that anymore, and it is kind of weird that she didn't just come out and say "I know this is really random but can you watch my kid for an hour because i have an emergency".
But hey, way to be part of the village. I think life would be much easier if us parents leaned on each other more and didn't try to go it alone all the time.
Some people just don't read social cues at all and don't know how to handle things. A friend and I once hosted a playdate for a new neighbor. It began at 10 AM. We thought, couple hours, then we can feed the kids and do naps. She stayed for lunch. We dropped hints. I finally went home later afternoon. She stayed for dinner. My friend's youngest fell asleep on the couch. She finally said "you need to go home now" around 8 PM. The mom of three had NO CLUE. She was there the whole time. We literally never spoke again.
I wonder if you will continue to hear from this mom.
I agree with @enigmaticdrscully. It is obviously too late now but she may think it is now ok to just show up and drop her kid off with you. I agree it was a very awkward situation and I am not sure what I would have done in the moment, but if she stops by again I would give her your number and suggest she call next time she wants to schedule some time for the kids to play.
It is really weird that she just showed up and that she left her child at your house when she barely knows you.
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Why not just call her and basically say that the kids had fun playing together and her child was delightful. However, would it be OK with her if future play dates were planned in the future? I've found that my normal is often not another parent's normal. And while I, too, would classify her behavior as odd at best, maybe there is a way to make this a positive experience for everyone in the future.
And I agree with PP: you were far more gracious than I would probably have been!
She said that she could tell from the look on my face that I was surprised.
I will keep you updated if I ever figure out what it was all about
(and I am not that nice, really.)
Such a strange situation for sure. Concerning, yes. A little rude, yes. Probably not something you want to have occur on a regular basis. Maybe ask her what the deal was?
On the other hand - she may not have a lot of social supports and may have had a situation that required immediate attention without children present (I'm thinking - fight with partner/spouse that needs to be talked out without kids in the room, ER visit for embarrassing reason (STD flare up, possible pregnancy, etc), therapy visit...