Crib to Bed transition- Night 1...help!

Re: Crib to Bed transition- Night 1...help!

• MrsT0514 member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  @mcbenny No we normally would hug and kiss good night, put him in his crib, tuck him in, maybe rub his back for a minute or so and then leave the room. But I figured laying with him would help settle him down, considering its a new bed in a new room (bigger room to accommodate the bigger bed), and unfamiliar to him right now.

  

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• MrsT0514 member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  @TheNialler‌ i would totally try bribing if I thought it would work! Lol. The problem is, at DS's age, and the fact that he's still not able to clearly communicate his needs to us yet, I'm afraid it wouldn't do us much good.
  
  The only reason we're moving him now it's bc I'm due with baby #2 in january. I'd love to leave DS in the crib, considering he loves his crib, but honestly I'd rather just get it done and over with now instead of in the midst of caring for both a newborn and a toddler.

  

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• klondikebar member

  November 2014

  I'd just keep the same routine. Leave the room after the quick back rub and see how it goes. If he keeps getting up, you can try sitting away from him next to the door, but don't interact with him. He'll know you're there, but you aren't exactly giving him attention.
  

       
  

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• Maebb member

  November 2014

  No advice, but hugs! I may be going through this in a few weeks. Hopefully your DS does great from here on out and it's a smooth transition!

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• Princess_Lily member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  I still lay with DS at bedtime, but I've been holding him to sleep since the crib days.
  
  I'm on a mobile, how old is your LO?
  
  The only thing that worked for us is keeping the same routine (bath-book-bed), no talking or playing once in bed (no toys, etc). If your DH tends to unintentionally get him riled up, I would keep him out of the room until its more established.
  
  When its time for bed instead of holding DS, I lay with him until he's fast asleep (20min). In the beginning I would tell him that I would be leaving once he falls asleep, but if he needs me he could just call me and I'll be there. Once hes asleep I go into our room, and DH and I have another hour or so until we go to bed. Even though its more time consuming, he does sleep soundly through the night.
  
  In the early days (20mo+) I would keep a gate at the door, we were concerned he would wander the house unsupervised in the middle of the night.
  
  We will probably do this for DD too.
  
  
  Now he's older (5yo) he doesn't need me to put him to bed as often. I could tell he is pulling away from his old needs, we're okay with that.

   
  

    

   
  

  
  

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• MrsT0514 member

  November 2014

  Thanks all for the tips and advice! I'm actually really surprised. Once he ended up falling asleep last night, he STTN! it was unbelievable and we are so proud of him!
  
  Thanks for checking in this morning @CtGirl30. I remember your sleep struggles with your DD and I give you guys so much credit for muddling thru that! Sounds like fresh hell. So, I think like both you and @mcbenny said, I'm going to keep the bedtime routine exactly the same and not lay with him tonight, to see if it gets him to settle down quicker. Bc the last thing I need is for him to become dependent on one of us sleeping with him at night in order for him to fall asleep...I imagine once #2 comes that will only complicate matters.
  
  So yeah. We'll see how naptime and night #2 goes tonight!

  

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• MrsT0514 member

  November 2014

  @Princess_Lily‌ thanks for sharing! Hes just about 23mo. We actually ended up closing the door last night just until he fell asleep, then we opened the door and put a baby gate in the doorway. It worked out well.

  

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